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Fighting For Freedom: Guardianship/Conservatorship Abuse Awareness Post

TL;DR- My mother got a Court Appointed Guardianship over me for 8 years that gave her full legal, choice of living arrangement, financial, program, schooling, transportation, job, and medical control over me because I have ASD. 4 years in, I saved my guardians life, nursed her back to health, then later discovered she abused her role; She purposefully stunted my adult growth and brainwashed me and others to believe I was incapable of adulthood due to my ASD and ADHD for her own benefit, isolated me from family, exploited me for government benefits, and misused my money for a psychic addiction. I escaped with all my pets, hired my own lawyer, challenged the Guardianship in court, and finally got my freedom on February 14th, 2023. 

Rarely do I ever post anything serious, much less about my life, but this is very important and deserves to be known.

In this post, I have attached a link to a google doc telling my story because frankly, it’s rather long, and it’s 4 years’ worth of growth, awakening, and fighting for freedom. There are trigger warnings listed at the very top of the google doc for my fellow readers who may find the content disturbing. I will also share with you tips and tricks to keep your cool and gray rock, and advice to you on how to safely flee your situation and have a fighting chance to set yourself free legally if you feel you may be a victim of this type of abuse as well. If you have questions you’re always free to PM me. I am an open book and happy to answer anything and give advice to anyone who may need it that I have not covered here.

To get a few things out of the way, I first want to say that this is going to be a very, very, very long recount. Because of this, I included the TL;DR on top for anyone out there who can’t handle reading the full story due to the trigger warnings.

Secondly, but more importantly, I want to address the fact that this is an Awareness Post: Like any awareness post that is floating around in tumblr, I definitely would appreciate this to be reblogged. No doubt, this type of abuse is never talked about enough, and its time it becomes more well known, especially if there are others who suffered the same events I went through.

HOWEVER, I will not put any pressure on anybody to reblog or read the whole post if they are not comfortable. Too often I see Awareness Posts putting the heat on readers to reblog for the sake of advocacy or activism, and apply a guilt-trip on readers to make them feel like they’re awful people if they choose to ignore, or not reblog a post. I, as the survivor of the abuse I am about to highlight in my recount, refuse to take on such an approach to get my message out here. I consider that Toxic Advocacy and behaving in such a divisive manner will only harm my cause, not help it. With that being said, if you do not feel comfortable reblogging this or reading further, please absolve yourself of the guilt, dear reader. I completely understand, and you are in no way a bad or uncaring person in my eyes. Thank you very much for your time, and have yourself a lovely day/night. Remember to drink your water. ❤️

For the readers who are still here with me and are especially reading further for advice, help, to be educated, or just to read my story, buckle up, this is going to be quite the ride.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/17elZfk_0NN1au5kP3r4tGLhN8bSYifkaNhQCuFPXDNY/edit?usp=drivesdk

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All i can say is he has a strange hatred of "i can't believe it's not butter"

You're all invited to my friend's funeral, he isn't dead yet but if he says he's gonna beat up Ishimaru one more time he will be

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Present mic and deku's dad have the same first name with 1 letter difference

Present mic's first name is Hizashi and deku's dad's first name is Hisashi

I know that in Japanese they mean completely different things but I've seen no one talk about this

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MASSIVE RE8 ENDING SPOILERS

But at the end where we see that Rose is implied to have the fungal powers it's reasonable to assume that even though she never met her dad she knows everything about him because his entire personality and memories are cataloged in the fungus

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So a while back I saw a post talking about the possibility of Fitzroy becoming a warlock with Gray as his patron after Order went and yeeted his powers (I’m genuinely sorry but I can’t remember their username), and because I was in an art block, I drew it

No this isn’t ship art and yes I’m well aware Gray is quite literally twice Fitz’s size in the form I drew, but for the aesthetic pretend Fitz is standing on a really tall box

