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Also can I just say,, trans men should not have to put up with your constant "kill all men" or "oh, of course it's a man" jokes. Infact cis men shouldn't have to either. No men should. These "jokes" are thinly veiled gender essentialism. I don't care if you're "angry at men", you don't get to take that out on every fucker around. Anger is never an excuse to be a bigot you fucking tar pit of a person. You can scream into a void if you want, but at the very least keep your stupid bigoted anger in your dumb little head you freak

And I'm gonna be honest, seeing all that shit puts me off most "feminist" blogs, because most of them aren't feminists, they just believe "women good, men bad". I don't trust anyone who makes jokes like that, I don't care if it's a one off, to me it shows your capacity to harm and hate others based upon something they can't control.

And, if when speaking about rape the only thing you speak about is men being the rapists and women being the victims I hate you too. Men can be victims, women can be rapists. If I see you claiming to "speak out for SA/rape survivors" and I look through all your advocacy and only find you speaking up for cis women who were targeted by cis men, then I hate you, you are not a real advocate if you don't care for all survivors. Including trans survivors. A lot of rape activism is so based around gender it actually pisses me off. Most trans people are left out because of it because of all the focus on this kind of binary thing.

Same goes for like, domestic abuse btw. If you only speak about female victims and refuse to speak up for male victims, I hate you. I also hate you if you joke about men being victimised and act as if all men are inherently stronger than women and therefore "pathetic" if they somehow become a victim. This is coming from a victim himself who was WAY smaller than his abuser and couldn't fight her off even if he tried. FUCK YOU.

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Someone I followed just reblogged a bunch of misandrist / gender essentialist shit and so, here's your average reminder that; I love men, I am a man, I don't think men are inherently evil or scary, men are not more inclined to hurt women or people in general, women are not more inclined to be good or safer to be around, also if you use TME/TMA binaries and claim misogyny is the root of all bigotry or the ultimate kind of bigotry fuck off please. Oh, and when I say I love men that includes cis men, and straight men, btw. You're not welcome here if you have "cishet men DNI" on your profile or if you spew shit like that.

Oh and btw, no misandry does not infact keep women safe, that is just another form of sexism that is just as shitty as misogyny. I don't care if they're technically different, I will consider them to be on the same level because ALL sexism is bad. Go fuck yourself

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hey um. so sorry to tell you this, but op of that post plays toys kinda weird. yeah you should just block them, that's not how normal people play with toys

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Young people need to realise that the internet is not a safe space unless you make it into one. Youre gonna have to block people and content you dont like. So sad new apps like tik tok don't let you easily block tags/content you dont want to see.

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not amab and not afab but a secret third thing:

none of your fucking business

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This may come off as a little mean but anyone who believes trans men's worst case scenario is being treated like a cis woman is a worthless human being who provides no value to the world and is dragging down human civilization with everything they do and say.

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i wish people would stop trying to convince trans men that they shouldn’t transition (medically).

“don’t go on T, you’ll go bald”

“don’t go on T, you’ll be aggressive”

“if you do go on T, get mood stabilizers because you’re gonna be really angry and destructive”

“don’t get bottom surgery, the recovery hurts”

“don’t go on T, i won’t feel safe around you anymore”

“don’t get top surgery the scars are ugly”

“why would you want to be a man? men suck”

so on and so forth. those are all things that i and other trans men i know have been told. and its gross!!

stop saying that. stop telling trans men to not transition. stop telling trans men that they’re gonna be ugly, undesirable, a “traitor”, unsafe to be around, etc. it’s transphobic.

masculinity is a wonderful, beautiful thing. let trans men be masculine. let them be strong, take up space, loud about their identity, proud about their transition. it’s not a moral failing to be masculine. trans men aren’t betraying the queer community by transitioning.

it is not trans men’s job to make themselves digestible and feminine for your comfort. there are men in the queer community. there are straight men in the queer community. there are masculine, tall, buff, bearded men in the queer community. and you might not know that they’re queer at first glance. but they’re queer nonetheless and you should be normal about that. that should not weird you out or make you feel betrayed.

trans men should transition if they want to. they should go on T, get surgeries, grow facial hair, talk about their transition and how happy they are to be a man without people telling them that they’re bad or evil for it, go to the gym and get muscle-y, be stealth if they want to, and so much more.

trans men are not misogynistic for transitioning, they’re not betraying the queer community or women, and their existence shouldn’t make you feel threatened.

mwah i love masculine trans men so much ♡ never ever feel guilty for being a man

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Basic info

Perisex means non-intersex. If you do not have an intersex variation you are perisex.

Hermaphrodite is a slur for intersex people.

Contrary to popular belief, it was actually used for intersex humans long before its adoption into zoology to be used for cosexual & dichogamous animal species.

It is being phased out of zoology due to its vagueness and derogatory history.

This movement is still in its infancy, so plenty of sources and communities still use this term. Intersex activists are trying to change this.

