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Fairytale for Us

It sounds like something out of a fairytale.

Oh, wait, no it doesn’t.

Because in a fairytale, the boy never meets the boy, the girl doesn’t get the girl, and pronouns are very important to letting us know the characters…

Until recently, all of the stories told us how wrong we are in so many subtle terrible ways.

I’m still waiting to hear my fairytale…

- Acushla ✨

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Kaylor, an undeniable truth

So i’ve seen a lot o Kaylors posting about their experience regarding taytay and kaykay. Since its a new year, and dare I say a promising one, I want to share mine. So please join the ride and saddle up:

To be honest I didn’t know much about Taylor before 2014, I knew Love Story, but come on that song is a living legend and even my mother knows every word to it. To be fair, I’m from Spain, and country music isn’t exactly what you’ll call a popular genre among young people and the average consumer of Top 40 music. But 2014 came along, and 1989 arrived with its eighties throwbacks, and what can I say i fell in love. I looked for info everywhere, I wanted to know who this woman was and why on earth was she such a big deal??? 

I’m not ashamed to say I found out about Karlie thanks to Taylor, because I was enchanted by her, a young model, humble, who loved coding!!! Ok growing up I only thought of models as silly dolls with too much hunger in their bodies and too much room in their heads, which made me face the hard truth of how shallow was I to begin with.

So i watched this friendship, and for some reason it didnt sat right with me. I coundt shake off the feeling that something was off. Dont get me wrong, they were freaking cute together, but they were suddenly everywhere, and it seemed so random. So i read their interviews, how they’d became fast friends, very best friends, set up to be friends ( HELLOOOO I’VE BEEN SET UP ON DATES NOT TO BE FRIENDS!!!), having my own room in my best friends brand new apartment because I spent there half my nights, even though i live ten minutes away and have a steady boyfriend kind of friend  (this article on Rolling Stone was the very first red flag for me)

And Kissgate happen, and my friends and I talked about it, they knew I was a fan, and they asked me if this unfathomable idea of Taylor kissing another woman was remotely possible. And i actually didnt care if it was true, my family is catholic but me and my cousins have been raised to be very open minded and just kind to one an other, but still heteronormative is something very real, so around that time unless it was with proof and acknowledgement I wasnt easily sell on the idea. And that infamous tweet came along and i went with it, see it was just the media with their abrasive and violating ways. How, how ignorant and naive was i then.

And then came the fall out. How powerful is the media, how much control it has over us, when we are just mere rooks in their wicked and crafted game of perception. I fell for their trap, started hating taylor for the same inexistent reason stan twitter shields behind of now. I saw my perception of Taylor during 2015-2016 so brilliantly portrayed in the LWYMMD music video, that I’m still amazed by Taylor’s brain. I did kept up with Karlie mostly because my cousin is in finances and in love with her because of her brain, which mind you is a gigantic achivement, so I thought she was worth caring about. ( See told you, shallow much, still working on that)

i didn’t think much of tayvin and hiddelswift, Calcium has always been a mystery to me, cause i dont feel any attraction towards him, always has my skin crawling, and had a look on his face, that kind of made me feel sorry for him. Hiddleswift was a joke, and i thought either she was filming a music video, or had gotten pregnant and was recreating every relationship milestone in three months to make everything easier. Now i know why, but back the  i dindt know why watching taylor with her boyfriends always made me uncomfortable ( not guys, come on she and ed a disgustingly cute together in an asexual kind of way).

And finally this april, during my worst week of finals, looking for an inmature, totally irresponsable, but necessary scape I went to wattpad to procrastinate and waste my parents collage money. I was reading, when I thought  “lets see if there is someone as crazy as I was when i thought karlie and taylor were in love and in a secret relationship” Well hello TIMELINE. And I was so elated that i went to tumblr, to see if there was a community who shared my hopeless romantic dream that perhaps they were together at some point in 2014.

I spent three days on tumblr, read all the masterpost, found out about the VSFS, the AMAs, YAIL, cookies, Swiftgron, Taymily, everything….

I got out with a failed exam ( dont worry I passed it later on June), and too many hours of sleep lost, but I was happy, overwhelmingly happy, because the woman i once admired, and now hated and thought of as shallow and a snake, was someone much more complex and brave than i thought possible. Kaylor opened my eyes to how the world, the media, the perception controls us, and I was so so sorry for being naive.

So no I wasnt betrayed by Taylor, or thought of her as a fraud. I saw two resilient women who fought and did what they had to do to survive in a world and industry that otherwise wouldnt bow to. 

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All you need to know about Sage 50 Accounts

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Whenever the topic of investing in staff training crops up, the chances are that someone will pipe up with “What if we train them and they leave?” But turn that thought on its head – what if you DON’T train them and they STAY?

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The self-employed make up a hugely important part of our economy, and the numbers who ‘write their own pay cheque’ shows no sign of abating. In many ways, they’re the same as those in regular employment, but when it comes to pensions, the differences can be very significant.

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The Day After Tomorrow

Back to the Future Day live: Is October 21, 2015 turning out like the film predicted?

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/11945123/Back-to-the-Future-Day-live-Will-October-21-2015-be-as-good-as-the-film-predicted.html

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White Bag & No Sunglasses via tiphainesdiary

on my shopping list

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White and Gold via kenzas

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yummmmy...divine...definitely will try this 

Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookie Bars

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Oh soo...... sweet like a sugar & honey

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