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When I Found out I’m pregnant again is nothing less than a mind game.

Suddenly, decisions that once seemed simple became complicated.

All Things I once reached with ease felt like I was building a Space ship.

For me, pregnancy after loss felt nothing like pregnancy before my loss.

It was a whole new game, with new rules to navigate.

Bed & pillow turned out to be my bestfrds

My chores were my foe

Swiggy was my saviour when In India

My Surroundings were controlled

Moodswing’s were put a fullstop with positive vibe around.

Heart-to-heart long conversation with my doctor.

If I felt normal one day, I worried myself sick.

Some days I felt confident. Other days, I was ridden with self-doubt.

Throughout the nine months, I was anxious and Was holding my breath until Ron was in my arms..

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I wondered if I could share this but here I’m with a topic which Majority won’t talk or share because miscarriage, fertility issue is still a taboo subject.

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I’m going to share a bit of backstory as it might help normalize someone somewhere who is going through or gone through.

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Looking back to 2018 all I could see is blur picture of life with grief and anxiety. Miscarriage paved a lonely and isolated road but this expanded our ability decuple to identify many who have also walked through the same path.

All that we had was hope and strong belief that there is always sunshine to look forward to And here in 2019 We had our Rainbow baby RON.

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1 in 4 women experience miscarriage, fertility issue that are extremely common( I NEVER wish a miscarriage to someone). So many people face struggle in growing their families., please refrain from asking when they are having baby, are they pregnant, when they will have another one. It is so tempting to ask but deep down it is triggering someone’s painful emotions, defeating feeling.., actually it’s none of anyone’s business.., you will definitely know when you are meant to..

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My heart goes out to anyone who is going through issues like this.💕Hope this serves a tiny hope that THERE IS ALWAYS SUNSHINE TO LOOK FORWARD TO❤️

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Normally we do not like to think about death..

We would rather love to think about life..

Why reflect on death??

Death is a natural part of life

Death is not greatest loss in life

Everyone dies

Not everyone lives

Truth to be accepted✌🏻️

Different perspective of life💭

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Is Everything on Social Media is Fake??

The sole purpose You and your friends use social media is to connect with each other, but recent times people on social media use it as a business tool to earn money.

Everything on social media is turning fake.

Few Social media influencers post picture perfect lives which make You crave for their perfect life. Unconsciously, you associate it with the brands they have in their photos (sponsored for this reason) so you buy those brands Or maybe you buy a knockoff. And they succeed in what they want both the influencer and the sponsor.

All those are not your legitimate needs. You were happy with your life until you saw that influencer’s perfect life with their perfect brands. You didn’t feel that you needed a new purse, or new makeup, or new shoes, until you saw someone else with them on social media.

It’s all fake. It’s all designed to inspire a fake need in you. But when you satisfy a fake need, you do so with real money, leading to a profit in the influencer (and their sponsors).

Make this one positive change for yourself today: Unfollow everything in your social media that’s fake. Unfollow all those people with luxury cars, big homes, fabulous vacations all over the world, irresistibly fashionable clothes, and any other expensive status symbol.

If traveling the world is really your passion, or fashion is your true interest, or may be you have Love for cars find someone (influencer) to follow, that does that for real and not for envy or make you feel poor.

You can’t truely live life if you spend lusting on fake lives. Those people don’t have the perfect life they’re projecting; they may have luxury cars, or vacation homes, but they have failed in certain stage of life. Those accounts are fake because they don’t share the truth.

Unfollow fake accounts. Then put down your phone and go spend time with your best friend or your spouse.

Certain Social media influencers are fake. The lives we lead and the ones we love are real.

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Let’s get into something related to health this time..✨

Most of us have heard our grandparents sharing their vintage stories, lifestyle.

My grandparents have stressed on drinking water from Copper vessel which found to have certain health benefits.

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Is it true? Or Myth?

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In recent time, Everyone tend to be cautious about their health and the usage of Copper vessels is increasing.

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Copper is considered an essential mineral in our body. Water stored for 8-10hrs in copper vessel leech out the minerals and lends out all its positive properties.

Here is few Heath benefits:

⚜️Kills bacteria

⚜️Stimulates brain

⚜️Regulates the working of thyroid gland

⚜️Beats arthritis and inflamed joints

⚜️Skin health and melanin pigmentation

⚜️Slows down aging

⚜️Digestive system performs better

⚜️Aids in weight loss

⚜️Beats Anaemia

⚜️Helps wound heal faster

⚜️Helps maintain cardiovascular system and beats hypertension

⚜️Can fight off cancer

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It is important to buy to pure Copper. Do not buy vessel with another metal on other side.

