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[tamlinrose]

Alternate Original Series Spirk Fanfic Rec List

Key

– ☆ means I really liked it

– ☆☆ means I loved it

– ✇ means it’s crack and/or hilarious

– ¢ means it’s cheesy or cliché (but in a good way)

the master list with the TOS & AU links is here

Armchair Psychology

by bigmamag

Words: 3,548

Summary: McCoy forces Kirk and Spock to write an ongoing list of things they like about each other. Kirk doesn’t know if he’ll be able to make his weekly quota. At least, not at first.

Comments: Spock and Jim realize that they don’t actually know one another and, as it turns out, happen have common interests.

  Daybreak

by museaway

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Words: 2,309

Summary: Spock would have preferred to remain on board while the other senior officers took shore leave, but Jim had insisted he accompany them.

Comments: sweet. Spocko and Jimbo dance together.

  ☆☆ Please don’t touch the Vulcans

by museaway

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Words: 17,690

Summary: The “yes” is out of Jim’s mouth before he can think about it.

Comments: soo good. Jim agrees to join Spock on new Vulcan (essentially, for Christmas). slow build. tarsus IV reference.

  ☆ The Walls Between Us

by museaway

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Words: 12,898

Summary: They have been imprisoned for thirteen hours, ten minutes, and forty-two standard seconds.

Comments: 3 cheers for mind melds, genius Jim, angst and hurt/comfort!

  Universal Translator Fail

by janice_lester

Words: ~7,000

Summary: There’s a lot we don’t know about how the Universal Translator works. This is a story about what it does when it isn’t workin’.

Comments: a 5+1 story

  ¢ Cumulative Evidence

by jaylee_g

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Words: 5,660

Summary: “So maybe he wasn’t prone to self-denial naturally, but he was sure as hell certain he could learn it with time”… or Jim Kirk’s guide to discovering you’re attracted to men, or rather one half-human, half-vulcan male in particular.

Comments: Jim is attracted to Spock and not sure what to do about it

  Chemical Compatibility

by jaylee_g

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Words: 5,232

Summary: ksvalentine submission for this prompt… Carol had warned him once, in her kind-yet-succinct way, that he would one day meet someone who would be able to get under his skin. He wondered what she would say if he called her now and told her of his predicament… She would probably find the entire thing vastly amusing.

Comments: Jim doesn’t like Valentine’s day. also, hello porn!

  Introvenient (Spock’s POV)

by jaylee_g

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Words: 3,508

Summary:  "He is your T’hy’la,” he responds, and you feel your heart beat faster than it ever has.

Comments: if you like this one, read its companion piece, Entire of Himself from Jim’s POV. The link for it is at the end.

 ☆ Illuminate 

by jaylee_g

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Words: 2,387

Summary: The universe he lived in really, truly sucked and he would have been content if he had lived blissfully on not knowing that…. not knowing that it could be better, not knowing other Jims had amazing lives with living fathers, soul deep friendships and a long list of battles won.

Comments: simple, meaningful, and sweet.

  ¢ Implicitly 

by jaylee_g and sundara

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Words: 5,210

Summary: It had always been Spock; from the moment they met, it had been Spock.

Comments: pon farr. romance novel-ish.

  Interpreting Spock

by jaylee_g

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Words: 2,206

Summary: Written for the ever exuberant marlee813 using the prompt “either Spock or Jim getting sick (my preference is Spock) and the other having to take care of them” for my reading/reviewing challenge… “Bottom line: he knew his Spock, thus he knew, unequivocally, that Spock was sick (and being rather shifty about it).”

Comments: Spock is sick and won’t admit it. Jim helps.

  ☆ Of Lirpas and Laras (You say it best)

by jaylee_g

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Words: 5,4688

Summary: ksadvent submission for the prompt: Spock has almost nothing of Vulcan. Kirk searches the universe for things to give him. 

Comments: fluffy fluffy fluff

  Missing Scene I

by lalazee

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Words: 923

Summary: Following the death of someone special.

