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Dungeon Meshi

Modern Clothing Sketches - Fleki (Bonus Lycion)

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stopping him will take time, unfortunately. fixing things takes longer than taking a sledgehammer to them. there are people putting in the work, lawsuits are being filed and academic communities (like the one I’m in) are pulling together to support our colleagues. my grad student union, especially, is pooling resources to protect the research of our impacted peers who are losing funding due to NIH and NSF cuts.

It will not be an easy ride. people will be hurt and knowledge will be lost. but you don’t help anyone by turning a blind eye to the people who are trying to help and protect each other. assuming that everyone is atomized means that there’s no work left to do because the cause is already lost.

also. very funny that you assume I /am/ a TRA just because I transitioned. I’m female and willfully acknowledge that, and I acknowledge that I transitioned due to misogynistic ideas about gender. I also acknowledge that, due to my transition, I have gained male social privileges. I often use those privileges to check the males around me and uplift women in my field. just because I’m not debasing myself by performing vulnerability doesn’t mean I’m not ultimately on your side.

I will admit that muddying the definition of “woman” does cause confusion. I also think that using *more* precise language can only help. Instead of simply saying “women” when we mean “post-menopausal women”, “pregnant women”, or “dysphoric women”, we can be more specific about who will be affected by what restrictions.

where I do disagree with you is that a community that the republicans outright despise is the only group that paved the way for the current situation. the actual blame lays at the feet of far more people- including “girl math” and “cottagecore” trends and religious institutions that use their faith to bludgeon women.

no words, just miserable

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you're blaming TRA's for the actions of the men currently in charge of the US. I don't disagree that removing "women" and "female" from medical contexts is harmful. we are on the same page there.

however, i think the blame for the funding cuts that are currently and into the future hurting women, girls, and other minorities, should be squarely placed on donald fucking trump, not some tumblr blogger with blue hair and pronouns. the men in charge of the US do know what a woman is, and they want her to stay home and die in childbirth. elon has weird hangups with trans people because one of his sons transitioned, but do you think a policy which ALSO removes mentions of "LGBTQ", "transition", etc., will do women any good? how will we study the long-term effects of transition if there's no money in it? how will we study the benefits of gay adoption without being able to say "gay"?

most normies, who don't really give a fuck about trans people but want to do the right thing, are furious over this policy. most normies do give a fuck about women, because half of them are women, and we all understand the chasm this will open between "men's health" and "research that isn't worth talking about".

and despite all the hand wringing, clearly TRA's know what a woman is, too. at least the ones interacting with this post do.

no words, just miserable

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and for those of you who missed it (this is old news by this point)

it's now grounds to have your research inspected if you include any of the words on this list in your grant application for federal funding.

no words, just miserable

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oh, so women are to blame for the actions of men? how revolutionary. notice how the "gendies" are the ones in power and calling all the shots-

oh wait, it's a male supremacist and his male toadies. they are not pulling funding from grants that mention "women" because they think it'll hurt MtF's feelings, it's because they hate women, and they think spending money on women's healthcare is a waste.

could it be possible that female "gendies" see this and, despite feeling uncomfortable when their own bodies are called feminine, recognize that this is still a bad idea?

no words, just miserable

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wait ru ftm or mtf?

FTM, if that needs to be said. was born female, am female, but i had a double mastectomy eight years ago and am on T. so i am read as male more often than not.

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yo..... it's cookie time

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exactly this. and *even if* sex work did qualify under normal "work", it's a job that should not exist due to the harm it causes its employees and their environment. if one woman is for sale, every woman is.

BRITISH COMMUNIST PARTY SAYS SEX WORK ISN'T WORK

To be more specific, they say the mantra "sex work is work" should be retracted by trade unionists and society at large.

Some highlights:

Women and girls should be able to secure well-paid jobs, good housing and education without the need to prostitute themselves. Prostitution is not a genuine and free choice; it is a survival behaviour, mostly engaged in by working class women and girls who suffer economic disadvantage.

