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Today on toxic monogamy, brought to you by once again FB...

How toxic is this mindset? Let me count the ways:

- First and foremost; ignores polyamory and polygamists. As well as; swingers, certain forms of kinks and other forms of ethical non monogamy.

- Shames another woman for the assumption a man flirting or engaging with her is available. Even if she flirts first, it’s up to him to say clearly ‘I am not available and this crosses the boundaries of my relationship’

- Implies the man involved does not have the capacity or ability to turn another woman down.

- Finally, for my own humour to deal with how angry this post actually makes me, it encourages people to have sexual intercourse with trees. Please do NOT do that. It’s painful, traumatic for local fauna, and not healthy for your vagina or the tree. If you want a sustainable sex toy, try a glass dildo, they have great reviews.

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How about we let it sink in that not everyone wants to get married.

Not everyone wants a kid.

Not everyone can uproot their whole life for someone but wants that meaningful connection for as long as possible.

Some people want to live alone and date forever as independent adults and never become a stereotypical unit.

Destroy the idea that this mentality is healthy, it is not.

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Anti-cheating culture is so profoundly monogamous that you end up attacking happy polyamorous people. “Real men are loyal to one girl and don’t have side hoes,” “you only ever need one girl in your life,” and “if you flirt with other people while in a relationship you’re an awful boy/girlfriend” has a detrimental effect on people who have never cheated in life by reminding them that their happy relationships containing more than two people are awful in your book. You tell them that they are bad and that their relationships aren’t as good as yours.

It is okay to be anti-cheating but the point should be the lying and lack of consent, not the number of people.

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One of my coworkers just posted something anti poly on her Insta and it made me way more upset than it should have. Especially since the argument was “how can you get to know someone if you have your attention on others?” Like???? You can’t have more than one friend??? You can’t be close with multiple family members? You can’t have a partner and a best friend who are both equally important????

Like I knew she was a little conservative, but it just bothered me.

Reckless me wants to come out at work/on social, but every other part of me is screaming that it’s a bad idea.

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Destroy

Toxic

Monogamy

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Because apparently it’s so funny to bring up emotional insecurities in your partner instead of just communicating that ‘Eh, I’m not fond of that place, what other options do we have?’