#ace representation

[jowithavianwings]

I don’t use this blog for reblogging stuff very much, but y’all should read this

i realized i have Power so i made a castoff propaganda poster

also the site ui is cool. in case you still needed convincing

[black-ace-culture-is]

Yasmin Benoit with other aspecs and queer people at the Ace of Clubs, a temporary asexual club in London created in collaboration with AVEN and Budweiser UK in 2019.

[sonictacocat]

What we currently have:

Squish - a platonic interest/attraction to another person

Crush - a (romantic) interest/attraction to another person

I would like to propose:

Crunch - a sexual interest/attraction to another person

(Let me know if this already exists)

Edit: Apparently it does exist, it is called a "squash".

[girlfailuregawain]

A lot of the time when I find lists of books with asexual characters, they have loads of YA and coming-of-age books, which is great! It's lovely! And it's certainly relatable for a lot of young aces. But I'm 30 and I didn't figure out I was aspec until I was an adult.

I'm perfectly capable of projecting aspec identities on unlabeled characters (I have lots of practice) but it would be nice to have more aspec characters who are already adults and past the coming-of-age stage of life.

Anyone got recs like that?

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[thecommunalfoolboy]

It’s crazy how many people just don’t understand why a lot of aro and or ace people don’t like that Alaster gets shipped. It’s not that hard to understand we don’t have a lot to let ourselves lose. I mean can you name 10 asexual characters? 5? Can you name two aro characters. There’s the guy from Archie who they made have a sex scene in a movie version. There’s a few books. I think a background character in Heartstopper? Do you see the theme here??? You’re all queer people, do you not get it? How it feels to have nothing? Is it so wrong to be upset that there’s finally an outwardly aroace person in popular media and instead of people embracing that they’re fighting on the internet about why it’s ok to ignore it? And I will never in my fucking life have anything against the people who are aro and or ace and portray him in THEIR experiences, even if it is a romance or sex favorable experience, but it is obvious that way too many of you guys are allo and it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t even like him as a character that much, he isn’t even made by an aroace artist. The show isn’t even that fucking good, I just want to keep someone like me for once in my life. If there were a million other aroace characters I wouldn’t care, but it just hurts seeing erasure coming from my own community. It just sucks, man, I don’t know. It just sucks

[poppletoninkzine]

Asexual Books

Loveless by Alice Oseman

Sounds Fake But Okay by Sarah Costello and Kayla Kaszyca

Is Love The Answer? by Uta Isaki

City Of Strife by Claudie Arseneault

This Doesn't Mean Anything by Sarah Whaler

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning Of Sex by Angela Chen

Sawkill Girls by Claire Legrand

Vanilla by Billy Merrell

Paper Planes by Jennie Wood

Being Ace: An Anthology Of Queer, Trans, Femme, and Disabled Stories of Asexual Love and Connection by Various Authors

Let's Talk About Love by Claire Kann

Rick by Alex Gino

Wren Martin Ruins It All by Amanda DeWitt

Love, Ace & Monsters: An Ace Anthology by Various Authors

Summer Of Salt by Katrina Leno

[leikeliscomet]

Racism in the ace community is seen as a joke from the outside and a confusing concept in the inside but it's pretty bait tbh:

Barbie, Wednesday and Elsa are ace-coded but not canon aces but they're widely accepted as ace icons in the community. Lacking genitalia, disliking romance and being single are not inherently asexual yet the community happily claims them as ace solely on those reasons. But Selah Summers? Nah she actually didn't say the words "aroace" even though the director confirmed it so she didn't really count. Abbi Singh? Nah she had a girlfriend and her superpower is being a succubus and it's not like the Imperfects actually addressed the themes of an asexual lesbian South Asian woman and her sexuality or anything. Fei Hargreeves? Well yeah the actress and producer confirmed it but she never said it on screen. Ace characters of colour always get held "screened" for approval to be "real rep" in a way white aces aren't its so weird (this also happens to gay aces but that's another post)

Almost anything involving Yasmin Benoit. The reason she's unacceptable ace rep is because of misogynoir. She's spoken so many times about never dating and not having sex (which mind you is none of our business and she shouldn't need to explain herself in the 1st place) and yet she's "too sexual" to represent the community. Again with the nitpicking, popular white ace accounts were so quick to dogpile her for not-so-good takes but when she speaks about racism? Crickets. When she spoke about sexual harassment? Crickets and not only that but they defended her harasser. The main ace activists that defended her were other Black aspecs.