Prostitution is inherently violent and requires in and of itself the subjugation of women and girls – there is no form of work where this could ever be acceptable.

Health and safety regulation is impossible in the sex trade: in any occupation that involves exposure to bodily fluids workers wear masks, gloves, gowns, and goggles to protect themselves. Prostitutes can never benefit from these levels of protection because of the nature of prostitution.

Extreme levels of violence, rape, degradation, and humiliation cannot be regulated against as they are part and parcel of prostitution. Such levels of harm against workers in work would never be tolerated. Women in prostitution experience more physical and sexual violence that women on average. A study by Germany’s federal Ministry for Family Affairs, Senior Citizens, Women and Youth reports that 41% of women in prostitution experience physical or sexual violence, or both, in the context of prostitution.

The sexual sadism that prostitutes are exposed to causes the type of physical internal injuries and psychological trauma that should never be accepted in the world of work.

The murder rate is particularly high in the sex trade. Prostitutes are almost nine times more likely to be killed than soldiers in combat. Legalisation of the sex trade does not protect the lives of prostitutes. Since Germany’s legalisation of the sex trade in 2022, there have been 85 homicides of prostituted persons committed by clients. In addition, there have been at least 49 attempted homicides.

Pregnancy and even multiple pregnancies are risks arising out of prostitution which have adverse implications for the woman herself, for children born out of prostitution, and for society itself. This should never be accepted as an overhead of “employment”.

The high levels of substance use necessary to enable prostitutes to cope with the abusive practices of the men who buy sex should never be tolerated in the world of work.

Alternating bolding for readability.

Highly suggest reading the whole thing!

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You know that Chris Fleming line that goes "Call yourself a community organizer even though you're not on speaking terms with your roommates"?

I honestly think every leftist who talks about the "revolution" like Christians talk about the rapture needs to spend a year trying to organize their workplace. Anyone who sincerely talks about building a movement so vast and all-encompassing that it overwhelms all existing power structures needs the dose of humility that comes with realizing they can't even build a movement to get people paid better at a badly run AMC Theaters where everyone already hates the manager.

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It’s hard to tell because average female testosterone levels are so much lower than the other hormones, but testosterone increases during ovulation and again during menstruation, though not as much

truth coming out of her well to shame mankind vibes, spurred by fandom blogs on my dashboard being willfully obtuse.

intestinal and stomach cramps from a MALE body adjusting to heightened estrogen levels is not the same thing as menstruation, no matter what you ~feel~ in your heart. menstruation is this:

female hormones ebb and flow during the month, and each one has a specific FUNCTION that helps prepare the ovum for maturation, release, and dissolution when pregnancy doesn't occur. the cramps occur for a reason, because the body needs muscular help to expel the endometrium (the internal, blood-dense lining of the uterus). i know sex ed in most places is garbage, but that doesn't excuse a lack of curiosity.

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truth coming out of her well to shame mankind vibes, spurred by fandom blogs on my dashboard being willfully obtuse.

intestinal and stomach cramps from a MALE body adjusting to heightened estrogen levels is not the same thing as menstruation, no matter what you ~feel~ in your heart. menstruation is this:

female hormones ebb and flow during the month, and each one has a specific FUNCTION that helps prepare the ovum for maturation, release, and dissolution when pregnancy doesn't occur. the cramps occur for a reason, because the body needs muscular help to expel the endometrium (the internal, blood-dense lining of the uterus). i know sex ed in most places is garbage, but that doesn't excuse a lack of curiosity.

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if this application is for a school/uni/monetary scholarship award, then they'll usually look more for a personal narrative about learning something or overcoming an obstacle you faced. what they're looking for is proof of growth and that you're capable of learning and keeping up in a college environment. it doesn't have to be *too* personal if you're not comfortable sharing (i.e., about coming out if you're gay), but it should still be true enough. had a shitty job? you learned patience through hard work. had a relative die? you learned empathy through grief. etc, etc. it doesn't strictly have to be related to schooling, as long as the lesson is applicable to the kind of environment you will be in at college.

drach i have to write a “personal narrative” for an application and i have no idea how to write about myself positively, send help pls

Hello dearest darling nonny! If you're struggling to think of anything positive to say about yourself, here are some places to look!

