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To newly discovered systems who are still questioning everything:

(Here's basically everything we wish we knew up front).

- However many alters your system has is fine. You don't have too many. You'll probably realize you have more than you originally thought as time goes on.

- It's really normal to have nonhuman alters.

- It's really normal to have fictives.

- Not every alter needs to fit into a specific obvious role. A lot of alters will probably fill more than one role in your system.

- Being the host doesn't mean you're the "real" person and they're YOUR alters.

- Being an alter doesn't mean you're not the "real" person. Everyone, even the host, is an alter too.

- Persecutors aren't evil and if you treat them like that, they'll just get more problematic.

- However often you switch is normal. If you switch multiple times an hour, great. If you don't switch for weeks on end, also great. That's how your system works and it's fine.

- Age is weird in systems. You can have adult alters who lack the maturity and ability to function like other adults. You can have littles who are able to make complex decisions. Don't assume what an alter is capable of based on their age without actually getting to know them.

- 99% of the time there's no benefit in having a formal diagnosis beyond validating YOU. A trauma and dissociation oriented therapist can help treat your symptoms without making a formal dx. In fact, you might be better off without having that dx on paper.

- You don't owe anyone proof that you're not faking it.

- Thinking that you're faking it is extremely common. If you have to worry about that, you're not faking it. You'd have to make the intentional, conscious decision to fake it.

- Not knowing who you are is common. Blurring together/ passive influence is really common.

- You can split again simply out of necessity; you don't always have to go through a new traumatic event to split.

- CSA isn't the only type of trauma that can result in DID. Any type of ongoing trauma in childhood can cause DID.

- "Is it normal if _____?" Probably. The experience of being/ having a system is incredible subjective and varied.

- There's a good chance your inner world is more or less a vivid daydream. It doesn't have to be like a literal place you "go" when you're not fronting. If it is, cool, but it doesn't have to be.

- Some systems have to intentionally create their inner world to aid in communication. Not everybody just has one automatically.

- At the end of the day, you are one person. In the long run it'll benefit you to remember that and not over-focus on all your differences because that can increase dissociative barriers among other things.

- You are collectively responsible for each other's actions and need to learn to work as a team, as much as you can.

- Yes switching during dreams is a thing.

- In-system relationships between alters is a thing and it's not weird. It's common.

- If you can't track down when and how everyone in your system split that's normal.

- You don't all have to be super distinct to be valid. It's normal for alters to have a lot in common/ to have overlapping traits. Again, you're all part of the same person.

- Alters having a different accent internally but not using it externally is a thing.

- Substances will affect switching and internal communication.

- If you all just use your physical birthday and don't celebrate individually that's fine. If some or all of you celebrate different birthdays/ significant dates that's fine.

- Sharing a romantic/ sexual relationship with a partner is fine and normal, but you also don't have to. However, you should work towards everyone in the system having some kind of positive relationship with your partner because it'll make things way easier.

- You don't owe it to anyone to tell who's fronting.

- If you don't even know who's fronting that's fine. It's normal to not always know.

- If your switches aren't obvious to anyone outside of you and you don't all act super different, that's normal. It's a covert disorder.

- Alters intentionally doing things to give themselves a sense of individuality is normal. Sometimes it's a coping mechanism. If you do things like develop your own handwriting on purpose, that doesn't mean you're faking.

- Dissociative amnesia can happen without switching. Sometimes it's all 100% you and your memory can still be crap.

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being a non-human member of a system while fronting in a human body is an experience

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hello it's myriad.

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System Ask Meme :0

General system questions

🎭 Any polar opposites in the system? Describe their differences.

🎁 What are some favourite gifts alters have received?

🐀 Are there any alters who want pets? If so, what pets?

🍕 Do any alters have conflicting opinions on Discourse Foods™? (Candy corn, mint ice cream, pineapple on pizza, etc.)

💝 Who is/are the system himbo/herbo/thembo icon(s)?

↕️ What’s the greatest height difference between an alter and the body?

💇‍♂️ What’s the greatest hair length/hairstyle difference between an alter and the body’s?

🥄 Who has the most/least energy? How does it affect the body when they front?

🎥 Does any alter(s) want to start/already have a YouTube/Twitch channel? (For gaming, art, etc.)

🎮 What are some games that alters like to play, if any? (Board games, video games, etc.)

📚 What are some alters’ favourite book/movie/music genre(s)? 

💬 Does anyone speak a language that the body doesn’t know?

📿 Is there differing religions/beliefs within the system?

💸 Do differing wants of alters ever make it difficult to save money?

📖 How do you deal with memory loss between alters? - or - How do you deal with shared memories between alters?

🗳️ Ask something else! (But please be respectful!!!)

💞 If you’re willing to switch, let another alter hijack the post and talk about themself/answer a couple questions (alter specific questions below!)

Asks for the alter currently fronting

💭 What do you think about other alters in the system?

🕶️Do you imitate the host (if applicable)?

🎲 What are some hobbies you would like to get into if time and money weren’t an issue?

🔗 Do you have your own blog(s)? (Personal, ask, etc.) Would you like to share them?

🎤 What makes you laugh the most? Do your other alters think it’s funny?

🎂 Do you have a birthday? If so what day? (Not the same date as the body’s birthday) 

📇 Did you choose your name? Or did you just have it? If you chose it, how did you choose it?

💈 What do you think of the body’s haircut? Is there another style you’d want more?

👨‍👦 How tall are you compared to the body? How does it affect you?

🎙️ How comfortable are you with the body’s voice? How do you change it (if at all)?

♟️ Do you have any skills the body and/or most alters don’t have? 

 🕴️  Is there anything you can do in headspace that you can’t do while fronting?

♿ If you are disabled in a way that the body is not, how do you deal with that?

💫 Does the body give you dysphoria in a way that you wouldn’t otherwise have?

⚡ Do you have sensory issues where other alters do not? How do you deal with that?

Of course, it’s okay to not answer a question if you’re not comfortable answering it!

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ok sams bac uwu

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i forgot how boring it is to front. i got nothing to do what

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sam built a blanket fort earlier and i'm vibing

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bee time

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gay people in my head they are all kissing in there

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hey systems who switch very rarely or dont at all, i hope you have a wonderful day! i know you might feel doubtful because your system switches less than a ton of folks in the tags, but i want you to know you are valid!! the validity of your experiences dont rest on how many times you switch, and its okay to differ from other systems. remember to drink some water today <3

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m probably not gonna be on here much since i'm goin to sleep soon but yeah

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heylo

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i wonder what that family was thinking

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meg from hercules this mulan from disney's animated mulan that. let's talk about how hot anastasia is

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