Total time: 8-ish hours, I didn’t count

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Update he's now super gay for Ishimaru, this is some enemies to lovers shit man and it's super funny to me

You're all invited to my friend's funeral, he isn't dead yet but if he says he's gonna beat up Ishimaru one more time he will be

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Some Danganronpa spoilers ahead for the entire franchise so please don't read if you don't want spoilers, serious topics will be discussed

Ok so a while back me and a discord friend had this au-ish idea where the entirety of danganronpa is just Tsumugi's trauma fanfiction based off of people she knows irl and online as a way to cope because she was abused and neglected at home

These are the main details of the au under the cut, there will be no in depth details about the abuse but it is mentioned, I sincerely apologize if I inaccurately portray these issues just in case I did

Tsumugi cosplays at home and that's why she calls herself the ultimate cosplayer, and she makes herself the mastermind because she likes being the villain to cope with her trauma

All the characters from dr1 and sdr2 and the dr3 anime are all based off of people online that she looks up to (or despises in some cases), and characters with alternate versions of themselves are the combinations of their siblings (ex. Toko and Syo are twins and Izuru, Hajime, and super saiyan Hajime are triplets), with the exception of Junko who is an actress who mainly plays villains but irl is really sweet

Monokuma is Tsumugi's homeroom teacher who occasionally lets his sister substitute and the monokubs are his young children that Tsumugi really hates, he's also Junko and Mukuro's uncle and he and Tsumugi have a father-daughter relationship

Junko helps Tsumugi with her cosplays and makeup which is why Tsumugi idolizes her so much and wants to be like her

A lot of the poor writing in dr is due to Tsumugi not having the proper writing experience or knowledge on certain subjects which is why they come off so poorly

The Love Hotel scenes are Tsumugi trying to work through her own sexuality crisis alone (albeit poorly), and her own LH scene is her projecting what she believes is the only relationship she'd ever be loved in even if it's really messed up

All of the blackened and antagonistic characters in dr are people Tsumugi either hates or fears, and those with redeeming motives are the ones Tsumugi fears but recognizes that they are good people

Most characters in dr are cosplayers irl, streamers/youtubers, or social media influencers, aside from in v3 where everyone is a classmate of hers

The survivors of v3 are Tsumugi's irl friends, and the survivors of the prior games just came down to process of elimination mixed with who she liked

Her insistence of being "plain" in the games is because her parents always called her useless, and a part of the reason she hates Monokuma's kids is because she envies them for having the happy childhood she never had

She made monokuma the mascot because he’s known for his brutal punishments to kids who severely break school rules

All of the backstories for the dr1 and sdr2 characters are based off of one of the following: their main cosplay, their favorite game that they’ve played, or their aesthetic on their main social media account

Tsumugi works a lot of part time jobs to pay for her cosplays and her clothes and food

At some point Tsumugi posted her trauma/vent fanfics online under a different pen name and renaming all of the characters so they couldn’t be tracked (each of the games and the anime were posted as their separate fanfics and each chapter in the games is a chapter in the fanfic) and the fanfic blew up super fast, which she didn’t expect, and then people started cosplaying it for the irony and when she’s asked about if she’ll cosplay from it she says she’s not in it for the irony, she also got jaw-dropped when the cosplayers she turned into some of the characters from dr1 and sdr2 started cosplaying from it

One time Kokichi found her fanfic for v3 and commented about how his character seemed super familiar and she responded “no reason :)” and blocked him because his username was super obvious, he soon makes confused posts about it on tiktok

Eventually during Tsumugi’s 3rd year she reposted all of the fanfics but with much better writing and character arcs because she took online writing classes and the internet BLEW UP EVEN HARDER and so many people geeked out over it

Eventually Tsumugi tells her close friends about how she wrote the fics but it accidentally gets out to the whole class and when anyone tries to bully her about it all of her friends fight the bullies

