#and we are not allowed to grieve
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when you bash maddie for being a bad "parent" to buck, this is who you're being mean to btw
#this literal fetus had to raise an infant on her own!#while grieving her dead brother who she wasn’t even allowed to talk about#leave her the fuck alone!!!!#that being said i do think we should bully jlh for her horrendous ghost whisperer era bangs#those are awful#maddie han#maddie buckley#evan buckley#buck buckley#911#911 abc
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Terrorism has no religion
Attacks on Hindu Religious Sites and Pilgrims-
2006 Varanasi Bombings
2002 Akshardham Temple Attack
2000 Amarnath Pilgrimage Massacre
Massacres of Hindu Civilians -
1998 Chapnari Massacre
2006 Doda Massacre
1993 Kishtwar Massacre
2001 Kishtwar Massacres
1998 Chamba Massacre
And ofcourse, how can we forget, Pahalgam 2025.
Me spewing hateful comments???
Ok, then why did the terrorists ask the hindu men to remove their pants? To check if they had an aadhar card? Why did they ask them to recite the kalma?
It was a religion based attack, and if you don't think so, you're delusional and completely wrong. And its not the first of its kind.
Terrorism doesn't have a religion yet somehow only one religion is unaffected by terrorism.
#and as for Israel and phalistan#There is no politically correct side in this.Neither side is 100% innocent or guilty.#my problem is when crimes are commited against muslims by hindu groups i dont see any hindu rejoicing or making fun of muslims#or victim blaming etc etc#but when the opposite happens#the impact is always downplayed#hindus are made out to be bad or wrong#and we are not allowed to grieve#why take away this?#and islam against sanatan dharm has a long standing history. since the invasions from eons ago#like its not even recent??? hindu women were raped and hindu men massacred??? ever since then???#your whole argument is just so so one sided#and i wouldnt be surprised if you are a hindu
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JK's creations need to be purged from the public conscious. The next generations need to have never heard of HP.
And I was a person who was Harry's age & literally grew up with the books. She betrayed us, she broke our hearts, & now attacking us.
History should remember her only as a fascist.
And yes, purge includes the fandom.
You need to file those memories away as fond memories. Remember the joy, those are YOUR memories, but close the door on that time. It's over, and it's her own fault.
She betrayed ALL OF US. Don't let her hold anymore control over you. Find another fav.
All I know is that I've never felt more motivated to sit down & write my own novel, & create even more queer comics.
Drown out her lie of a series with better stuff. Flood the market w/ beautiful creations.
This is OUR world. NOT hers.
#set yourself free#but you're absolutely allowed to grieve what she did to us#you can feel something#but we need to stop giving her legitimacy & protecting her platform with the cultural hold she has#find a new fav#create a new fav#whatever motivates you to create DO#rename the ppl in your fics & put your writing out there as something else#take back your heart from her world#she is not owed such reverence I promise you
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just in case you're wondering how bad antisemitism is online by now: my friend had to take down the memorial post she made on IG for her dad and stepmum (who died less than a week ago) bc people were spamming it with "free palestine" and "two less zionists is a good thing" comments
#antisemitism#I'm. tired#why is it that we are never allowed to grieve? why is our pain always politicised? why does it feel like jewish pain never matters?#what are we supposed to do with our grief and our pain and our sorrow? where are we allowed to put it?#I told a pal from uni abt it and was told to 'stop playing the victim' :)
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Feel like Neil couldn’t have been any other kind of actor than one in theatre. If he was a movie actor or on social media or whatnot, it would not be the same. Theatre by nature is fleeting. Recorded mediums can be rewatched over and over, creating a time loop of sorts. We the audience can keep going back to a time when Neil is still alive. Theatre however is live and once the play is over, there is no going back except in our memories. It is much like life. We are forced to live in the moment in a theater lest we miss it altogether. It’s not that the poets choose to live in a world where Neil is dead, it’s that they must because the only other option is to die themselves. I feel like Keatings teachings could only be reflected in stage theatre because that’s the only way there can be no time loop of grief. I think dead poets society itself isn’t about overcoming the authority in your life to do what you want but rather about grief, about allowing oneself to feel grief and all one’s emotions without letting it consume you and to keep living after, to live every day in the moment lest you fall into grief and regret that will destroy you or force you into a miserable life
