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after reading your college posts, do you have any suggestions for people like me going into college?

Heyy thank you for the message :) If you are a conservative, no one is that concerned with your feelings. You’re going to face a challenging intellectual environment and according to a recent UCLA study, there are nearly 5 times more liberal professors than conservative professors on college campuses. Your views are going to be tested every day but saying that, most of your teaches will treat you respectfully. Your ideas though will face critical scrutiny and you may end up revising or abandoning some of them. But that’s a good thing, it’s what many liberal students are missing. What is not good is plenty of “educated” students and a few professors will see you as the embodiment of evil. If you express your opinions vigorously, some classmates will likely complain to school authorities that your very presence makes them feel unsafe and they will say some really nasty things about you. There is a bright side though. Even the schools overrun by the new orthodoxy, you will find great friends, male and female, professors too - whether they agree with you or not.

If you are going into college liberal, idealistic and a woman, you face a different set of risks. You are going to find a large and excited group of gender activists - students and some professors - eager to recruit you to their cause. They are going to present you with shocking statistics on sexual violence on campus and theories about an oppressive patriarchy and they’re going to tell you how mistreated and traumatised you are. It’s going to seem new and exciting to you and maybe a way to make new friends and fight injustice at the same time and you’re going to be tempted to sign up. You can do what you want but just be aware that most of the victim statistics you’re going to hear are either completely fabricated or wildly exaggerated. And the theories about women’s oppression, they’re twisted and surreal and are there to make you feel like you need these people to hold your hand.

As for trigger warnings and safe spaces, these are infantile, the opposite of empowering. It’s the fashion on many campuses to treat women and nonwhite as delicate flowers and fragile little birds but no, most of you are strong, tough and resilient, capable of empowering yourself without your hand being held by these people. The gender activists you will encounter are going to tell you not to listen to or not to take the word of those who encourage you to think for yourself and be open to real facts and statistics and that’s true, you shouldn’t, you shouldn’t take ANYBODY’S word on these matters. This is your future. Your foremothers and fathers fought and battled and won the right for you to be educated and treated equally. They knew you were tough and they wanted you to have the opportunity to put that strength to use. Please don’t waste it by falling captive to a pointless ideology or indulging in victimhood. Take serious classes, health care, science, engineering. Avoid courses that luxuriate victimhood. If you are serious about “the wage gap” then be serious when it comes to choosing your course.

If you are a liberal and idealistic man, you face an even greater risk. You probably think of yourself as open minded, well intended and progressive. But many on campus will not see you in this way. Today many college women practice gender profiling and it’s the fashion among these activists that judge men by the worst members of their sex and women by their best. So many attempts to exonerate yourselves or your friends will be dismissed as mansplaining. To save yourself from excommunication, you will be asked to engage in a fair amount of self-flagellation and male bashing but do not do it. Have some dignity for crying out loud. Don’t become the guy who sends out tweets like Arthur Chu: “As a dude who cares abt feminism sometimes I want to join all men arm-in-arm & then run off a cliff and drag the whole gender down in sea.” Here’s a few more vital tips for you:

1. Face reality. The reality is that at most colleges and universities the leftist worldview is the norm. Everything else is considered a deviation and this deviation usually gets shut down quite quickly. This is certainly the case in the humanities and social sciences. Even the hard sciences and professional majors like business have been influenced, although at a lesser degree. Simply being aware of this ideological imbalance is a big step forward. It will help you think critically about what you’re being taught. Don’t be like the emotional left though and perceive every slight criticism and every comment from your professors as a personal attack on you. The job of a professor is to make you think, to challenge your views, to present you with evidence, and to open your mind. This is uncomfortable but take it seriously. There are some really awesome liberal professors. Learn from them and remember they may not be as batshit crazy left-wing as you may believe - although some definitely are. 

