#I’d be having different problems

[nimikyu]

I love being medicated for adhd but it makes times that I am unmedicated about 1000 times harder :/

[thefloatingwriter]

It feels pointed to insert Bee having a family and a bigger age game with Wire, like I got the feeling Collins is weirdly focused on ships (and squashing certain ones) with the new book because so much of the relationship changes were out of nowhere but also oddly definitive. Like Haymitch didn't just have a girlfriend, he "mated for life" and was obsessed. Beetee suddenly had a wife and kids. And for Bee it's like, hey we weren't the ones who wrote that he came back to life when talking about Wiress, we didn't write him as literally inseparable with her.

this is sooo true, and it feels completely random as well. like beetress is honestly such a small ship in comparison to so many other ships in the thg fandom, and virtually unproblematic from what i’ve seen and interacted with. it felt weird how suzanne shut it down indirectly through giving beetee a whole ass family (that was never mentioned before this point!!) and an age gap of around fifteen years. could be completely unrelated and nothing to do with beetress obviously, but still. weird.

the main problem i have with a lot of the romantic relationships displayed in the book is that it feels like a way of saying that people have one Person in a soulmates type of way. like haymitch’s girlfriend dies because of his actions and directly in front of him. yeah that would fuck me up too. but to never get into another relationship again??? it honestly just felt like such a waste. and yes traumatic experiences can cause many people to never truly heal, but it felt so sad to think of a forty year old man still stuck on his girlfriend from when he was sixteen.

and also yeah!!! suzanne wrote it first, we just took it and ran with it.

[gaudebo]

there is so much love in my heart and also im so sad

[someobscurereference]

i love love love the way you write fates/awakening trio and i'm curious how (if) you decide who their variable parents are in fic! any personality preferences? plot conveniences? gen 1 ships?

Firstly, thank you! I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed my writing! :D

Secondly, regarding their parents, over the years I’ve ended up falling into the same grooves again and again based on what I think is funniest/what makes sense. For example, I’ve seen a couple different posts from others on how Henry!Inigo makes sense (and some side dialogue from him about wild laughter on the battlefield in Fates intimidates enemies when he’s losing, which reminds me of Henry), so I end up going with that combination a lot. Plus, I imagine Inigo as a little below average height, so Henry (short) + Olivia (maybe taller than Henry but short) makes short Inigo imo.

Severa/Selena has such perfectionist fears because of her mom, so I think it makes sense to give her another parent who may accidentally exacerbate those concerns. Frederick is a perfectionist in many ways himself and it may not be on purpose but I do like the idea of Frederick!Severa as the other parental standard she has to live up to. So I tend to default to that (though I think I ended up with Vaike!Severa in play through before and actually liked that too. I’ve just never written it.) Plus, Severa tends to nitpick behavior and tell people what they should do. This gets a bit better in Fates, but I can imagine Frederick as a first time parent still lecturing other parents on what’s right and how the house should be always organized even if you’re exhausted, making home made baby foods, etc. So Frederick works for me.

I’ve written Henry!Owain a few times before as well because I also find that funny (Lissa and Owain are both so similar, even if they don’t always see it, that giving Owain an even more “out there” parent than Lissa that he thinks is so normal is funny to me), but I more often default to Lon’qu!Owain because their default outfits are the same. Since Owain idolizes his parents canonically and it’s easy to imagine him as a swordsman because he takes after swordsman parent, Lon’qu seems a good match. (I don’t know that I ever published it, but I have at least one other WIP where Maribelle & Lissa raise Owain and Brady with Lon’qu just as a genetic donor who is somewhat involved in their lives too. I guess I’m really flexible on Owain’s parentage, lol.)

So Inigo’s father is chosen for personality in battle + height (and white hair aesthetic, so Henry), Severa’s father is chosen for her picky personality + worsening her perfectionist insecurity (Frederick), and Owain’s parents are chosen based on Lissa dynamic (Maribelle) + funny (Henry) + aesthetic/imitation behavior (default to Lon’qu).

That said, even if I have reasoning for the above choices, these aren’t set in stone and I’m always willing to change to what’s funniest, lol. So if I’m presented with a funnier dynamic than any of the above or it makes sense in context, I’ll absolutely swap parents for any of them.

Thanks for asking! I can always get more specific with questions if needed if I didn’t answer enough here, lol.

[undead-moth]

The idea that Sydney deserves “more” than Carmy when Carmy has not intentionally lied to Syd, betrayed Syd, insulted Syd, took advantage of Syd, purposefully belittled, disrespected, ignored or harmed Syd, just really reads to me as, “Anyone who has ever been anything less than the perfect potential partner one hundred percent of the time, even during times of extreme stress and mental instability they can’t help, does not deserve to be in a relationship,” and like sorry but zero people like that exist.

No two people are going to be perfect to each other one hundred percent of the time. Every single person in a relationship is at some point going to be inconsiderate, oblivious, or hurtful. Every single person in a relationship is at some point going to let something unrelated to their relationship get to them, and affect their relationship. Every single one.

The way Carmy behaved this season was unhealthy, and he owes Syd an apology and a sincere effort to make up for it, but he has not done something unforgiveable. He has not even done anything exceptionally outside the almost inevitable mistakes people in relationships sometimes make.