#just silly ramblings don’t mind me just ignore me 🫣#keating was teaching the boys catharsis as a means of survival and how to process their emotions so they don’t overcome them in a world#that convinces them to pretend they don’t feel at all; that’s why he focuses on the romantics rather than the realists because the romantic#is there to help you process your emotions of sorrow and joy; and that’s why he told Charlie he was misunderstanding the teachings when he#was acting out but not Neil when Neil was trying to get out of the grief over the person he wishes he could be; keating taught him that his#father was standing over an empty grave grieving the son he wanted and that Neil doesn’t have to lie in that grave just to satisfy his#fathers grief but can go to his father as he is and ask him to accept this version of himself and the son he is and his father rejected and#that is why Neil thought the only way to truly overcome his father was by allowing his father to grieve him over grieving the son he wanted#and Mr. Keating was crying over Neil but we don’t see him rage out like the school; Mr. Keating grieved Neil and moved forward with life#whereas all the other administration and Neil’s father will not be able to because they refuse to recognize any emotion but rage so they#feel they must go on a wrathful journey to try to process their grief; idk I think the whole story was about teaching the boys not to be#afraid of their emotions and that they must feel their emotions to process them and get through and I think this message just happens to be#counter to the norm we were told our whole lives but also necessary to be full people and I think that is why this movie sticks with so#many and why so many hold it so dear to them; it’s a story about grief and emotions and moving forward with life after the fact#it’s about feeling in a world that tries to convince you that there are ‘bad’ emotions and that you must not feel certain things and that’s#where overcoming authority comes in and the anti authority message of the franchise stems from#neil perry#dead poets society#dps#dead poets fandom#dps fandom#mr keating#john keating#dps symposium
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"I came here as a stranger, as a stranger I leave again."
The Terror (2018) + Winterreise (Franz Schubert, text by Wilhelm Müller)
English Translations by Michèle Lester
Context & thoughts below the cut:
I think Winterreise works really well alongside The Terror. Beyond the base similarity of "going on a long doomed journey through the cold" I just think the vibes match up really well. I first made the connection when I was listening to No. 23, where the singer witnesses a morning sun dog and compares the two false suns to the eyes of the woman he'll never see again:
Winterreise (or The Winter Journey) is a song cycle for tenor and piano written by Franz Schubert in 1828, set to the work of German poet Wilhelm Müller. It's loosely narrative in nature, and follows a man who is cast out from his village after the death of his lover. He embarks on a meandering, directionless journey through the frozen wilderness, commenting on the things he sees and feels. The end of the song cycle is vague, and the wanderer's fate is left uncertain.
I didn't include this one in the main post because I think the connection between the poem and Crozier is just one step too far removed for it to make sense in a post without context, but I wanted to mention it here somewhere because it really just feels like a perfect match.
Looking past just the text, the music of Winterreise is some of my favourite ever written for the human voice. It's bleak, it's haunting, it's Schubert at his best. There's this pervading sense of hopelessness through the entire work - sometimes raging and desperate, sometimes cold and listless, sometimes interrupted by moments of joy and light before falling again into desolation. Rarely has a piece of music left me feeling so hollow inside. The Terror left me feeling the same way.
If you're at all interested in classical music, I cannot recommend enough that you give this a listen. I'd recommend the Peter Pears recording, or the Dietrich Fischer-Dieskau recording if you don't vibe with Pears' voice (I wouldn't blame you, he's got this sort of ghostly wail-like quality to his sound that can be very jarring.) There's also a 1968 video of Pears and his partner (composer and pianist Benjamin Britten) performing and discussing the music, which is absolutely worth a watch if you want to see two old gay men talk about music for 10 minutes.
Anyways, this is all to say that being into classical music does not free you from Blorbo Song Disease. If anything it just makes it more embarrassing. I can't just make a character playlist and call it a day, I have to make pretentious and long-winded Tumblr posts that would make my Song Interpretation professor claw her hair out.
