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[traumasurvivors]

Anger is one of the most invalidated emotions in trauma recovery. People often say things like, “Being angry just lets them win,” or “You’re only hurting yourself.” But that isn’t true. Anger is a normal, valid part of healing.

Anger isn’t automatically bad. There’s destructive anger, which lashes out or harms yourself and others, and constructive anger, which helps you understand your pain, your needs, and what boundaries you want to set. Ignoring anger or bottling it up often leads to blow-ups or misdirected frustration later.

For me, learning to feel anger was a turning point. For years I blamed myself for my trauma. Feeling angry at those who hurt me was the first step toward realizing I didn’t deserve what happened. My anger was grief, betrayal, and the part of me that wanted to be safe.

Constructive anger can be a powerful tool. It can:

Motivate you to set boundaries or leave unsafe situations

Help you advocate for change or take action in your own life

Push you toward healing and growth

Anger becomes a problem when it consumes you or causes harm but the feeling itself isn’t bad. Listening to it, understanding where it comes from, and channeling it in safe ways (like journaling, exercise, or creative outlets) can make it part of your healing.

Your anger doesn’t mean they’re “winning.” Sometimes, it means you are because you’re finally putting the blame where it belongs and giving yourself the chance to heal. 

I wrote a longer post about this here. 

[wipbigbang]

Round 3 Of WIP Big Bang Claims / WIP Reverse Bang Claims Is Open!

Round 3 of the claims lists for both WIP Big Bang and WIP Reverse Bang are open! The forms to submit your choices are on the summary lists. We have two pages of summaries for WIPBB and one page for WIPRB. Round 2 claims for both events are open until August 7th.

You may claim up to three projects for each claims list this round (ie, you may claim up to three fics for WIPBB and/or up to three art projects for WIPRB), and you do not have to already be a participant of WIPBB or WIPRB to pick up a fic or an art project to claim. Claims are on a first come first served basis. Please fill out the form with a unique check-in for each project you want to claim if you want to claim more than one.

WIPBB Summaries:

WIPRB Summaries:

WIPBB Big Bang/Reverse Bang 2025 - Schedule & FAQ

Schedule

All times are by 11:59pm PST. Convert time zones.

Big Bang/Reverse Bang Sign-ups- April 1st- May 2st Big Bang/Reverse Bang Check In #1- May 22nd - May 29th Big Bang/Reverse Bang Check In #2- June 15th - June 22nd Big Bang/Reverse Bang Snippets Due- July 1st - July 11th Big Bang Art Claims/Reverse Bang Fic Claims- July 17th - August 14th Big Bang/Reverse Bang Check In #3- July 22nd - July 29th Big Bang/Reverse Bang Check In #4- August 6th - August 13th Big Bang/Reverse Bang Rough Drafts Due- August 15th - 22nd Big Bang/Reverse Bang Posting Claims- August 23rd - September 1st Big Bang/Reverse Bang Final Drafts/Art & Fic Due- September 7th Official Big Bang/Reverse Bang Postings- September 8th - November 30th Emergency Big Bang/Reverse Bang Postings- December 1st - December 31st

Discord Link | Mod Email: wipbigbang@gmail.com

FAQ

What is the WIP Big Bang?

Good question! This is a Big Bang with one goal in mind: to clean out your fanfic drafts folder. These are stories that were unfinished for whatever reason, that authors returned to and completed, and the art that goes with them!

What is the WIP Reverse Bang?

It’s similar to the regular Big Bang, except it’s for artists to finish WIP artwork (either traditional art, digital art, fanvideos, fanmixes or filk) and get a fic in exchange of at least 2000 words.

Do I need a Livejournal/Dreamwidth/AO3/etc. account to participate?

No! You don’t have to have an account on anything to participate, though you will need to have somewhere to post your finished work. Having one or more accounts will help for you to follow what is going on with the bang (we crosspost to Dreamwidth and Tumblr and heavily use our Discord server at the moment), but they are not required to participate. You can always leave comments anonymously or with an opensource ID.

How many fics/art pieces can we sign up for?

We absolutely don’t mind multiple sign-ups; I know one year someone submitted 50 fics to finish, and got at least half of them done. We just ask that when you sign up with more than one fic/art piece you give each fic/art piece a unique user ID (please do not use the same ID for all your fics/art pieces...it’s important to have different IDs for the check-ins).

