#while likely causing the opposite effect for queer folks

[aliceundrground]

So I went on a ramble in the tags, for anyone interested lol

I am calling for a total and complete ban on tiktok pop psychology until we can figure out what the hell is going on

[purplehoodie09]

yknow one thing i just do not see much discourse on in the internet and kinda wish i did? the localized nuance of queer experiences.

and i say this myself as someone whos likely quite ignorant to said types of nuances outside my own real life circles and the mainstream online ones i tend to come across. what i mean is i feel like, yes, with how widespread usa american culture (which is quite diverse on its own! the us is a huge country) is in online spaces it tends to influence people all over the globe— especially within lgbt and alternative communities. (again i speak from personal experience, feel free to add to this and whatnot) but i also feel like in sorta chalking up every mildly non-conforming lifestyle no matter where the person's from to the same labels we all use in most english conversation, while it simplifies things and eases off on the need for an explanation on everything cause a lot of labels are easy to just look up (which unites people in the process, thats always great), i think it also has somewhat of an unintended standardizing effect in which i just dont see people talking about how it is to be queer elsewhere (outside of the us that is). save ofcourse for the unfortunate momments where someones talking about how many people are being arrested or, god forbid, killed for being queer in certain countries. and thats just so... pessimistic yknow? i mean, ofcourse, these are the big problems we should be discussing and dealing with before we get all caught up in the nitty gritty— im all for letting pointless discourse and needlessly hostile arguments abt niche or hyperspecific problems die out on their own, but im not talking issues here, im talking joy. im talking spreading out our culture, sharing our love and our lives with each other, its the small things. the things that make us who we are.

for instace, and this is the very small example that got me thinking abt all of this in the first place: did you know that here in brazil, due to not having gender neutral pronouns built into our language like english does, our equivalent for single person "they/them" is technically a neopronoun? and although it perfectly obeys our gramatic, its not quite commonplace. which usually results in, out of personal preference, most folks under the nonbinary umbrella just using whatever gendered pronoun is opposite to their agab (my case).

well technically a lot of us use some variation of any/all or even something that would imply occasional alternation between pronouns like she/him but for simplicity's sake your peers tend to just pick one out of the options youve given them and stick with it. interesting right! how abt where you live? whats it like being queer there? id love to start up this chat