#AdopteeRights

[sweetlittledaisy7]

Why you should not adopt.

1. If you're offended by the adopted child crying over their birth mom or birth family.

2. If you're offended at the adopted child calling their birth parents mom and dad.

3. If you don't want the child to cry over their birth family.

4. If you believe adopting an infant means they will not cry or want to look for their birth family.

5. If you don't want the child to have feelings towards you or their birth family.

6. If you adopt then use the child for pro life stuff or tell everyone their adopton story.

7. If you think you're the only parents.

8. If you get upset at the child contacting or seeing their birth family.

9. If you think you've saved a child and the child should be grateful for you.

10. If you can't accept that sometimes adoption is hard and complex and the child will deal with it in their own way. Sometimes that could mean keeping secrets from you, cutting, being sad, running away, or not telling you anything.

11. If you lie to the child.

12. If you can't accept the child will always have another family out there.

13. If you say bad things about the birth parents or birth family.

14. If you can't accept the child's pain that may stem from adoption.

[openadoptionfamilyservices]

This week, the New Yorker published the long-form article “Living in Adoption’s Emotional Aftermath.” Transracial adoptee and adoption consultant Angela Tucker participated in this piece, which was thoughtfully reported and written by Larissa MacFarquhar. In Angela’s words, the article is “truly adoptee-centered, nuanced and powerful … it’s one of the strongest pieces on adoptee perspectives to date.” Visit Angela’s blog at The Adopted Life to read about her experience being a part of this piece, and be sure to check out her link to the New Yorker article, which also has an audio version available! https://tinyurl.com/3ee43dpu

[finding-exie]

It took me fifteen years to find my biological family. Fifteen years of prayers, fifteen years of tears and fifteen years of frustration. This blog is about my fifteen year journey on finding myself...Exie.

[allegrettaalive-blog]

“The Power of Self-Love As an Asian-American Adoptee” is tonight! Get there early to grab food and a seat - the event starts at 6pm. It’s at 200 Portland St. in downtown Boston. See you there! . If you can’t make it to this one, details on my next talks will be posted soon. . Thank you for your support 🙏🏼👽🙇🏻‍♀️❤️ . #selflove #loveyourself #ideservetolovemyself #iloveme #bostoncreatives #bostonartist #bostonactivism #adopteeactivist #adopteetalk #asianamerican #adoptee #adopteevoices #adopteerights #shareyourstory #speakyourtruth #spreadlove (at Boston, Massachusetts)

[tlums]

Via my good friend @_keyoung... “I am an adoptee.  The only difference between myself and someone who may be forced to leave the only home they've ever known is a small stack of papers stating they are a US Citizen. A seemingly small act of neglect or ignorance by another that directly changes someone’s life.  People who are now in their 30's or older are being taken from their friends, families, and deported to a place of birth that they know nothing about. In 2000 Congress decided that all intercountry adoptees would be automatically be granted US Citizenship.  This law did not cover any adoptees that were 18 years of age or older at that time. The Adoptee Rights Campaign’s mission is to fix this.  Partnering with the A.R.C., @mlscreenprinting , and designed by @ilijanecovski all profits from the shirt I am wearing in the above photo will go directly to the Adoptee Rights Campaign and their needs to right this injustice.  Pre-orders for the shirt will be up from today through May 2nd.  The link is in my bio. 📷: @kristensperry. PS:  To better understand the plight of Intercountry Adoptees without citizenship please google search the story of Adam Crapser or go to adopteerightscampaign.org to read stories of other adoptees.” #adopteerightscampaign #adopteerights

[thoughtlessdelineation]

From Trauma to Transformation

A Call for an Equitable Adoption System

Exploring the systemic biases and power imbalances inherent in current adoption practices, and advocating for a child & adult-centred approach. CLICK LINK to read more.

#adopteevoices#AdoptionReform#AdopteeRights#AdoptionTrauma#AdoptionAwareness#EquitableAdoption#ChildCentredAdoption#AdoptionJustice#AdoptionCommunity#AdoptionSupport#empowerment#AdopteeLivesMatter#StolenGenerations#ForcedAdoption#TraumaHealing#MentalHealth #ArtificialIntelligence#openai #AIart #generativeart #neuralart #computationalart #creativeAI #machinelearningart #digitalart #algorithmicart #artificialintelligence #techarT

[prochoiceadoptee-blog]

I wish fundraising to adopt another person’s baby to “give them a better life” got the double take it deserves.