2. Seek out friends. The easiest way to do this is to identify the groups and clubs on campus and join the ones you can relate with. If you hear liberal student groups trash-talking a group for being “crazy” and “oppressive”, that’s probably the group you want to head towards. We all need friends who we can talk to and be ourselves around, especially if you don’t share the only acceptable opinion on campus. Plus, fellow independent-thinking students can give you advice on how to navigate the politically correct obstacle course. But hear me out. Do not spend all your time in this bubble as you’ll be no different to them and avoiding the other side does not help you in the long run. Spending some time learning the arguments of the other side so that you can more effectively combat them is beneficial to both you and them. Not only will it strengthen you in your beliefs and help you formulate arguments against the left, but your presence, and your healthy debate with them, may even be welcomed to those who on the left who are only there as they’re too frightened to step out of line. Your voice may be the only rational one they ever hear, so you need to not shy away from discussing your beliefs with someone you might think is a lost cause. You never know who needs to hear the voice of reason, so do not shelter yourself too much. 

3. Read a lot and know your rights. Read conservative books, non-political books and anything you can get your hand on. Books will expose you to a world you may never have known, and are often full of their own pearls of wisdom. For me, when I do not feel so well-versed in a topic, I pick up a book on the issue and research the shit out of it. With the crazy left-leaning media, you cannot trust what you are getting from the news or what your professor dictates. I urge you to pick up a book on an issue you are not comfortable arguing yet, and use that as an opportunity to read another person’s opinions and beliefs and form your own, whether they be similar or different. If your instructor or even the administration targets you because of your views, you then have options. Don’t let all the liberal fluff get in the way of your learning. When you do encounter the liberal professor who uses the classroom as a political indoctrination camp, be respectful, engaging, and intellectual. You might be surprised at what can come out of an intellectual engagement. As for your rights, organizations like the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) who fight for freedom of speech, religious liberty, and due process on college campuses can help you. You may be in an ideological minority, but you’re not alone.

4. Stay cool. If you do mix it up with a leftist professor or fellow student always be calm and reasonable, even if they don’t return the favor. In almost every example you will always see conservative students speaking calmly while the left-wing students are screeching and convulsing during a debate. Think of yourself as an ambassador for rational ideas. Coming off as a hothead isn’t going to help the cause. It’s not easy to control your temper, especially when you are being falsely accused of all being all sorts of things but that’s what you have to do. Your opponents will look for any excuse to dismiss you as a crazy, racist, sexist monster. So don’t give them the chance. Remember this: the person who loses his cool loses the debate. Today’s campus manias aren’t going to last. Sooner or later the age old virtues of higher education will reassert themselves and bring back free speech, intellectual diversity, open inquiry, vigorous competition of ideas and mutual respect. If you are a strong, independent thinker yourself, you can play a part in this intellectual renaissance. Good luck :) xx

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OkCupid Profile Examples for Women: Tips & Templates

If you’re having trouble with your OkCupid profile you’re not the only one. The app prides itself on having profiles that are longer than most dating apps, but you might be asking yourself what you could possibly say in 10 prompts that you couldn’t say in one short bio?

Well, quite a bit actually. I’m here to show you that you can (and should) say more in your OkCupid profile. Because on the OkCupid app, the whole game is to find your ideal match, whether your looking for a long-term relationship or one-night stand and that extensive profile is there to help two people (you and your future date) looking for the same thing find each other faster.

Here are some OkCupid profile examples for women as well as a quick overview of what the profile looks like and tips to give you some ideas and inspiration.

OkCupid Profile Overview Before we dive into profile examples for each section, let’s examine exactly what goes into an OkCupid profile since there’s more to take in.

General information This is the easy part and includes your gender, relationship status, orientation, height, body type, ethnicity, diet, drinking style, drugs and smoking style, religion, education, kids, pets, and language you speak.

My self-summary Well, in this case it’s your self-summary, but you get what I mean. This is where you’re going to need to use the bulk of your writing skills since it’s open-ended, is the first thing people see after your general info, and can include anything you want.

What I’m doing with my life This is included in almost everyone’s profile and can either be a short one-liner—something as simple as “I’m a teacher”—or a longer explanation of where you are in your life.

Additional profile prompts After the What I’m doing with my life section, OkCupid will give you around seven more prompts that include things like: I’m really good at, My golden rule, Six things I could never do without, The last show I binged, A perfect day, If I went to jail, I’d be arrested for, What I’m actually looking for, or Six favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food. Depending on the prompt you may want to answer with one sentence or a paragraph. It’s up to you but recommended that you do answer as many as you can.