Reblog for reach, furries especially!

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Can’t wait for, like, 2025 when we look back on the 2018/2019 era and say “hey, remember when we were all really freaking depressed? That was a crazy time! Glad we aren’t like that anymore”

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like at this point if I see you hating on men whether cis trans or otherwise I'm just gonna block you cuz why the fuck do you think hating on someone on the basis of their gender identity is progressive.

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It really shouldn't surprise me so much that 'men are human beings' pisses so many people off considering I myself was steeped far into into radical feminism enough at one time to be like, "Are they really, though?" but it is disappointing to see how the attitude has spread since I pulled myself back out of it.

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I’m not gonna lie, the whole “what if a big, hairy trans man started using the women’s bathroom? what are TERFs gonna do then?” thing kinda pisses me off being used as some checkmate, because it insinuates that passing trans men would have any kind of power in that situation. If a passing trans man is forced to use the women’s bathroom, you know what will happen? Security will be called on him, he’ll be thrown out, and he’ll be forced to out himself as trans in order to avoid punishment, which will put an even bigger target on his back. He’s still going to be harassed. He’s still going to be forced into an uncomfortable and potentially dangerous situation, and he probably won’t avoid punishment anyway because the current laws in place are never going to favour any trans person’s defence over a cis person’s.

It also completely ignores trans men who aren’t “big and hairy” and don’t pass enough to be mistaken for a cis man. Non-passing trans men (or even men who look or sound effeminate enough to be suspected) who are forced to use the women’s bathrooms are still at a huge risk of harassment or even violence, especially young trans boys who are forced into their assigned bathrooms at school. Nex Benedict was literally murdered in a girl’s bathroom. Girls and women aren’t these inherently non-violent, peaceful and submissive beings (for one thing, that’s misogynistic). Trans men and boys get beaten up by them too, because most of us pre-T aren’t considered a threat, and we fucking die.

That’s not even to mention the trouble we already have in men’s bathrooms, because if we don’t pass, cis men will interrogate us on whether or not we’re “real men” and then sexually assault us if they discover we’re trans. Corrective rapes that trans men face is not something to be ignored, and I have trans male friends that it’s happened to who are lucky to be alive right now.

Bathroom laws will affect us just as much. The violence that trans women face is something that trans men can also relate to, and both need to be talked about without people categorising all trans men as “big, hairy, strong men able to beat up anyone who tries to threaten them” when that’s not the case like 90% of the time. Acting like passing trans men are just there to make TERFs look stupid, when TERFs are the ones who are violent towards us no matter how much we pass, is just diminishing our experiences.

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I am going to commit acts of wrath if i see one more person say "trans men/transmasculinity is not under attack"

THEY EXPLICITLY SAY THAT THEY NOW DEFINE TRANS MEN AS "biological women" IN THAT SHITTY UK COURT RULING

THEY ARE INCLUDING US BY FUCKING NAME IN THEIR HATRED

"why are trans men not targeted?" THEY ARE

THEY FUCKING ARE TARGETED

YOU THINK THAT BEING DEFINED AS A "biological woman" IS NOT HARMFUL FOR TRANS MEN

THATS WHY YOU THINK ITS NOT AN ISSUE

BC YOU THINK THAT TRANS MEN GETTING DEFINED OUT OF EXISTANCE BY CALLING THEM "biological women" IS NOT A PROBLEM

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how to grow the fuck up

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What trans men say: when you exclude us from your activism simply because we're men, you are telling the patriarchy that it's okay to be misogynistic towards us, as long as we don't identify as women. Not only are you putting us in danger but you're also feeding the same evil that oppresses you, that will never respect you no matter how many of us you sacrifice, because at the end of the day predatory cis men see us as just another flavor of you. They hate us cause they hate you.

What y'all hear: when you say you hate men, that hurts our feelings so please stop saying that

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Before you interact :

- we are collectively anti endo, anti radqueer, neutralship, para-health and hazard consent

- we lack empathy, struggle with feeling sympathy and can become aggressive if we feel we are being attacked in some way. So, interact with caution/care, basically

- because of being a C-DID system we have a LOT of fragments + alters, due to this it will not be clear who is fronting always and you may interact with some of us once and then just never see them again (or you may only see them occasionally/rarely, unless they are a "main fronter"). We have extremely unstable fronting patterns if you cannot tell

- we will not tolerate things that make us uncomfortable and are likely to block you if you do anything we don't really like or support. We may give benefit of the doubt if we like you though, but this only really works once or twice. So just be aware of that I suppose

- we switch between using we/us and I/me often, there is no meaning to it really

- we are not very good at being active,, or social, I should say. We are almost always on Tumblr but we may not reply to messages or asks straight away as we have to wait until we feel social to do so

- and finally, while we are open to questions we are unlikely to answer if we think you're being aggressive or rude, or we will answer but with the same attitude