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son of a bi-

to clarify (in case anyone doesn't understand)

I only got comments once I marked the fic on hiatus. AND they were just demanding more chapters at that (which is fine if it's a fun joking way in appropriate situations.) But it can be quite annoying when I've tagged it/mentioned in the notes how long I'm on hiatus for.

I promise I appreciate and love comments. These types (in this specific scenario) just annoy me unkindly.

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read the tags before comenting

just this

if you want to go into a fic blind, that's your decision, (this should be normalized) just don't harass the writer for it

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seeing a lot of the comments on those posts that have started circulating has been really reassuring but it’s also made me realize how widespread the problem has become and i think for my own peace of mind (and all the other shit in my life i gotta take of) i’ll probably just stop posting fic for an indefinite amount of time. just doesn’t really feel worth the effort anymore.

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dont trauma dump on a G-rated fic in comments

this one's really specific, but I assumed very simple to comprehend.

I guess if this was simple tho , I wouldn't have to make this post

Also in general don't trauma dump on any fic?

I felt that was implied human knowledge but I guess not

I know you're going through some hell . Just don't trauma dump on strangers, especially not on a fic children may be reading. I don't want to have to police my comments every day. Find someone who actually knows you or can help you.

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i've had so many conversations with people in fandom/creators' circles who are genuinely afraid to make the stories or art they want because they fear (often with good reason!) that their friends might kick them out of their circles, or worse, launch a public harassment campaign against them.

as someone recovering from this fear-based mindset, i want to affirm:

- friends who use implicit or explicit threats to maintain social control are not your friends

- communities that monitor your social media and ao3 to surveil you for perceived transgressive content are not safe communities

- the vast majority of people are NOT going to hate you if you make the art you want

- if you find yourself in a friend group that makes you feel afraid to speak your mind, it's in your interest to disentangle yourself from that group as quickly as possible

- real, honest disagreements between friends can be solved respectfully without the use of public shaming

- if you're feeling afraid in a community, it's likely that others are feeling afraid too. support your friends who may be struggling to leave an abusive fan or creative community, and let them know you're a safe person to voice doubts and disagreement to.

- if you're feeling like you'll never find a safer community of people, i promise there are others who feel that way too. it may take some time, but you'll find people who treat you and your ideas with respect. a good place to start is the people who make the type of art that you admire but that you're too afraid to make yourself.

ok that's all, take care of each other and be nice 💜

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why.

tell me why the exact people who say nothing on my fic, all of a sudden comment,

"nooo next chapter"

"New chapter please"

"NEW CHAP WHEN OMGGG?????"

"When's chapter X?"

REALLY? why comment ONLY when I mark the fic on HIATUS?!?

if you have nothing to say, just say,

"I love this, but I have nothing to say I wish I could add more"

Or just a simple "❤️❤️❤️" would be appreciated

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once i figure out how to block demanding “more now” commenters from being able to read that specific fic ever again it’s over for you hoes