Drinking water 2-3 times from a copper vessel is enough. Overdoing a process can be detrimental.

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Many might think cleaning copper is laborious

Absolutely No..,

It’s uncomplicated, just go with tamarind and salt (or) lemon (or) baking soda (or) ready to use copper cleaning powder

Coat for few minutes and rinse it with plain water.

Do not coarse scrub as it tends to scrape away the copper layer.

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Let’s turn Strong and Healthy..✌🏻😂

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Have you ever discern a weird person in your life???.

I Am weird, you are weird and everyone in this world are weird, I know.

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My Brother is One of Weirdest person have encountered.

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Wondering if there could be such person who has quit his Job from a Corportate sector just to Travel abroad.

Here is a twist, travelling abroad is not his passion or to explore.

He followed his heart and decided to spend quality time by Fighting with his Sister after 2 long years.

We haven’t seen eachother past 2year. We Just spread Love via calls

He thought I deserve more than that❤️.(no evil eye👹)

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Is this what is called Love?

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A bro- sis bond is all about love- hate relationship. And to everyone out We are all grown up, but not to us. He is my buddy and today I wanted to tell him even if u rewind past, can’t get superior and take revenge (ur last year wish for me). I’m born to guide and wish everything good happen to you (responsible🤣) and Yah Happy birthday Small Brother❤️

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Siblings are the one who qualifies as partners for life and teaches you to be selfless. Keeping a strong relationship helps us live a happy and healthier life. So dare not to stand against but stand together with them.

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And I’m here to spread a message on Siblings Love And to Follow your heart. Don’t follow what you’ve been told to. Enjoy doing weird stuffs in life. Don’t settle for Normal Life. Live your present. Later Don’t regret.

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Self Love

If i ask you to name all that you love,

How long it would take for you to name yourself?

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Can u just remember the last time you patted yourself for being Who you are? What you are?

I guess, most of us will not have an answer🤔

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Do u all know Y do we fail to think about Self Love?

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Because this society has so many things to Feed in our mind that we fail to think about the word called Self Love

Just like By comparing each and everything of our lifestyle, outer look, education, success, failures, even few go to the extreme of comparing relationships with every pair around us and even with those Aliens we are not aware off😂

And for some, keep worrying about what others think about them

For others, grumble on little things that go against their way.

We should remember that No two person or their life are same.

By fret or comparting we fail to see the minute details that gives us smile, happiness in our life

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Here comes my Motto for Self- Love

Own your story

Love yourself

And I do Chant on few words that make me Love Myself✌🏻

Here it is for everyone to Embrace your Own Self❤️

⚜️You are amazing ⚜️You are strong

⚜️You are kind ⚜️Not anyone’s burden

⚜️You deserve to be listened to ⚜️You deserve happiness ⚜️This burden is not going to be forever ⚜️It’s going be better ⚜️You are positive ⚜️You are beautiful ⚜️You’re struggle and mental health doesn’t decide who you are ⚜️Never to late to start, end or to try again anything ⚜️ You are important, valued, loved and cared ⚜️You’re totally okay

Last is

⚜️ Be proud of yourself✌🏻

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Do Remember

When we love our own self we will learn to love others.

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Happy couples are not couples that don’t fight rather they fight fair and take reponsibilites for their own words and action.

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It’s easy for any couple to get Married, its just a paper work but taking forward a relationship in a healthy way is difficult in modern times.

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So Coming with up how WE maintain OURS healthy✌🏻(Alhamdullilah) (no evil eye👹)

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We both are kinda mentally and emotionally matured that ‘Fight Fair’ is our Moto👍🏻.

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There is no word called privacy, in a house where only 2 stay 🤪 And we both decided at start, A happy home includes Not only the happy and sad go stuffs but also Clean n tidy look that gives our peace of mind back, and the purpose of everything should be used in a rightway.

And This is how we resolve things out✌🏻

⚜️So this corner of our Living room with positive notes on the wall is the only place where ‘ after a fight- we work it out’ with a cup of coffee.

No matter how furious we our from inside, we pause for a minute, take our cool- down minute so we can talk calmly

⚜️We listen to eachother (listening skill) and collectively talk and settle our differences.

⚜️We both together talk against the problem, not against each other

There are emotionally mature and skillfull couples that don’t fight unlike there are few who argue at any level of intensity, which leads to a breakdown. It’s just that you have decided to be an opponent, argue for yourself and against your partner. The main aim of yours is to win, not to build mutual understanding.

Keep this in mind.., Marriage works best when you both aim to stand together, united against the problems, not pitted against each other

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As a couple, We both literally have very minimal things in common, one of it is we don’t usually go for brands but for fashion..

