#dealing with failure

[bea-sthetic]

After experiencing a failure, it takes a lot of strenght and willpower to allow yourself the grace and patience to recover, to learn and then to improve again. Today, I choose to give myself that grace and patience, loving myself out of this episode.

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

FAILURE IS OKAY

A lot of my posts are geared towards reaching success and achieving it, but I want to remind you guys that it’s okay to fail. We put so much pressure on ourselves, especially as women, to be the best at everything, but we need to remind ourselves to breathe. Perfection is impossible and beating yourself up over the impossible will do nothing but bring you pain. You are so much more than your failures, please remember that.

so much love,

a girl unfiltered 💋

[writersbeware]

Camera Malfunction

            We were recently on a long-waited for cruise up the western coast of Norway. The goal was to enjoy the spectacular Northern Lights. The trip, hopefully, would give us night after night of colorful viewings.             Our first port in Norway was Narvik, a hillside town surrounded by snow-covered mountains. The skies were clear, the weather freezing.             We’d signed up for…

[uisceb]

Endlessly baffled every time I see people water down Glinda’s actions in Defying Gravity to “oh she was too cowardly or too selfish to stand by Elphaba,” as if she didn’t spend that entire sequence from Chistery’s transformation onward doing everything in her very limited power to keep Elphaba safe.

Like the second things start going wrong, Glinda’s entire focus switches to “keep Elphaba safe at all costs.” This girl does not have any magic. She does not have any physical survival skills. She probably has no idea how to throw a punch. She can barely run in those heels. Her one power is her charm and her ability to work a crowd. She is desperately trying to get Elphaba to come back with her not because she agrees with what the Wizard and Morrible are doing, but because she thinks maybe if she can just smooth things over, Elphaba will be forgiven, and she’ll be safe. 

In that regard, there’s a very obvious selfishness to Glinda’s actions - she lacks perspective; she lacks scope; she prioritizes Elphaba over what we as the audience would understand as the “Greater Good” and over her own morals about what’s going on with the Wizard’s agenda; she’s visibly horrified by what happens to Chistery but her first instinct is to comfort Elphaba above all else, despite having no understanding of what's happening.

I am the last person who’s ever going to argue that Glinda isn’t selfish, because she very clearly is, it’s one of her defining characteristics, and it’s one of the main things she has to learn to overcome in order to actually become “Glinda the Good.” This is in no way me trying absolve my very selfish girl who very much made the wrong decision.

But it does kinda boggle my mind when I see the argument that Glinda betrayed Elphaba or is a “fake friend.” Especially because ultimately she comes to the conclusion that the best thing she can do for Elphaba in this moment is to let her go. She knows she would only hinder Elphaba if she were to go with her, she knows there’s no happy ending for them if she tries to run away with her (I think in that moment she might even suspect there’s no happy ending at all). Elphaba is going through her own personal revelation which is beautiful in its own right, but it’s also impulsive, and there’s a certain level of unsustainable grandiose fantasy to it. Glinda almost lets herself be swept up in it for a moment, but her rational side kicks in, because, of the main trio, Glinda really is the most grounded in reality.

I���ve seen a lot of weirdly smug people out there proudly saying if Fiyero was there he definitely would’ve gotten on the broom with Elphaba - and honestly, I think they’re probably right. But it’s not because he’s somehow morally superior to Glinda, or that his love for Elphaba is more pure. Our boy is depressed, he’s nihilistic, he’s lost, and truly doesn’t have any attachments to anyone.

He was genuinely moved by Elphaba’s fearless convictions and he fell hard and fast for her, so I agree he’d be on that broom in a heartbeat, he quite literally has nothing to lose, and everything to gain. He’s found himself wanting to believe in something for the first time because Elphaba brought that out in him, his whole world revolves around her. And that’s very romantic, but because of that, the stakes are much lower. For him, leaving everything behind wouldn’t be a sacrifice, it would be freedom.

