#Personalgrowth

[little-tiffany]

Don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[catinaltar]

Goddess of Moss & Meltdowns 🧚🏻🌱🐘🍄

[glowettee]

🦢 you don't need more tips, you need to trust yourself

hey lovelies!! mindy here, back with another "no aesthetics post". so i've been thinking about this a lot lately (like, literally in the middle of the night when i should be sleeping but my brain won't shut up??) and i realized something that honestly changed everything for me. we're all obsessed with consuming advice, tips, strategies… but at some point we need to ask: is all this "help" actually helping?

i used to be that girl with 27 self-help books on her nightstand, 14 productivity podcasts in my queue, and approximately 10000 saved posts about "how to live your best life." i was drowning in good advice. and yet? i wasn't actually doing anything with it all.

here's the uncomfortable truth that i personally learned: collecting self-help is often just another form of procrastination. we trick ourselves into thinking we're making progress because we're "learning," but we're actually just avoiding the scary part, taking action when we don't feel ready.

✧ when you know it's become a problem:

you feel like you need to read "just one more" article before starting

you have notebooks filled with advice you've never implemented

you follow dozens of gurus but haven't committed to any single approach

you constantly switch systems hoping to find the "perfect" one

you know what to do but still feel paralyzed

you use phrases like "once i learn enough about x, then i'll start"

you feel overwhelmed by conflicting advice but keep seeking more

the most painful realization? all this consumption is actually making you less confident. every new piece of advice makes you question your instincts more. every contradicting tip makes you doubt your judgment. every perfect "before and after" makes you wonder what's wrong with you.

✧ why we get stuck in the advice loop:

consuming feels safe. implementing feels risky. reading about someone else's success story gives us the emotional satisfaction of achievement without any of the messy work or potential failure. it's like emotional junk food, momentarily satisfying but ultimately empty.

plus, there's something so alluring about the promise that the next book, the next course, the next system will finally be THE ONE that changes everything. we become collectors of solutions rather than solvers of problems.

✧ how to break free (ironic, i know… more advice):

declare an information fast. seriously. no new self-help for at least 30 days. it will feel uncomfortable, like an itch you can't scratch. that's how you know you need it.

pick ONE system or approach you've already learned and commit to it fully. not perfectly, just consistently. the magic isn't in finding the perfect system, it's in the consistent application of any decent one.

start before you feel ready. that knot in your stomach when you think about taking action? that's your growth edge. the discomfort isn't a sign to seek more knowledge, it's the signal that you're about to grow.

recognize that implementation creates wisdom that consumption never will. you'll learn more from a week of messy action than a year of perfect theory.

identify your "consumption triggers" do you reach for advice when you're afraid? uncertain? compare yourself to others? notice the emotional patterns.

create an "already know" document. write down everything you already know about your goal. you'll be shocked at how much wisdom you already possess.

trust that you are the expert on your own life. external advice can inform you, but it can never know the nuances of your specific situation like you do.

the truth is, you already know enough. you've probably known enough for a while now. the answers you're seeking outside yourself are usually already within you, buried under layers of doubt and other people's opinions.

what if the most radical act of self-improvement isn't finding new advice, but trusting the wisdom you already have? what if you already have everything you need?

so this is my gentle nudge to put down the self-help, close the tabs, unfollow the gurus (yes, even me if you need to), and start the messy, imperfect process of actually living instead of just learning about living.

because honestly, the world doesn't need more people who know all the right theories. it needs people brave enough to take imperfect action on what they already know.

xoxo, mindy 🤍

p.s. if you're wondering "but how will i know what to do without guidance?", that's exactly the point. you won't know for certain. and that uncertainty is where the real growth happens. trust yourself anyway.

[fhealync]

✨ Shift your perspective, and you'll see the magic all around you! 💛

📢 Comment below, what’s something good that happened to you today?

[moonshadowmystique]

The Right Person at the Wrong Time - A Reflection on Timing and Connection

All our lives, we have heard stories that involve the right person turning up at the wrong time. This concept is jarringly alarming because it layer-peels the facade of finding the right individual in regard to love, connection, or relationship. This indicates, if explained better, that two people fitting for each other might fail to emerge when the various elements of life are against their coming together.