Comments: hurt/comfort. Into Darkness. Jim is in shock.

  Nothing Else Matters

by alma_gloriosa

Words: 13,551

Summary: Nyota thinks Kirk is just vain. Spock isn’t as sure. When a new mission leads to strange behavior from the captain, Spock wants to know what’s going on, and how he can help - if Jim will let him.

Comments: hurt/comfort. aftereffects of Tarsus IV on Jim.

 ☆¢ once more (with feeling)

by juxtapose

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Words: 7,114

Summary: Post-STID. Kirk and Spock are unsure about their relationship. Spock Prime decides it’s his final destiny to change that.

Comments: Spock Prime is dying.

  Priorities

by jesse_kips

Words: 5,143

Summary: 5 times Spock put someone else before his own needs, and one time someone else put him first.

Comments: really cute. Spock gets a much needed confidence boost.

  ☆✇ Subtext

by noodleinabarrel

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Words: 13,032

Summary: Texting your Vulcan first officer in the middle of the night is never a good idea. Especially when you have an obsessive crush on said Vulcan.

The holidays are approaching and Jim is left entirely Spockless aboard the Enterprise when his First takes shore leave on New Vulcan. After some midnight pining, Jim sends a text he instantly regrets. That is, until Spock responds and willingly continues their textual communications to an inevitable conclusion.

Comments: love this one lmao. Jim is pining over Spock. some of Spock’s responses to Jim’s texts made me snort laugh. this is part 1 of a 3 part series: Textual Communications

  ☆☆ The Morning After

by noodleinabarrel

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Words: 50,381

Summary: Jim convinces Spock to take shore leave with him on Risa, hoping the time together will help re-solidify their bond of friendship after some recent tension. Meanwhile, Spock convinces himself he’s on Risa for one reason and one reason only, to prevent his wayward captain from getting into trouble. After a passionately illogical night of Romulan Ale and chocolate infused liquor, everything changes when Jim wakes with something other than a hangover filling his head. Something he’s sure neither he nor Spock can handle. Because if Jim knows anything for sure, it’s that his messed up thoughts belong nowhere near Spock’s clean, ordered mind.

Comments: angst and hurt/comfort. Tarsus IV. one of my faves!

  ¢ Under My Umbrella

by creampuffer

Words: 2,588

Summary: Five times Kirk needed an umbrella and the one time he didn’t.

Comments: 5+1 story. fluffy.

  ☆ Coming Home

by Amanda Warrington (awarrington on AO3)

Words: 126,159

Summary: Set a few months into their first mission, the Enterprise is ordered to pick up a Vulcan Healer and transport him to the new colony.  Once there they are scheduled to remain and assist with the early stages of setting up the colony.  Kirk’s liaison is his ‘old friend’ Ambassador Spock, now known as Elder Sepak, who takes the opportunity to help Kirk and Spock become better acquainted.

Comments: really good slow build fic!

  so long as you don’t lose me

by raphaela667

Words: ~3,000

Summary: prompt: Five times Kirk fought for a woman and one time he fought for a man.

Comments: (it’s the 1st link) good 5+1 story.

  ☆ Anchor Me

by synia

Words: 16,394

Summary: Kirk is part Betazoid, he doesn’t advertise it because it doesn’t define him, but after feeling the terror and the psychic scream from the destruction of Vulcan he starts to break down. He can’t block anything anymore and it almost kills him. Spock intervenes. For this prompt at the st_xi_kink_meme.

Comments: Kirk suffering in silence. (dude, you don’t have to be alone. ask for heeelp Jim, damn.) hurt/comfort. Spock to the rescue

  Sweetheart Come to Me

by rabidchild67

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Words: 3,460

Summary: Endearments are illogical. Until they aren’t. Spock learns a lesson.

Comments: hurt/comfort and fluff.

