#hypergamy advice

[richarlotte]

Wednesday’s Watch.

[rihnely]

[bleachblondeambition]

“I’m not impressed”, “be respectful of my time and my efforts”, “no”, “apologize”, and “do better” are all parts of my vocabulary, and I’ve dated a lot of men who have needed to hear those words. I’m strict in my relationships; I don’t put up with much, nor am I interested in hearing excuses, and if a man can’t follow through on what he’s promised me, he can find another woman who’ll listen to him and fall for what he can’t follow through with. I don’t pity the overindulged or feel the need to roll out the red carpet for men who’ve never been put in their place by a woman.

I’m also not easily swayed. It takes a lot to impress me, and 9 times out of 10, men don’t have what it takes to blow my mind. I believe that if men are comfortable holding women to unbelievably high standards, I should be comfortable with setting my own high standards and sticking to them. I’m the sort of girl who’ll sit around and read books and articles (written by women and I verify that) about gentle femdom and then turn around and use the tactics I’ve learned to kindly but firmly shut potential tomfoolery down.

It’s important to understand that if you want the best, you have to set boundaries with yourself and with others, and you HAVE to get comfortable with rejecting people who have not treated you well. I find that my love life is at its best when I’m making connections with people who understand and suit me, not allowing men to come in and out of my life whenever they please. Once a door has shut and a man has lost my good opinion, I allow it to remain closed instead of forcing it open again. High standards, no tolerance for nonsense, and not being scared to come off as strict will get you where you want to be.

[maenadmaiden]

A little guide for the girlies

A wise woman once said that the kind of man who would marry Paris Hilton is not the same man that would marry Amal Clooney and it's so true. You need to know who you are and how to market yourself and whoever you'll appeal to naturally to succeed because life is all about compatibility.

When dating pretty much all men come under these categories : independents, partial independents and dependents. 

Dependents

They're: Either young or not established and rely on nepotism, allowances and familial goodwill ( they are highly dependent on mummy and daddy’s approval) or they’re controlled by managers and contracts and are controlled by the image these entities want for them e.g nepo babies, athletes.

You're: Young but age appropriate, hot but reserved and classic with your style personality or hobbies. Not boring but definitely someone that won't create fuss or scandal with their family. More Nara Smith than Anna Nicole Smith. A solid good girl image and a clean slate are musts.

Independents

They're : Established or self made and their money and name are their own ( they’re not controlled by the opinions of others in any big way. You can’t fire them or disinherit them).Don't care about pissing-off family members or managers.

You're: Whatever their type is. Sometimes looks and stereotypical femininity don't matter to them at all sometimes it's all they care about.

These women both landed independents.

but so did this one

Partials

They're: A mix of both, they have their own thing but their families more than likely have a say in how they live or they have boards to answer to.

You're: A mixture of what they want and what they can get away with taking home to their parents.

Further down there are four categories of each 

Entrepreneurial: They made their money through business or they are set to inherit one. Eg magnates, tech bros or heirs.

You're: Either a stereotypical trophy wife or an entrepreneurial person yourself. Looks may matter but they may not.

Academic: Their lives are devoted to academia eg tenured professors, experts in their fields etc.

You're : Educated and more than likely an academic yourself. Being a bimbo with a phd in thewizardliz and simonesquared will not cut it.

Entertainment: They made their money through getting people to waste their attention on them.

You're: Stereotypically hot and flashy and very social think wags and hollywood gfs.

Even further down you have the private and the forward facing. 

Privates will never be in Forbes willingly, they have almost no socials and will make the guy at Starbucks sign an NDA before placing an order.

You're : Extremely Discrete

Forward facers need attention to live and their professional and romantic choices reflect this.

You're: Good At Keeping Up Appearances

[theprettylittlearchive]

Something girls who obsess over trad stuff and femininity need to hear?

That their icons are modern women

Nara is a model and content creator she has the stats and her page is pretty much a LinkedIn showcasing all she can do in a kitchen at this point, if she pleases she could quit continue on the runway release a damn cookbook and spend her life caring for her beautiful family and barebacking( there’s four now so it’s fully pathological) and her parents look like they have money.

Hell she could probably be accepted in any culinary schools and get a Michelin star (taps asmr mic ‘’it’s fucking raaaaaw’’)

Sheraseven was a qualified mortician before she married James and a witch.

