#discourse post

[petsemataries]

why do so many people genuinely not know the definition of grooming nowadays. grooming is manipulation, that's literally it's entire, like, core(?) i can't think of a better word than that. grooming isn't just age gaps, it's COMPLEX MANIPULATION. THAT'S THE DEFINITIONNNNN AND IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE BY ANYONE NO MATTER THEIR AGE OH MY GOD. you are mixing up grooming with predatory behavior. you are mixing up grooming with pedophilia. for the love of god please research just a LITTLE bit of psychology before you come into my askbox accusing me of grooming my groomer what is wrong with you

"you said grooming is manipulation which is horrible of you to say" ARE YOU BEING INTENTIONALLY DENSE /Q

[sertralineman]

not to turn this blog into a discourse blog, but like, i gotta get this out of my head. so warning for everyone who doesn't feel up to it, looong opinion post ahead.

i just read someone saying that "t*nny" is a transfem-exclusive slur, and that transmascs "shouldn't reclaim it or say it hurts them, too". excuse me but what.

i'n a trans man. i have been called a trnny more times than i can count. all people who have called me that knew that i was a trans man, not a trans woman. all of those people used the exact same language they use for trans women.

i've heard/read people claiming that some forms of opression are transfem-exclusive before, and y'know, i was even ready to agree on some of those, but when i learned what their examples are, i realized that i have experienced nearly all of those things first-hand.

being called a pervert? i was, too. thrown out of any bathroom you walk into? all the time. getting violent threats? me too.

yes, small differences exist, but the talking points are still the same. it's literally the same people saying those things, too.

with all the kindness in the world: i need some people in the trans community to log off for a second and see how the world looks like. we are really not different at all. we are a community for a reason.

not to mention, the important conversations about systems of opression can, and should, coexist. i am a man so i don't have a say in the conversation about transmysogyny, but i deserve to talk about the opression i face, too. that does not invalidate or erase your struggles at all; tell you more, it amplifies our voices, emphasizes our points, both on transfem and transmasc ends.

i love my trans sisters, and i really don't get why some people think we shouldn't stand united. we fight for the same thing because all systems of opression reinforce each other and are all rooted in the same bigotry. any trans man with even a shred of common sense realizes that transphobia, any form of transphobia, stems from patriarchy. we fight the same fight. we can either unite, fight it together, and live, or stay divided and lose.

[transgwender616]

Me seeing discourse for a community/ fandom i'm not apart of

[camealot]

Okay shọta and proship bros. I've been debating with myself for a while, but here goes.

I do see where antis are coming from sometimes. I mean, yeah, it is kinda weird to see someone sexualizing a fictional child. Especially really young ones that are like toddlers or babies. But the way I see it is, as long as it stays fictional and no one is being physically harmed, it's fine even if I think it's a little gross depending on the age of the fictional character.

I have my own views, but I don't impose them on anyone else. If I think something is gross, I block them. It's really that simple. People online should be more neutral in general, I think. Better for critical thinking.

But I was thinking, if I were a parent, would I be so carefree about someone fictional tastes? If my neighbor liked shọta and lọli, even if they're fictional characters, at the end of the day they'd be attracted to childlike characteristics. For me, that means a child character that acted like a child.

Looks I don't count, as short people with high voices exist all over the world, so I won't assume things from just that, but if a character acted exactly like a child, and someone was sexually attracted to that, if I were a parent I'd admit I'd be a little worried. I wouldn't trust them around my kids.

Personally, it's a complicated manner for me. Aging characters up is fine, liking lọlishọ is fine because it's not always sexual, but sexualizing a realistic acting animated character does make me a bit wary. But I'm not saying my opinions are set in stone but with age maybe they'd shift some.

Still wondering exactly where i stand on this issue, since I know talking about this would make me a hypocrite of the highest level. I just want to get my thoughts out there and maybe someone could give me some advice?

