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Ok so today I was on the bus with another trans guy and we were talking about how hard it is to get testosterone. The waiting lists, the price, all the doctors you have to go to, that kind of stuff. Except, we were calling it ’T’, like you do when you’re both closeted and in public.

Then suddenly the elderly lady sitting behind us was like ‘young men, either I’m going crazy or you both have never heard of supermarkets, they have shelves full of tea there! Do you need directions to one?’

To which my buddy starts to explain, because why not. ‘Well you see, we’re both trans, and… ’

The lady didn’t wait for him to finish his sentence. ‘Oh no, I don’t mind that at all! Now do you want to know how to get to a place that sells tea? I’m actually heading there right now!’

We let her take us to the supermarket. We let her show us, excitedly, where the tea was. We both bought loads.

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“But just because you’re strong and resilient doesn’t mean you never need someone to be there for you, to take care of you.”

— Tammara Webber

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I don’t know how to say this in a way that doesn’t sound like I’m advocating for casual cruelty or whatever but something that grates so much about this current social moment is how many people are incapable of saying they dislike something or someone without cooking up some higher morally correct reason for their dislike. Sometimes you just disliked a book. Sometimes you don’t “get” an actor or a musician. There’s nothing morally wrong with your girl’s fuckass boyfriend he’s literally just annoying and you’re annoyed that you have to pretend you like him when you know he’ll be history in six months. It’s fine. You don’t need to justify your dislike.

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Twitter, 4/27/2024

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hi whatever you’re going through you’re not alone

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There’s no such thing as work-life balance for neurodivergent & chronically ill people.

This is because everything in my life requires work:

maintaining friendships

keeping up with my hygiene

managing bills

making money

remembering my basic needs

sleeping regularly

outputting creatively

All requires some aspect of work for me.

And when everything in your life requires work, your balance goes out the window.

If you're neurodivergent and overwhelmed — I see you.

If you're chronically ill and overwhelmed — I see you.

You're not dysfunctional.

You're not incapable.

You're doing your best.

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say it again, daddy!

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society really lost the war when dressing nice / slutty = “gay” “metrosexual” “is he 💅🏻”. we had decades of men wearing crop tops and short shorts without blinking an eye and now it’s ye ole pilgrim standards and talk of scandal if they show their knees

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this post is for you. yes, you! you are so deserving of a good, happy, content life. you are so strong and resilient, and i am proud of you. you will make it through all this hardship and come out the other side doing better than ever.

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a quick UPA inspired Starscream

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its just so funny how an aunt (dad's sister) who i never even grew up knowing tried to snap back at me on the facebook messages group chat by saying "wow, you're really your father's daughter" after i called her out respectfully to not blame my dad for his outrage on certain things happening.

like?

woman? u think thats supposed to hurt me? i dont even know you. i will be taking that as a compliment, thanks.

goodness, the older generation are so fucking annoying lmao.

if this happened to me when i was in my teenage years, i would be apologizing to that old hag. but lol guess what, im almost in my thirties and i honestly dont give a damn what she thinks about me.

also lmao, this is the second time aunts are getting heated at me for me talking back and defending my parents. when i did this last for my mom was back in 2020 and that wrecked me when my aunts disowned me, because i knew them and they knew me. but this time? for my dad? i dont even know this old lady, she could be a fucking karen for all i care lol.

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kamikaze girls (2004)

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⋆˙⟡♡ a love story in two parts ⋆˙⟡♡ these two risograph prints are available in my shop!