#adoption #adopteerights #feminism

[monriatitans]

ADOPTION AWARENESS MONTH QUOTE 10

Wednesday, November 22, 2023

"We don’t have adoption issues, we have an issue with adoption." – Janine Myung-Ja, Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ You "prolifers" need to get to work adopting the kids who are already here! AND/OR donating towards a Foster Love service project or program! Interested in grabbing the book the quote came from? If so, click here! The image was …

[sweetlittledaisy7]

Wow. People also say similar things to me. Adoption language should not benefit adoptive parents feelings. It should be about the adoptee. If an adoptee wants to say their real mom is their birth mom why get angry at them? I use to say real mom when I was little because I didn't know any better. People would ask about my real mom, my birth mom. My mom would always say birth mom. I'm sad at this post. Being adopted is hard and no matter what adoptees do we're always wrong.

I can say my real mom is my birth mom and everyone will bash me.

I can say my real mom is my adoptive mom and everyone would bash me. We can't win. We should let the child decide what words they want to use. It's the adoptees life.

My real mom? Is it my birth mom or my mom?

[lordzannis]

green party potential Strategies for adoption/foster system

here are some potential strategies the Green Party could consider for improving the adoption and foster care system:

Increase funding for education and support services:

Advocate for increased funding to schools in counties with high numbers of foster and adopted children, similar to the Support Education license plate program mentioned in result

.

Push for more resources to be allocated to education enrichment programs, school supplies, and extra help for at-risk students, which could benefit foster and adopted children.

Improve support for Education Support Professionals (ESPs):

Advocate for better pay and working conditions for ESPs, as mentioned in result

, who often play crucial roles in supporting foster and adopted children in schools.

Support professional development opportunities for ESPs to better equip them to assist children in the foster/adoption system.

Enhance post-adoption services:

Advocate for increased funding and resources for post-adoption support services, including counseling and educational support.

Push for policies that ensure adopted children have access to their educational and medical histories.

Reform the foster care system:

Advocate for policies that prioritize family reunification when possible and safe.

Support initiatives to recruit and retain high-quality foster parents.

Push for better oversight and accountability in foster care agencies.

Address educational challenges:

Support policies that ensure continuity of education for children in foster care who may move frequently.

Advocate for specialized training for teachers and school staff on the unique needs of foster and adopted children.

Promote mental health support:

Advocate for increased mental health resources in schools, specifically tailored to the needs of foster and adopted children.

Support research into the long-term mental health impacts of foster care and adoption.

Improve transition services:

Advocate for better support services for youth aging out of the foster care system, including education and job training programs.

Address racial disparities:

Push for policies that address racial disparities in the foster care and adoption systems.

Support culturally sensitive training for foster parents and adoption agencies.

Promote open adoption practices:

Advocate for policies that encourage open adoption arrangements when in the best interest of the child.

Support LGBTQ+ rights in adoption:

Advocate against discrimination in adoption based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

Support policies that ensure LGBTQ+ individuals and couples have equal rights in adoption processes.

These strategies align with the Green Party's commitment to social justice, education, and community support. They aim to address the complex issues surrounding the adoption and foster care system while prioritizing the well-being of children.

[mybradybunch]

The Adam Crapser Story

The United States is pursuing the deportation of Adam Crapser, a now 39-year-old man who was adopted from South Korea in 1979, when he was just four years old. Adam’s adoption story is not the sort of fairy tale depicted in the movies or on television. Adam was subjected to years of physical abuse by not just one, but two sets of adoptive parents here in the United States. 

Significantly, in addition to their string of abuses, none of Adam’s “parents” bothered to finalize his naturalization process. As such, Adam never became a US citizen. Non-citizens—including international adoptees—are subject to deportation if they commit even petty crimes.

So it was with Adam. After Adam’s second set of adoptive parents threw him out at age 16 (in part because of the tension arising from physical and sexual abuse charges brought against his adoptive father), Adam made a series of what he himself readily admits were very bad choices. At age 18 he was charged with and pled guilty to first-degree burglary. His crime: he broke into his estranged parents’ home to retrieve the bible and shoes that came with him from South Korea, items his parents refused to return to him. Adam went on to commit other crimes. He is not proud of his criminal history.

Adam served his time, and has worked hard to forge a new path. He went to school. He is gainfully employed. He is married. And he has three children with a fourth on the way in May. Despite it all, Adam is trying his best to make a good life for himself and his family.

Adam’s life was thrown into a tailspin, however, when he was served with deportation papers this past January. His deportation hearing is set for April 2. If deported, Adam will be forced to leave behind everything he knows, and to move to a country where he has no family or friends, where he does not speak the language, and where he will find it difficult to support himself (much less his young family).

