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"I ruined their life" S/I × "They saved my life" F/O

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"fiction affects reality" wrong "fiction doesn't affect reality" wrong

The decision to emulate or not emulate what we see in fiction is on the audience. It's YOUR responsibility to KNOW better like a reasonable ADULT.

Abusive people are going to be abusive regardless of what total strangers are writing on Tumblr. Because being an abusive person is an active series of decisions that you make. You don't get to blame murder on Satanism and metal music in goddamn 2025

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Please, please, please, to my fellow selfship imagine content creators, can we all please do better about accurately tagging what type of F/O we are talking about when we make an imagine? Such as writing "imagine your Romantic F/O" when making a post?

There is a huge consensus amongst selfshippers across the board in the community that it's very frustrating to see the term "F/O" in an imagine automatically assumed to be a romantic partner by the creator who made the imagine.

Not everyone has or wants a romantic F/O and it's always disappointing for your followers and mutuals to read a good imagine that starts off with, "Imagine your F/O" only to see that its only for people with romantic f/os even though there was absolutely no clear indicator to warn readers.

So please, let's do better ♡! I'm tagging fellow imagine creators not to admonish but to simply spread this message; please take to heart what has been said and know that those who enjoy your content too will thank you for your consideration ♡

@deathdetermineslife

@the-bar-sinister

@kiawren

@selfshipping-tboy

@moxanji-real

If I've tagged you, please consider reblogging and tagging others to spread the message ♡

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[by voting on this poll you automatically agree that proshippers are awesome!]

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"I don't deserve them" F/O x "I don't deserve them" S/I

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i love being unaware of Most selfshippers sources so i can just integrate into my belief system that you and them are canon. like fuck man ive never seen cookie run youre right you ARE kissing that one i saw you guys in all the art of it

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(I’m nonsharing sometimes, too; I’m just curious!)

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the dynamic between two people who love a third person so much and come to understand each other because of that is so important to me. you would put them first, and so would i. you understand why we have to save them from themself. i trust you with their life, and so, that means more than if i trusted you with mine. the love doesn't have to be the same, but it's powerful enough that you understand why you're not the only satellite drawn into their orbit.

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Alisaie

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Bella Swan is Autistic: An Analysis

(Disclaimers: I enjoy Twilight in spite of its problematic elements, not because of them or in ignorance of them. There are as many different ways to be autistic as there are autistic people. Many allistic people will relate on some level to some aspects of the autistic experience; this does not make them autistic. This is all just my opinion, based on my experience as a late-diagnosed, low-support-needs autistic woman. I am aware this is not a brand-new original idea.)

I reread Twilight (I think for the first time since getting diagnosed 4 years ago) and I found a bunch of things I relate to Bella about. Below the cut is a list of some of her autism-related character traits with quotes for textual evidence. The links lead to articles explaining how these traits relate to autism. The list is ordered chronologically based on page number of the accompanied quotes. Page numbers are based on the paperback edition with ISBN-13: 9780316015844. A backslash in a quote signifies a paragraph break. I’ll update if I read any of the other books or rewatch the movies and anything new comes up.

Bella has trouble regulating her emotional expressions: she has to put conscious effort into how she presents herself

"I'd always been a bad liar" (p. 4). "For some reason, my temper was hardwired to my tear ducts. I usually cried when I was angry, a humiliating tendency" (p. 25). "I had never been enormously tactful" (p. 31). "'My face is so easy to read -- my mother always calls me her open book'" (p. 50).

Bella is shy and a bit socially awkward: she avoids attention for fear of embarrassment

"Charlie wasn't comfortable with expressing his emotions out loud. I inherited that from him" (p. 7). "Mr. Varner... was the only one who made me stand in front of the class and introduce myself. I stammered, blushed, and tripped over my own boots on the way to my seat" (p. 17). "To my dismay, I found myself the center of attention for the rest of the week" (pp. 68-69).

Bella feels different from other people: she doesn’t know how to connect with others and feels pressure to fit in

"I didn't relate well to people my age. Maybe the truth was that I didn't relate well to people, period. Even my mother, who I was closer to than anyone else on the planet, was never in harmony with me, never on exactly the same page. Sometimes I wondered if I was seeing the same things through my eyes that the rest of the world was seeing through theirs. Maybe there was a glitch in my brain" (pp. 10-11). "I answered honestly, instead of pretending to be normal like everyone else" (p. 47). “'My mind doesn't work right? I'm a freak?' The words bothered me more than they should -- probably because his speculation hit home. I'd always suspected as much, and it embarrassed me to have it confirmed" (p. 181).