Hannah went to Julliard which is Harvard for artists and came from money.

Emily Mariko went to some of the best schools in the country.

Traditionally Linsi and 2pretty were both privately educated and went to top universities( including Harvard).

2pretty is currently getting a masters, she had a tech career and career in ballet and fitness certs. Both come from money.

All have the educations these trad idiots try to convince women they shouldn’t get.

That most women don’t actually like that life and it’s mostly propaganda

Most women never liked being housewives and staying home and most women don’t like it now. It’s mostly a grift.there’s a reason women fought like hell to get into academia and the workplace.

There are women who do like it but the ones who really do outside of grifters, women who were raised to do it and the ones who do it for money are fewer and farther between than you might believe based on tiktok.

I love cooking and baking and doing things that are feminine, I would gladly bake and cook for a spouse I see as worthy of me all day and I already gladly cook and bake for my loved ones but would I give up my career and education up for it? Never in a million years except in very specific circumstances.

No I don’t see it as more fulfilling as having a full life with hobbies, an impressive resume and a huge network and an education because it’s not.

That it’s not really all that worth it outside of certain circumstances.

Truth be told if you don’t have what the girls who publicly show their trad soft lives have then your life won’t look like theirs.

Related to the first point, that rich Range Rover mom aesthetic is not for the girls with no career money education and connections and no plans to get some and without a wealthy spouse it’s not financially possible .

These girls married wealthy men and brought money with them.

They have investments, education and resumes that are fat enough to cushion them should they get left widowed or made unhappy.

Their husbands adore them and are attractive and aren’t gross red pill losers in such struggle mode that they think a low six figures is anything to make a woman lose her mind and go full stepford.

It takes a lot of work to live that kind of life safely and the girls showing it you have already put that work in which is how they do it so effortlessly.

Unless you marry a person who worships you and is at least a millionaire being a housewife will not look anywhere near as glamorous and fun as on TikTok and unless you do this having had created backup plans and fallback cushions it could easily end with disaster and unhappiness.

It’s either that or you end up having to cosplay Susie homemaker to pay for it yourself like the momtok girls ( swig slurping noises) and that miserable loser estate sale Williams.

So I guess the tiktok tradfem is really the ultimate modern woman.

It takes money and point blank a man with an inability to secure a certain level of finances cannot give any woman a soft life even if he wants to. for a chronically online young girl that thinks she can quit school marry a guy working at Amazon ( not shaming poor people but even in the heyday of leave it to beaver-land it was really the rich women doing it) and be a housewife is delusional it’s not something financially feasible and even if it is it’s nowhere near comfortable.

Now some conservatives may insist that though it’s not a ‘comfortable life’ women should make sacrifices for family values but I’m not conservative and don’t believe in putting traditional values before my own happiness and comfort or that of other women. So..Date the highest quality men and the men who provide the most and keep your job and education.

The aesthetic is immaculate but most of you wouldn't enjoy the actual day to day of it and its not fun unless you marry rich and have staff so you have time to travel and flex and make candy from scratch and all the other things the shillers share online.

Argue with your cat's pubic hairs.

[withloveheart]

One of the best things I learned was that it was never too late to start over.

I've heard this being said before but it never really clicked until I met someone who embodied it fully and unapologetically. My Palestinian neighbors had a relative who I had always looked up to when I was in high school. She was smart, funny, loving, and most importantly knew her worth. Her worth wasn't spoken about. Never had I heard her utter things like "I'm confident" or "I know my worth" or anything else along those lines. However, she did embody it.

When I was in high school she was being courted by a man who seemed to adore her and shower her with love. From the outside looking in, he seemed enamored with her. At some point, she accepts to being his wife. They have a lovely engagement party. The wedding was going to be even better. So, imagine my surprise, and many others, when on the day of the wedding, as people are getting ready and making their way to the venue, the entire thing is called off. Money was already put in. Money they couldn't get back. The reason for calling off the wedding? This man began to insult her and make some interesting remarks and as a result she decided she wasn't going through the wedding. I don't know what was said but I do know her family made it clear that she should've worked it out rather than just leave especially on the actual wedding day. After all, what would people think? For those who don't know, plenty of Middle Eastern and North African cultures would view this as an issue. And I personally know many women who have had deep regrets over their marriage but were too worried about the stigma of canceling the wedding when it was so close and the potential of being seen as difficult or spoiled. Of course, this wasn't everyone but a good majority.

