#how to handle life changes

[ourlittlehouseinthecountry]

Some seasons of life are loud and busy and blooming. And others… are quieter. Messier. A little lonelier. This week on the blog, I’m writing about the lonely side of personal growth—those in-between seasons where you’ve let go of what no longer fits, but haven’t quite settled into what comes next. It’s about what it feels like to step away from old roles, old identities, old expectations—and how even the right decisions can come with their own kind of grief. It’s about change, self-discovery, and that quiet space where you're still becoming. It’s not a ‘how-to.’ It’s a reflection. A gentle reminder that if you’re feeling a little lost or unsettled right now… you’re not alone. You’re not behind. You’re just not finished yet. The post is live now on the blog— You’ll find it under “Latest Blog Post” in the link in bio, and I’ve popped the direct link into stories too. Save it for a quiet read with a cuppa. I hope it lands softly.

[wantbytaemin]

you don’t get it.

[starcurtain]

I don't have the time at the moment to write a full essay but someone should definitely remind me to write a post later on the phenomenon that is Ratio's assholery being sanded away by well-meaning fans.

In a quest to fight against the "Ratio is a condescending jerk" stereotype from Ratio haters, pro-Ratio fans have now swung too far the other way, making him into a saint who loves everyone, isn't disdainful of failure, and believes every single person can equally pull themselves up out of mediocrity.

None of those things are actually true based on the game itself, where Ratio is, in fact, a judgmental person who struggles to accept the mundanity of those around him, believes in an educational elite, and can be exceptionally condescending, whether he means it or not.

He's a flawed character. His own flaws are absolutely central to his character, in fact. And yet none of his flaws preclude him from being meaningful, nuanced, and likeable.

It's okay that he's not actually that nice.

In defending a character from one extreme ("he's a bad person"), we don't have to jump all the way to the other side ("he's an angel").

He can be a little bit of a dick and still be a great character, promise.

[rookflower]

warrior cats is often extremely weird about its disabled characters dont get me wrong but to be honest i do think the argument of "why do these characters struggle with their disabilities in the books when disabled cats irl are barely hindered?" is a little flawed because of the way the books anthropomorphise their characters. im not physically disabled so dont take my words to heart on this but i think the point is less about the logistics how the characters would be able to move or thrive in a realistic physical setting, and more about what the books do with the themes of disability from a conflict and narrative standpoint.

[fjordfolk]

puppy fever, might be terminal

[lovesodeepandwideandwell]

It's crazy how I can be like "I'm having a depressive episode" until I'm with the right people and then it's like oh no I'm ok actually

[television-overload]

I'm just curious...

If yes: what media/characters specifically? I find this so interesting!

If not: have you ever considered a career choice based on a form of media you enjoy, but ended up not doing it?

[jessicas-pi]

The Time Heals ‘Verse meta ramble, part 2: In Which I Scream Some More About Sabine And Ezra

Whoo! So! What was SUPPOSED to be a little backstory about The Line from Time Heals All Wounds turned into a massive rant. But that’s over, and you’re all as depressed as I am, and now we get to move onto other stuff!!

(spoiler warning continues!)

So now I’m going to ramble a little bit about the specific relationship dynamic between Sabine and Ezra currently in this because AGH. I just. I gotta talk about it. fair warning, the following rant has no discernible thesis statement and wanders around aimlessly. but hey, that's just how I roll.

Okay so Time Heals primarily follows Sabine. So that’s the lens we’re looking through. And it’s easy to forget that Ezra’s timeline is entirely different from hers. But it is. A story that has taken a year-and-a-half, more or less, for her, has been mere months for him.

Because Ezra died only weeks after the Battle of Lothal, remember?

It’s six months after that, when Sabine gets pulled into the past. It’s months after that when she rescues him. By the time they’re reunited on the Coronet, Sabine has lived an entire year in a galaxy without Ezra in it, and a few months more in a galaxy not knowing he’s there.

She has seen him die thirty-three times. She’s mourned him. She still mourns him. She dreams about his dead body in her arms. He haunts her. To an embarrassing degree, her life is centered around him.