Will I get emails about the bang?

We do send out some emails, mostly for fic snippets and art/fic claims and to ensure communication between authors and artists, but please do NOT rely on getting an email to remind you of due dates. We currently do not keep an updated email list of participants, so we only send individual emails as needed rather than mass emails.

However, email is the fastest way to communicate with the mods. If you have any questions or are having trouble communicating with your artist/author, please do email us! We will do our best to respond quickly.

If you need a reminder about due dates, the FAQ/Schedule is pinned on top of the Tumblr and we use the Discord (which anyone can join) to remind participants of important dates.

What do you mean by minimum word count to enter the WIP Big Bang?

This is a WIP Big Bang, therefore we ask you to have at least 500 words of your story drafted when you enter.

Can an outline count towards those first 500 words that are needed at sign up?

We have admitted work on an outline before so yes, if your outline is fleshed out enough to cover a 7,500 word+ fic, we’ll allow it.

Are multi-chapter fics allowed?

Yes, multi-chapter fics are allowed and even more so encouraged if your fic is lengthy.

What about fics that are already posted on ao3 in part? Do those qualify for the bang?

It's okay if you have posted a few chapters of your fic already (you never know when the muse deserts you, after all), we just require you to refrain from posting more until posting begins here. All we ask is that you not post any public updates to the fic until September 1st (or August 1st with the mod’s okay). We don’t want you to lose kudos and comments so don’t worry about pulling the fic down, just hold off on updates for now.

Is there a minimum word count?

7,500 words for each finished fic, but the sky's the limit, right?

I see that the fic minimum is 7500 words and that published WIPs are acceptable - but what if the WIP I’m considering is already more than 7500 words? Is the expectation to add an additional 7500 to it?

No. You can add as much or as little as you need to finish the story, though we do expect at least 1,000 or so new words if your WIP already meets the word count.

What happens if an author finishes the fic they signed up with but it’s less than 7,500 words? The intent was to go over the minimum but once they got into it the story was shorter than they thought and stretching it out would make it less good. Do they have to drop out at that point?

By all means, we want your stories to feel as natural as possible, and if it’s under 7,500 words you may have two options:

1 - Drop the fic for the main BB event, post it now, and wait to post it to our AO3 collection in February when we run our International Fanworks Day celebration of finishing fics that are less than 7,500 words when finished. There’s no art for the fic, but bragging rights are posted to the communities for a week.

2 - If there are enough fics that fit that category, we can do a special day of posting the fics, but you’ll have to forgo art for the fic. I, as a mod, would probably pick November 30th for the posting day, as it’s the last day of posting for the bang and I don’t think anyone will mind more than one fic that day. You can post bragging rights to the community and share the fic with everyone.

I have a fic I wrote a few years ago, but only the first couple chapters are posted on AO3 because I was never happy with the rest of it and knew it needed major revision. Is that something I could use for WIP Big Bang? The entire fic has been posted, but only on one platform, and it would be rewritten for AO3 and WIPBB.

I think revising a fic for posting would work, as long as you have at least 500 words done, will have 7,500 words at a minimum when it’s done, and are planning to add more to the fic. Simply rewriting what you have would be a gray area, but if you’re going to take stuff out and add new scenes, either in the old scenes place or on its own, you should be fine.

What's the etiquette around OC-centric stories? Ones that are set in a well known fandom and use several characters, but still lean a lot on original characters? Are they discouraged, or fine?

Based on my own personal experience making art for a story that had a heavy OC presence, it’s not something we discourage at all, but be forewarned when it comes to the art accompanying your fic your artist may not be able to incorporate the OCs into your art. Not everyone makes art of a hand-drawn or digitally drawn nature, so it helps if you have people for face claims ahead of art submissions, and you and your artist communicate regularly. You can also end up with art not featuring the OCs at all, just the canon characters, which is not necessarily a bad thing.

Your other options are to bring in an artist you trust with your vision of your OC or to make your own art (we do allow that, we just need to be told during the check-in before art that you’re bringing in your own artist if you go that route, or that you’re doing your own art…there will not be a need to sign up in the artist’s sign up, however), or to opt-out of art entirely. So there’s plenty of options to call on when it comes time for art.

What is the minimum requirement for the WIP Reverse Bang?