  ☆¢ We Two Boys Together Clinging

by rabidchild67

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Words: 21,812

Summary: One day, 9-yr old Jim Kirk wakes up in the middle of nowhere with a big headache and no memory of how he got there. He’s not sure where he is, but it’s definitely not Earth, and there’s not another living soul around. Well, except for this other kid - an actual Vulcan! - who’s annoying at first, but turns out to be pretty useful to have around. Guess it’s time for the adventure of a lifetime he’s always wanted.

Comments: hurt/comfort. Jim & Spock interact as kids

  ☆ Antigravity

by sinestrated

Words: 9,727

Summary: Five times Spock was surprised by the brilliance of Kirk’s mind, and one time he totally saw it coming.

Comments: I looove genius Kirk. and so does Spock ;)

  ☆ Pyromania

by sinestrated

Words: 9,689

Summary: Jim has been burning bridges since childhood. The Enterprise and Spock eventually change that.

Comments: hurt/comfort, tarsus fic, suicide attempt, Jim won’t stop pushing people away, happy ending.

  ☆✇ Take This Sinking Boat (And Point It Home)

by sinestrated

Words: 6,698

Summary: In which Spock pines, Jim isn’t stupid (except he kind of is), and Christopher Pike has had enough of this bullshit.

Comments: this isn’t crack, it’s just hilarious. Pike POV. fluffy, Spock & Jim being dense.

 ☆☆ Vulcans Are Fangirls Too

by jouissant

Words: 10,838

Summary: Kirk is a secret astrophysics genius who publishes under a pseudonym; Spock sends him fanmail. Shenanigans ensue. Less fluffy than the title might imply, but a feel-good story nonetheless.

Comments: I love Jim being his genius self. also: Spock is adorable

  no place for cowards (or: jim kirk’s heart is a tender place)

by alienbabe

Words: 1,175

Summary: a girl tells him once “you don’t know how to love anyone, Jim Kirk,” and he starts to think that maybe she’s right

Comments: angst and happy endings

  ☆ Kings and Pawns of Men

by ragdoll987

Words: 11,248

Summary: A series of unusual and anonymous gifts sends Spock on a quest for answers (with Kirk along for the ride).  How chess and strategy conspired to bring two men together in the midst of a Christmas holiday!  Written for the K/S Advent Calendar 2010.

Comments: wonderfully sweet

  ☆ The Handmaid of Genius

by ladyblahblah

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Words: 3,033

Summary: When the replicators go offline, Jim reacts unexpectedly.

Comments: Tarsus IV. Jim experiences panic and severe anxiety. hurt/comfort.

  Through Blind Men’s Eyes

by ladyblahblah

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Words: 45,929

Summary: The obligatory Pon Farr story … with a bit of a twist.

Comments: bodyswap.

  Constant

by kyliselle 

Words: 770

Summary: A fill for this prompt at st_xi_kink : I can’t get enough of SpockPrime calling Jim “James”. I especially can’t get enough of it if it’s sort of affectionate scolding. Originally posted here.

Comments: Jim and Spock prime hang out

  Present

by kyliselle 

Words: 917

Summary: A fill for this prompt at st_xi_kink: Kirk/Spock. Deaged!Spock (around 5 or 6) doing arts and crafts. He makes something sweet for Kirk. Originally posted here.

Comments: adorable kid!Spock

  ✇ Put a Pointy-Eared Baby in Me

by kyliselle 

Words: 1,992

Summary: Kirk feels Spock is getting more bossy by the hour, especially towards him. Finally, he can’t stand it anymore and asks for help. Originally posted here.  AN: Humor; no mpreg. 

Comments: funny as heck.

  ☆☆ Shine Like the Sun

by kyliselle

Words: ~25,000

Summary: Prompt-fill. An accident leaves Spock with amnesia. His last memory is bringing a cadet up on charges for cheating on the Kobayashi Maru - a cadet who, to his disgust, is now his bondmate. 

Comments: super angsty. spock is so harsh, but he’s confused and doesn’t realize how much harm he’s causing. jim and spock need to stop hurting one another, smh. one of my favorite fics.