And by the way, part of the problem they’re facing right now is on Sydney and The Bear has several scenes bringing that to our attention. I know the unhealthy behaviors Carmy is exhibiting are easier to hate, but relationships require honest communication. Sydney is not telling Carmy how she feels. She’s not communicating the problem. Even the time Carmy attempted to bring it up himself this season, Sydney avoided it. And while I think Carmy is on some level aware he’s fucking up, I don’t think it’s fair to say he knows exactly what he’s doing or to what degree it’s affecting Syd, especially because I don’t think Carmy even truly understands what he’s doing or the reason he’s doing it, and if Syd doesn’t tell him how it’s affecting her Carmy’s not going to know until it’s too late to handle smoothly.

I’m not saying Sydney is “bad too” and therefore deserving of Carmy or whatever, I’m saying they are both literally human and neither one of them being imperfect means a romantic relationship by default shouldn’t happen. They are never going to be perfect human beings who never fuck up and neither one is undeserving of the other because of this. Come on.

I know in sitcoms people are always perfect to each other and never have real problems and live happily ever after but The Bear is not like that.

These characters are supposed to be like real people. Real people aren’t perfect, even to their partners, even if their partners deserve perfect.

Carmy and Sydney both deserve each other if they want each other and are willing to work for it even when it’s hard and that’s just like. How all relationships between humans work like sorry to break it to you.

[napoftustar]

my best friend came to me said “one of our friends wanted to know/try out kpop and while others were sending blackpink, exo, bts songs i sent her txt!!! i’m the best, right???” HAHAHSGQGSHFJFJEJKDMQHF and i was like “proud of you lil soldier” hahsbdnwjqkdjxdmwkkf

[waywardstation]

with the anon talking about angry ingo, i assume when ingo caught wind akari was banished. i can see all hell broke loose specially ingo charging at clan galaxy leader

In regards to this ask

I’ve thought on this scenario and I can see what you’re saying anon! A lot of people go this route, but I like to think that perhaps in that situation he’d be more concerned over Akari’s safety out in the wilderness than going and attacking Kamado — at least if he did get involved at all.

Personally the only thing I can see causing him to get like this is if he got the chance to personally confront the thing that pulled him to Hisui.

So many theories — Arceus themselves, Giratina at Volo’s command to open rifts, an Ultra Beast through an Ultra Wormhole — I think each one would bring some level of anger to it, either at the situation or the entity that did it.

He was pulled right out of his life and lost everything dear to him against his will (I’m assuming), and was just left adrift in a murky haze. And then to possibly find out whatever did it doesn’t even care or know they stripped him of everything? Maybe he’d be more angry at the situation he’s found himself in rather than the entity that caused it at that point. I don’t know, I’d have to think about it more. ^^

[probablygayattorneys]

[raskies456]

literally just looking at various potential research labs for grad school and my brain has the audacity to give me the “fucking up the protein purification in front of everyone so badly they all think I’m an idiot” nightmare again

[autumnrory]

i do still think it’s so funny how often people would be like “well i don’t hear any difference in taylor’s version because i’m a real fan” like you do realize it was normal and expected for things to sound different not just vocally bc some of the production couldn’t be done the same way and also i imagine audio quality is greatly improved from ten+ years ago like you don’t have to be mad that people so much as notice differences you don’t have to be mad that there were disappointments in some of the changes (girl at home being a different song, better than revenge lyric change, audio on 1989, etc) like oh my god it was not a personal attack on taylor to critique an aspect of her art it’s never a personal attack to do so lmao it’s fine if you never wanna engage in criticism of something you enjoy but people choosing to do so doesn’t negate their enjoyment lmao you can still acknowledge her immense talent while sometimes saying hey i think this could’ve been done differently

[no1ryomafan]

My main focus of video essays rn is the Kikaider one-which is only a bit stuck in limbo since I have not gotten feedback on my script rip-and I’m trying to hold back on doing ideas until/if I even enjoy the process past the scripts but I’ve been rotating in my head on doing a ranking video for all of imagawas mechas cause he’s still the one dude who’s adaptations have had a profound impact on me so at the very least I wanna rank them either as a video or at most as a post just the problem comes 1. I will be ABSOLUTELY jumped for my ranks even if I’ll give genuine criticism 2. I need to still watch shin tetsujin and finish shin mazinger and neither of those have been a compelling thing for me to do, putting aside I may be mecha fatigue as per usual but I worry to go into them and get a mixed or negative reaction- especially with the second one that I’ve literally put off for years 💀

[seilon]

one day i will make my ultimate dream video essay. which is where i go around to every chiropractic business in my area that offers free consultations and tell them all the same set of symptoms (real or not) and document how different each of their responses is re: what is supposedly wrong with me. my hypothesis is that i will get a range of answers like my legs being uneven or my spine being too hunched or a knot being between my ribs or whatever, thus proving that they’re just bullshitting to me to sign up for however many weeks or months of “treatment” and consistently give them money for doing nothing of value at all

[coal-wings-and-cold-fronts]

Honestly people who get their panties in a twist over picky eaters enjoying “childish” foods when dining out are the epitome of that “quit having fun!” meme

[oblivioustoast]

had a dream i started going by the name charlotte at a new place of work (or a school?) and now i’m like hmmm… what if i did change my identity

[alatariel-galadriel]

Big Decisions (tm) are approaching, which is bad enough, but I also do not have full control of the end results of those decisions. 0/10.

[werewolfdog]

You know, I never really thought when we started working for the very first time in last November, I’d get to meet someone from work who cares about me a lot as they end up meaning so highly much to me.