Seeing this very statement of "never too late to start over" be embodied by someone wholeheartedly really altered my perspective when I was younger. I also got to see first hand the strength it requires to start over while everyone around you is judging your very decision. Thanks to her I grew up with a solid example to follow and have tried my best to have this attitude with everything in my life. Personally, it has paid off well.

[hypergamygossip]

Why are so many of the girlies here neurodivergent?

This space disproportionately attracts girls who were either painfully brilliant or painfully awkward growing up—often both. Girls who used books to understand people. Girls who took beauty as a project because they didn’t know how else to be liked.

The hypergamy fantasy is one of structure. Of rules, roles, rituals. It promises clarity where life has been chaos, and hierarchy where there’s been none. If you’ve spent your whole life feeling like you missed the memo on how to be normal, there’s something deeply seductive about a system that tells you exactly what to do to win.

Learn the codes. Polish the speech. Wear the uniform. Stand beside the right man, and suddenly the world is legible.

They thought this was a ladder you could climb with logic. Tragedy is, they haven’t yet realized the game is rigged by instinct.

[dreamgirlvibes]

[femininedating]

How to receive Princess Treatment from men:

Raise your standards. Never settle for the bare minimum or less.

Expect the best. Have high expectations.

Act like a princess. Take being called "boujee", "high maintainence" or "gold digger" as a compliment. Not everyone can have access to you or afford you. You are a luxury.

Look the part. Looks matter. You have to look good. The reality is men will treat you better if you look good

Have a PRIZE mindset. Know that you're the prize.

Be Feminine. Feminine Energy is a valuable asset to have. Heal your wounded feminine energy and embody your divine feminine self. (My How to be more Feminine playlist)

Learn how to RECEIVE. Get comfortable with receiving. Say "Thank You" & express gratitude. (Learn to receive)

[cryptke]

[adviceformefromme]

Stop pressing your face against the glass window of your dreams, and be the woman that steps into the store and can buy whatever the fuck she wants. That’s the power you hold when you align with the life God has destined for you. It's that simple. Give yourself permission. Start walking, talking and acting like the woman who walks confidently into the store...Not the dreamer on the outside, not the one wishing and hoping as she walks away in disbelief. Don’t be her. Be YOU, who YOU were called to be.

[richarlotte]

Tuesday’s Wisdom.

[bleachblondeambition]

I’m reading “Ask Not", a book about the Kennedy women, and there’s a lot to learn. Realistically, I don’t have much use for most of what I’m reading at this point in time, but I like it that way. I’m able to absorb more, enjoy each anecdote, do my own research on things, and not think about how I can make the book relate to my own life. Not everything in the book is fully accurate, and some “ideas” are underdeveloped (the author writes for the Daily Mail), but it’s so fun to read.

What do you give to a man who’s had everything his whole life, never been told no, has always had the red carpet rolled out for him, and who takes your time and attention for granted? You give him the gift of rejection; you push back and learn to say no to his demands, and you stay devoted to your own wants and needs. A man hasn’t had everything in the world if he’s never been with a girl who’s told him no, and if you start off sweet and willing to do anything and then realize that you’ve been taken advantage of, you can still learn how to put him on his knees and make him take you seriously.

[maenadmaiden]

if you want any success you need to be keeping tech and finance bros off of the pedestal because every single one of them is genuinely just some guy.

they are objectively the lowest hanging fruit and most of them have unhealed mother wounds and just want someone to listen to them harp on about their achievements.

[theprettylittlearchive]

Green flags in guys?

Treats you well with no exceptions or deviations.

Provider and Protector mindset.

The right cards and knowing how to play them well.

Kindness.

Disgust for red-pill and dusties.

Well-kept.

A respectable and respectful manner of speaking.

Low screen time and minimal socials.

No pushiness and sexual aggression.

Healthy community and relationships with other men.

No interest in flexing.

A healthy sense of self.

Sweet and generous.

Not rude to the poor,the homeless or staff ( very very important).

Healthy communication skills.

Discpline.

Quiet and Calm in conflicts.