What does it even mean to meet the right person at the wrong time?

The Complexity in Timing

Timing is an invisible force that shapes the connections we make, often in ways of which we are barely aware. You might meet your dream person, that person who checks all the boxes or sees the world through a filter instituted by your soul. But with you not being emotionally available, probably still recovering from injuries of the past, or perhaps in the middle of some personal crisis, such connection might just not blossom. On the other hand, it could be them who is dealing with troubles at this stage, which means they cannot also be fully present.

This is extra challenging because, by nature of things, there is tension between what we feel and what reality presents. There is almost something tragic in the beauty of having found someone incredible but at the wrong time. You're forced, then, to think that love and connection are about more than logical matches, but two lives crossing at a certain point where access and readiness are aligned.

The 'What If' Paradox

That is the question that will haunt when the right person shows up at the wrong time: What if things were different? It's such a haunting thought, and then you are left to wonder how, in some other world, maybe it would have worked between the two of you. You have a vision of how this might have been the case with another chapter of your life. You could run yourself into sleepless nights with 'what ifs' and yearn for something that may never be resolved.

But harboring such questions in one's mind forever would render living in the present light of day an impossibility. It is very human to reflect on the paths not taken, but living in the country of 'what ifs' blinds you to the new opportunities staring you in the face.

Growth, Timing, and Readiness

It might be that meeting the right person at the wrong time sometimes serves a great purpose. Sometimes such experiences will teach us more about ourselves, or perhaps are a reflection of where we need to grow or what we need to let go of to be truly ready for a meaningful connection in the future. Other times, the person you meet is but a mirror reflecting the work yet to be done on yourself.

That person may remind you that deep love is deserved by you, even if at the time that is not fated to be with them. They may provide a catalyzing agent that impels you to align your life through means that serve to better prepare you in the future for a relationship be it with them or someone else.

Embracing Imperfection

One of the most painful things we may learn is that imperfection meets us around every corner in life, and love is no different. Yes, even when we think we have found that person who fits every category on our ostensibly perfect list, it's not as if the universe necessarily plays a role in ensuring that all that lines up. That's just part of the mystery—and frustration—of being human.

But perhaps, other than cruel fate, that is the profound message: love is not about everything working out perfectly. It means the understanding that connections, no matter the depth, sometimes do not come out with fairy tales. It is about embracing the will-o'-the-wisps, beautiful moments for what they are and not necessarily needing them to last.

Moving Forward with Ease

So, what happens when you are in this situation? There isn't some simple answer to this proposition, nor is a one-size-fits-all solution for anything. Some can hold onto the hope that one day, in the future, the timing shall be right and the stars align. While others let go, realizing that even while a connection was powerful, yet it simply wasn't meant to be a permanent fixture in our lives.

Both are correct. The key is to move with elegance. Life, with all the moments of its unpredictability, is a journey that's really full of twists and turns. That person at the wrong time could have been one chapter in your story, but it need not define the whole narrative. Every experience in life adds to your growth, even the bittersweet ones.

Ultimately, the concept of meeting the right person at the wrong time invites us to consider what love, timing, and self-awareness are all about. It reminds us that not everything is about chemistry but about being prepared—about two people meeting at the crossroads of their journeys in life, ready to take that step together. And sometimes, such journeys are meant to meet only briefly, leaving an indelible mark but no permanent union. In those moments, we can only respectfully acknowledge the bond for what it was and know that each interaction—every human contact—is a part of our development and continues to shape us into who we are and who we will become.

[renegadeurbanmediasource]

Uh-oh! Here we go "blaming" others for our "problems"

[pinkpetalbee]

[theirlmagicalgirl]

becoming that girl - an action plan

ah, we’ve all heard about that girl, the ultimate it girl who wakes up at five in the morning, eats healthy, never misses a workout and, most of all, has her life together. except that girl is not a person, a list of wellness trends, or an aesthetic—it’s a feeling. it’s how you feel when you put yourself first and focus on both healing and improving yourself, but how can we really become that girl when we're basically starting from scratch? that’s when the that girl action plan comes into play!

while a that girl lifestyle is more of a long term thing, there I definitely short term things you can do NOW.

