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Baffled by the amount of people on Reddit saying the new Case File cover is too much like a yaoi manga/bl manhwa when that has literally always been the vibe.

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Dinghai Fusheng Records Interior Illustrations: Volume One

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the cast of legend of exorcism is soooo incredible i love how they both get individual times to shine and their own story arcs instead of suffering through danmei typical side character=cannon fodder curse

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Danmei where the mains acknowledge the attractiveness of other men are superior.

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have some cezhous bc im finally reading qjj :]

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It’s been almost 24 hours and I’m still cackling over He Yu telling Xie Qingcheng he’d still love him if he was his dad and Xie Qingcheng responding with ‘That’s called incest’

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2ha spoilers

can't find my post predicting it but i totally called that shi mei was evil. although i did not predict ALL OF THAT, good lord

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Part two of this vote is also doing poorly…

Although I’ve decided to rank based off of percentages so one of these could end up high on the overall ranking.

#girlmaths

Letting Tumblr rank every danmei I’ve ever read: Spring Edition Part Two

Vote in Part One here

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Looking at the piddly vote count, looks like I spent Spring reading danmei nobody else on tumblr has 🤣

It’s officially Summer!!!

You know what that means… it’s time to rank this year’s Spring of Danmei!

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My favourite danmei confessions:

1. Ranwan

2. Weilan

3. Hexie

Apparently, I like them unhinged

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I knew BaB was a Modern AU of 2ha:

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The poll said eunuchs and grain, but the heart said unhinged Hexie.

I’m torn again…

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Time to see how much of a bl wizard I am:

Read the fic

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Might color it someday but I'm kinda proud of how it turned out so far!

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Xie Qingcheng, my sweet boy (thoughts on a sexy, polarizing, emotionally constipated man)

He’s cold. Distant. Represses every emotion until it turns into precision-cut cruelty. He gaslights, detaches, and punishes with silence so sharp it leaves scars.

Objectively? He’s a walking red flag.

Subjectively? He’s one of the most devastating characters I’ve ever loved.

He’s my emotional roman empire. And I hate how much I understand him.

I think Xie qingcheng is one of those characters you don’t casually like. You either want to sit him down with soup and a blanket and tell him it’s safe to rest… or you want to shake him until he admits he has feelings. or both. often both.

And that’s the thing: he’s polarizing because he doesn’t perform vulnerability in the way we’re used to seeing it in fiction. He doesn’t cry on cue or scream in rage. He shuts down. He walks away. He intellectualizes his grief into something clinical and unapproachable. And to a lot of people, that reads as unfeeling. but for some of us? it’s heartbreakingly familiar.

This is a man who has loved deeply and lost brutally. and instead of falling apart, he’s decided the best way to survive is to be untouchable. to control every expression, every attachment, every need. because to need is to be exposed. and to be exposed is to be hurt again.

So he builds a life on being useful, being rational, being fine.

But as we all know, he is anything but.

He’s loyal in ways that ruin him. he carries burdens he never voices. he protects people by shutting them out and then wonders why no one stays.

it’s tragic. it’s frustrating. it’s human.

But then, enter He Yu.

He Yu, who is the exact opposite. emotional. impulsive. needy in a way that xie qingcheng refuses to let himself be. he’s a mirror and a challenge and a threat. he pushes. he prods. he insists. and it’s only through him that Xqc starts to unravel. Slowly, painfully, beautifully.

I think for some this is confusing. Maybe they see He Yu as invasive or (justifiably) too forceful. Others hate Xqc for being emotionally withholding, for making connection so damn difficult. For being bound by his own hubris, even as the people who loved him asked for nothing more than a place at his side.

But for me, that’s exactly what makes xie qingcheng and he yu’s dynamic so rich. Because it forces everything to the surface. it doesn’t ask nicely (cough cough Chen Man). it drags buried emotion into the light and dares you to look. it holds a mirror up to the reader and asks:

What happens when love meets emotional repression and can sincerity crack through walls built for survival? (Can people change?)

Do you think love should demand vulnerability? Nakedness? or do you flinch and run?

Maybe XQC is polarizing…because he requires patience. because his story is about learning to want again, learning to trust in longevity and that someone will stay if you let them in. And maybe people don’t want to read that kind of slow, painful thaw. (Books 1 and 2 will deff have you believing the man is just a perpetual ice queen)

But for those of us who’ve lived behind those same emotional barricades, especially as a result of repeated trauma… Reading Xqc’s story is oddly cathartic (like Meatbun can’t be all the way sane) Because beneath all his cruelty and all his detachment, is a man quietly unraveling under the weight of a love he never believed he could have, let alone deserve.

Ultimately, xie qingcheng is a character who says:

I’ve been hurt, I’m scared and I don’t/wont trust easily. But somewhere deep inside, even unbeknownst to myself, I still want to be loved. I may be broken and disfigured, but please, could you still want me. Could you still need me?

and if that isn’t devastatingly human, I don’t know what is.

In closing (and because I did mention sexy):

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He Yu really played My Heart Will Go On while he and Xie Qingcheng began to drown.

Most book of all time.