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[thealternate]

Is it time to write whatever you think at the moment without editing it, without planning it... but just want to put it out. You see artificial intelligence is gonna take our work, what would matter is you as a person. You being with you and you being with others. Its simple, even when AI is advancing so much discussions on increasing costs and increasing energy usage will become public. They will also be solved no doubt, but what remains are me and you, me and us. If its time that we look back our mistakes, forgive and move forward, build better relationships and explore what we think together. Its time we find the romance of just being, and the romance of just being born, and romance of just having others.

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The pressure of trying is heavy. And trying when you are alone is heavier. Too many defeats breaks the man's soul. Soul that is too fragile and soft. Yet, it has to repair itself after every fall.

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A new perspective on care.

I think care is sometimes independent of appreciation, admiration and respect. Sometimes you care about someone without holding any other feelings as I mentioned. And it starts fading when such feelings are not filled. 'I care about my friend, but he is a loser', I wonder what does it mean. Lets give it some background, my friend is going through a depression phase, he has not done anything before that nor he put up any effort to change his life. Maybe he just wasted his potential and the good brain of his. But I still care about him, I listen to his cries everyday and worry about him that he will take a wrong decision. When I imagine him not being in my life, tears fall from my eyes. But, I can't come to appreciate him, I get annoyed while he cries on the phone. All that guilt trips, all that self destructive phrases, all that failure self calling, all that makes me annoyed. Yet I listen and try to comfort him. What does this mean?

Care and Love are separate, I have come to believe. But without both of them any type of relationship cannot go forward. Especially in romantic relationships both are important and adjusting them in time intervals is also very important.

But I wonder, where does care for someone or something really flourish from given no appreciation or respect for it?

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Lonely

It's difficult to cry every day and wipe the tears of others. All just to cope, hoping someone will lend their shoulder or let us rest in their lap. I am free from all the world's control and jailed in a cage where I cannot be honest and real. Being real induces so much hate from people that it becomes intolerable or I will be fake excluding us from true love which we've always lacked in the first place. Every day I see lots of crowds too eager to talk and so quiet that I can't hear them. Either I say yes to all they say or reject them no. I search for belongingness every day, human and material. A dialogue in a film said, 'What am I? They say I am not white or I am not black'.

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No one can truly change!

No one can really change - a concept that's hard for many to swallow. I mean, we've all heard "Change is the only constant" and "People Change." Most folks we miss or lose have either "Changed" or "moved on." But let me challenge this idea and explore why "Change isn't constant," but update is.

Attack on Titan fans know what I'm talking about, but for those who haven't watched it, here's what I want to say: There's this character who starts off wanting to kill the bad guys (extreme emotions against the bad guys), but eventually becomes the villain and wants to wipe out humanity. At first, they're loyal to their friends, but later they're giving them 'I hate you guys' vibes. You might think, "Wait, what? That's a huge change!" But please wait, let me explain!

This character's decisions, beliefs, and actions shifted, sure. But at their core, did they really change? They were always revenge-driven, stubborn, rebellious, and dealing with a ton of emotional baggage. These key traits stuck around from start to finish. It's like they were running the same old software, just with some new updates.

Now, let's talk science for a sec. Researchers have found that our core personality traits tend to stick with us throughout life. It's not that we don't grow or adapt, but our fundamental essence often remains the same. It's like how you can upgrade your phone, but it's still the same phone at heart.

Think about it: Maybe you were a chatty extroverted kid, but life threw you some tornados, and now you're more of a silent introverted type. That's not a complete change - it's more like you've developed it. It may be due to social-enviromental changes, evolving trends, new knowledge or just plain pain and problems. Real change would be like waking up one morning with a goblin's head instead of your human one. Now that would be a change!

Our early emotions, what drives us, how we learn, and how we act - all this stuff is pretty much hardwired into our brains. We update these qualities as we grow, like installing new apps on your phone. But that inner child? That's still the real you, not that grown-up mature woman you thought you'd become.

Here's a fun thought: some say today's working individuals are just kids trapped in adult bodies. And you know what? There's some truth to that. Science and society have different ideas about what makes an adult. To most of us, it's about being old enough to do "adult" things legally. But to biology? It's just about being done with puberty.

If you want to really know yourself, dig into your past. Try to remember what you were like as a kid, or imagine it (given your present darkness and inner personality) if you can't remember. Chances are, you'll see that you haven't changed as much as you think - you've just leveled up with more life experience.

That kid who thought playing in mud was the best thing ever? They're still in there. You could still have a blast playing in mud now, but your grown-up brain might remind you about germs, laundry and etiquttes.

So, next time someone talks about how much people change, think about this: We don't really change - we evolve. We're not replacing our core selves; we're just adding new features to the awesome person we've always been. It's like upgrading from a flip phone to a smartphone - same you, just with some cool new abilities.

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Criterion of friend

I wonder whom to call a friend? Is it the stranger we would never meet or the closest person who will always be our side? Is it the person we randomly connect with or the person we have the most fun with? I don't really know whom should I call a friend. Because in front of me are a thousand perspectives from history, healing, and philosophy. Even science is not behind, defining a friend. I love everything about its description and yearn to believe it, long to have it, and feel to fulfill it.