Meanwhile, Ezra’s timeline looks like this:

—he purgills Thrawn into the unknown and Thrawn imprisons him —some weeks later, Sabine kicks open the door to his cell, slaps him, hugs him, proclaims she’s watched him die 32 times, provides no further explanation, and then someone tosses a thermal detonator into the cell and it all goes black —he wakes up somewhere on Mandalore during the Clone War and promptly gets adopted by four tipsy art majors —a few months later, the Force tells him to get a move on —he reunites with Sabine that afternoon and everything's great!

So as of chapter 15 of book 2, which is where we're at now, Ezra’s spent three, four months in the past—missing everyone, yeah, but missing Sabine least, because she’s the one who saved him, and that’s given him a gut feeling that she’s still around. To him, Sabine has been a wistful thought that comes and goes. He tells his friends stories about her and misses her. But he doesn’t mourn her.

Meanwhile, Sabine’s spent over a year believing that he is lost to her forever because she couldn’t save him. (She doesn’t know she saved him, remember? She’s forgotten. It’s all a blank, and she’s afraid to hope.) She is still in the vise-like grip of grief, even if she’s functioning around it. There has never been a moment when she has not been thinking about him. (And in a way, it’s his fault, because he loved her, and he told her so. And she cannot forget it, no matter how hard she tries.)

His feelings towards her are soft and silent. He's content to wait until he sees her again, without aching too badly at her current missing presence in his life. He is at peace.

Her feelings towards him are tumultuous and fervent. She's desperate to see him again and terrified that she'll lose him. it’s like nothing she’s ever felt before. She is the farthest thing from peaceful.

So, while Ezra's feelings may seem to run deeper than hers—he is kinda in love with her, after all—he's also completely normal about her.

Sabine, on the other hand, has been torturing herself with the memory of him for over a year. He's a bundle of guilt and grief and mourning in her brain. Her feelings for him are clear-cut, platonic, and so all-consuming that they verge on an obsession.

So really, he doesn't care about her more. He cares about her differently. But not more.

But—and this is important, not so much for the story, but it's important to me that you know this—Ezra doesn’t know she's changed. He knows the old Sabine, who was his best friend, even if sometimes she was distant. He doesn’t believe she cares about him as much as he cares about her. And he's resigned to that! It’s ok! He’s ok! He’s used to it, he’s used to hiding how much he cares, and nobody else knows. So he’ll go on hiding it and she’ll go on ignoring it and it won’t matter.

But the Sabine that Ezra entrusted his blade and his homeworld to with one last, long look is a different woman than the Sabine that kicks down the door of his cell on the Chimaera a few weeks (a year) later.

And where does the difference lie?

It lies in the fact that she lost him. It lies in the fact that he died in her arms. It lies in the fact that he has consumed every waking thought of hers for months. 

It lies in the fact that she will. not. let. him. go.

She didn’t let him go when he was dead. And now that he’s alive? Now that he’s with her again?

Well.

There is no holding at arms-length. She would clutch his living form as tightly as she held his lifeless body, if she dared. She doesn’t, but she still reaches out to him—bumping shoulders, brushing hands, touching him just to know that he’s there. He is everything to her now. It’s not a love like his. It’s wider than that. It’s relief and joy and comfort in his presence and an impossible dream come true.

If Sabine had been the same Sabine he knew before, maybe things wouldn’t have changed course. If she had gone on ignoring it and he had gone on hiding it, maybe time would have faded his feelings, and maybe she never would have grown any for him.

But in a world where she holds him desperately near, near enough to feel his heartbeat and know he’s alive—in a world where their fledgling bond doesn’t lie dormant and unknown, but is woven strong and glows warmly, tethering their very souls together—in a world where he is everything to her, and she shows it—now that’s a different story. As he slowly finds out just how much he means to her—and he's grown to mean far more to her now than he did before—it throws him off-balance.

And as for her?