#the terror#the terror amc#john bridgens#henry peglar#bridglar#henry goodsir#hickeygibson#billy gibson#cornelius hickey#thomas jopson#francis crozier#i can't stop thinking about “you're laughing; no doubt; at the dreamer/who saw flowers in winter”#and Goodsir's death hallucinations#and “this place is beautiful to me even now. to see it with eyes as a child's - there is wonder here.”#thinking about Hickey and “if there's no god on earth/then we are gods ourselves!” and refusing to listen to the lamentations of his heart#thinking about Billy who has known for awhile what Hickey might be but is drawn to his warmth and brightness despite it all#thinking about Crozier whose first concern was always for his men. And who didn't allow himself to stop & grieve until the last one had die
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The way it’s been weeks, and I’m still just so angry about how they treated Eddie when it came to Bobby’s death arc. Not only was he not in the two-parter when literally everyone else was, despite being a main, but they treated his return for the funeral like it was a surprise for both Ravi and the audience. Like RG was just some fan-favorite guest star returning for the funeral of an old friend. The camera panning over to him as Ravi realizes Eddie is there, the lack of any true lines for Eddie, it all just feels so gross and underwhelming for the relationship that’s been built up between Eddie and Bobby for years. The call flashback was so short, but that was the energy needed for Eddie. And actually, not just Eddie, but the entire firefam. We spent hardly any time on their grief because of that unfulfilling fake kidnapping plot line, and I will never not be angry about that.
#when I first watched 8x16 I didn’t know why I felt so weirded out by how they treated Eddie beyond the basic disrespect of his grief but#watching 18x03 of criminal minds showed me exactly why and it’s all because of the guest star vibes#they tossed Eddie aside for MULTIPLE episodes like he was barely even in the show anymore and then returned him with barely any purpose#just like Reid is basically just there to attend the funeral and then fuck off back to the state department or whatever#difference is: Eddie is NOT a guest star - he is a main and rg has been dedicated to this show for 7 seasons#Eddie in 8x17 is actually allowed to have feelings and grieve but then it’s right back to hollowed out and convictionless Eddie in 8x18!#like what are we doing#eddie diaz#911#911 abc#9-1-1#9-1-1 abc#ravi panikkar#bobby nash#rip bobby nash#bobby nash is alive#if I ever blog about Bobby’s death arc without tagging something to this effect - assume it is a desperate cry for help#he’s alive to ME until they exhume his so called body and show it to me (and they better do it before a dead body might start to decompose#or I still won’t believe it#it needs to looks like OUR Bobby)
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Oopsie daisy, we accidentally spent almost 5 full hours in my room 🥴 damn I had truly planned on buying him a nice dinner after sex too
#dating nonsense#stoner romeo#5 hour bedroom adventure#that honestly would have lasted even longer if I hadn't reminded him for the third time that I wanted to get him dinner#granted it wasn't all sex#it was more like foreplay then sex the more foreplay then more sex#then a massage and then domming/edging him for a while then aftercare then more sex#then cuddling then a stark moment of our emotional walls being let down with some light tears and then more kissing#then coming back downstairs and realizing it was already 10:30 at night#so instead of dinner I gave him the fancy dessert i bought for him earlier#then he headed home#i feel good but it was scary to be that emotionally vulnerable for even a little bit at the end#but it's not going to scare him away#and it's strange to feel confident in that#strange but good (and a little scary)#and like once again i have to question where the line is and how I'm supposed to not fall for someone who makes me feel so valued/cared for#and someone who allows themselves to be vulnerable with me as well#he talked a little bit more about his wife#and how sometimes he feels guilty for enjoying being with other people after her death#and thinking about how he wouldn't be doing any of it if she were still here#which is all very understandable to me#so anyway i have feelings for this guy for suuuuuure but I want to give him the space he needs to continue grieving/processing#and he's once again made it clear that he's planning on sticking around for the foreseeable future#i offhandedly mentioned something I like to bake in the winter time and he was like 'yum can't wait 😁'#told him it was so nice to not feel like there's a time limit or looming threat to our time together#I haven't really had that since... college? or maybe even ever?#yeah fuck it I'm in love#at least a little bit#and we have plenty of time for whatever will be to become what it is
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Anyone who feels entitled to Harry, Louis, Zayn or Niall saying ANYTHING else about Liam at this point in time has clearly never experienced loss.
