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listening to Gravity Falls episode commentaries is great. Alex Hirsch nearly worked himself to death constantly. Grunkle Stan was nearly voiced by Matt Chapman of Homestar Runner. Literally nothing aside from the twist about Stan having a twin was planned more than a few episodes in advance. The zodiac wheel meant nothing and consisted of random symbols from the first 7 episodes because the intro was animated after those were done. Alex came up with the term “search for the blind eye” to be an extra bit for the between-season shorts before deciding to actually have a payoff for that setup and writing Society of the Blind Eye. Bill was meant to be a joke character and when Alex suggested that he be a real villain Michael Rianda responded “You, my friend, have lost the plot.” Bill getting one episode in the spotlight was basically chance and he only became the main villain of season 2 because he was so popular with the fans. The reveal of the portal at the end of season 1 was suggested by Mike without thinking it through and he left before the next season and the other writers were SO ANNOYED after that went through because they somehow had to keep that plot going for the 10 episodes it’d take to actually pay off. I am genuinely astonished that this show came together as well as it did at all.

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Ja, ibland undrar jag om det hade gått bättre för mig I livet om jag inte vart så fucking traumatiserad och sjuk i huvet efter all akkumulerad skit jag fått ta genom åren från alla möjliga jävla oväntade håll.

Om folk som jag trodde var mina vänner inte hade visat sig vara värre än mina mobbare för mig tillslut. Om viktiga personer i mitt liv brytt sig lite mera, eller alls överhuvudtaget. Om jag själv inte varit så naiv.

Om folk inte bara lämnat mig utan förklaring lite för många gånger så jag tappat förmågan att lita på andra och på mitt egna värde.

Istället så är jag här, mitt I livet och känner mig fan mer ensam och vilsen och med en kropp och hjärna som slitits ut och är mer trasig än någonsin men som jag försöker hålla ihop eller rentav reparera så gott jag kan men utan ett klart mål eller uppfattad mening med livet.

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He singlehandedly ended generational trauma right there

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"download the app to continue!" what if I kill you

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Let’s talk about emotional testing.

The kind of testing that can damage your relationships. The “pull away just to see if they’ll follow” kind. The “I’m going to say I’m fine and hope you prove I’m not too much” kind.

The “If I disappear, will you notice?” kind.

If you have BPD or struggle with abandonment trauma, this pattern might be painfully familiar.

And look, you’re not a bad person for doing it. You’re someone who was hurt. Someone who learned, probably very young, that directness wasn’t safe. That being honest about your needs got you punished, ignored, or abandoned.

So instead of asking, you test.

You might pick a fight to see if they’ll leave.

You might go quiet and hope they’ll chase you.

You might drop hints instead of clearly communicating your needs.

But here’s the truth:

Testing creates fear where you actually crave closeness. It pushes people away when you’re begging them (silently) to come closer. And it feeds the very thing you’re trying to avoid: rejection. It can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You’re scared people will leave and this ends up driving them to leave.

So what can you do instead?

Start small. Practice asking out loud:

“I’m scared you’ll leave. I could use some reassurance.”

“Can you check in with me later today? I get anxious when things go quiet.”

“I don’t want to test you, but I notice I do. I want to work on that.”

That’s trust. That’s vulnerability. That’s what real connection is built on.

It’s terrifying, yes.

But it’s also the first step toward a relationship that doesn’t run on fear but instead it runs on honesty.

You deserve that kind of love.

(And you’re capable of giving it, too.)

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Here's a few cool things me and @stramach built in Minecraft recently!

Pictured from top to bottom:

Pic 1, left to right: alien space ship (me), white wizard's tower (me) , rainbow bridge (co-op build), dark wizard's tower (Stramach)

Pic 2: rainbow bridge from different angle

Pic 3-7: white wizard's tower from different angle + some interior bits

Pic 8: alien spaceship in the night

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I find it very offensive that the more unwell you are, the more things you have to do to maintain your health. Things like following special diets, going to medical appointments, making big and important decisions about what treatments to use. At the same time, the more unwell you are the less energy you have to do all of these extra things. It seems grossly unfair.

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- Yasmin Benoit on racism in the asexual community 2021

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i simply don't think nonbinary people should have to see having our gender/s respected and acknowledged as a luxury. i think it's frankly sickening that that's the state of things tbh.

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*wokely* tell me what genitals you have, stranger i just met

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Swedish stamps from 2023, featuring illustrations by Owe Gustafson, who did the animations for the children's programme Fem myror är fler än fyra elefanter.

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I just can't rn, this week has been a lot and I was hoping for a break just having fun playing a game with friend(s) this weekend despite not feeling great but it seems that's just not meant to happen and I fucking can't

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This disability pride month I'm BEGGING you to acknowledge and care about the people in this community who often fly under the radar when it comes to positivity and information. People who require equipment to live, like ventilators, pacemakers, and feeding tubes. People who are bedbound. People with visible differences. People who have disabilities caused by things like substance abuse, overdose, or self harm. People with conditions so rare that they've never met someone who has the same one. People who need full time care and have to have help to use social media.

If you want to support the community, that means supporting all of the community. Disability pride means being proud of every last one of us, and making sure everyone feels heard. Make sure to amplify the voices of those who need it this month, and ideally for the rest of the year too.