Bella has a unique sense of humor: other people don’t get her jokes and she doesn’t get other peoples’ jokes

"'You don't look very tan.' / 'My mother is part albino.' / He studied my face apprehensively, and I sighed. It looked like clouds and a sense of humor didn't mix. A few months of this and I'd forget how to use sarcasm" (p. 16). “Bella was being unintentionally funny” (p. 367).

Bella finds comfort in routine: the change in routine from moving was difficult for her, and she felt better once the new routine became familiar

"I fell into the pattern of the familiar task gladly" (p. 33).

Bella is academically gifted: she finds assignments easier than her peers do, she has already read the books assigned in her English course

"'Were you in an advanced placement program in Phoenix?' / 'Yes'" (p. 47).

Bella enjoys being alone: she is introverted and enjoys solitary activities

"In a lot of ways, living with Charlie was like having my own place, and I found myself reveling in the aloneness instead of being lonely" (p. 54). "I've never minded being alone" (p. 241).

Bella has motor difficulties: she is clumsy, uncoordinated, accident-prone, and bad at sports

"Possibly my crippling clumsiness was seen as endearing rather than pathetic, casting me as a damsel in distress" (p. 55). "My sense of direction was hopeless; I could get lost in much less helpful surroundings" (p. 136).

Bella has special interests: Edward and books

"... no one else was as aware of Edward as I always was. No one else watched him the way I did" (p. 69). "I was sitting in my room, researching vampires. What was wrong with me" (p. 135)? "... they didn't know how preoccupied I could get when surrounded by books; it was something that I preferred to do alone" (p. 156).

Bella is perceived as different by others: a history of social exclusion is hinted at, Edward’s mind-reading doesn’t work on her

"'It's better if we're not friends,' he explained. 'Trust me.' / My eyes narrowed. I'd heard that before” (pp. 74-75). "He enunciated every syllable, as if he were talking to someone mentally handicapped" (p. 83). "'My mom always says I was born thirty-five years old and that I get more middle-aged every year'" (p. 106). ".'.. maybe your mind doesn't work the same way the rest of theirs do. Like your thoughts are on the AM frequency and I'm only getting FM'” (p. 181). "'You're not like anyone I've ever known. ... / ... 'I have a better than average grasp of human nature. People are predictable. But you ... you never do what I expect. You always take me by surprise'" (p. 245).

Bella has sensory differences: she notices and is bothered by things others don’t and aren’t, she engages in sensory-seeking and sensory-avoiding behavior when stressed

"'People can't smell blood,' he contradicted. / 'Well, I can -- that's what makes me sick. It smells like rust ... and salt" (p. 100). "I put in my headphones, hit Play, and turned up the volume until it hurt my ears. I closed my eyes, but the light still intruded, so I added a pillow over the top of my face" (pp. 129-130). "'You're always crabbier when your eyes are black ... I expect it then' ... 'I have a theory about that'" (p. 171). “For three and a half hours I stared at the wall, curled in a ball, rocking” (p. 425).

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Me inserting myself into my f/o's world

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reblog if you wear glasses. too many mutuals don't know they have glasses wearers in their midsts

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SELFSHIPPING GAME !!

Reblog with a picture of your f/o (Up to 2) and I'll tell you what kind of flower I think they'd give you! Please include name and fandom in case I don't know. Thank you!

Example: Kakashi would give me a Summer Snowflake!

Doubles are a-okay! The only one I'm non-sharing with is Touya Setsuno so please avoid him, if possible.

This will close when I get overwhelmed, but I will try to get to everyone!

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Kakashi Hatake from naruto (i have so many f/o, i was gonna get overwhelmed trying to pick a different one)

SELFSHIPPING GAME !!

Reblog with a picture of your f/o (Up to 2) and I'll tell you what kind of flower I think they'd give you! Please include name and fandom in case I don't know. Thank you!

Example: Kakashi would give me a Summer Snowflake!

Doubles are a-okay! The only one I'm non-sharing with is Touya Setsuno so please avoid him, if possible.

This will close when I get overwhelmed, but I will try to get to everyone!

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thing is self shipping is inherently self serving and if youre not doing everything in this for yourself and your happiness then it Will start to bother you. you cant do any of it for the approval of others

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The good news: you get to pick your new soulmate! (You can define "soulmate" however you want: platonic/romantic/partners in crime/etc. But they will be in your life, constantly.)

The bad news: you don't get to pick where they come from.

Spin this wheel until you get a fandom with characters that you recognize. As soon as you do, stop. One of those people* is going to be a constant presence in your life, whether you like it or not. So choose wisely.

*broadly defined

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i love being unaware of Most selfshippers sources so i can just integrate into my belief system that you and them are canon. like fuck man ive never seen cookie run youre right you ARE kissing that one i saw you guys in all the art of it