What do these assholes want to hear?: A lot of the time, the recruiters want ass-kissing. They want to hear how amazingggg their shitty company is and how ever since you were a little girl you wanted to grow up and sell crappy electronics that'll die in 2 years and how much you admire their rich and storied history as a company etc etc. Look up the company, check out the about us page on their website/social media, find out what they're about. Annoying, from companies that can't be assed to even deign to inform you they chose somebody else, more often than not, but such is the way of the world for now.

Teachers' notes: Did your teachers write that you were a joy to have in class? "Attentive and personable." Did they write you were insightful? "Insightful, attentive to detail, thorough." Pull any positives from those, or try to spin a positive out of negatives. Determined, resourceful, tenacious, self-directed, all that jazz.

Hogwarts house: when all else fails, pull some positive traits from the list of those associated with your Hogwarts house. Those are pretty generic traits that could apply to pretty much everybody, so feel free to mix and match.

Ask your friends: when in doubt, source it out! Jk, but asking your friends for a handful of qualities to put in a resume can help if you feel like you can't see any good qualities in and of yourself.

Previous bosses: If you've had other jobs before, what are some things they used to praise you for? What qualities did they talk about during your performance reviews?

Job description: What does the job description say? Make sure to incorporate as many words from the description as possible, especially since it's usually computers, not people, sorting through the applications. One tip i saw was to copy the entire job description and paste it into the margins or someplace with the text changed to white so it doesn't show to the naked eye but a computer will find them and register them as positives. Not sure that info is still accurate but it can't hurt.

Now, with all this information amassed, write a short lil essay about how bad you want to work for them and how you admire their mission statement, pepper in some buzzwords from their website. I don't know if you remember those joke posts about one's worksona who loves emails and high stress environments and shitty customers, but basically do your best to sound like exactly the sort of sycophantic bootlicker they're looking for. They don't need to know you're lying through your teeth if they're only gonna pay you dirt anyway.

There is a blog on here whomst i shan't tag because i enjoy not being blocked for having brain cells and being a lesbian, but it's called b•tchesgetriches (censorship mine) and they have a lot of great advice for women in the workplace. If you have more questions (or if i went in the wrong direction entirely w the answer) please feel free to hmu!! I'm happy to help :)

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Palestinian women and girls are actively being denied uterine and gynecological care. they have to use tent remnants as tampons and pads. they’re also getting infections as well. israel is actively denying them humanity. they have 0 access to care they need.

The Pious Projects is raising funds to distribute feminine hygiene kits in Gaza! They have on ground teams serving their own communities and their programs are always 100% admin free. Click the link to learn more & donate a hygiene kit. They have different tiers of donation so anything from a 5 dollar donation to a 1000 dollar donation can be done

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@ mspec-defender

really classy of you to reblog and then block me so that you can't see my answer. i'm not tagging your url because I'm sure you don't want to have your notifications clogged. anyway.

how many shitty men do i have to sift through to get to the great ones? I'd consider my father to be "above average", but even he forgets basic household tasks and ends up making more work for my mother. no matter how many *individual* men may be good or nice or acceptable partners, men as a class oppress women as a class. in no other divide are minorities expected to cohabitate with their oppressors. statistics are not on the side of women who fall in love with and marry men. they are more likely to fall behind in their career, more likely to have a lower life expectancy, more likely to lose touch with female friends.

men are not demons, they're human, obviously, but I personally do not see the point in extending the olive branch (and then doing the dishes, mopping the floor, and wiping his ass for him) when i'm more likely to find a fulfilling relationship with another woman.