We’ll allow an outline of what you want to create or a rough sketch if you have it for digital/traditional art, and at least 15 seconds of fanvideos or filk (fic songs) recorded, or an outline and notes. Fanmixes can be partially finished with either some of the music picked or some of the art made/a combination of the above.

What do finished products for the WIP Reverse Bang look like to be considered complete?

Art must be fully drawn and at least shaded, if not fully colored. Filk and fanvideos must be at least one minute long and fully finished to the fanartist’s vision. Fanmixes must have a front and back cover and at least 8 songs picked out, and there must be an available playlist on Spotify, YouTube or for download.

Is there anything not allowed?

As long as you wrote it and you want to finish it, you're welcome to participate. RPS/RPF is fine. Incest pairings are fine. Things like that I know have been hinted at in questions asked and as long as you tag for them, we’ll allow it. Also, canon settings with mostly OCs is allowed. Original fic is allowed (though it is harder to pair an artist with). We just ask that it be tagged properly with any content warnings you would deem fit and be given the appropriate rating for the level of sex/violence there is in the fic. Just bear in mind that while original work is allowed you may not get art for it.

What are 'check-ins’?

These are a way for us to see what you've been up to and for you to make sure you're still on track. It will give you a little nudge/reminder if you need it, but they are not compulsory. Basically a form is posted that you fill out with your user ID (unique for each fic) and a checkbox to let us know you’re still participating, plus a section for any notes for the mods.

How are the check in IDs used?

They are solely for the mods organizational purposes. Each ID being for a separate story allows us to keep all the information you submit during check-ins and for snippets in one line on our spreadsheet. You don’t have to share your check in IDs with anyone else if you don’t want to.

How much progress should authors be making between each checkpoint? (Percentage-wise from our estimated total wc, I guess?)

Ideally, with each check-in, you should be at least 25% closer to finishing. The end word count for fic only really matters in that the fic needs to be at least 7,500 words when done, so it’s more your progress towards finishing that should be measured, not so much the word count.

What are the snippets requirements?

This is for the WIP Big Bang only! In order to allow the artists to make art for the story they claimed, we require you to supply three snippets from your fic, between 500 – 1500 words each. The snippets will be sent to the artist after they have claimed your story. They're to help the artist match your story for artwork the best way he or she possibly can. It’s helpful to choose scenes or parts of scenes that you feel best represent your fic, but don’t feel like they have to be perfect to be submitted. Along with the snippets, we will send your artist the basic fic info and your email, so the two of you can collaborate more if you would both like.

WIP Reverse Bang snippets is the art (at whatever level of completion you are at) uploaded to an image hosting site/YouTube/an audio steaming site and you only need to upload one piece of it. We’ll link to the site in the claiming post that you use so art will be thumbnailed/snippets of video or audio will be used. If you’re submitting a fanmix, we ask for at least the back cover graphic with the song listing.

What are the rough drafts requirements?

For the rough drafts, stories or art should be at least 80% complete. You will not have to turn them in to us, just assure us that you are at that point. Anything less is at the discretion of the mods and those authors should speak to one of the mods asap.

What is, and do I need, a beta?

A beta is basically a person who goes over your work to make sure that there are no spelling/grammatical errors and they can even be of assistance in helping you with story lines, etc. It is highly recommended that a beta looks over your work before posting. If you are having trouble finding a beta, try this post.

Where can I post my fic/art?

Stories and art can be posted to your own personal journal, Tumblr, ff-net, AO3, or wherever you like. For those of you with AO3 accounts, we will set up a collection that will go live on the day of the posting. If you don’t currently have an AO3 account but would like one, you can contact the mods for an invitation code to see if they have any available. You can also add yourself to the AO3 Invites Request queue.

What does posting look like? Do we have to post the whole thing on the day, or can we stretch it out between when posting starts and our date? I’ve had a few longfics get killed by big bangs forcing posting to happen on a given day, and would prefer to avoid that if possible.

For most fics, posting to AO3/FF.net/other places will be allowed to start in September and you can stretch it out as many posts as you want as long as the complete fic is up by your posting date (and posting dates go from September 8th to November 15th with two weeks for emergency posting and one month of non-assigned posting). However, you can send us an ask/e-mail about posting as early as August if you have an extremely long fic/something with a long posting schedule. Mostly what we want is the fic to be completely up on the website of your choice by your posting date, and I know some people don’t want to overwhelm their readers. So we want to work with writers to give them ample time to post the story up to their posting date.