  Perpetual Check (series)

by waketosleep

Words: 7,441

Summary: Kirk and Spock build a relationship through chess.

Comments: smart!Jim

  ☆ The Secret Sits in the Middle

by waketosleep

Words: 680

Summary: Spock ponders Kirk and the effects of harmful secrets.

Comments: Tarsus IV references.

 ☆ Whatever Remains (However Improbable)

by waketosleep 

Words: 1,632

Summary: A mysterious poem leads Kirk to do some detective work. Uhura is completely, gleefully unhelpful.

Comments: I love me some good poetry

 Extracurricular Activities

by awarrington

Words: 15,433

Summary: Spock returns to the Academy from a tour of duty to find an intriguing cadet captures his attention.

Comments: Teacher/student relationship (but, I mean, they’re basically the same age so)

  ☆☆ Bluebird

by waldorph

Words: 7,087

Summary: “Jim Kirk.” Jim whipped around so fast most of his drink ended up on Spock, who was reaching for the phaser that wasn’t there. The Enterprise crew was parting like the biblical seas before Moses, and Jim could feel the temperature dropping. “Mom,” Jim croaked.

Comments: Star Trek Beyond fic! Winona is a hardass and it’s great. the banter is hecka funny. also: genius Kirk is everything. angst abound. this fic is simple in that you feel comfortable reading it. the characterization feels spot on for everyone.

  Disciplined (series)

by waldorph

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Words: 3,289

Summary of Part 1: Jim’s pretty sure he’s got mutiny right now. He’s got a lapful of mutiny.

Comments: spanking, porn, & infidelity (but mostly porn)

  ☆ Lies Your Captain Told You

by waldorph

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Words: 1,088

Summary: The building collapsed.

Comments: sad/heart wrenching. this one’s a tearjerker.

  my boy builds coffins

by waldorph

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Words: 2,618

Summary: Jim Kirk was a legend before he was even an hour old, and legends are never men. They are tragedies and heroes and cautionary tales and they never grow up or grow old, they simply are.

Jim Kirk is a pain in Spock’s ass.

Comments: dark

 ☆ My Empire of Dirt

by waldorph

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Words: 1,012

Summary: He remembers fucking everything. Tries to kill it away but–well. Time’s a tricky little fucker.

Comments: sad/dark. the mind meld with Spock prime fucked Jim up.

  ☆☆ Two Steps Away

by waldorph

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Words: 3,358

Summary: It was a long war.

Comments: aaand I’m bawling my eyes out, great. (future fic)

  ☆☆ Unraveling

by AnnaKnitsSpock

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Words: 34,088

Summary: When the Enterprise receives a December assignment to accompany a Federation investigation on Tarsus IV, Jim is forced to confront not only the trauma he experienced there, but also his conflicted feelings about Christmas, his childhood, and his first officer.

Comments: Jim knits in order to cope. hurt/comfort & angst. possibly my favorite fic about how Tarsus IV affected Jim.

  ☆ Knitting Lessons

by blcwriter

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Words: 4,571

Summary:   Spock’s mother knit him a sweater, which develops a hole.  Kirk knits it shut– their friendship develops from there. For K/S Advent 2009.

Comments: more knitting! pre-slash. Jim’s more complicated than he looks, folks.

  not once but always

by estelares

Words: 6,180

Summary: The Day Jim Kirk Died And Was Revived is also, perhaps more famously, remembered as The Day Spock Lost His Proverbial Marbles and nearly killed a superhuman who had fucking regenerative blood, for crying out loud.

Comments: Into Darkness. hurt/comfort.

 ☆ On Restless Pinions

by what_alchemy

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Words: 23,055

Summary: When Stonn goes into pon farr, T'Pring must break her bond with Spock, which has unforeseen consequences. But that’s not where their story starts.

Comments: real good, my friends. this fic is real good.

