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walkingvisionary · 1 year ago

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To the next Gentleman in line,

I won't expect you to stand up high and meet those fictional characteristics and standards that appear in male protagonists in movies, books, and media.

You don't have to be muscular, tall, smart, rich, and attractive.

After all, I realized these are not the characteristics a true man needs to possess, nor the husband material type.

I just wish for you to be a person who acts true to his words, a man who doesn't need the opinion of the masses to make a decision, but rather someone who can make thorough decisions alone and act independently and rationally. I hope that you'd choose me over friends and drinks. I don't mean restricting your fun and time with your friends. I would allow you to have fun, but please know your limits. I'd like you to avoid any liquor or beer-related reunions, especially if there's a non-blood-related girl around the occasion. If you do so, then wouldn't that mean you'll also allow me to go out for an occasion and drink with boys you don't know?

It may sound selfish to say, but I hope you'll choose me over fun and friends, not always, but whenever I need you the most in my sorry state, wherein I need your comfort, your words, your ears, your attention, and your concerns just to comfort me—never making me feel less important than anything.

I wish for you to have that full masculine energy that enables me to comfortably show my sensitivity and release my feminine energy. I don't care if you're thin, fat, or muscular. Besides, what's the purpose of those muscles if you lack true masculinity within?

What I mean by masculine energy is when you are able to make me feel protected, respected, acknowledged, appreciated, valued, and remembered—not always, but every time the situation needs those.

Protected in a way that you never hesitate to step forward and defend me when someone is criticizing and hating me. Be that comforter and lone audience who is willing to lend an ear to my stories and emotional breakdown. Get angry with the things that infuriate me and laugh at the things I laugh at. Not letting me feel inferior to any girl and making me feel that I don't have to compete with anyone. Be that protector who protects not only my physical well-being but also my peace of mind and my emotional well-being.

Respected in a way that whatever decision and action you make, you always think about whether it will hurt me or not, avoiding those actions and informing/asking for my opinion about them. Even putting rightful boundaries on what you should and shouldn’t do. Not giving any other girls attention and acting just as a married man should. Putting distance and boundaries that would initially tear down their hopes toward you. Not making any girl special, heard, and important in a way that could make them unknowingly depend on you as their emotional support...unless it is your mom or sister.

Acknowledged and appreciated in a way that every time I do something good for you—giving you time despite my busy days, doing something good for the day, adjusting myself to your available time, learning the things you play and like just so I could understand you—I wish you would acknowledge and appreciate those efforts I put in just to catch up with you.

Valued in a way that despite not being able to show it personally, despite the busy schedule, you will put in the effort to talk to me and update me about how things are going in your life. I would be happy to hear your stories about your day, despite how boring they seem to you. I want to know what things made you smile and have our own quality time together, even putting in effort during monthsaries and anniversaries.

Remembered in a way that whenever you have free time, you will call me. Being able to recall the things I said, despite how useless they may seem. Remember what I hate and what I love, what I cherish, and what I want. Not someone who forgets and doesn’t care about the reasons why I got emotional last time.

You see, I don't care how you look physically, as I believe we can fix our insecurities together. Let's exercise together, do skincare together, bathe together, read together, eat healthy foods together, travel together, and glow and grow together.

Wherever you are right now, just be yourself and don't mind the eyes and opinions of the people around you. As long as you have good characteristics inside, you're 100× better than those who act cool, disrespectfully, and ironically. Having good characteristics yet not being a typical people pleaser means knowing how and when to put up your boundaries. You should have the right discipline to act and refrain from actions that may lead to disrespectfulness towards our relationship. Be strong-minded and willful. Be a dreamer and consistent. Be ambitious yet funny.

In simple terms, reciprocate the actions and vision I have. I won't demand those things if, in the first place, I would be an opposite example to them.

Are these things mentioned impossible and difficult to have? Then why am I willing to do those things for you?

I have personally witnessed husbands like this, and I truly believe they haven't gone extinct. True manliness is not inborn; experience, love, and the right woman create it.

I know that challenges may arise, but I believe that by communicating openly and supporting each other, we can overcome anything. I appreciate your efforts and presence in my life, and I’m excited about the journey we can embark on together.

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