Now, as for posting to the communities, you get to choose which day your link to the story and bragging rights are posted, and as I said, we have a range of dates from September 8th to November 15th with two to three stories posting a day. If for some reason you miss your posting date, you have until December 31st to post to the community, during the two weeks of emergency posting and the non-assigned posting dates. So hopefully there should be plenty of time to get a longfic up and posted to the website of your choice and our BB.

Art for WIPBB and WIPRB should be posted to YouTube/Soundcloud/Spotify/Tumblr/Dreamwidth on the day of our posting using the Bragging Rights form. If you want to embed it into an AO3 post, ou can do that as well and add it to the AO3 collection we start just around posting day.

Will the three snippets per story we have to send in be the ones we want the artist to make art for? Or can it just be random snippets and then later the artist and I can check together to see which scenes would work best for art?

Ideally, you and the artist will be communicating once you’re each sent each other’s contact information, and you’ll give your artist a chance to read all that you’ve written at that point. That’s what happens in most cases. If your fic gets picked by an artist and they don’t work with you, then the snippets you sent will be what the artwork will be based on. It’s a good idea to know that, while most of the time the artists work closely with the authors, there are a few exceptions to that.

How do I know when to post?

Posting will be tiered; you'll each get your own posting date that you and your artist will decide on together. There will probably be four fics, plus art, posting per day between September 8th and November 30th. The post with date claims will go up on August 23rd and you'll have to choose your date by September 1st.

Posting of chapters on AO3 or your own blog (or wherever you usually post) generally starts September 1st, but you can post earlier (as early as August 1st) if you let us know you have a long story. However, posting has to be finished by your chosen posting date to the comm. One of the things we're hoping to do with the posted dates is to give everybody on the comm a little bragging time in the spotlight. You know, "this story was incomplete for this long, but I finished this sucker." If you don't have time to post your bragging rights to the communities on your chosen posting date, you can queue up a post ahead of time and we can post it on the date you picked or you can email us your bragging rights and we can post by proxy for you. Either way works for us. Art will be due on the chosen posting date to the comm.

WIPBB and WIPRB post on the same timeframe, and some days we may have a Reverse Bang post among the Big Bang posts, and both art and fic should be posted the same day for both WIPBB posts and WIPRB posts to Tumblr and/or Dreamwidth with the bragging rights.

What am I posting to the Livejournal/Dreamwidth/Tumblr community if I’m posting the fic elsewhere?

You’ll be posting what we call bragging rights. It’s a small form you fill out and post to the community with a link to your fic (we’ll enable moderated posting to the Tumblr, Livejournal and Dreamwidth communities for members on August 8th). We will post a template for posting artwork and stories to the comm closer to the posting date.

Is there a minimum/maximum requirement for my art for WIPBB?

There is no strict minimum, but we do ask artists to remember that the authors are writing a minimum of 7,500 words and your artwork should reflect that. You can do anything you like, including banners, wallpapers, icons, mixes, vids, gif sets, picspams, etc. Suggested guidelines for art are 500x500px (or equivalent of smaller pieces like banner + spacers, cover + icons, etc.) for traditional art, digital art, and manips; 2 minutes for vids; 8 songs + cover art for mixes; and 6 images for gif sets and picspams. We also ask that when you are in contact with the author, you work with them to see if there is anything specific they would like (i.e. a wallpaper, book cover, etc.). The art is your work, but having ideas doesn't hurt!

What are 'art claims' and ‘fic claims’?

The claims are when anonymous summaries of the story go up for artists to choose from for WIPBB and fic writers to claim for WIPRB. Artists sign-ups and art claims are the same thing, as are fic claims for WIPRB; we use one form each for both things, and that way the artists and authors don’t have to sign up for an event they may not end up participating in. It is based on a 'first come, first served' basis and artists/authors may choose up to three potential stories/pieces of art (in case their first choice is unavailable). If there are more stories than artists, there will be a second round of claims wherein artists may choose a second story to work with, and on until all stories are claimed for art. Same goes for fic claims; we’ll do multiple claiming periods until everything is claimed.

If a fic or piee of art up for claiming is rated explicit (R, NC-17, etc.), please only claim the story if you are over 18 years of age. Some authors and artists may be uncomfortable working with underage artists or authors on explicit works. We do not verify ages in any way for the bang, so this is solely on the honor system.

