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For aro/ace writers:

- you don't have to write sex scenes. Tolkien didn't

- you don't have to write romance. Lewis didn't

- you can write very close friendships that have nothing romantic nor sexual in them. Scott Lynch did

- you can write sexual relationships that don't involve romance. Sapkowski did

- you can write romantic relationships that don't involve sex. Pratchett and Gaiman did

Don't let anyone tell you that some kinds of relationships are impossible or that a story must contain some themes. It's your story, write it the way you want

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Forgot to post this on here yesterday. Happy ACE WEEK 2024!

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Purple & Black Plaid Tunic

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"Lightning and trees"

Jeremy Thomas

Free to use under the Unsplash License

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could i please have an lowkey ace & enby moodboard? your stuff is great <3

Thank you! I made a version with and without flags, I hope you like it :)

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Ace of Spades

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im so tired of people saying aphobic things all over the place and then acting like they have no fucking clue how it's aphobic

and i'm tired of the hypocrisy. it's always "be with the person you LOVE, your feelings have to be GENUINE" until you don't love anyone, then it doesn't matter if you dont have genuine feelings for anyone. they all want you to fake it and be fucking normal!!! it's always "well aros can still date!! aces can still have sex!!! aroace can still have relationships!!" YEAH, SOME OF US CAN, BUT DONT YOU THINK ITS A LITTLE WEIRD HOW YOU EXPECT US TO DO THOSE THINGS, WITHOUT FEELING ANYTHING FOR THEM, WHEN YOU NORMALLY DONT DO THAT TO OTHER PEOPLE? WHY IS IT SO INSTANTLY ACCEPTABLE ONLY WHEN IT COMES TO ASPECS? WHY DO YOU ACT AS IF THATS NOT ASKING US TO FAKE WHO WE ARE?

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I thought a little abomination desk assistant might be helpful but he can't really handle the weight of a single pen.

That's uh. Well.

Yeah okay buddy take 15. That's longer than you've existed so far but you've earned it.

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Ziad Nakad ‘Rhombus’ Fall 2022 Haute Couture Collection

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"To live in the cold and lonely norwegian forest, away from the city and friends, isn’t always great. But when you wake up to a beautiful winter dream of a frozen forest, you’ll be happy for every day you have to enjoy this journey. I shoot this with my drone on an early morning, alone in the forest."

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Menkerud, Norway

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"Raven Placing the Stars"

Acrylic painting on linen panel, 16" x 20", September 5, 2023

A legend according to the Tlingit peoples of Alaska say that Raven placed the stars in the sky. Once long ago, the stars belonged to the great heavenly chief, who hoarded them in a sack. One day, Raven turned into a pine needle and was swallowed by the chief's daughter, where he was later born as her son. The chief gave his grandson the sack of stars to play with. Raven seized the opportunity, turned back into a raven, ascending to the heavens with the sack in his beak. As he soared across the heavens, he scattered the stars in his wake.

Story from: "When Raven Placed The Stars in the Sky"

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"It looks like ghost"

FlyD

Free to use under the Unsplash License

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demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

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How do I know I’m aroace? Well, every time I think that I may be romantically/sexually attracted to someone, I remind myself that I feel the exact same way about concepts

Real life pictures of me to demonstrate