They owe us nothing in terms of their grief. That’s private.
#like#we are not entitled to their grief#they are allowed and should grieve in private#we are not entitled to their emotions#Liam Payne#louis tomlinson#harry styles#niall horan#Zayn#Zayn Malik#rip Liam
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i am in. Immense Pain
#so making shïttÿ sakkun memes is how i'm coping with the loss of what could have been and what will never be. WE COULD HAVE HAD IT ALLLLL#like congrats to ae group and that one random starto junior they shoehorned in as Totty ig i dont hold it against them but in my mind's eye#Snow Man IS Osomatsu-san. you could not ask for a better perfect fit cast for the sextuplets than them and i will live and die on that hill#ESPECIALLY DORAMA HAN!!!!! JYUSHI!SAKU AND OSO!KOJI AND ICHI!FUKKA ARE INSANELY HIGH OCTANE ACTORS SO DEDICATED TO THEIR ROLES#and while i have my tiiiny qualms with kara!hikaru and choro!meme and todo!raul you CANNOT look me in the eye and say they didn't do great#AND ESP THEIR DYNAMIC TOGETHER AS A GROUP!!! SNOW MAN HAS THE BESTEST BROTHERLY CHEMISTRY AND VARIETY SILLINESS TO PULL IT OFF SO NATURALLY#ISTG BROTHER BEAT DID NOT BECOME ONE OF SUNO'S MOST ICONIC SONGS EVER FOR SUCH DISRESPECT 😭😭😭#GIVE US MORE PERIOD AND CLOSE AND END CONVOLUTED PLOT SHENANIGANS OR HELL JUST MAKE NEW FUN DIFF ROLES FOR ABE-CHAN AND YURIGUMI!!!#all i truly want from an ososan movie is a direct to heart brotherly adventure where they explore the diff dynamics between the sextuplets#that's what the first movie was really missing for me tbh since they separated the sextuplets way too much in the runtime >:'(((#PLEASE I JUST WANNA SEE MY MOST BELOVED STUPID VIRGIN NEET TRASH LOSERS BE STUPID VIRGIN NEET TRASH LOSERS TOGETHER FOREVER AMEN#I JUST WANNA TO SEE MY MAT-SUNO BOYS AGAIN. MY TWO FAVE IDIOT BROS BEING THEIR IDIOT SELVES AGAIN. I JUST WANNA FEEL ALIVE AND LAUGH AGAIN#AND KAMI-SAMA HAS SPIT IN MY EYE AND CALLED ME A PATHETIC FOOL FOR IT. WHY ARE WE STILL HERE. JUST TO SUFFER#okay but in all seriousness ik i'm heavily biased. after all Oso-san IS the reason i found and fell in love with Suno in the first place so#the first movie will always be cherished and irreplaceable to me. is it a good movie??? absolutely not it's kinda dogshit ngl lmao but#it's MY favest kind of dogshit (affectionate). i've been praying for a live action sequel for a long time and. this just wasn't It for me#and i had to find it all out from a damn nanidan discord server at 9 in the a.m. immediately after waking up out of all times and places 🤡#i understand that suno's blown up since and are super busy doing their own things and have kept us sunotans fed heartily with new stuff but#i think i'm still allowed to be disappointed and to grieve.....i'm sure the new cast will do their best and i don't wanna see infighting#between suno and ae fans but i personally couldn't bring myself to watch the sequel. both in honour of the og anime and suno adaptation#but oh well. at least we also got Oso-san anime S4 soon SHIAWASEEE!!! ❤️💙💚💜💛🩷 and i only found out bc of this movie announcement#there's always silver linings and i have so much love and respect for the og oso-san VA's so there's still something left to be excited abt#anyway. is my vv first official post on my snow man blog (after an oso-san gifset reblog) really about this shit??? yeah also hello hello 👋#snow man#osomatsu san#snow man jpop#スノーマン#daisuke sakuma#おそ松さん#mr osomatsu
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TROP S2 SPOILERS
Nobody better say anything bad about my girl Earian she is being manipulated through her grief by the men in power around her and it's making it hard for her to discern right from wrong. I'm not saying that her actions are justified, I'm just saying that she misses her brother and dearly needs her dad, but at the moment she is all alone and that can mess a person up