What do I do if I have problems or concerns about my author/artist?

Sometimes authors and artists do not get along and this may cause problems with working together. If this happens to be the case with you, please email the mods and we will try to do what we can so that everyone has a chance to have fun at WIP Big Bang!

If you have not heard from your author/artist in some time after trying to contact them, you can reach out to us via email and we will try to get in touch with them for you.

Can I get an extension?

Community extensions may be given in the event that the majority of the authors/artists need one. They may also be given individually under certain circumstances, but this must be discussed with the mods and will only be a short extension for posting. If you are certain that you won’t be able to finish your story in time, please let us know by July 13th.

Can I swap out a fic/piece of art if my muse abandons it again?

When you sign up, you give us the information on the potential fic(s)/art piece(s) you want to finish. If, say, one piece isn’t working but one you didn’t sign up for is, you can switch them out while letting the mods know if you need to change a user ID you used. It is absolutely okay to switch fics all the way up until snippets are due. By then, we hope you’ll have however many fics you plan on doing to at least 80% completion since rough drafts are due not much later. Just drop an email to the mods at wipbigbang@gmail.com with the new information (title, fandom, etc) and if you want a new sign in ID or plan to use the same one for the fic you’re replacing it with.

Can I drop out?

We have high hopes that everybody who signs up can actually finish the round and share in the joy of the reveal with us, but real life can unfortunately get in the way and we completely understand! If you feel like you just cannot finish in time and no amount of assistance from us can help you, just let us know by August 13th (if at all possible).

Is it possible to be banned?

We do have a banned users list. We hope to use this to encourage participants who are having issues to communicate with the mods. We want to help you! The way the ban works is that participants, either authors and artists, will be banned for dropping out without notifying a mod. This means that anyone who has not posted or talked to a mod by the time the posting period ends will be banned. Dropping out is not in and of itself a banning offense, so please do not panic if you have to drop out! We understand that there are many reasons you may need to drop, and we want to work with you.

Bans will last one round or until the issue is resolved, whichever comes first. To resolve a ban, authors will have to finish and post the story they signed up with and artists will have to finish and post the art for the story they claimed. Three bans will result in a permanent ban from the bang.

Are we allowed to participate without joining the Discord?

Absolutely! The Discord server is optional, as just another way to interact with your fellow writers and get updates on important dates. It’s not mandatory you join, however.

I was just wondering if there’s any way to enter the bang anonymously? Like would it be okay to put our work in an anonymous collection on ao3 or something?

Unfortunately, I can’t think of a way for that to work. The collection that we use is moderated but it’s not anonymous, and there are the bragging posts that you post on your posting day, which you would have your username on whichever platform you use.

I was just wondering whether I'm sworn to secrecy on which fics I'll be finishing up, or if I can shout it out to the world?

No one is sworn to secrecy once they’ve signed up (aside from posting new parts to fic that’s already up somewhere…we ask that you refrain from doing that until at least July 1st)! We will be running Word Wars, where you can add more to a fic in a certain amount of time, and Whine Bars, where you can complain or ask for help or whatever else you feel like talking about when it comes to struggling with a fic, all after sign-ups end on a weekly basis, plus there’s the Discord server for chatting with your fellow authors and artists.

I have a question/concern that’s not mentioned here.

If you need help, you can always contact a mod and we will do our best to make sure that you get your story/art finished. The best and fastest method of contact is through our email, wipbigbang@gmail.com.

[borderlinereminders]

If you’re someone who needs reassurance from your loved ones that they care about you, that’s completely valid. Needing reassurance doesn’t make you bad or broken. But how you ask for it matters.

Hinting at it through guilt or passive comments like “Nobody loves me” or “I’m such a burden” can unintentionally hurt your loved ones and even push them away. Over time, constantly providing reassurance can be exhausting for the other person especially if it feels like nothing they say is enough.

Here are some tips to cope with that need for reassurance in a way that’s healthy for you and your relationships:

1. Try self-soothing first

Before reaching out, see if you can reassure yourself. This doesn’t always work, and that’s okay but it’s worth trying.

Save reassurance for later: Keep screenshots, letters, or cards from loved ones. You can even ask them to record a short message for you to listen to when you’re struggling.

Make a self-care box: Include affirmations, notes from loved ones, favorite snacks, or small comfort items you can reach for in times of crisis.

