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“Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep” – Mary Elizabeth Frye

Happy Pride 2019!

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A big ace mood is looking at a video online then going “hmm... oh! Oh this is a thirst trap...... yeah no, this does nothing to me”

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I think it’s incredible how seals experience the world.

Many of the deep-diving seals can go blind during their lifetime and live just fine.

Round whiskers flap around in the water and create their own turbulence, but the specific whisker shape they have cancels turbulence, so they can pinpoint trails of turbulence from prey. Other places to see my posts: INSTAGRAM / FACEBOOK / ETSY / KICKSTARTER

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all my friends are upset because they're going to be single on valentine's day? like i know i'm aro but like i seriously don't get it? being single is not a bad thing (and sometimes it's a very good thing). normalize being single !

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we clown on alloromantics who ship aro characters a lot, and we should, but i feel like a lot of our anger should actually be directed at the creators who are universally too cowardly to actually depict an aro character and instead restrict all conversations of their identity to Hints or out of media confirmation

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Aro culture is learning that your alloro friend's views on romance have changed just by being friends with you and going ---🥺

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It's always okay to change the labels you use to describe yourself! It's okay to experiment with new ones to see if they fit you, and there's no limit to how many you can try. It's okay to make them as specific or as vague as you want, or to go without labels at all.

Here's a list of all the labels I've used in the past in vaguely chronological order:

Pansexual

Lithsexual

Demisexual

Asexual

Panromantic

Demiromantic

Aromantic

Grayromantic

Quoi/WTFromatic

Biromantic

Demigender

Nonbinary

Right now I use nonbinary, bi, aro & ace. I don't know if that will change, but it'll be okay if it does, and the same goes for you too. 💚

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aro culture is giving all your allo friends the same relationship advice: “break up”

* or communicate

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aro culture is feeling like i should have an honorary sociology degree from all the "trying to figure out what romance is"

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Attraction can be confusing...

It's so easy to confuse attraction types, especially when you don't know that there even ARE different attraction types. I had so many supposed 'crushes' before I realised platonic and aesthetic attraction existed. I definitely still get confused, but there are a few occasions that stand out to me in particular:

When I was 11, I had a 'crush' on a boy in my class. On the last day of term (before moving on to secondary school), I asked my best friend to tell him I liked him, but specifically NOT ask him out on my behalf. She was confused, and inevitably went and asked him out for me. I was more embarrassed that he thought I wanted to date him than upset that he said no.

In year 9 or 10, I told my best friend I had a 'crush' on a boy in our year, and when they offered to help set me up with him, I said "no, I don't actually want to date him, I just like him." Understandably, they were also incredibly confused. It took a lot of explaining to establish that I had no interest in actually dating him, I just thought he was cute and wanted to be friends.

Again, in sixth form, I had 'crushes' on several girls who I desperately wanted to be friends with and who I thought were really cute. The thought of dating them didn't even really occur to me until other people brought it up, and I felt very odd about the idea. I couldn't really think of any reason why not, but I didn't really feel like it was something I wanted either.

With hindsight, I know it was aesthetic and platonic attraction. Please note, this is just my experience, and it could be different for everyone! Have you had any similar experiences?

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The single/taken binary is just so limited, I wish there were a term that conveyed "not in a relationship" as easily as single does and "not available for a relationship" as easily as taken does.

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A big ace mood is looking at a video online then going “hmm... oh! Oh this is a thirst trap...... yeah no, this does nothing to me”

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me when someone is being nice: oh god they have a crush on me don’t they. oh god not this shit again

me when someone actually has a crush on me: them? a crush?? on me!?!? nah they’re just being nice they don’t wanna kiss me!

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cries in Wants a Romantic Partner to Love but also cries in If Anyone So Much as Looks at Me With the Idea of Potential Romance, I’ll Slit Their Throats

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the most ace lesbian thing I've ever done is trying to explain to my straight friend how girls' bodies are just more aesthetically pleasing 😅

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Ace Realisations #1

When I was about 16, a classmate of mine was talking about the rugby on TV the previous night, and she mentioned that she got into it because she got to watch a load of Hot Guys running around for 80 minutes.

My ace ass had never been so shocked.

It had never occurred to me that people can find athletes attractive and don't necessarily watch purely because they like the sport.

Unfathomable.

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Thinking about how the first person Thirteen sees and speaks to after regenerating is Grace and how the Doctor has the tendency to be closer with or latch onto the first person they see/meet after regenerating and how she was more open about regeneration and talking about herself but then Grace died and she became more closed off,,, like the first person the Doctor meets and opens up to after regenerating dies the same day she meets her and I feel like that must have had an impact on Thirteen and how she just closes herself off from other people