there will never be a right time, stop waiting and start doing.

with this short term plan you can change your mindset as soon as you start because, after all, if you feel mid you're not going to want to take care of yourself, right? so do whatever you can to align yourself to that girl ;

get yourself dolled up ; do your makeup, wear clothes you feel good in, have a fancy hairdo, whatever makes you feel beautiful curate your space ; make it intentional, relaxing and clear. clean, reorganize, decorate - make it a space you want to stay in!

it takes twenty-one days to build a habit, and ninety days to build a lifestyle.

while it's nice to feel like that girl for one day, in the end it’s more about the that girl lifestyle, which is built on strong habits. there’s no need to wake up at five am if you know that isn't going to work for you long term, instead try to focus on things which might feel small but will end up making a big difference.

set time aside for yourself ; connect with your best self by setting some time aside for yourself every day, whenever it fits best. spend at least an hour doing things that makes you feel great, whether it’s a skincare routine, exercising, meditating or reading. move your body ;  it’s said that a hundred minutes of moderate-intensity exercise a week is can improve your mood, boost your energy and increase the quality of your sleep, that’s only about fifteen minutes a day, so you can definitely make time for it! nourish yourself like you already are that girl ; take care of your body from the inside too, so stay hydrated, eat enough and healthy, take vitamins if you need it or make a meal plan if it’ll help you stay on track! stay organized ; have you ever seen that girl having a messy space? no, so do a bit of tidy up everyday, stick to a cleaning routine, do a bit of chores everyday, whatever helps you stay on top of it! a clean space for a clean mind. work on yourself ; whether its picking up a new hobby, doing a bit of self care every week, journaling or going to therapy - put in that work! there’s no use in being so physically attractive if your brain isn't.

after reading about the guidelines on how to properly be that girl, what will you implement in your action plan? i'll be posting my own soon!

if you like this post please like, reblog or drop me a follow, i'd really appreciate it!

[addicted2wasps]

Overcoming bullies and finding a silver lining in even the darkest of moments, is a formidable skill! "Blankface" (important to note that it says BLANK and not BLACK, please read carefully), is a reference to how colony members of Polistes dominula determine their hierarchy and dominance via the severity of the scatteredness in the colouration of the clypeus (face). (I'm aware that the photo displayed below is of a different Polistes species entirely.)

Lep in this context is short for her name "Lepidolite" (which is a purple mineral), but it's also a reference to the insect order Lepidoptera which consists of butterflies and moths. This is a refurbished idea from an old comic I drew in 2018. I was going through mental turmoil during that time, and was putting my ideas on paper, and venting my bullying experiences from the past as a result. Lots to unpack here, but I've been depressed for a while, and it was nice to draw something again, even if it's a silly cartoon.

[echoesofphilip]

[little-tiffany]

My therapist said, "You like taking care of people because it heals the part of you that needed someone to take care of you."

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[zibethrose]

Let love light your path,

guide your steps, and

shape your journey.

Embrace your journey

with courage, for in the

embrace of love, we find

strength to rise above the storm,

and dance amidst the rain. ``

Recognize that love give

strength in every step,

guiding you through life's

tangled routes of right and w

rong to lead you home.

Fear not, for love guides y

ou through growth, the

healing balm to your wounds.  

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[glowettee]

⋆⭒˚｡⋆ how to reset your life in 1 hour (the micro-reset guide) ⋆⭒˚｡⋆

hi lovelies, mindy from @glowettee here !!

sometimes i feel overwhelmed and stuck, so i specifically created this routine whenever i just need to reset my life quickly. here's how i do it in one short post <3 - mindy

key points:

step 1: declutter one space (10 minutes): clear your desk, purse, or phone notifications. a small, clean space = a fresh mindset.

step 2: move your body (15 minutes): stretch, dance, or go for a walk to shake off mental cobwebs.

step 3: hydrate and snack (10 minutes): grab water and a nourishing snack to refuel.

step 4: brain dump (15 minutes): write down everything on your mind (to-dos, worries, ideas) and organize it into priorities.

step 5: do one productive task (10 minutes): pick a small, achievable task and get it done. finishing something boosts confidence and momentum.