Examine the evidence: Keep a list of things they’ve done that show they care. Both big and small. For example, my list for my partner includes moments like making me tea or checking in after a hard day.

2. Check the facts

If something triggers your fear that they don’t care, pause and examine the situation.

Did they actually do something harmful, like lie or intentionally hurt you?

Or did they just get busy and can’t reply right away?

This step helps your brain separate emotional reaction from reality.

3. Use coping skills if emotions spike

When the urge to spiral or lash out hits:

TIPP can help calm you if you’re in immediate crisis.

ACCEPTS can distract you with positive activities.

Urge Surfing helps if you feel like sending an accusatory text.

Radical Acceptance and Challenging Irrational Thoughts can help your brain reframe the situation.

4. Ask directly if you still need reassurance

If self-soothing isn’t enough, it’s okay to ask but do it directly and kindly.

Instead of “Sorry I’m such a burden, you probably don’t even care about me.”

Try “Hey, I know you care about me, but my brain is being mean right now. Could you give me a little reassurance?”

This approach respects your feelings and theirs.

5. Have a boundary and communication plan

When things are calm, talk with your loved one about what works for both of you:

They can set boundaries if constant reassurance is draining for them.

You can agree on signals, like an emoji for when they’re low-energy and unable to reply but not upset with you.

They can also provide messages or recordings you can revisit when they’re unavailable.

And if they’re doing something (even unintentionally) that triggers your fear, like disappearing for a few days, it’s valid to talk about it using I-statements. Together, you can create solutions that work for both sides. (This might be where the emoji solution comes in.) Needing reassurance is human. Learning how to ask for it in a healthy way keeps your relationships strong while still honouring your emotional needs.

[bekkathyst]

An Update on Tariffs (For US Customers)

I have some new information that I'd like to share with you all.

Since my shop ships from Austria (a country within in EU) and most of my customers are located in the US, I have been trying to keep up to date on all of these ridiculous changes.

First of all: please don't panic! Nothing significant is going into effect until August 29th. Though the EU tariffs go into affect in the next week or so, the de minimis exemption is still in place until August 29th. I want to give you all the information I have so you won't be in the dark and can make the right decisions for you and your future orders.

August 29th: according to the orange ghoul's last executive order, the de minimis exemption will be removed for every country. This will therefore affect packages you receive from my shop. What is the de minimis exemption? This rule has been the reason none of my US customers have paid any import tax/tariff so far, as it states any package below the value of $800 is exepmt from import fees. And actually even orders I've sent to the US over this amount have not gotten any import fees that I know of, but in my experience in the past the US hasn't really cared that much about these things. Now things are different, unfortunately.

After August 29th: the latest news I have now says that all packages coming from the EU (regardless of if they're valued below $800) to the US will have a 15% tariff imposed on them. Which means if your order is valued at $100, you will therefore have to pay $15 to the US government to receive it. I belive the USPS will be collecting the fees for the government.

That being said: This administration is constatly changing their minds, chickening out, and "pausing" these tariffs last minute. I don't even know if this is actually going to go into affect when they say it will, because this is about the 3rd time they've threatened these EU tariffs but they have never gone through with it. But of course, I want to give you all the information as I get it so you can prepare just in case. Packages take an average of about 2-3 weeks to reach the US, so I think any orders placed this week will likely arrive before the 29th.

I have been open about how our shop has been struggling pretty badly the last two years, and depending on how things go with these tariffs I'm not sure we're going to survive this. I am trying to be optimistic and I hope he'll just drop this but I also know everyone is worried and I know that there are also much worse things going on at the moment. I am trying to come up with a plan in this uncertainty to help us get through this and I'll probably have a few announcements about that in a bit after I can get my thoughts together a little bitter.

For now, I am going to just be running clearance sales so that in case there was something you've been waiting to get you can snag it at a discount before the tariffs supposedly hit. I'll make a separate post about all that.

And one last thing I'd like to say - when/if it happens that tariffs are actually imposed and you're worried about an order you want to place, you can message me and we can discuss the details.

If you have any questions or concerns at all please don't be afraid to reach out! And even though this is difficult, small crystal businesses operating within the US have it a lot worse because they're about to have to pay 30-50% tariffs for packages coming from most of the countries that crystals come from (namely Brazil is being hit with a 50% tariff which is just... insane. Wow.) So it's not as bad as it could be, but it's definitely still an extra thing to navigate.