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This is about him and his Shopping

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I have heard literally alot of people saying Women take a long time to shop.., but In our case it’s totally different.

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Y to follow the group?😜

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For Mr.SK (Sherif Kaja) shopping is an adventure. He usually starts out right after his tea around 4pm..

Decision of where and what to be purchased will be done earlier but that doesn’t fit for him.

You get so many choices once u step into a Mall these days, obviously none will be satisfied with just stepping into One Retail Store.

Same goes for him.. Mr. SK makes me walk inside every store, check for fashion, does an analysis in his mind till I’m exhausted annoyed. He suddenly realize time is marching out and go to the checkout line with whatever he has with him..

And that’s his shopping skills😂😂

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In this existence of marriage life, We will grow strong and thrive through giving and receiving what it needs (and more!)

Many grew up with the kind of puritanism against shopping. Then realized shopping can be much more than how it is cast. If you are bored or you have problems, it can be a way of lifting your spirit.

Why not?

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We all move and grow at our own rates. Just because you feel like you’re behind doesn’t mean you’re any less good. A flower that blooms in summer is no less beautiful or admired than one which blooms in spring. You will bloom in your own time!

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Just be Who You Are..✨

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Many think travelling is a way to relax, to have fun, for media update, But for few they travel with the heavy weight in their heart.

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In olden days opportunities to abroad were limited unlike recent times. So people on a larger scale tend to work or study in abroad with better development in communication.

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Recently On my travel, back to Muscat, all I could see were dejected look of my co- travellers. The travel was filled with silence. I know it’s hard, they have to adapt to a new living, new culture, it’s more like a puzzle to work on.

It is really challenging to work abroad.

But most people are adaptable. They arrive, they are welcomed, they adjust and they thrive. But at any given moment, one of these challenges might be affecting their ability to succeed that is when they tend to be sad and lonely and hard.

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On a note, It is actually great oppurtunity to work abroad as they get to learn life’s lesson, it mould them into a better person, get control over life.

But at certain point we should think And Yah should start working at home..

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Home is Home✌🏻 .

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Travel isn’t always pretty. It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.” – Anthony Bourdain

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The picture tends to Magnify their Emotions.😞 .

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Goodness in someone will be reflected in many ways✨

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Let’s be an Exemplar to the Future Peer group✨

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My Boon Companion

“There’s only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on” - Leo Christopher

A write up about 22+years friendship which is meant to descend for ages.

I still remember the first time I saw this Female JAY.., Rewinding It to a long lost day’s of life when both our parents stood for KG admission in a long queue with atleast 5-6 parents inbetween them. That’s when I pulled her out to play and things started.

Posted in same section and you know what she was the tallest girl by then while me the shortest tiny one. Till date we maintain the same height difference🤪

Everything was good, we were together all time but there was a Twist, We had to set apart in our High School because we had our own choice.

But that dint put an end.

In the journey just like every other friends we had

trust, were honest, kind & good listeners, supported eachother in good bad times, had good fun, sharing, quarrels, conflict but still we did catch hold of eachother strong.

At every phase of life We had/have many friends who passed by, still in contact with, but that specially chosen 2-3 friends to whom u can reveal secrets and be who you are totally.

We both believe in “No daily conversation or being together”.

Some people have an easier time in establishing and maintaining a good friend but for some a promising relationship fizzled out.., It happens and totally fine, if not today there is someother day to Find That One.

“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

As women we have a deeply entrenched desire to put others first, heck.When it comes to our friendships, it's time to put ourselves first. Enough is enough. The #Power of Positive friendship. 😍

This is just a piece of my friendship shared with you all..

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Social Media And It’s Faces...

Ahhh.. Is Everyone’s life filled only with Happiness just like they post a cheerful update?

This is a long time question that keeps hitting my brain

Just like everyone Even I post the beatific Smile of my life’s happening

Hmmmm.., Do I copy wat people around me are doing or it’s my inner thought that keeps the negative side aside..🤔

I really don't have an Answer

But for those who think I’m all happy, here is an answer - absolutely No.. I do have Dark side in my life.

Dark side creates negativity but overcoming that drags out the Optimism.

Life is a combination of both joyful and melancholic mood.

No one is just going to face only one part

So Welcome everything with the smile and face the obstacles put afore.

And remember its just how u take things

Life is not the same for everyone

Stop comparing, grow up, Move forward

Everything happens for Reason

And There is something good waiting, so don't lose hope

Keep ur heads high up..!!

Social media is a social media..

"No matter where you are on the pathway of life, please don't let the pain of an imperfect past hinder the glory of your fabulous future".

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