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Beautiful hair!

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i think the internet is fundamentally changing the lgbt community

because lgbt isn’t a minority you’re born into the same way you’re for example born into an ethnic minority family who will introduce you to your culture - when you’re lgbt you have to actively seek out your people and learn about your culture.

and before the internet that meant joining irl communities, visiting bars, attending events, reading lgbt books and magazines, actually immersing yourself into lgbt culture and learning about your history from your elders and their works

and internet has seemingly made access to lgbt information easier, allowing young people to start questioning their gender and sexuality in greater numbers than ever before

but the problem is that all of this information online is quite superficial and the reason for that is that the historical lgbt culture i talked about is being carried on in lgbt bars and community centers and organisations and books (and i don’t mean contemporary american ya books okay) whereas what’s emerging on social media is a completely new generation of lgbt people who are basically starting from scratch. and now we have huge numbers of teenagers and people in their 20s online who are under the impression that they have sought out their elders and their community because they follow 300 lgbt blogs and have read a couple of articles about stonewall not realising that those 300 blogs are also clueless young people and those articles are completely ahistorical. 

and that’s why half of lgbt social media is people thinking that wynonna earp and sitting funny in chairs is peak gay culture and the other half ridiculous misinterpretations of what labels mean and discourse about who’s allowed to use them - because none of these young people have ever talked to a 60 year old lesbian or read a book about lgbt history. and what’s even worse, they’re not compelled to because they feel like they’ve got it all figured out because they’ve read one of those power point posts about how “bi = more than two and pan = all” and an autostraddle article about how hollywood is peak representation.

and this new wave of misinformed and uninformed young people is not only harming themselves by staying away from their actual heritage, they are also effectively erasing it. for example the whole notion that we need pansexuality as a label because bisexuality is in some way not enough is based solely in the fact that young people know nothing about bisexual history and are therefore judging it based on the only thing available to them - the prefix. 

and what’s more, once you’ve created and immersed yourself into this parallel headcanon version of the lgbt community that exists on social media, you are less likely to actually seek out the real community because you’ll see historical lgbt orgs using the word queer uncensored or something else that is deemed problematic in your little online circle and decide that those orgs and those people - who have actually created your community and culture!! - are bad. which of course leads to young people isolating themselves in these online echo chambers even further

tldr; when you’re lgbt no one will teach you lgbt culture and history so you have to seek it out yourself in offline communities and historical records or you will end up trapped in unhealthy and ahistorical online circles. log off social media, visit a library, go talk to local old activists or we’ll lose decades of our history to ignorance and arrogance.

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gotta be proud of something 😏

get our Polyester Bisexual Flag & Bi Femmes Club T-shirt!

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Let your flag fly high!!! Get it today!

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We enjoyed our Pride immensely!!!! See that black shirt with the women kissing? YOU CAN BUY IT RIGHT NOW!! 🏳️‍🌈💖💜💙

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compliments from other girls just be hitting different

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take it one day at a time (via vsco.co)

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Reece’s Cup 🍫

IG: Jarrytheworst

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Chi looks so good in our Bi Femmes Club tshirt!

Want the shirt?

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from the glasses to the shirt to the fanny pack to the short to the socks, literally just get everything 💖💜💙

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not to sound gay but? hearing a girl moan is such a huge turn on and easily one of the hottest things

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Literally this! There’s other avenues to self-esteem but mine was rly impacted by bisexuality.

Realising I’m attracted to girls was really good for my self esteem honestly. Freckles? Adorable. A chubby tummy? Cute. Weird teeth? Not so weird at all. The only thing I have to remember is that I don’t find other girls less attractive because of these things and that’s honestly amazing.

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date someone whose voice can make you calm… or wet… or both