  ✇ The Things We Do

Se7en_devils

Words: 33,323

Summary: The progression of Spock and Kirk’s relationship, shown through snippets. Snippets of crack, that is. Wherein it’s always the aliens, Jim can’t stop kirking up, and McCoy is a doctor, not a porn star damnit!

Comments: literal crack. this fic made me snort giggle, which is quite the feat considering I try to avoid snort giggling at all costs.

  walk with me

by obsidianfic

Words: 12,110

Summary: Spock gets a second chance.

Comments: hurt/comfort. Into Darkness fic

 I Know You Better

by CaityCat

Words: 4,620

Summary: The people of Twilar are a newly warp-capable species that has caught the eye of the Federation for more reasons beyond its planets’ deep, untouched mines and strategic placement along the border of the neutral zone. The Federation wants Twilar as an ally, but the people of Twilar have a very specific criteria for what makes a leadership team functional.

When Kirk and Spock make First Contact, they are immediately thrown into a globally broadcasted questionnaire competition which will decide whether of not the Twilar join the Federation.

Or, alternatively, Spock and Kirk play a high stakes version of The Newlywed Game.

Comments: with fluff & hurt/comfort.

  ☆ Immutable Things

by dogpoet

Words: 1,672

Summary: Spock once told you that the universe is made up of parallel worlds, that every choice you make creates two branches on the crooked line of your life.

Comments: a poetic fic about how, no matter the universe, spirk is a constant. Tarsus references.

  ✇ Into Dark’ness

by Emily_Nicaoida

Words: 1,095

Summary: Uh….I don’t know why I started writing this. There is no plot; that was probably obvious from the title. It’s exactly what it sounds like: a fanfic of My Immortal, as narrated by Spock on his blog. 

Buckle up.

Comments: saved the best for last~ (I can’t stop laughing. help me)

[tamlinrose]

i am begging people to stick with mohammed @mohdiwais as his campaign continues. he can't afford for engagement to be dropping off when these donations are his sole way of supporting 27 family members. i don't even have the words to convey how terrifying it is for all of them to see hours, or days, stretching between donations.

they are being bombed constantly, they have no home or jobs to return to, their children are severely traumatised. all of them need food, winter weatherproofing, medicine. this isn't a game or a fun post; it's their lives.

i don't know why tumblr has seemingly decided to stop caring about this family overnight but it's terrifying me, too. please toss them a reblog at the very least, and donate what you can spare.

10 USD = 102 SEK

verified / donate

[tamlinrose]

tumblr just deleted a huge swathe of palestinians who were on here trying to fundraise. if you've been helping any of these fundraisers please take this time to 1) check in with palestinians you're in contact with 2) help them submit support requests if needed 3) keep these campaigns circulating while the beneficiaries are being silenced. these campaigns are life or death, this isn't just social networking. do not let these fundraisers languish.

[tamlinrose]

Based off of @gunnslaughter‘s sidlink comic.

Summary:

Good days are rare when you’re a mess and have to fight the personification of the apocalypse, but Sidon is pretty good at taking bad days and making them good days.

Preview:

He pulled a corner of his lip in as he signed, Just thinking.

“Well it is certainly a nice day to relax and think,” the prince replied, gifting him with his typical, hearty chuckle.

Is that why you’re here? Link asked, leaning back a bit to crane his neck so as to see the Zora, squinting against the harsh sunlight.

“Partially.” Sidon kneeled down when he saw the other struggling to see him, knowing Link would not take offense to such an action. “However, I find it difficult to enjoy such activities alone when I know my dearest friend is brooding on a mountain.”

Link’s ears slid down as he gave a chuckle, knowing he’d been caught, What kind of hero doesn’t brood on a mountain every once in a while?

“Surely the kind who will join me in a swim in one of said mountain’s pools,” Sidon replied, his grin growing as Link outright laughed at that, the sound cheery and light. “Is that a yes?”

Link was still laughing as he nodded, holding out a hand for Sidon to help him up.