The Love Hotel scenes were completely separate fanfics she impulsively wrote and posted at 3am when her sexuality crisis hit too hard, even she hates them and deleted them a year after they were posted because she just can’t believe she wrote them, let alone post them, and never rewrote them

The following are her relationships with the characters in V3 since she has no real relationships with the characters in dr1 and sdr2

All of the character’s ultimates are in fact based on actual skills they each have, and if they don’t have a distinct skill Tsumugi deep dives and tries to think of one, Junko was mostly inspired by her ability to analyze super well, which helped with her makeup ability, and because she played villain characters who caused despair

Edit: forgot to mention, but when Tsumugi kills her self insert at the end of v3, it's her essentially venting out how if all the important people in her life leave her she has nothing to live for anymore

Shuichi: They met after being some of the few kids in class who had nowhere to sit during lunch so they sat next to each other, after talking some more and realizing they had a lot in common, they became really close and he would sometimes cosplay with her, he also has a crush on Kaede even though it’s only from afar due to his social anxiety, Tsumugi however feels as though she’s a burden to him which is why she has him hate her in the last trial, when she told him she wrote the fanfic he constantly reassured her that she’s not a burden and was super embarrassed that he was made the protag after kaede, though he did find pregame him a bit odd

Himiko: Himiko is also an outsider due to her depression and general tired personality, she’s one of the few people who don’t judge Tsumugi for her cosplaying and anime interests and they’re both in anime club and will occasionally cosplay together, she was the one who accidentally let it slip about the fanfic thing but Tsumugi couldn’t bring herself to be mad

Maki: Another outsider but on purpose, she met Tsumugi after she found Tsumugi getting bullied and pushed around by some older kids, and afterwards she hung around Tsumugi to protect her and they eventually got pretty close even though Maki is generally socially dead, she also helps get Tsumugi food when Tsumugi’s parents are too neglectful to feed her, she also is the main protector of Tsumugi from her bullies, before and after the fic

Kiibo: An exchange student from being homeschooled, he and Tsumugi used to be pretty close, he was pretty famous on social media so sometimes they would go and do influencer stuff together and he’d cosplay with her, eventually he started dating Miu and they got a bit more distant due to Tsumugi not being a big fan of Miu, but they have no harsh feelings towards each other, even though Tsumugi thinks he hates her, he’s also a top student, he was a little weirded out by how both he and Miu were portrayed in the original fic but after talking it out with Tsumugi he let it slide and they talk more often because of that

Kaede: She met Kaede in secondary school and they got fairly close up until Kaede met Rantaro, after they met Kaede started hanging out with him more (romantic or platonic is up for interpretation) and Tsumugi was really hurt and jealous which is why she has Kaede kill Rantaro, she and Tsumugi reignited a relationship after the fanfic thing came out because she was super concerned about how Tsumugi was doing since you don’t just write that stuff without having some sort of trauma, they became closer afterwards and told Tsumugi she was flattered she was made into such a nice girl but also kinda freaked out that Tsumugi technically killed her but they also talked that out, she didn’t hold pregame Kaede against her because Kaede did in fact act like that when she was younger

Rantaro: Him and Tsumugi knew each other in middle school but didn’t like each other, she envied him because of how easy of a time he had making friends, and later on hated him for “stealing” Kaede from her, he is on ok terms with Tsumugi after the fanfic incident because Kaede and Tsumugi reignited a friendship and they tolerate each other

Kirumi: Tsumugi fears and looks up to Kirumi, as Kirumi is head of the student council and class rep but also very strict, one time Tsumugi got pushed down before school and was forced to come with a dirty uniform and Kirumi ripped into her for it and made her cry (although Kirumi quickly apologized and tried to comfort her but the trauma already set in), after she learned about the fic she talked to Tsumugi and gave her a singular pass for it because she did a fairly good job capturing Kirumi’s determination and sophistication

Ryoma: She’s never talked to Ryoma personally but she knows he has a criminal record for some minor crime and that scares her alongside how he one time suplexed a student three times his size after the student tried to pick on him for being short