#I tried looking up her name in the tags and I saw nothing???#We are doing my baby dirty#Also why are my favorite characters from this show always the woman grieving her dead brother#whose grief makes them easily susceptible to darkness?#First Galadriel and now Earian#IDK I find both of their storylines compelling#and very similar hmm#I liked Earian from S1 so seeing the hate she is getting makes me sad#It's Galadriel all over again#I guess woman in fantasy are not allowed to grieve or make mistakes#but when they are perfect they are hated on too#anyways the scene where Earian was hugging her dad and sobbing got to me#I never doubted you girly please make good choices please please please#the rings of power#rings of power#blue blathers#trop#rings of power positivity#Earian#trop s2#trop s2 spoilers
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Anyway. Here’s your reminder to systems out there that you’re allowed to grieve fusions if an alter that you’ve known and grown close to and relied on for years is no longer who you knew. It’s hard, but it’s worth it to heal. ❤️🩹
#he’s not the person I knew for years and that’s ok#we are allowed to grieve while healing#fusion#system fusion#alter fusion#diagnosed did system
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phai.non desperately needs friends but like . you're legally obligated to a:) not die on him. b:) not die in front of him. c:) no sacrificing yourself. d:) not dying for the sake of the flame chase journey. e:) not dying, please and thank you.
#( 𝒐𝒐𝒄 ) ⸻ your burdened shoulders laid to rest.#3.3. spoilers#like it's banned for him#you think of breaking those rules and ur outta there he's gonna kick u out and get u home out of tragic greek space hell#let phainon wear hideously bad fashion sense like purple dromas pants and yellow shirts n appraise relics like the old days#let him be happy and allowed to grieve for one whole minute#let him get his whimsy back (yeah it's not coming back)#can you imagine when we get closer to 3.4 his trailers are gonna be so...uh joyful...god#guy born for adventure whimsy and playing around is doomed by the narrative to go through the horrors and then repeat it over and over
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Bracing myself to return to the office once the new year hits....im not ready
#personal#we were allowed to work from home fulltime for the holidays because duh no one else is gonna be in#but now....its back to 3 days a week.......................#its like im grieving the loss of a loved one.....................................
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this is extremely important, because we’re not mourning the man he became, we’re mourning the boy he was and the man he could’ve become
#liam payne#i beg yall to have some compassion#yes he became someone completely different after the band broke up#but he was an extremely important part of our lives#and we are allowed to grieve that person#Instagram#𐙚
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fucking love being forced to take accountability and apologize for having emotions in a situation where my aunt is dying because evidently it’s never excusable to get angry when you’re pushed. it’s never fine to get upset when someone literally says to you ‘well we’ve all lost people’ when you mention that you’re losing your second mother.
#ooc. o kaptain.#negativity /#[me: well when someone says something like that what are you supposed to do just take it and move on???? my uncle: yeah that’s what life is.#i mean if you’re in the most toxic fucking situation imaginable yeah that sure is what life is?? ‘I’m isolating everyone’ because#when everyone is telling me what to do and refuses to acknowledge my grief. my brother literally asked ‘so when are you supposed to grieve’#and the answer is??? never you’re never supposed to you’re just supposed to traumatize yourself through an event and then wonder why the#grief is suffocating. except because you didn’t… process or talk about any of it? the fact that the concept of family to some extent is#like… share your accomplishments act like you like each other and then go home and live totally separate lives that don’t intersect until#the next holiday or tragedy. and i have been doing this by. my. self. but nah man no ones allowed to have a breaking point.#like you guys wonder why our aunt suddenly died and we all turned around and went OH MY GOSH???? it’s because idk no one encourages healthy#communication in this family. you hold in all your suffering until you fucking die and then everyone acts like it’s a devastating tragedy.]#death /
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