[tamlinrose]

last €780 for hazem’s evacuation fund let’s go let’s go let’s go

[tamlinrose]

Lol  it’s all ‘we should center the voices of the victims of Imperial core’ till people here realize that this has to be a sustained effort that would need the same energy from beginning to end, no matter how many days, months or years go by. Really  crazy that just when so many Gazans are on the site trying to reach out to us, Palestine seems to be falling out of relevance because the coverage of protests in the imperial core has begun to die down

[tamlinrose]

Palestine fundraisers with easily-achievable goals

By "easily-achievable", I mean in the 50-60K range and below. Once again, drawing from my pinned list of fundraisers, which have all been vetted by Palestinians on Tumblr (check that post for the proof next to each family name). I'll update this post just like the main list and the "under 1000 donations" list. Many of these are extremely close to completing their funding. Let's help get them there!

As always, donate if you can, reblog if you can't!

LAST UPDATED 9/2

10K range

Aya's family Goal: 15K 2/3 funded

The Saftawi family Goal: 16K 3147 TO GO!

20K range

The Sami family Goal: 20K Half funded

Zaen and Yehya Goal: 25K 1/4 funded

The Ismaeel family Goal: 25K 1/3 funded

Ashraf's family Goal: 25K 4019 TO GO!

30K range

Ahmed's family Goal: 30K 1/3 funded

The Alnabih family Goal: 30K 4434 TO GO!

The Khalaf family Goal: 30K 2875 TO GO!

Issam Aziz's mother Goal: 30K 4053 TO GO!

Amira's family Goal: 39K 2/3 funded

40K range

The Hor family Goal: 40K Under 1/5 funded

The Abushammaleh family Goal: 40K 1/3 funded

The Shaqoura family Goal: 45K Half funded

The Aburass family Goal: 45K 1/4 funded

Note: The Aburass campaign is in SEK, so the goal is technically 450K, but converted to USD it's closer to 45. Ultimately I decided to include this one since USD, CAD, GBP, and EUR will be more powerful here, and a huge chunk of the site's user base will pay with one of those currencies. The more hands on deck, the better.

50K range

Amal's family Goal: 50K Under 1/5 funded

Walaa's family Goal: 50K 1/5 funded

The Shorbaje family Goal: 50K 1/3 funded

The Aldeeb family Goal: 55K 2/3 funded

[tamlinrose]

hey! there's zero esims left for the connecting gaza campaign as of today. i remember you promoting them earlier. could you give them a much needed boost?

oh dang! unfamiliar with that particular campaign, as I always donate via crips for e-sims because it's super easy to do, but regardless let's go people!

[tamlinrose]

So a few months ago there was the discourse about would you rather meet a man or a bear in the woods. I didn't want to touch it while the discourse was hot and everyone dug in hard because those are not good conditions for nuance, but I waited until today, June 1st, for a specific reason.

I'm not going to take a position in the bear vs man debate because I don't think it matters. What is really being asked here is how afraid are you of men? Specifically, unexpected men who are, perhaps, strange.

People have a lot of very real fear of men that comes from a lot of very real places. Back when I was first transitioning in 2015 and 2016, I decided to start presenting as a woman in public even though I did not pass in the slightest.

I live in a red state. I knew other trans women who had been attacked by men, raped by men. I knew I was taking a risk by putting myself out there. I was the only visibly trans person in the area of campus I frequented, and people made sure I never forgot that. Most were harmless enough and the worst I got from them was curious stares. Others were more aggressive, even the occasional threat. I had to avoid public bathrooms, of course, and always be aware of my surroundings.

I know how frightening it is to be alone at night while a pair of men are following behind you and not knowing if they are just going in the same direction or if they want to start something - made all the worse for the constant low level threat I had been living under for over a year by just being visibly trans in a place where many are openly hostile to queer people. You have to remember, this was at the height of the first wave of bathroom law discussions, a lot of people were very angry about trans women in particular. My daily life was terrifying at times. I was never the subject of direct violence, but I knew trans women who had been.

I want you to keep all that in mind.