Anyway, that's enough of my rambling for now. Just let me know if I can clarify anything for you!

[ogrepoppenangleaksofficial]

My beloved ogres any chance the rest of Norfolk Wizard Game could be added to Apple Podcasts? I wish to relisten to my funny mage podcast while in the infectious disease laboratory

[veryluckyclovers]

Could you share the recipe you used for the cookies? They look so cute and I wanna make some!

here’s the link!

[eesirachs]

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[kianamaiart]

🌟KIANAMAIART FAQ🌟

FAQ wahoooo!!

GENERAL QUESTIONS

Who are you?

I'm Kiana, I'm a queer, Japanese Jamaican woman, and a Director/Storyboard artist who works in animation. I'm currently at Disney Television Animation.

What are your pronouns?

I usually go by she/her but I don't really mind any pronouns~

Where did you go to school?

California College of the Arts (but I dropped out when I was hired at Disney)

How did you get hired at Disney?

My bosses found me on twitter. They liked my drawing style and asked if I wanted to take a storyboard test. I did, I passed, I got interviewed and moved to LA two weeks later to start storyboarding.

Your work seems familiar. What do I know you from?

I've been on the internet for a long time! It could be a number of things. As maimai97 on dA I had a comic about next gen Pokemon characters called Pokemon 25 Years Later. As kilala97 I had some popular next gen ponies and also had a Steven Universe gemsona named Larimar. I'm also @yamujiburo, known most for drawing Jessie x Delia (hanamusa) a lot. I also work professionally! I've worked as a storyboard artist and director on Disney Channel's Big City Greens, I was a storyboard artist on one of the Steven Universe anti-racism shorts and I was a storyboard artist on Pokemon: Path to the Peak. Most recently I've been on season 6 of Dropout's Game Changer!

What program and brush do you use to draw?

Default brush in Storyboard pro. Photoshop sometimes just for compositing or specific effects.

PPPIDWTBAMG QUESTIONS

What is this project?

This is a project that started off as a silly idea that has since grown into me creating a 10 minute pilot animatic.

When and where can I watch the pilot!?

Now and right here!

What would this series be rated?

Ideally like PG13/TV14! Or whatever they call it. Definitely more geared to a YA audience. Not completely kiddy but also not what most people would consider adult animation to be

What are you planning to do with the project now that the pilot has released?

Don't know yet! There has been a lot of studio interest and even offers, so I'm in the process of talking with them and seeing if I can find this show a home or if I want to try doing it on my own or if I want to even continue with it at all. I know you guys are curious, but even if I wanted to tell you I couldn't. Just trust that I will make announcements as they come~

You said Aika had teammates, will we see them?

Because of the studio interest and potential for more of this show, there's some stuff I'm still holding close to my chest. This is one of them.

Do the characters have parents??

Zira does! As for Aika and Eclipse, this is something I'm still developing and don't really know myself haha

What are the characters' sexualities?

Don't know right now. Headcanon away!

What Pokémon would each cast member have?

Here you go!

Is "Star Guardian: Guardian of the Stars" a reference to that vine?

Nope! It's more so a parody for just really long and redundant titles which I love. Similar to the title of this project, which is called "Pretty Pretty Please I Don't Want to be a Magical Girl"

[fishbloc]

our charms and plush bags are now live! link to PO on my profile!!! ( rbs are appreciated ♡ )

[theshitpostcalligrapher]

for some reason, likely due to mischievous trickster intervention, the most common print that gets lost in the mail and I end up sending the person a replacement is the parry this print

there is a non-zero amount of these fuckers just BOUNCIN around the USPS hotspots

(also if you ordered a print and it never showed up, just know that post-postal strike, american *waves at everything* and the snowstorms happening sequentially mean that you have to add about a week and a half to the expected delivery date, apologies, there is little I can do about that. If your order is REALLY out of pocket delayed, then dm the shop, I WILL provide a free replacement or a refund)

[traumasurvivors]

When you’ve been through trauma, forgiving yourself can be one of the hardest steps. For some people, they realize they didn't need their forgiveness. But some of us do need to forgive ourselves. It helps us move on. You might replay the past and think, “I should have left. I should have known better. I should have done more.”

But the thing is that you didn’t have the knowledge or safety you have now. You were surviving with the tools and awareness you had. Hindsight makes everything look clearer than it ever felt in the moment.