As a mother to a child adopted from overseas (and a lawyer myself), I have become familiar with the legal landscape surrounding this issue. The most common way internationally adopted children gain citizenship is through the Child Citizenship Act of 2000 (the "CCA"). The CCA provides derivative (or automatic) citizenship to international adoptees whose parents bring them into the United States on adoption visas, so long as (1) the children were under age 18 as of February 27, 2001, (2) their adoptions are full and final under US law and (3) at least one of their adoptive parents is a US citizen. Citizenship automatically attaches when all of the prerequisites are satisfied, and does not require a full naturalization process. The CCA, however, does not apply to internationally adopted individuals who—like Adam Crapser—were older than age 18 on February 27, 2001. These adoptees could only become citizens by completing the full naturalization process.

As you can imagine, Adam is not the only person to have fallen through the cracks of the CCA. There have, in fact, been a number of high profile cases where adult adoptees were deported for petty crimes, and went on to experience tremendous (albeit unsurprising) hardships in their birth countries. This has not escaped Congress' attention. In 2013, legislators proposed an amendment to the CCA that would provide retroactive citizenship to all individuals brought to this country for the purposes of international adoption. When it was proposed, the CCA amendment was applied to the Senate’s broad immigration bill and received overwhelming support from both the House and Senate. Unfortunately, because the larger immigration bill to which it was attached failed to pass, the proposed CCA amendment is now languishing on the Hill without a new legislative sponsor. And Adam Crapser is facing deportation.

Maybe some will say that Adam has committed crimes, and deportation is the price he must pay. But I ask you, why should Adam’s punishment be so much greater than the punishment afforded to his parents’ biological children—all of whom are convicted felons but who, having been born to their parents rather than adopted, will never face the terrifying prospect of deportation? Adam Crapser did not ask to come here; two US citizens brought him here to fulfill their desire for a child. Adam’s punishment should not be compounded simply because his parents failed (among many other things) in their responsibility to complete his naturalization.

Adam’s case has again sparked a movement to amend the CCA. If his story moves you, as it does me, I would urge you to sign this petition (http://action.18mr.org/crapser/?source=twitter&referrer=cayden-mak) and/or contact your Congress person and urge him/her to support a standalone amendment to the CCA to prevent the deportation of individuals like Adam. While I’m grateful that under the current version of the CCA my son will never face the risk of deportation, I am ashamed—both as a US citizen and an adoptive parent—that Adam may face a different fate. If you would like to listen to an interview with Adam himself, you can do so at https://soundcloud.com/…/adam-crapser-gazillion-voices-radio. And if you have gotten his far, thanks for reading my VERY long post! ‪#‎Keep‬ AdamHome

[sweetlittledaisy7]

Who should know. Adoptive Parents stop sharing please

Everyone knows I’m adopted. You see I live in a small town. My family has been going to the same church ever since my dad was a kid. Then my parents got married at that church. People have known me from church since I was a baby. Some of my friends have been with me since a pre-k. Before my parents adopted me, they tried to have biological kids. Then turned to adoption. They told everyone they were adopting. They all prayed for a woman who was pregnant to be protected and safe. To choose life for her baby then choose adoption. Then after some time they found my birth parents. My birth mom gave birth to me then handed me over to my parents. My parents shared my adoption story over and over again. Online, church, friends, family, neighbors,strangers. The problem is I hate it. I don’t even know my whole story while others do. I hate when friends ask questions about my birth family. I hate it when people tell my they’re thankful my birth mom chose life and didn’t abort me. I hate it when teachers at school or church ask my to share my story of adoption. I especially hate it the things posted online is still online now. My parents using my in prolife stuff or telling people how I’m adopted. I don’t like sharing everything. Yet I go online and see pictures of me at 3,5,10 years old holding a sign saying I’m adopted or with me saying I wasn’t aborted. Plus with details of my adoption. My friends already seen some of these things online. I know church people read these things along with my family and my parents friends. It’s really frustrating to not have privacy. Of course my parents don’t listen and tell me my story will inspire others. Especially other young adoptees, pregnant women, and adoptive parents. They even book stuff so I can share. Or they share for me. I hate it. I’m not an inspiration. My story shouldn’t be used to promote adoption or be used in the prolife movement. I’m not a poster child for adoption just because I’m adopted. So adoptive parents please be mindful about sharing. Especially online. Don’t make your adopted child a poster child just because they’re adopted. Don’t share details. Don’t share to inspire or promote. Those rights goes to the adoptee not you. They can share when they’re older and feel comfortable.