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this tweet is insane, my alters aren’t instant coffee in the bathtub fucked up

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who else mourning the person they could've been if they were treated kindly as a child

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it is cruel to hit children.

it is not "misguided". it is not "sometimes necessary." it is not "the best they could do with the information they had."

it is cruel to hit children.

even if they did "turn out fine" (which they don't.)

it is cruel to hit children.

to hit a child as "discipline" is to inflict pain on a human being who is much smaller than you, cannot defend themself, and is dependent on you for their survival, simply for the act of displeasing you and not following your orders. most people would find this morally horrifying if it was done to an animal.

it is cruel to hit children.

it teaches nothing except that pleasing you is more important than their well-being, and that violence against less powerful people is an acceptable response to things not going your way.

it is cruel to hit children.

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"Don't you miss being a child" no

"What's so great about being an adult" well for one it is illegal to hit me and I kinda like that

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For any kids:

You are not supposed to be afraid of your parents

You never deserve to be hit (not even lightly, not even if you killed someone)

No one has the right to touch you without permission, not even your family members, including your parents

Your parents can love you and still hurt you, that does not make the hurt okay

Adults you trust can still be wrong

It's not normal for everything to always be overwhelming

If you are having a problem with any of these things, do your best to talk to a licensed therapist (if they are licensed therapists they legally cannot tell your parents your personal information)

You deserve happiness

You deserve privacy

You deserve to feel good

You are not alone in your struggles

Your struggles are valid, no matter how small they are

You deserve love and kindness

You deserve to be surrounded by people who love you and care for you

Edit: lots of people are commenting saying that therapists can and do tell parents information about what their child says in therapy, the legality of this depends on your age and what type of information it is. Here is what the American Psychological Association says about it

Discussing confidentially with your therapist beforehand is a good idea so you know how your specific therapist feels, but it's horrible that that's something you have to do. You still deserve privacy as a child.

If you are in a situation where you can't tell your therapist something, please get the information out of yourself somehow. I recommend saying it out loud if you can even if it's just to yourself.

Failing that, write whatever it is down and get rid of the paper so it's unreadable if you have to, it's better than keeping everything inside.

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Who I was changed regularly, faces coming and going without warning; I was so many, too many, thus I wound up being nobody. Nothing stayed static — I never stayed static — there was no starting point. We were a jumbled, erratic galaxy, a constantly-shifting kaleidoscope of constellations, incapable of being neatly filed into a list.

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Being a system and self expression is genuinely so fucking difficult to navigate and it's so hard to explain in a way that doesn't sound overtly plural irl.

Imagine a bunch of people in your head with you, most of them marginally lacking (and desperately wanting) a sense of autonomy, and the easiest gateway to that is with clothing. Many will compromise on just wearing little accessories, but many of them want at least one shirt or pants. But imagine even just two or three alters view this life as fully their own, and their fashion style as the "dominant" one as we blend together and passively influence each other. Imagine being a fully formed person and you are only able to be budgeted one outfit like a cartoon character.

It's like if an entire apartment complex shared one closet and one budget for clothes. It's exhausting, especially when something shows up without memory of buying it against the current fronters tastes. And their first instinct is to be like "well, time to donate this."

Now add on hair style debate and personal grooming...

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having alters in the movies: omg Run! my Evil Alter is coming out! he's gonna Kill you! GRRRAAAAAAHH IM THE EVIL ALTER IM GONNA KILL YOU

having alters in real life: guy in your head makes a slide whistle noise as you insert a tampon

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y'all are getting two comics today

-LL (he/she)

[ID: A black and white comic featuring a bug with a circular head, cloak, two antennas, no mouth, and wide eyes. The first panel shows him looking to the side and speaking, with a speech bubble reading: "I like being a system." The second panel shows him gesturing to the side, her eyes closed, and a speech bubble reading "Sure, we have trauma, amnesia, some of the headmates don't like each other, we have bad communication and don't really work together". The third panel shows him looking to the side again, with a speech bubble reading "But, I'm thankful to have them all alongside me." The fourth panel shows the bug giving a thumbs up, with a speech bubble above her head saying "The future is plural." End ID]

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Mundane plurality is:

STOP BUYING SO MANY PLUSHIES

WhydidyoubuyanddrinksomuchfuckingcoffeebeforeIswitchedin

Dude I JUST BOUGHT more paper towels!

My stomach is upset, did you take our meds? Wait... What do you mean you had a big glass of milk!?

Hey I need help, can you front and beat this videogame boss for me?

Hey our partner was looking for you. Yeah he was mad at me cause you ate his leftovers, jackass

*laughs out loud at something that happened in the headspace*

Yes I know this person is being an asshole, no you can't front to chew them out.

Hey y'all am I good to get us high? Did any of y'all have plans?

Hey can I have some attention and snuggles I'm having a bad brain day...

What do y'all want for dinner tonight? We feelin spaghetti? I dunno if I'll still be around by the time it's done

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Day 9 - A Hidden Face

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Wave

A term for a group of headmates that formed/split around the same time or from the same event

Can be accompanied by numbers i.e. wave 3, first wave etc

E.g. "Me and Kai are from the same wave", "James is from wave 2"

This term is explicitly pro endo and willo

Coined by Mod Eribon 🌼🐝

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With us talking internally about the problem of syscourse only ever talking about psychology for any topic, I think a lot of people forget that psychology does not have all the answers.

Psychology isn't going to answer if your headmate is transfem due to being an intersexist or transmisogynistic stereotype and identifying with the label due to that or if they have other reasons. It's not going to help everyone who has to grapple with the idea of being intentionally created for horrid reasons and having to live with that weight. You won't find your answer in studies if a parts framework or people framework is best for your system on an individual level with all your specific situation details in mind. Psychological studies are meant for trends and to filter those trends into data, not to tell people how they must engage with their identity on an individual level. Psychological studies are not going to have all the answers for everything, and that has to be okay.

The book that the old host is reading (The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin) is talking more about identity and creation in relationship to each other than we have ever seen from system spaces. The author is assumed to be a singlet, and he is talking about how internal world experiences are different but no lesser than external world ones in ways that are more affirming to hir than any plural space has been.

Get out of the psychology only bubble. It'll help you all a lot. I think part of why people stay in that bubble is because it feels safe and the most able to explain multiplicity. But, it often only recognizes the medical aspects. It doesn't really touch on the interpersonal or the sense of identity in ways like philosophy does, or even the spiritual all that much. There's more to living as plural than just psychology, for both medicalized systems and ones who are not.

- EC

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does everyone have a teacher that they still have beef with/ hold a grudge against today??

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We are a simple system. A guy fronts for 6 hours and leaves, and miraculously during that time, all 4 apples we owned disappeared. Something ate them, and it totally wasn't that guy. Him having "likes apples" in his SimplyPlural description has nothing to do with this event at all. Simply a coincidence.