#Self-Help

[prokopetz]

r/selfhelp: Got the divine alchemy of the self confused with actual alchemy, accidentally turned my dick to gold. What do I do?

[emotionalwords]

Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means it no longer controls our lives

Anuprita

[fortuneaday]

[thepersonalquotes]

Once you feel nice about yourself, you have planted the first seed to develop self-confidence.

Stephen Richards, Develop Jedi Self-Confidence: Unleash the Force within You

[noosphe-re]

The tension of the future is unbearable in us. It must break through narrow cracks, it must force new ways. You want to cast off the burden, you want to escape the inescapable. Running away is deception and detour. Shut your eyes so that you do not see the manifold, the outwardly plural, the tearing away and the tempting. There is only one way and that is your way; there is only one salvation and that is your salvation. Why are you looking around for help? Do you believe that help will come from outside? What is to come is created in you and from you. Hence look into yourself. Do not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you.

C.G. Jung, The Red Book: Liber Novus, edited and introduced by Sonu Shamdasani

[thepersonalwords]

You have a choice: pursue your dreams, or be hired by someone else to help them fulfill their dreams.

Jay Samit, Disrupt You!: Master Personal Transformation, Seize Opportunity, and Thrive in the Era of Endless Innovation

[gallifreywhere]

Just go ahead in all your beliefs, and prove to me I am not mistaken in mine.

-Dhawan!Master

My heart🥹

[savagechickens]

The Hoarder.

And more mess.

[the-healing-mindset]

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[fuzzyghost]

Subliminal Self-Help Tapes - Audio Activation (1980s)

[prokopetz]

Somebody should write one of those goofy self-help manuals that tries to derive a universal life philosophy by overanalysing The Art of War, except instead of The Art of War, it's overanalysing entry-level gameplay advice for bullet hell shooters. I bet you could make "don't aim for where your target is – aim for where it's going to be" and "we're drawn to the focus of our attention; centre your gaze not on the obstacles to your progress, but on the spaces between" sound real deep with the right spin.

[emotionalwords]

Success is simply never giving in to failure - either in mind or body.

Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

[thepersonalwords]

Make peace with your fears; after all, they are only imaginary friends.

Samer Chidiac

[fertilisedovumcell]

Passive dependency

Source: The Road Less Travelled - M. Scott Peck

Passive dependency has its genesis in lack of love.

The inner feeling of emptiness from which passive dependent people suffer is the direct result of their parents' failure to fulfil their needs for affection, attention and care during their child-hood.

It was mentioned in the first section that children who are loved and cared for with relative consistency throughout childhood enter adulthood with a deep-seated feeling that they are lovable and valuable and therefore will be loved and cared for as long as they remain true to themselves.

Children growing up in an atmosphere in which love and care are lacking or given with gross inconsistency enter adulthood with no such sense of inner security.

Rather, they have an inner sense of insecurity, a feeling of "I don't have enough" and a sense that the world is unpredictable and ungiving, as well as a sense of themselves as being questionably lovable and valuable.

It is no wonder, then, that they feel the need to scramble for love, care and attention

wherever they can find it, and once having found it, cling to it with a desperation that leads them to unloving, manipulative, Machiavellian behaviour that destroys the very relationships they seek to preserve.

As also indicated in the previous section, love and discipline go hand in hand, so that unloving, uncaring parents are people lacking in discipline, and when they fail to provide their children with a sense of being loved, they also fail to provide them with the capacity for self-discipline.

Thus the excessive dependency of the passive dependent individuals is only the principal manifestation of their personality disorder.

Passive dependent people lack self-discipline.

They are unwilling or unable to delay gratification of their hunger for attention.

In their desperation to form and preserve attachments they throw honesty to the winds. They cling to outworn relationships when they should give them up. Most important, they lack a sense of responsibility for themselves.

They passively look to others, frequently even their own children, as the source of their happiness and fulfilment, and therefore when they are not happy or fulfilled they basically feel that others are responsible.

Consequently they are endlessly angry, because they endlessly feel let down by others who can never in reality fulfil all their needs or "make" them happy.

I have a colleague who often tells people, "Look, allowing yourself to be dependent on another person is the worst possible thing you can do to yourself. You would be better off being dependent on heroin. As long as you have a supply of it, heroin will never let you down; if it's there, it will always make you happy. But if you expect another person to make you happy, you'll be endlessly disappointed."

As a matter of fact, it is no accident that the most common disturbance that passive dependent people manifest beyond their relationships to others is dependency on drugs and alcohol.

Theirs is the "addictive" personality.

"They are addicted to people, sucking on them and gobbling them up, and when people are not available to be sucked and gobbled, they often turn to the bottle or the needle or the pill as a people-substitute."

In summary, dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not love; it is a form of antilove. It has its genesis in a parental failure to love and it perpetuates the failure.

It seeks to receive rather than to give. It nourishes infantilism rather than growth. It works to trap and constrict rather than to liberate. Ultimately it destroys rather than builds relationships, and it destroys rather than builds people.

[fizermusic]

It's okay to reach out.mp4 by,Autumn Hart,