OkCupid Profile Examples for Women

My self-summary Me: Just your neighborhood A dog-loving, marathon running, accountant. That’s me by day, anyway. By nighttime I’m tearing up the dancefloor at your local disco club. (Fair warning: I’m not a good dancer, just full of blind confidence.) You: Prepared to go on spontaneous adventures and luxurious vacations. Must love mountaintops and warm beaches. Sleep is for the weak.

Most people that know me would say I’m Fun-loving, funny, passionate and horribly addicted to my guacamole. Seriously. I’ll put avocado on anything. That said I’ll also share it with you, if you’re nice. Weekends are for binging BoJack Horseman reruns, improv, and picnics in the park. Mimosas anyone?

One day, I would like to climb Mt. Everest. Don’t you know it’s dangerous? Yes, I do, thanks. Aren’t you scared? Just a little. Don’t you think that’s a little… If you have any more doubtful questions, just move along. I’m a big girl and I’ve been climbing since I was a little kid. I want to stand on the tallest point in the whole world and no one’s going to stop me. Who knows? Maybe you’ll be end up in the party.

Tip 1: You in a Nutshell If you ran into the love of your life in an elevator and you had eight floors to catch their fancy, what would you say? This is a good exercise for writing a basic self-summary. Try boiling your life story down. It’s good to start with your job, your hobbies, your passions. Are your friends everything? Do you have a dog that you love dearly? Oftentimes, just this info can offer enough insight for someone glancing over your profile to decide if they should send you a message. So be genuine and be brief.

Tip 2: Passion is Sexy It’s okay if you’re not at the top of your career yet or don’t have it all figured out. The key is “yet.” Passion, confidence, and dreams are attractive, and you can share that stuff here. So whatever it is that you yearn to do in the bottom of your heart, shout it loud and shout it proud. It’s okay if you’re not quite there yet. There’s nothing wrong with that. And who knows, you might find a partner for the journey.

My patronus is A black and white cat. I was hoping for something noble like a lion or stag. Heck, a llama, even. Nope. I got a housecat. If you take the Pottermore quiz and get a dog or a mouse or something like that, feel free to message me. J.K. Rowling is trying to tell us something.

I like to make paintings. Wow, that sounds weird. I like to paint paintings. I’m a painter. Not quite Frida Kahlo, but miles ahead of high school art class. I’m self taught and always look for any excuse to get into my studio (read as tarp on my kitchen floor). Firm believer that there’s nothing quite like the feeling of a brush stroke on canvas or walking through half your house before realizing you’ve left trail of acrylic paint footprints. Artsy or fartsy, holler at me!

My weirdest quirk I was born with an extra toe on my left foot. (It was removed, so don’t ask to see it!) I’m also a competitive partner dancer, who can keep balance for the life of her outside of the dance floor. Is there a connection between ghost toe and my deficiency? I don’t know, mom, is there??

Tip 3: What do you do to pass the time For the doers and makers, movers and shakers out there, what are you doing and making? If you have a closet hobby, what is it? These little quiet passions add depth to your profile. They really help other daters get a feel for who you are. You don’t have to be a master cross-stitcher or certified metal worker, but these activities will make it easy for others to connect and give you something to chat about.

Tip 4: Quirky is in, so let your freak flag fly Yep, it’s true. We’ve officially embraced the weird. It’s a good time to be a nerd, geek, or just a little bit out there. There’s no perfect “normal,” so tell people what makes you different. Acknowledging the things that make you unique and loving them is a great way to show confidence, which is always attractive. Putting your quirks in your profile will always set you apart from the crowd.

Six things I could never do without Water, food, air, shelter, clothes, human attention. There’s probably more, but that’s the best I can do right now.

I value My family. I know it sounds corny, but I’m not ashamed to say it. Family comes first. Blood is thicker than water and all that. We’ve been through a lot together and in those hard moments our strength together is what gets us through. No doubt about it.

I spend a lot of time thinking about The universe and how small we are in it. I could watch space documentaries for weeks on end—that and listen to Neil Degrasse Tyson’s voice. I feel like I’m smarter listening to anything he narrates. Cosmos and chill?

Tip 5: We are what we need We all have the things we need—whether it’s family, god, or Taco Bell’s Crunchwrap Supreme, the things we love aren’t going to change anytime soon. Incidentally, they’re also a great way to show other daters what you’re about. Remember the key is to find common ground and show personality.