Many of us hold ourselves to impossible standards. We think, “I should have seen the red flags” but trauma clouds your judgment. Survival mode doesn’t leave space for perfect decisions. And if you were a child or deeply isolated, expecting yourself to “just know” is especially unfair. I will also say that even if you did know and stayed, you still deserve to forgive yourself. 

Forgiveness isn’t about saying the trauma didn’t matter or excusing what happened. It’s about offering compassion to your past self. The one who got you here, who endured what they should never have had to endure.

Try the Double Standard Method: imagine a friend in your exact position. If they blamed themselves for not leaving, for freezing, or for trusting someone who hurt them, would you blame them or would you hold them with care? You deserve that same kindness.

Your past self didn’t fail. They survived. And you are allowed to forgive them for not knowing, for not leaving, for simply doing what they had to do.

[fritolaycorporation]

is this an actual corporate account???

buy our chimps

[borderlinereminders]

What is Splitting?

Splitting is a common BPD experience where our brains see things in extremes like black or white, all good or all bad.

For example:

Someone might feel like your favourite person in the world. Perfect, safe, everything you need.

Then they do something small (or even nothing at all) and suddenly you feel the complete opposite, like they’re terrible or unsafe.

This can happen with people, situations, or even with yourself. (Yes, self-splitting is real. Suddenly feeling like you’re awful, unworthy, or incapable, even if nothing has changed.)

Splitting isn’t always triggered by something specific. It can happen randomly because our emotional brain is hyper-alert to potential danger or abandonment.

How to Cope with Splitting

You can’t always stop a split from happening, but you can manage how you respond so you don’t do things you regret later.

1. Ground & Pause

Use mindfulness or grounding techniques to calm your nervous system.

TIPP, RESISTT, ACCEPTS, and urge surfing (DBT distress tolerance skills) are really helpful for riding the emotional wave.

2. Keep Reminders Handy

Make a list of reasons you value your loved ones and your relationships. Maybe screenshots of them saying they love you, or letters.

Make a second list for yourself: your accomplishments, strengths, and things you like about yourself. Even if it doesn’t stop the split, it can keep you from acting on the extremes.

3. Step Back if Needed

Take a break or create some space.

Let the person know you might be less responsive for a while (you don’t have to give details).

4. Reflect

After the emotional wave passes, look at why you split.

Did the person actually do something hurtful (like lying again)? That might signal a bigger relationship issue.

Or was it a need for reassurance? In that case, the feeling is valid but not necessarily about the other person’s actions. (See my post about seeking reassurance!)

5. Communicate (If You Can)

You can say something like: “I know this isn’t fully rational, but I feel hurt/upset about ___.”

Sharing your feelings calmly can release the pressure and help your loved ones understand what you need.

Remember that splitting doesn’t make you bad or broken. It’s a survival response. With skills and self-awareness, you can ride the wave and protect yourself and your relationships.

[coochiekrab]

The muchly requested (fiercely bullied out of me) Worlds Worst Family Tree. All characters are depicted based on relevancy and comic appearance, making some characters look younger than they should relative to others

[14dayswithyou]

14DWY "art style" — eyes edition !!

I often get asked for an art tutorial on how to replicate the 14 Days With You art style, so here y'all go!! This one is for the eyes specifically, but feel free to let me know what you'd like to see next!

⌜ DO NOT REPOST OR REUPLOAD. ⌟ If you want to share it anywhere outside of Tumblr, share a link to this post.

[howisthepope]

Frequently Asked Questions

Pope Poll FAQ

How is the pope? Elected

Who is the pope? Robert Francis Prevost, going by the papal name Leo XIV

Can I be pope? Probably not

Trans pope? Female pope? Other flavour pope? that's going to cause an antipope to rise up. Schism or move on

Who are the frontrunners to be pope? See my post here or check out the tag #papabile

Will you be posting about the conclave? Yes

What happens during a conclave? Explanation here

When does the conclave start? The conclave will start on Wednesday, 7 May 2025

Can the Cardinals exit the Cum Cave? Only for a good reason

Can we resurrect the pope? Necromancy and witchcraft don't tend to go over well with the catholic church

Did JD Vance kill the pope? I don't know. you'll have to ask him personally.

How do I become pope? Please follow the instructions on this handy wikihow article

What is an antipope? An antipope is someone who claims to be pope in opposition to a legitimately elected pope