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Do women love it when we call them a 'good girl' while we pay their needs and ask nothing back?

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i think the hardest part about healing is realizing there’s no finish line. no big dramatic moment where everything feels suddenly better. it’s slower than that. it’s quieter. it’s choosing not to text them back. it’s making your bed on a heavy day. it’s being kind to yourself when your mind is cruel. healing is a thousand tiny victories no one else sees.

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There’s a term in psychology called habituation: the way we stop noticing things we see often. A painting on the wall. A familiar view. Even a person’s kindness.

The brain filters the predictable to save energy. But in doing so, it risks filtering out what makes life feel full.

Not everything that becomes familiar should be forgotten.

Sometimes, attention is an act of love.

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you don’t realize how bad it is until you start noticing that impatience has become common currency. watching a full 2-hour movie from the comfort of your couch is torture - even a 25-minute series episode is too much. you can’t stand still while waiting for the bus without reaching out for your phone and opening something - any app, even to check the weather for the millionth time that day.

even conversations are suddenly taking too long, and when you look around, you start hearing all these absurd stories of how people are skipping paragraphs while ‘reading’ books because they think descriptions are boring or just ‘need to’ finish faster to reach their reading goals.

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“Smart people” who only consume “smart things” are just prisoners of their own self-image. “Intelligence” is less about just what you consume and more about the insights you can extract from whatever you engage with.

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In the Bois de Boulogne near Paris Isaac Israels (1865–1934), oil on canvas, c. 1906

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Edgar Degas - Waiting (1882)

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Jean Béraud - The Wind

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Johann Georg Platzer - Dancing Scene with Palace Interior (1730-35)

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John Martin - Pandemonium (1841)

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Truth is confirmed by inspection and delay; falsehood by haste and uncertainty.

Tacitus

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girl are you a full moon because you control the blood in my body like the tides

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Start telling people to watch how they talk to you, stop allowing people to comfortably disrespect you.

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the word super suddenly looks and sounds weird i am having a semantic satiation episode

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Do you earnestly believe that Anora is a misogynistic male gaze movie about how sex work is cool and awesome or did someone on twitter just tell you to think that