Not understanding how desexualisation affects POC. Specifically, Black women are excluded from representations of love and sex because we're seen as undesirable. It's common for TV/Film to pair up everyone but the Black girl, or have a rebound Black partner for the non-Black main character who's disposed of when they're ready for their "real" non-Black partner again. This isn't done for Black aspecs benefit. It's a form of dehumanisation. Friendship especially in m/f is needed but exclusively pushing for friendship between Black women and non-Black men when there is romance coded or confirmed and shaming Black women in fandom or in show for shipping the Black female character is not doing what you think its doing.

Not understanding how sexualisation effects POC. Again linking to Yasmin, POC, especially Black people have been sexualised due to white supremacy. The "allosexual privilege" framework fails to acknowledge this because Black people's sexual attraction and sex is seen as aggressive and animalistic. Black people aren't "allowed" to be ace because of this sexualisation and why Yasmin regardless of what she wears or does is seen is too promiscuous.

Not acknowledging ace POC as ace rep. Again, where was the acknowledgement of Selah and the Spades as groundbreaking rep? The first aroace darkskin Black girl as a lead in any film? Sherronda J Brown spoke about Big Mouth's Black ace character and someone said it didn't count just bc they dislike the show. Again with Abbi and Fei the community didn't make noise for them like they did Todd from Bojack Horseman or Florence from Sex Ed (mind you the gap between how they did Florence vs O is jarring in itself) Isaac from Heartstopper was inspirational for many aspecs and I wont take that away but the way he's instantly credited for ace representation when he has so little screentime compared to the others is wild.

Just tired tbh. "Listen to POC aces!" "POC aces are valid!" Prove it then...?

[newyorkcityaces]

Master Chief is Kind of an Asexual Icon and No One Can Change My Mind

Master Chief doesn’t flirt. He doesn’t hook up. He doesn’t even look at people that way.

And yet, he has one of the most powerful, emotionally-charged connections in gaming — with Cortana. It’s deep, loyal, intimate, and completely non-sexual.

That’s ace-coded royalty, right there.

💬 No Romance, No Problem

Across multiple Halo games, novels, and even the show, Master Chief:

Has zero sexual partners.

Doesn’t engage in romantic subplots.

Doesn’t even hint at interest in anyone physically.

He's too busy saving the galaxy — and honestly? He just doesn’t seem to care. That’s not how he connects.

🤝 Loyalty > Lust

Chief shows his love by:

Protecting people with his life.

Trusting Cortana with his every thought.

Staying behind, finishing the mission, never leaving anyone behind.

His version of closeness isn’t about sex or romance — it’s about presence, purpose, and protection. That’s a form of intimacy a lot of aces get.

🛠️ Purpose-Driven, Not Pleasure-Seeking

Everything about Chief’s life is structured around:

Duty

Honor

Survival

There’s no desire for pleasure, seduction, or even flirting. His body is a tool, not a statement. He exists to serve a mission, not to fulfill tropes of sexual masculinity.

🌈 Ace-Coded Masculinity That Hits Different

Where most action heroes are hypersexualized, Chief is:

Quiet

Stoic

Emotionally vulnerable only to those he truly trusts

He’s never reduced to a love interest. Never sexualized. And never portrayed as needing sex to be whole. He’s complete as he is.

💜 Chief x Cortana: Queerplatonic Vibes

They’re not lovers. They’re not just partners. They’re something more rare — deep soul-bonded allies.

It’s not romantic. It’s not sexual. It’s intimate in a way that lives between the lines.

And honestly? That’s one of the most ace-coded dynamics in all of sci-fi.

🏁 TL;DR: Master Chief is ace-coded. He redefines what intimacy, masculinity, and connection can look like — and he doesn’t need sex or romance to do it.