Glinda’s gone through the world much differently, much more carefully. She doesn’t have Fiyero’s sense of nihilism or detachment, she’s lashed herself tight to the reality of the world around her. Where Fiyero has been regularly kicked out of schools and freely wandered from place to place experiencing new things and getting into trouble on purpose, Glinda has never stepped outside the predictable comfort and safety of her bubble until meeting Elphaba. She lives in constant fear of failure and being looked down on. She is forever clinging to this persona she’s created because she’s terrified of what will happen if she’s anything less than perfect.

She has constructed her entire existence around being an icon rather than a person - in the beginning, she literally doesn’t know how to be her own self, she’s just barely learning, because of Elphaba. And it scares the shit out of her. 

Fiyero would likely play action hero if he was there for Defying Gravity, and that’s great, but Glinda is weighing a million things in her head, not least of which is “holy shit the person I love most in the world is in imminent danger and I have no magic and no strength to keep her safe, so I will beg and plead and insult and fight her tooth and nail to keep her with me inside my privileged bubble because maybe I can smooth this over, maybe everything will be okay if I just do what I always do and use my privilege to get my way.” She understands the rules of her world, so she’s going to play by those rules because that’s how you win the game.

Elphaba, of course, refuses to play a corrupt game at all, and Glinda gets angry - she lashes out at Elphaba because Elphaba has just put herself in such a dangerous situation, and Glinda is completely powerless to change it. Every little bit of control Glinda is used to having is obliterated.

Her “Maybe you’re not as powerful as you think you are” when Elphaba doesn’t grow wings is so desperate - the words border on cruel, but her tone is both painfully apologetic and above all filled with RELIEF because while her heart hurts for Elphaba, she’s terrified that Elphaba would hurt herself the way Chistery was hurt, and she’s cleaving to the hope that maybe if Elphaba isn’t as powerful as she thinks she is, Glinda stands a chance at undoing the damage, and protecting her. 

Glinda’s selfishness is just so fascinating to me because it’s so rich and so contradictory - she loves Elphaba so deeply and destructively that she fully paralyzes herself when the chips are down and it breaks them both. She fails to be what Elphaba wants her to be, and she fails to be a good person, but there’s no “fake friend” about her actions - she is acting on pure desperation to keep this person she loves safe in literally the only way she knows how, at the cost of everything else, including what’s right, which is something Elphaba could never abide by. Elphaba would never compromise her own morals, but at this point in the story Glinda is willing to compromise everything as long as Elphaba is tucked away in her bubble with her, and that difference in values is irreconcilable to both of them. 

So, realizing this, Glinda does the one last thing she can think of to protect her at this point, and wraps a cloak around her shoulders to keep her warm. That’s all that’s left.

She’s selfish and she’s cowardly and she’s brave and she’s loving and she fails Elphaba and she fails herself and she regrets her decision for the rest of her life and yes I am writing all this with glass under my tongue and between my teeth, she makes me insane.

[amanchandracoach]

Transforming Failure into Growth: Strategies for Success

Failure is an inevitable part of life, and at some point, we all experience setbacks and disappointments. However, it is how we deal with these failures that truly defines our character and determines our future success. The ability to navigate and learn from failures is a vital skill that can propel us forward, enabling personal and professional growth. In this article, we will explore effective strategies for dealing with failure and turning it into a stepping stone towards achievement.

Firstly, it is essential to shift our perspective on failure. Instead of viewing it as a negative outcome, we should reframe it as an opportunity for learning and self-improvement. Each failure presents a chance to reflect on our actions, identify areas for improvement, and refine our approach. Embracing failure as a valuable teacher allows us to maintain a positive mindset and stay motivated despite setbacks.

Another crucial aspect of dealing with failure is resilience. Building resilience involves developing the mental strength to bounce back from failures and setbacks. It requires cultivating a growth mindset, where we believe that our abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and effort. By embracing challenges and viewing failure as a temporary setback, we can persevere and continue to pursue our goals.

Moreover, seeking support from others can be immensely beneficial when dealing with failure. Sharing our experiences with trusted friends, mentors, or support groups can provide valuable insights and perspective. They can offer guidance, encouragement, and share their own experiences of overcoming failures. Surrounding ourselves with a strong support system can boost our morale and help us navigate through challenging times.