Well, this is where my Ramble Part 1 becomes relevant! Because he told her. And she knows. And now that she knows, she can’t look past it like it was never there, because it is there, and glaringly obvious when she looks for it. (She can't stop seeing it.)

The path they've always hoped to take—the one where it goes away and they are fast friends with nothing more between them—is no longer an option. By admitting his love, the other version of himself made it impossible for her to ignore it. By holding him so close, she makes it impossible for him to hide it. (In a way, they've doomed each other.) And she knows he can’t hide it, and he knows she can’t ignore it, so the only choice they have left—besides honest, which is a thing neither of them is ready to face—is to do their mutual best to pretend it doesn’t matter, and not talk about it.

But it does matter, and sooner or later, they'll have to talk about it.

And deep deep down, they both know that, too.

~~~

tune in next time for what I expect to be a ramble about a couple specific scenes! unless I write a different ramble first! We'll see!

[epickiya722]

I know what these last few chapters have taught me about BNHA...

Blocking people is useful! 😐

[rouge-the-bat]

the way i see team urameshi after meeting shiori is like

[ourlittlehouseinthecountry]

Some seasons of life are loud and busy and blooming. And others… are quieter. Messier. A little lonelier. This week on the blog, I’m writing about the lonely side of personal growth—those in-between seasons where you’ve let go of what no longer fits, but haven’t quite settled into what comes next. It’s about what it feels like to step away from old roles, old identities, old expectations—and how even the right decisions can come with their own kind of grief. It’s about change, self-discovery, and that quiet space where you're still becoming. It’s not a ‘how-to.’ It’s a reflection. A gentle reminder that if you’re feeling a little lost or unsettled right now… you’re not alone. You’re not behind. You’re just not finished yet. The post is live now on the blog— You’ll find it under “Latest Blog Post” in the link in bio, and I’ve popped the direct link into stories too. Save it for a quiet read with a cuppa. I hope it lands softly.

[professional-bulshitter]

so so SO, I'm on the princess ball episode of season 1 and nsgsjsjsj

I just find it so so cool that both Adora and catra's dress and suit respectively are of the colours that belong to the same family of colours (shades of red) but but but they don't match as they are at that point in time. Instead they are just a little off so much so that if any adjustment/addition/subtraction is made, they would match but as if now they don't and that is so so reflective if geir relationship as it is now and that is so so cool to me.

but but but also the fact that the one thing that does match is Adora's dress with catra's headgear that she always wears and that-- says something,, in the way that even when she didn't know catra was going to be there, it says something that she would wear the same colour as something that catra always wears (and the fact that it happens in the episode where Adora explicitly states that she's leaving no friends behind-- I'm going insane here)

also now that we are already in this setting with both of them dressed up-

I NEED AN ANGRY DANCE WHERE THEY THREATEN EACH OTHER OR TALK ABOUT RUINING THE OTHER'S PLANS PLS PLS PLS PLS,,, I WILL CRY IF IT DOESN'T HAPPEN-

[emulation-0]

ive seen people say that in the first episode of yingdu lu guang shuts the curtains on the setting sun representing how hes ignoring cheng xiaoshi dying (cxs having been compared to the sun before) and keeps going instead of clapping out. the sun is rising though at that time. hes only considering clapping out because his twelve hours are almost up---its 5:30 in the morning. and what sun in china sets at 5 in april anyway... maybe hes shutting the curtains to ignore the tomorrows that will keep coming without cheng xiaoshi, or hes shutting out and denying the world to stay in the reality he crafts for himself where cheng xiaoshi is still alive (alone in the darkness of his room, where hes not letting light enter).

[shinysteph]

Is this a safe space to say I liked the bnha epilogue and didn't see anything wrong with it? 🧍🏻‍♂️it was just a fun little bonus chapter I honestly don't know why people are upset about it

Anyway I love Shouto and I hope he enjoys his bowl and chopstick making classes

[charleemoon]

OH MY GOD ADAM RAKI IS SO ME THEY WERENT LYING

[bizlybebo]

theres something in me that wants to write the exact same au shifted slightly to the left 48269484 billion times