💥 We stan an emotionally armored legend.

[starchilddante]

Every ace person NEEDS this freaking book

It has a dozen fiction stories with ace characters all over the spectrum and in so many genres. Im talking ghost stories, supernatural, drama, sci-fi, you name it. I've literally cried three times while reading it I feel so seen

This is the representation ace people need. In every category. We need full length novels dedicated to the ace experience because this would've SAVED me as a kid.

If you're on the aspec, this books is for you.

[soaringbubblegum]

Some time ago I wrote a cracky oneshot thing where Jason is asexual (like moi, lol) and honestly I can't tell if it's stupid or brilliant.

The entire Batfam is trying to figure out why Jason’s never dated anyone ever, and their theories get wild. Dick is just deeply, deeply Concerned™.

Then they awkwardly confront him, and Jason’s just like: “Wait, you guys actually look at people and want to have sex with them??? I thought that was, like… a joke??”

And boom. He finds out he’s ace. Because no one told him that wasn’t just society being weird. He died at 15, came back vengeance-obsessed and feral, and never got the memo that libido was real.

[black-ace-culture-is]

Black ace culture is wishing the ace community cared about Selah Summers being the first aromantic-asexual Black girl in TV/Film history

[justcallmemrslupin]

Remus Lupin is Canonically Straight!

(And aroace coded)

Many people ship canonically straight characters and that's fine. Everyone has their fantasies, fetiches and favourite tropes. But when it comes to Remus Lupin, some people — Marauders fans again, of course 🙄— say he's implied to be gay or bi in canon.

Let me just correct you right there: No. he's not. He's actually heavily implied to be grey aroace. I'm sorry, ship what you want but this is not a matter of Interpretation. It is what it is. Full stop.

So, let’s sit down, pour some tea, and straighten out a few things (pun not intended, but I’ll take it):

Remus John Lupin is canonically straight.

• He had a mild crush on Lily Evans (stated by J.K. Rowling in an interview).

• He fell in love with and married Nymphadora Tonks. He had never fallen in love before! Never.

His romantic arc is exclusively with women.

His official biography states that he had never fallen in love before Tonks. If you’re still arguing, you’re not arguing with an interpretation. You’re arguing with a direct statement. That’s not canon-adjacent. That’s just canon.

David Thewlis is a brilliant actor — and a notorious joker.

He’s witty. He’s playful. He cracked a joke about Lupin being gay because Cuarón (the director) told him to play the character like a “gay junkie.”

Everyone on set laughed. Because it was a joke. It was behind-the-scenes direction and performance.

The metaphor of lycanthropy is about stigma.

Specifically, J.K. Rowling said it represents “the stigma surrounding blood-borne diseases such as AIDS.”

That’s about how society treats people, not a metaphor for queerness.

(Side note: Not all people with AIDS are gay, and not all gay people have AIDS — let’s not regress 40 years in our public understanding.)

Remus as queer representation

You know who else is emotionally repressed, guilt-ridden, touch-starved, and awkward around romance? Aroace people.

If anything, canon leans toward grey aroace, not toward any gay or bi reading.

He spent most of his life avoiding love, never fell in love until his mid-30s, and struggled with intimacy due to trauma and internalized stigma. That’s aroace spectrum, baby.

So... Just write your fanfics and be happy. But let people who apreciate canon and who seek true representation be happy too.

[bizarreaizen]

religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!

asexuals: okay

religious conservatives: wait no, not like that Σ(゜゜) /hj

[aamellow]

WE LOVE ACE REP THAT ISN'T JUST ROBOTS ‼️‼️‼️

(I'm planning on making this a sticker!! )

[freesidexjunkie]

I appreciate a lot of parts of The Outer Worlds but one thing I really fucking love is Parvati

Talking to you about being asexual but yes she still wants a girlfriend. No sex isn't on her mind, that doesn't make her a child or emotionless even though people have told her it makes her "cold." She has plenty of love to give and that doesn't really connect to sex for her and I just. Thank you outer worlds I love you 🥺🥺