Korekiyo: He freaks her out and she really hates his sister, and one time he psychoanalyzed her and it hit way too close to home so now she both doesn’t like him and respects him, which is why she just has his sister be the motive/his abuser because she full on just hates her cause she’s a “normie” who made fun of her one time in public, after he learned about the fic he tried to talk to her about the original version of the v3 fic to talk it through because he knew about her issues and now they’re on good terms

Angie: Funny enough she just is way too afraid to talk to Angie because she is a foreign exchange student and Tsumugi was really confused by her religion which is why it’s handled so poorly and why Angie is so focused on Atua, Angie also is super confident in herself and extroverted and that intimidated Tsumugi so much she just never talked to her, after the fic Angie sat her down and educated her on the details of her religion so Tsumugi could fix any accidental misconceptions about the religion and culture

Tenko: With Tsumugi’s constant sexuality crisis, she also has internalized homophobia which is why Tenko, an open women lover, scares her so much, Tsumugi can’t comprehend it so she made Tenko really creepy and oddly violent towards men even though the actual Tenko only beats up men who harass her or other women and not just every single man, she’s also really nice to Himiko and because Tsumugi fears Tenko she warped it

Miu: Miu is also a woman confident in her sexuality, she just comes off a lot more strongly than Tenko and is even more intimidating to Tsumugi, Tsumugi also thinks she’s gross because she’s open about her kinks and her gross ways of making sure she’s healthy, after she and Kiibo started dating she started to resent Miu, but regardless of this she still acknowledges that Miu is a top student, she only really likes Miu because she and Kokichi hate each other, but after it got out that Tsumugi wrote the fic Miu tried to pick on her but Maki scared her off

Gonta: She really loves Gonta and at some point had a crush on him, but he turned her down after Kokichi spread rumors that she was afraid of bugs and Gonta didn’t want to freak her out due to the fact he lives in an area full of bugs and has a few pet bugs, she has no harsh feelings towards him however and still likes him, though not as a crush, Gonta was still super nice to her after the fic thing and doesn’t think any less of her

Kokichi: She absolutely despises him and everything he does, they’ve known each other since they were kids and he’s always picked on her, though to him he’s only friendly teasing and thinks they have a friendly rivalry, he does everything out of childish amusement and doesn’t actually think he’s doing any harm to her even though she actively hates him and has gotten punched on several occasions by Maki for teasing Tsumugi too much, he also is purposely controversial online and has tried to be cancelled way too many times but somehow finds a way to find dirt on the people cancelling him and now everyone is too scared to cancel him, he also “bullies” cosplayers on tiktok by dueting them and mocking them but to him it’s ironic but to everyone else it isn’t, he has done this to Tsumugi on multiple occasions and she hates it, he tried to tease her about writing the fic and blocking him but Maki punches him in the throat, he makes a tiktok about that as well but keeps her identity a secret

Kaito: He became Maki’s boyfriend sometime after she met Maki and, in his stupidity, accidentally insulted Tsumugi’s comfort cosplay and she hated him after that, his death and illness was inspired by the one time he got the flu and gave it to everyone and it ruined one of her wigs, after a while they began talking more and she began to realize he wasn’t a jerk, just really stupid, so she made him a nicer character, after it got out that she wrote the fanfics she asked if he was mad he died but instead he was like “nah man that was a super cool way to go”, he was confused on pregame Kaito until Tsumugi explained that that’s how she used to see him

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Elizabeth @ Charlie: I will steal your face and turn you into my God damn rubbish bin you bloody little git

Charlie: well that's not very cash money

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Also on the topic of Grey I've had this idea ever since he put fitz on house arrest but just like, fic where fitz comes in to request time off from his forced stay because his mom died, and grey is just debating with himself after approving the time off because he's unsure if he should be unbothered by it or feel a tad bit of sympathy, and it ends with him realizing "well if I'm arguing with myself then I must be bothered", then promptly stops giving a shit and gives fitz more time to prepare that's the exact amount as he requested off, because it just seems fair