I also, on a personal note, am petrified of pregnancy and never want to have penetrative sex, with or without a condom. this is not a fear i see value in "getting over", it is what it is. what man would be willing to put up with a woman who won't let him fuck her? what woman is willing to put the effort in to find such a man? ultimately, it is my fucking choice to focus my attention elsewhere, like on my career and friendships. why does it bug other people so much why some women who could be attracted to men decide not to date them? if you think i see men as demons, why would you want me to date them?

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you misunderstand why someone might choose to identify as febfem. very rarely is it due to internal shame, it is far more often a conscious political choice to stop pursuing and interacting with men.

I’m not “denying” my sexuality, that would be calling myself a lesbian. I know that the risks from being in a relationship with a man would put me in more danger than I want, especially because I live alone and don’t have family living locally who could help. I can still feel attraction to a man while deciding not to pursue it.

there is no inherent wrongness to being attracted to men- it does not make a woman dirty, impure, or immoral to pursue, have sex with, or fall in love with men. unfortunately, the culture we are in pushes that as the only narrative, that women *must* center their lives on men at the expense of all else. identifying as a febfem is a statement that many women make to assert their own priorities while still acknowledging that it *is* a choice

Has anyone started to notice that a lot of Radfems are starting to identify as febfems.

So many Radfems are biphobic and if you are a bisexual woman you need to be aware of this. So here’s a reminder.

There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to men. It is ok to date men, to have sex with men, to have a relationship with men. Don’t deny yourself a core part of your sexuality just because someone tells being attracted to men is wrong.

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and because it’s 5 years old I may have changed my mind. which I have. five years ago, I was still in undergrad and hanging out with a very pro-trans crowd. I’m now halfway through a PhD program and I don’t believe the same things I used to about a lot of things. my girlfriend and I broke up shortly after this post.

I no longer believe in “gender” based labels for sexuality, because sexuality is based on sex. we are in agreement. I am also bisexual, and therefore am lucky enough to never have a personal stake in this conversation. while I think digging up old posts can sometimes be illuminating, it’s not necessary here.

i’m a materialist feminist, so i believe that trans men, for example, can be gay if they date men and their relationships are perceived as being gay relationships.  it doesn’t make sense for someone who is seen as male in almost every situation to be holding his boyfriend’s hand and saying “oh, but I’m straight.”  that…makes no sense?  even if *technically speaking* it is a heterosexual relationship, the only place where it matters (in this situation) is the bedroom.

sexuality gets somewhat murky when passing trans people are involved.  i feel lucky that I never had to reconsider my label when i transitioned because i’m bisexual, but had I been a “lesbian”, I’d probably call myself straight now because my girlfriend and I are seen as a het relationship.

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as a female on testosterone, allow me to add my 2¢. hormones do influence one's emotions. it's not sexist or pseudoscience to admit that. it is sexist to say that every woman is a crybaby or extremely sensitive, yes, but I would not be surprised if males on estrogen have found they respond differently to their own emotions.

anecdotally, I dealt with heightened anger when i started testosterone. it was (and is) very easy to find the part of myself that blows up over every little thing. i have had to work on my knee-jerk reactions to annoyance and anger because of how my body processes testosterone. I have also found it harder to cry, even when i want to because i know it will help get my feelings out.

maybe i'm too terminally online, but i don't think this comic is all that bad, especially for the silly things like the cat mouth in panel 2. hell, I use this emoticon :3c all the time in DMs with my friends. i don't think it's weird for someone to become more comfortable expressing themselves a certain way after transitioning (like I said earlier, the problems arise when males insist they're women, or that all women behave in the feminine caricature they portray and that's what makes them women.)

as for the pickles, that's a well-trod MtF meme food because estradiol and progesterone make you crave salt, and pickles are an easy way to satisfy that. it's not in any way saying that women naturally like pickles...

Crying..... alot :l

I feel a lot more emotional and cry easier, but more than likely, it's just because of changing hormone levels, lol, but it's definitely noticeable