So man or bear is really the question "how afraid of men are you?", and the question that logically follows is "What if there was a strange man at night in a deserted parking lot?" or "What if you were alone in an elevator with a man?" or "What if you met a strange man in the woman's bathroom?"

My state recently passed an anti trans bathroom bill. The rhetoric they used was about protecting women and children from "strange men", aka trans women.

Conservatives hijack fear for their bigoted agenda.

When I first started presenting as a woman the campus apartment complex was designed for young families. The buildings were in a large square with playgrounds in the center, and there were often children playing. I quickly noticed that when I took my daughter out to play, often several children would immediately stop what they were doing and run back inside. It didn't take me long to confirm that the parents were so afraid of "the strange man who wears skirts" that their children were under strict instructions to literally run away as soon as they saw me.

"How afraid are you of a strange man being near your children?"

I mentioned above that I had to avoid public bathrooms. This was not because of men. It was because of women who were so afraid of random men that they might get violent or call someone like the police to be violent for them if I ever accidentally presented myself in a way that could be interpreted as threatening, when my mere presence could be seen as a threat. If I was in the library studying and I realized that it was just me and one other woman I would get up and leave because she might decide that stranger danger was happening.

Your fear is real. Your fear might even come from lived experiences. None of that prevents the fact that your fear can be violent. Women's fear of men is one of the driving forces of transmisogyny because it is so easy to hijack. And it isn't just trans women. Other trans people experience this, and other queer people too. Racial minorities, homeless people, neurodivergent people, disabled people.

When you uncritically engage with questions like man or bear, when you uncritically validate a culture of reactive fear, you are paving the way for conservatives and bigots to push their agenda. And that is why I waited until pride month. You cannot engage and contribute to the culture of reactive fear without contributing to queerphobia of all varieties. The sensationalist culture of reactive fear is a serious queer issue, and everyone just forgot that for a week as they argued over man or bear. I'm not saying that "man" is the right answer. I am saying that uncritically engaging with such obvious click bait trading on reactive fear is a problem. Everyone fucked up.

It is not a moral failing to experience fear, but it is a moral responsibility to keep a handle on that fear and know how it might harm others.

[tamlinrose]

Marsha P Johnson with Snoopy

[tamlinrose]

I don't think that transmasculine people are inherently more transmisogynistic than other tme people. I DO think that they are very much Not Immune To Transmisogyny, however, is the thing.

The reason you see trans women complaining about transmascs specifically is, well, the thing transmisogynistic dudes are constantly telling me- we share a community. Trans women can go to specifically transgender spaces and face misogyny and othering, be treated as dangerous predators or shameful sex objects. And then those of us who try to create our own spaces are harassed and demonized for being "divisive".

When you see trans women specifically complaining about transmasculine people, it's because, well, we expect better. We hope better. Many of us want to be in a community with you, but for that to happen we need that community to be safe for us.

[tamlinrose]

Heres my little birthday skirt its my birthday outfit .

[tamlinrose]

Since it is Pride Month, keep an eye on Gaza and Palestine, and keep educating yourselves on the intersectional struggle. Queer liberation is a decolonial process. Queer liberation is an essential part of Palestine's liberation!

[tamlinrose]

The Studio Boat, Claude Monet, 1874

[tamlinrose]

cjmoreau9-blog:

I have a confession

I love studs. Masculine gals, what have you, I love it. I don't know why, but that is my type.

It's not weird and I'm just tired and making a big deal out of it right?

I'm tired. I can't function. Where ya at

masculine women

[tamlinrose]

HAPPY PRIDE

[tamlinrose]

"why are people suddenly saying kink isn't always sexual" hello! you seem to have picked up on something that is actually de facto considered true in IRL kink scenes and often trotted out as one of the basic foundational truths of kink in educational contexts (i.e. beginners' workshops, it'll be in guides for first-timers at dungeons, etc). come take my hand and let me introduce you to the vast and wonderful world of IRL kink.

