#Aging Out

[forsapphics]

8 WOMEN (2002) — directed by François Ozon // THE MAGICAL CHRISTMAS TREE (2021) — directed by Scott Hillman // SOMETHING FROM TIFFANY'S (2022) — directed by Daryl Wein // MERRY & GAY (2022) — directed by Christin Baker // A HOLIDAY I DO (2023) — directed by Paul Schneider, Alicia Schneider // AGING OUT (2023) — directed by Breanne Williamson // LAST EXMAS (2024) — directed by Sarah Rotella // THE HOLIDAY CLUB (2024) — directed by Alexandra Swarens

[sracygnus]

I'm not seeing anyone on tumblr talk about this so I am bestowing this video upon the tumblr world.

This is Aging Out, a short sapphic rom com directed by Breanne Williamson and filmed in Vancouver BC.

Also I helped out a bit with this project (I helped with lighting) and I'd love it if y'all watched 🥺.

[2nd-book-of-lamentations]

Dirges of the Dumbed

IX

You're never too young to grow old Because staying young gets old Festering wounds forbidden to breathe The growing pains always weep

All the efforts to staunch and numb For when you felt so hurt and alone You turned your life to the holy chemistry Changed to ritual for the venged idols What change you could bring, if only You allowed yourself to hear your hurt more

In the dark forest of space A lonely fawn bleats For even wolves to hear For a home no longer there Except the Earth—deaf; Blind—always weeping

[astronnova]

yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[hansoeii]

the honda odyssey, huh?

[karda]

idk how we got to this topic but my mom said the word orgasm in a sentence and added on "-idk if you even know what that is" and when i said "oh my god im 22 of course i do" she said "well i didn't even know it existed until i left your dad"

[tielan]

So. Some thoughts on this.

Even before we whisk capitalism out of the picture:

One. You'll have to learn to live with other people. Cheek by jowl, side by side. Yes, even the introverts. Because a community means some form of regular interaction with people. A fellowship of people who care does not just happen; you work at it in the daily contacts both small and prolonged.

Two. You'll have to learn to live with other people who think differently to you on a great many topics, some of which you're going to disagree on - and quite fervently, too.

Three. You'll have to learn to resolve conflict and most likely also how to live in tension with conflict. Because a community can't be built when people are constantly walking away.

Four. You'll have to learn to live in compromise. This does not mean "giving in all the time". It means working out what is a hard line and what is a soft line. And how to navigate that in the day-to-day.

Five. A willingness to face aging and death - our own and others. This is one of the biggies. Our society is very focused on youth and the young and the new, and we don't examine age and aging.

We often talk about capitalism as though it's the only evil in our world. It's certainly the big one.

However, hyper-individualism along with the endless focus on youth as significant to the exclusion of all else is just as destructive to the kind of co-operative communities that will be needed as a society as a whole grows older.

It feels taboo as a childfree person to admit this but I actually do have concerns about who is going to take care of me when I'm old. The elder care system in our nation relies A LOT on the unpaid care labor of adult children. I just don't think that's a good reason to have kids.

"But you'll have more money!" does not completely put this to rest for me. Neither does "Buy care insurance!" Even if I can afford direct personal care, who is going to advocate for me to get it? Who is going to navigate bureaucracy for me when I'm 80?

"If you do have kids, there's no GUARANTEE that they'll take care of you when your old!" That's true, but doesn't solve my problem.

I think childfree people get very defensive about this question because its used as a kind of "gotcha!" against us, but I actually do not feel we can afford to be in denial about this reality. Based on current trends of more people in their 30s stating they intend to be permanently childfree, we are going to see a huge wave of childfree adults hitting the eldercare system at once in a few decades. Childfree people in their 30s should be advocating around eldercare NOW.

[ex-foster]

[narwhalsarefalling]

my (cis) brother is using my old license to buy wine and it has the gender marker F on there. so whenever he gets asked he just says “oh i’m trans”. its literally worked every single time.

[humming-fly]

I love how Gerald was trying to keep Shadow from spoiling anything about the future meanwhile literally everything Shadow says and does around Maria is the biggest death flag ever

[asphodelles]

la petite mort

[fadesense]

folks, is it gay to kiss your boss

[aliceofwonders11]