Tip 6: I am defined by If you have core beliefs that you can’t do without, best to get them out in the open. Waiting till your tenth date to reveal that you’re an environmental activist and ethical vegan may not be the best approach for finding a compatible mate. The things that keep you up at night keep other people at night too.

A book everyone should read The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway. A friend group parties across France and Spain and teaches us that “classic” books don’t just have to be a slog. It’s a quick, fun read, but still makes you feel the feels. I finished it this summer in just one day and it left me lost in thought and wondering about my next raucous party.

My favorite bands in high school Smash Mouth, and Yellowcard. I know it’s embarrassing. Please don’t judge. I’m ready to be better now I swear! Message me with your most embarrassing fandom, so I know it’s real.

Best day of my life so far The first week after I got my puppy Benny we went to the dog park for the first time. He ran in circles for 10 minutes before tuckering himself out and passing out in my lap belly up. We spent the rest of the day munching on doggie treats and popcorn watching the Flintstones. It’s been three years and he’s still the love of my life, but we’re open to meeting new people.

Tip 7: Artsy and fartsy Talking about what we read and what we’ve seen is house we shoot the breeze. This is your opportunity to get intellectual with your obscure book recommendations or relive your angst of your teenage years with your favorite high school bands. This could be a genuine way to make a connection through sharing your refined current taste or poking fun at your poor past taste. That’s up to you.

Tip 8: The perfect day For some of us it’s finding 20 dollars on the ground. For others, it’s a day of hiking with your best friends. Either way, the little things that rub us the right way say a lot about what we like in our partners. Being honest and fun here will get you more messages (and will help give other singles some good ideas for dates).

My relationship with my mother is the perfect friendship, which is how it should be! We’re a tag team duo for yoga and brunch (sometimes back-to-back). I share almost everything with her, so if you’re going to be mine, you’re going to have to be hers, too. Proud mama’s girl through and through.

You should message me if you’re looking to date in a low commitment, long-term relationship. Finishing up school is my number one priority right now, and I can’t give too much to a deeply invested relationship. You should also message me you’re career driven (it’s attractive!) and can keep up a good banter (also attractive!). Driven, smart, funny, that’s the combo~

I will never date someone that thinks that vacations are for relaxing. Time away from work is for scuba diving, surfing, sightseeing, and anything else that involves not sitting still. I live for adventure and I’m looking for someone to tag along (and occasionally lead the way). Think you’re up for the challenge? Submit your application below. *Due to high volume of incoming applications, we sincerely apologize that we can only reply to the ones that we think are the best fit for this position.

Tip 9: Be upfront and open It’s okay to be genuine. In fact, it’s the best way to be. Being a vulnerable in dating means that you’re confident in sharing yourself, that you’re not worried about being hurt by what people think. Now that’s a good way to be.

Tip 10: Honesty is the golden rule Honest is the best policy. Always has been and still is. If you’re looking for a particular kind of relationship this is a good place to put it out there. Being forward about what you want may save some time and pain coming from mismatched expectations later down the road. On a more simple dating app, you might be able to leave this sort of stuff out, but because OkCupid is so comprehensive it doesn’t hurt to add.

So that’s it! Go ahead and get out there. OkCupid has a longer profile than most other apps, but in the end it’s not too different. As always, the key is to be funny, genuine, and honest. Your natural attractive qualities will shine through. Good luck!

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It's hard being a 16 year old who wasn't indoctrinated into the left dogma. Otherwise I'd probably be a racist and a bigot towards people that have never done anything to me. So I'm thankful that other such as yourself understand this, so thank you for existing - A Hispanic/Native American teen who's against bullshit

Heyy thank you so much for reaching out, message me any time :) 

Feminists and the like love to tell everybody how “educated” they are because they’ve listened to and read a whole bunch of nonsensical propaganda and take it as truth and everybody else should be “educated” the same way they have been. 

Unfortunately there is a lot of misinformation, false narrative and incorrect statistics spread by people who get paid to spread it, and whose jobs depend on it being true, eg feminist columnists, women’s studies professors, politicians and celebrities. Even more unfortunate are the ones who mindlessly believe it without question and let it radicalize their freethought, happiness and individuality. 