Probably very ooc for him but I came up with it literally the first time he showed up and I wanted this to be out on the internet because I LIKE THIS IDEA DAMMIT

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Ok but like I'm listening to taz grad and all I am ever thinking about is like Grey, the demon prince, being morally grey because yes he almost killed 10 students but he also gave fair warning and rules to prevent it?? This man went "I'd murder all of you if I see this chair moved even a centimeter" and THAT is truly horrifying, fuck your true evil villains, gimme one that would have tea with me but stab my shins for using the wrong fork

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Is it bad that I had no idea what EDM was until I saw the No Straight Roads commercial in my local gamestop, I literally listen to vocaloid and had no idea EDM was a thing

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I just got followed by a sex bot and I never hit that block harder

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You're all invited to my friend's funeral, he isn't dead yet but if he says he's gonna beat up Ishimaru one more time he will be

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Stickers and fabric that sticks to your skin cells after you let it go, just anything that sticks to you

ppl w adhd and autism reblog and add what texture is so awful it haunts your dreams its okay if its incredibly specific ill go first: scratching my nails on a car

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Controversial opinion but I would simp for Tsumugi because it's very obvious she was most likely abused/neglected in her childhood and acts out accordingly, which quite frankly is par for the course as a cosplayer but still

While I'm at it for controversial simping I will actively simp for Korekiyo and any unironic Alabama jokes will be shot on sight

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I think I'm the exception, I say this to make people think I'm stupid so that when they pull some shit I can make them regret every life choice they've ever made

Also it's the depression and blatant misogyny in the school system teaching young girls that they can't be smart so that they don't outshine the boys. The school system was originally based in how most females learn cause men are less likely to learn if they're being told rather than doing it themselves, from what information I've gathered and observed. So the school system turned a female based system against women so that the men could feel better about themselves. It's mostly why so many girls who are smart pretend they're dumb, because society has fetishized and glorified this idea that women can't be smart and they only should be pretty, and if you're ugly then you basically will die alone because men only want pretty women to breed with because they know a smart woman can realize how shitty they have it and do better. They know a smart woman can see past looks and call them out for being shitty, so they put ugly people down so that they fall into a loop of becoming dumb and getting plastic surgery to control them. (Side note: beauty standards are constantly changing, beauty is subjective but society wants women to believe it's objective. It's because they want to make women feel insecure about themselves so they don't feel like they can amount to anything, and put certain traits over the others so that women can focus on everything they think is ugly about themselves instead of focusing on what really matters. This is so women fall into the submissive stereotype men want them to be in. You deserve so much better than being called ugly because of a patriarchal society refusing to let women be strong leaders. Next time you get called ugly, ignore them because clearly they aren't worth your time, that or aim for their insecurities to clap back and teach them you shouldn't be fucked with.) They know once smart women catch on, they're gonna get fucked so they try to put down women any chance they get to make them doubt themselves. Remember the movie Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs? Random, I know, but one of the main characters is literally a female who was super smart but people put her down because she wasn't stereotypically pretty. The school system is rigged against women because they know women can stand a threat when they're confident and they don't like that. So yeah, any girls reading this, if you've been bullied for being a "nerd" or a "teacher's pet", take pride in that because that just means they're trying to make you into a housewife against your will. Don't let anyone bully you into thinking less of yourself because you don't fit into a mold. Don't sit and take it either because you think you aren't good enough, fight back and show them you shouldn't be fucked with, because sitting and taking it is exactly what men want you to do. Just make sure you aren't in any danger if you do, I don't want anyone to be in any danger by doing this.

But idk maybe this is just my opinion./s

girls after saying something smart: So yeah

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Danganronpa but monokuma is a large baked bean and Junko is chef boyardee