thekimmyrist

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

Meeting a Narcissist

At first a caring, sweet man, victim of other relationships where he was hurt, a good man that no one valued. A power word, it speaks the truth, it seems like it's what you've been waiting for so long.

And they always show up in a moment of vulnerability, and it's your superhero who rescues you and makes you believe you're not alone in your problems.

And when it keeps you safe there, it starts draining your energy, because they are always looking for strong, brave women, with light they can put out.

The moment you fall in love with these, you become a monster. Coldness is starting to reign, whenever you want to talk you keep silent or it tells you that you are making drama for unnecessary things.

Every time you tell him something he did hurts you, he downplayed it, makes you believe you're crazy.

Start constantly generating anxiety because you don’t know if it’s going to be a “good one” day or it’s gonna be a bad one.

Use verbal violence, silence, minimizing yourself, making yourself believe you're crazy so you fall into apologizing for things you never did.

And when you start to get yourself together, the sweet man who cares about you comes back again, makes you doubt. You think maybe he deserves another chance, maybe he just made a mistake and he brings you down the sky, everything you need gives you. And there you say "and if I was wrong and he's a good person, he only made a mistake, and I'm also guilty bla bla". You start to justify his actions because again he made you believe that he loves you that you are the important woman in his life.

That tactic worked again, then it seems like everything works that already changed. Until again you look good, feels safe, and breaks you again. And in his cynicism he's only going to blame you, he's going to make you doubt yourself. He's gonna make you feel worthless, he's not gonna tell you but his attitudes will make you feel it. And he's going to hit all the spots you once told him hurt.

Be careful, those links hurt.

I wish you with all my strength that you never encounter a narcissist in your life. And if you are unlucky enough to find one I wish you strength to love you and get out of there.

There are no excuses for the one who hurts you knowing that he does it, there are no opportunities for the incapable of love. There is no chance for who awakens your survival instinct and not your sweetness.

Eye take care of yourself, of those there are many, who all see as the "good", the co-worker that everyone wants, the quietest, who does not kill an ant and then closes the door of the house and comes out the real person the monster incapable of loving, to care, to have empathy, without emotional intelligence or affective responsibility.

I wish you from my heart you love yourself so much that no one extinguishes that beautiful light you have. -Catherine Maine

A phrase I read recently:

"If they knew how much time, effort, fear, anxiety and tears it is to rebuild. "You would understand why we have to be careful when choosing who enters our lives and who doesn't, sometimes there are people who don't mind breaking us and leaving us empty."

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

View this post on Instagram

A post shared by Heart Felt Harmony (@harmonyheartfelt)

[thekimmyrist]

I Will Never Forget the Bruises You Gave Me

The scars left by abuse are not always visible to the eye, but they are deeply etched within the mind and soul. I will never forget the bruises, both physical and emotional, inflicted on me. These bruises have faded over time, yet the memories and impact they left behind remain as a permanent reminder of the journey I endured.

This post is my attempt to shed light on an experience many endure in silence and to remind anyone who’s going through this that you���re not alone—and that healing, though challenging, is possible.

Why I’m Sharing This Story

Speaking out about abuse can feel vulnerable and uncomfortable, but silence only perpetuates the cycle. For too long, I was afraid of acknowledging what had happened, but I realized that sharing my story might help others recognize the signs of abuse in their own lives or encourage someone else to break free. No one should endure abuse in silence.

Moving Forward with Strength

Today, I choose to focus on healing and rebuilding. I can still feel the effects of those bruises, but I refuse to let them define me. If you’re reading this and have been through something similar, know that you have the strength to heal. Reclaiming your life is possible; it takes time, patience, and compassion for yourself.

[thekimmyrist]

Goodbye

This isn’t a message I ever thought I’d have to write, but life sometimes takes us on paths we didn’t plan. For a long time, I held onto hope, to memories of what we once shared, believing we could find our way back. But holding on has come at a cost—one I can no longer afford.

I’m saying goodbye because I deserve peace, and so do you. I’m saying goodbye because we’ve both changed, and holding on only keeps us stuck in pain. It’s time for both of us to find what truly makes us happy, even if it means letting each other go.

Thank you for the memories, for the lessons, and for the moments when love was real and true. I’ll always remember those, but now it’s time to move forward.

Goodbye. I wish you peace, healing, and a new beginning.

[thekimmyrist]

An Open Letter to the Man I Thought I Knew

I never imagined I’d be writing this. When we started this journey together, I believed in our love, our promises, and the life we wanted to build. I believed that no matter what, we’d protect each other’s hearts. But somewhere along the way, things changed.

You became someone who, instead of lifting me up, broke me down—piece by piece. Your words have left scars, your actions deeper wounds than I thought possible. I’ve tried to make sense of it, to hold on, to fix what’s broken, but I can’t be the only one trying.

I’ve realized that love shouldn’t hurt like this. It shouldn’t make me question my worth or feel like I’m not enough. I deserve a partner who cherishes, respects, and values me.

This isn’t goodbye out of anger, but out of self-preservation. I need to heal, to find the strength to reclaim my peace. And maybe one day, I’ll look back and be grateful for the lessons, for the resilience I’ve gained.

But for now, I have to let go of the person I thought you were and make space to find myself again.

[thekimmyrist]

Sometimes, peace is worth more than anything. 🌿

I’ve realized that it’s better to be alone with my daughter, building a life of calm and love, than to keep trying to find happiness in chaos.

My daughter deserves a home filled with warmth, laughter, and stability—a place where she can thrive without the shadows of constant conflict. I want her to see strength in choosing peace, even if that means making difficult decisions.

It’s not easy, but I know that stepping away from what no longer serves us is the best gift I can give her and myself. Here’s to a new beginning, one rooted in self-love and the promise of better days ahead. 💪💖

[thekimmyrist]

This will be the last time you can hurt me.

The last time I’ll let your words break through my peace. The last time I’ll let your actions shake my confidence. The last time I’ll allow anyone to treat me as anything less than whole.

For a long time, I’ve accepted things I didn’t deserve, tolerated words that bruised, and given second chances that weren’t earned. But no more. I’m choosing to protect my heart, my spirit, and my peace. I’m choosing me.

From here on, I’m creating boundaries that reflect the love and respect I know I deserve. This isn't about anger or bitterness—it's about reclaiming my strength and standing firm in my worth.

If you relate to this, know that it's okay to prioritize yourself. It’s okay to step away from anything or anyone who threatens your inner peace. We have one life, and it’s ours to live free from hurt.

So here’s to setting boundaries that honor who we are and who we’re becoming.

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

You don’t need to be better than any one else you just need to be better than you used to be.

Wayne W. Dyer

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]

[thekimmyrist]