"kink," contrary to what a lot of internet-only kinksters seem to think, is not referencing your relationship to a concept--it's referencing the concept itself. for example, "bondage" in this context is not referring to "being turned on by tying someone up/being tied up," it's referring to the concept of being tied up/tying someone up itself. this is one of the most common kinks you'll see people playing with in entirely nonsexual contexts--most rope groups have at least a handful of players who are asexual or entirely sex-repulsed, for example. at a lot of rope play sessions, sexual activity will be banned entirely & you'll generally be expected to not show signs of sexual arousal while in that space. because it's not the space for that--sexual play parties are their own thing.

so what makes something a kink vs. a "normal" interest, if it's not a sexual aspect? mostly social stigma. the group of interests considered "kinks" have developed a shared umbrella due to a shared societal pathologization of those interests in similar ways, and one of the ways that pathology manifests is by considering those interests fundamentally sexual. there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a sexual dimension to your kink, to be clear--but society sees sex as inherently disgusting, and sexualization is frequently weaponized to pathologize all kinds of people.

portraying interest in domination/submission as inherently sexual, for example, means those explicitly navigating consensual d/s play are relegated to the realm of "the bedroom" and signifiers of their relationship (i.e. a collar) are considered "obscene" and not fit to exist in public--even when equivalent signifiers of vanilla lifestyles are allowed and not considered obscene, i.e. a wedding ring. if you portray an interest in roleplaying as a dog as inherently sexual, it means anyone roleplaying as a dog in public is subjecting the public to nasty, perverted sex, it can be classified as obscene, you can arrest people for barking and wearing leashes even if they are deriving zero sexual pleasure from it whatsoever and are not exposing themselves or harassing anyone.

why are most kinks expressed sexually to some degree, or have a sexual dimension to them? because sexually active adults tend to enjoy sex. i don't know how else to explain this, genuinely. if you are a person who experiences sexual arousal and sexual attraction, then you will often be aroused by your interests in a sexual context.

like, i am really into fandom. i love a lot of different things about fandom. one of the things i love about fandom is that it's horny; i'm a big enthusiast of smut, horny cosplay, et cetera and so on. but that doesn't mean that i don't like fandom in completely non-horny contexts, or that my interest in fandom is always sexual and can never be separated from sex. just because i cosplay erotically doesn't mean that i don't also cosplay in other contexts entirely. cosplay turns me on, and i also love cosplaying at conventions and for entirely non-horny reasons.

kink is the same. sometimes the exact same person is both turned on by petplay and interested in it nonsexually. this is actually like... really common, it's not even just "sometimes," i would say it applies to the vast majority of IRL kinksters active in my local scene, and i would hazard a guess that this isn't a major outlier, it's fairly common in scenes across the world. but if you can understand "i like cosplaying, and sometimes i'll cosplay at a convention, and sometimes i'll cosplay for sex, and sometimes i'll cosplay for fun alone in my room, and sometimes i'll cosplay to jack off, and sometimes i'll cosplay for money, and none of these are The Only Reason I Like Cosplay, and sometimes when i cosplay i will do it in a way that only includes some of these reasons and not the others at all," it shouldn't be too hard to apply the same reasoning to kink.

anyway, trying to relegate "kink" to only and solely refer to "this set of stigmatized interests and relationship dynamics, but only in reference to sex specifically" is closing the barn door after the horses are gone. sorry y'all but the kink community developed in response to medical pathologization and severe social stigma. there's no post-hoc way to turn it into an ontological classification of some form--kink is messy and abstract as a category because it isn't a category based in, like, scientific observation or ontological meanings of words. it's a category based in "we think these people are freaks and we need a diagnosis for their freakishness" lol. the forcible sexualization of every aspect of kink is part of the initial classification of this loose social realm as "fetish" and/or "paraphilia." sex is not evil or scary or bad but equally the structures doing the pathologization do consider sex to be evil and that's not something you can just ignore when discussing how sex is utilized rhetorically in these discussions.