[thetwistedwhiskersshow]

in general i find it both insane and heartbreaking how twitter has made us view just about anything as drama. a 12 year old claiming an adult man abused her should never be called and is never "drama" and if you think it is i think you should off yourself. actually that should go for just about any allegations of anything, false or not.

[madladsworld]

Hi. We’re a diagnosed OSDD system with multiple fictives, as well as kinning other fictional characters.

Sometimes the way people interpret our sources is really harmful to our mental health, but that is an us problem. It is not their fault our brain’s 3D printer decided we should exist as people up here. And just because somewhere this fictional person may exist doesn’t mean anything!! Because our existence is kind of a weird fluke of the universe and not part of the fiction we came from!!

Groomers will use whatever is available to them to groom minors. Proshipping is just one method that has been used, but that doesn’t mean proshipping is inherently immoral. I’m very sorry you experienced what you did, and I’m very supportive of you removing yourself from those spaces in fandom and the internet in order to heal from your trauma. The anti-shipping rhetoric is actually actively making this potential worse, because the more “underground” and censored you make a thing, the less protection vulnerable people have in relation to it. If proshipping were allowed to exist without the vitriol and witch hunting it gets, and instead what was focused on is tagging and having robust guardrails for keeping minors out of those spaces and making it clear what the CONDUCT of fans should be, and that being the mainstream predominant understanding immediately attached to the concept? It would protect future kids in your situation.

Our system has all kinds of abuse in our history, including sexual. It’s a very important part of the healing process to be able to separate what happened to you from the unrelated conditions surrounding it — for example, some of us were terrified of men with beards and couldn’t trust anyone with a beard for a long time. Men With Beards are not inherently more dangerous just because we were harmed by a man with a beard! Your trauma interprets it that way to protect you, but it doesn’t use logic. That’s why triggers are so bonkers ridiculous sometimes.

Anyway! We do not appreciate people like us being used to argue for censorship and thoughtcrimes. Do not do that.

Thanks!!

~Martin K Blackwood from the Magnus Archives

I really think everyone needs to truly internalize this:

Fictional characters are objects.

They are not people. You cannot "objectify" them, because they have no personhood to be deprived of. They have no humanity to be erased. You cannot "disrespect" them, because they are not real.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

Happy annual Dracula Paprika Discourse Day to those who celebrate!

[etz-ashashiyot]

Happy freedom weekend to all who celebrate!

[petsemataries]

this is ai, fuck you i'm serious if i see anyone reblogging this alone it's on sight

mantids don't have that many wings

there isn't a single species that looks like this either way

the "flowers" are way too flower-looking

mantids do not have actual moveable pupils, they're pseudopupils

the movements are unnatural, too fast and smooth

the exoskeleton is just as unnatural and smooth

the posture itself is unnatural

and more that i can't list

[petsemataries]

if you misuse alt text or put fake/joke image descriptions on things, on any platform, i need you to die ASAP!!!!!!!

[todayisdeadinside]

if you have "cishet men dni" in your bio i, a trans man, will not touch you with a 10 foot pole. i should not be forced to out myself as a trans man just to interact with you. on top of that, cishet men are not inherently evil. stop trying to reinvent bioessentialism with your "girl good, boy bad!" mentality.

[crabussy]

"dolphins are completely evil" I actually don't think we should assign human morality to animals with no concept of law or civilisation with an intelligence roughly equating to that of a toddler

[nemesis-is-my-middle-name]

that article going around abt firefox's new ad program is annoying bc it's phrased as though "mozilla has finally TURNED on its people and is SELLING YOU OUT for cold hard cash!!" when. that's not what's happening. it is specifically being implemented to discourage tracking behavior, and literally all the data they are giving to advertisers is aggregate and anonymized, which is like, the opposite of what that post wants you to worry about, lol

[afflictedwithstarsheet]

idea: escape me by staying out of my house and acting like I don’t exist and generally not-bothering me ever again

[thetwistedwhiskersshow]

i keep forgetting to unfollow my one tumblr mutual who called a callout about a 12 year old getting groomed "petty internet drama" and called said 12 year old obnoxious and bratty. for calling out her groomer