You’re the perfect and rare example of a young person having the bravery to go against the only views that are considered acceptable and you’re thinking for yourself, it’s really commendable of you and a great example to set for others in similar positions. 

I made a post about this last year but I think it’ll apply to you and others who may read this before going to college:

Things you really need to know before starting college

Colleges throughout the United States and many first world countries are becoming carried away with eccentric gender politics. Being prepared for this is vitally important.

Many new students will be subject to special training sessions and introduced to a new vocabulary with terms like trigger warnings, othering, microaggression, male privilege and safe spaces which I am sure you are already aware of since you are reading this on tumblr. You will also at some stage witness outside speakers being called out, abused and boycotted for breaches of sensitivity.

Colleges are changing their mission; truth seeking is being replaced by the more sensitive goal of making everyone, especially female students feel validated and any ideas that get in the way of this mission usually are not tolerated and even viciously shut down. Here’s some things to expect:

If you are a conservative, no one is that concerned with your feelings. You’re going to face a challenging intellectual environment and according to a recent UCLA study, there are nearly 5 times more liberal professors than conservative professors on college campuses. Your views are going to be tested every day but saying that, most of your teaches will treat you respectfully.

Your ideas though will face critical scrutiny and you may end up revising or abandoning some of them. But that’s a good thing, it’s what many liberal students are missing. What is not good is plenty of “educated” students and a few professors will see you as the embodiment of evil. If you express your opinions vigorously, some classmates will likely complain to school authorities that your very presence makes them feel unsafe and they will say some really nasty things about you. There is a bright side though. Even the schools overrun by the new orthodoxy, you will find great friends and allies, male and female, professors too - whether they agree with you or not.

If you are going into college liberal, idealistic and a woman, you face a different set of risks. You are going to find a large and excited group of gender activists - students and some professors - eager to recruit you to their cause. They are going to present you with shocking statistics on sexual violence on campus and theories about an oppressive patriarchy and they’re going to tell you how mistreated and traumatised you are.

It’s going to seem new and exciting to you and maybe a way to make new friends and fight injustice at the same time and you’re going to be tempted to sign up. You can do what you want but just be aware that most of the victim statistics you’re going to hear are either completely fabricated or wildly exaggerated. And the theories about women’s oppression, they’re twisted and surreal and are there to make you feel like you need these people to hold your hand.

As for trigger warnings and safe spaces, these are infantile, the opposite of empowering. It’s the fashion on many campuses to treat women as delicate flowers and fragile little birds but no, most of you are strong, tough and resilient, capable of empowering yourself without your hand being held by these people.

The gender activists you will encounter are going to tell you not to listen to or not to take the word of those who encourage you to think for yourself and be open to real facts and statistics and that’s true, you shouldn’t, you shouldn’t take ANYBODY’S word on these matters. This is your future. Your feminist foremothers fought and battled and won the right for you to be educated and on par with men. They knew you were tough and they wanted you to have the opportunity to put that strength to use. Please don’t waste it by falling captive to a pointless ideology or indulging in victimhood. Take serious classes, health care, science, engineering. Avoid courses that luxuriate female oppression. If you are serious about “the wage gap” then be serious when it comes to choosing your course.

If you are a liberal and idealistic man, you face an even greater risk. You probably think of yourself as open minded, well intended and progressive. But many on campus will not see you in this way.

Today many college women practice gender profiling and it’s the fashion among these activists that judge men by the worst members of their sex and women by their best. So many attempts to exonerate yourselves or your friends will be dismissed as mansplaining.

To save yourself from excommunication, you will be asked to engage in a fair amount of self-flagellation and male bashing but do not do it. Have some dignity for crying out loud. Don’t become the guy who sends out tweets like Arthur Chu: “As a dude who cares abt feminism sometimes I want to join all men arm-in-arm & then run off a cliff and drag the whole gender down in sea.”

Today’s campus manias aren’t going to last. Sooner or later the age old virtues of higher education will reassert themselves and bring back free speech, intellectual diversity, open inquiry, vigorous competition of ideas and mutual respect.

If you are a strong, independent thinker yourself, you can play a part in this intellectual renaissance. If not, don’t say you weren’t cautioned.