In addition, it is crucial to practice self-compassion when faced with failure. Instead of being overly critical and harsh on ourselves, we should treat ourselves with kindness and understanding. Acknowledging that failure is a natural part of the learning process and that we are not defined by our failures can help us maintain a healthy self-image and bounce back with renewed determination.

Lastly, failure should never be the end of the road. It is important to learn from our mistakes, adapt our strategies, and persist in our pursuit of success. Some of the greatest achievements in history have been the result of multiple failures. By maintaining a growth mindset, cultivating resilience, seeking support, practicing self-compassion, and persisting in the face of adversity, we can turn failure into a catalyst for personal and professional growth.

In conclusion, dealing with failure is an essential skill that can shape our lives and determine our level of success. By shifting our perspective, building resilience, seeking support, practicing self-compassion, and persisting in the face of failure, we can transform setbacks into opportunities for growth and achievement. Remember, failure is not the end; it is merely a stepping stone on the path to success.

[boozye]

[kickedin17]

I need to write a Post about rooms in tøp songs and how they're a constant symbol of confinement and self isolation (the contract ritn not today ode to sleep, etc) - a very private and anxious compulsive sense of self - a representation of how others percieve you but also a representation of how you may let those people down (redecorate, the contract again)

& how this continual thematic narrative of a sleepless anxious person spiraling out alone in their bedroom desperately waiting for the sun to rise is Also what becomes the narrative of dema, both with clancy literally being locked up for like 6 years during SAI, but also with ritn and redecorate and now the contract video we see/hear that this "space between two places" is a kind of waking half-dream, a hallucinatory hell, conjured when you're pacing your room at 2am after being awake for god knows how long, wondering if you should give in and fall off the grid and knowing you need to just fucking go to sleep because you'll feel normal when you wake up but you Can't. You Can't Sleep. (And in clancy's case there's also a scary old man choking you out at the same time and yk what good for her)

I Need to write this post Unfortunately it is past midnight and I don't want to enter the scary room pacing void myself so I'm going to bed for real and this is the most u get for now

[the-puffinry]

Roman glass bottle in the shape of a fish, 1st–2nd century CE.

Roman carved rock crystal fish, 1st Century CE.

Roman glass dish cover in the shape of a fish, 1-99 CE

Glass fish, Eastern Mediterranean during the Roman Empire -199 CE or later

Roman glass bottle in the shape of a fish, 4th century C.E.

[100line]

It’s just such an amazing scene because he takes so many precautions to make sure his outfit won’t get bloody and then 90% of the blood ends up on his face

[shyflowerhologram]

Kakashi treats Sasuke's curse mark same way he treats his trauma: seal away and ignore forever

(even though it kept interfering with Sasuke's chakra use and make him unable to fight normally)

[coolnonsenseworld]

A little promo with my little obsession on the side...........

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[essektheylyss]

Okay but the confirmation that the Granddaughter is supposed to have reached a state of tranquility and detachment but hasn't, and is instead aggressively and desperately shoving down all of their emotions without being able to excise them has sent them to the top of my faves list immediately.

I'm also really looking forward to seeing if the Fold wizard on deck survives whatever just happened, because I would love to find out if all Granddaughters have actually excised their emotions, or if in reality, they're supposed to be practicing tranquility but don't actually have a grasp on that until later, after their Realization. I would not be surprised to learn, especially after Artifice's whisper last episode, that this is something of an initiatory secret that isn't meant to be fully understood until later, once Realization has been had.

[violent138]

Changed my mind, the funniest Gotham outsider POV would be the company lawyer who has to tell a besieged secretary that her boss has been arrested yet again and that meeting needs to get moved. In fact, to be safe, the whole calendar should be thrown out the window, sorry about that.

I'm imagining this lawyer losing his mind on a near daily basis because while he can't be party to crimes, he's got a functioning brain and has spent years giving his bosses subtle advice. That they don't follow. Ever.

[brandirecognition]

#1 evil villians*

(gift drawing for my sister of our sonic ocs)

*they learned everything from a book called Villiany for Dummies, which was immediately recalled for copious errors & misinformation.

[frobby]

rin 1000000% has a list somewhere of things hes good at that yukio is bad at

[southofsound]

Guess who got stranded on a road trip with no pencil ✨

On an unrelated note, I need a new green highlighter