#hypergamy tips

[maenadmaiden]

A little guide for the girlies

A wise woman once said that the kind of man who would marry Paris Hilton is not the same man that would marry Amal Clooney and it's so true. You need to know who you are and how to market yourself and whoever you'll appeal to naturally to succeed because life is all about compatibility.

When dating pretty much all men come under these categories : independents, partial independents and dependents. 

Dependents

They're: Either young or not established and rely on nepotism, allowances and familial goodwill ( they are highly dependent on mummy and daddy’s approval) or they’re controlled by managers and contracts and are controlled by the image these entities want for them e.g nepo babies, athletes.

You're: Young but age appropriate, hot but reserved and classic with your style personality or hobbies. Not boring but definitely someone that won't create fuss or scandal with their family. More Nara Smith than Anna Nicole Smith. A solid good girl image and a clean slate are musts.

Independents

They're : Established or self made and their money and name are their own ( they’re not controlled by the opinions of others in any big way. You can’t fire them or disinherit them).Don't care about pissing-off family members or managers.

You're: Whatever their type is. Sometimes looks and stereotypical femininity don't matter to them at all sometimes it's all they care about.

These women both landed independents.

but so did this one

Partials

They're: A mix of both, they have their own thing but their families more than likely have a say in how they live or they have boards to answer to.

You're: A mixture of what they want and what they can get away with taking home to their parents.

Further down there are four categories of each 

Entrepreneurial: They made their money through business or they are set to inherit one. Eg magnates, tech bros or heirs.

You're: Either a stereotypical trophy wife or an entrepreneurial person yourself. Looks may matter but they may not.

Academic: Their lives are devoted to academia eg tenured professors, experts in their fields etc.

You're : Educated and more than likely an academic yourself. Being a bimbo with a phd in thewizardliz and simonesquared will not cut it.

Entertainment: They made their money through getting people to waste their attention on them.

You're: Stereotypically hot and flashy and very social think wags and hollywood gfs.

Even further down you have the private and the forward facing. 

Privates will never be in Forbes willingly, they have almost no socials and will make the guy at Starbucks sign an NDA before placing an order.

You're : Extremely Discrete

Forward facers need attention to live and their professional and romantic choices reflect this.

You're: Good At Keeping Up Appearances

[richarlotte]

Tuesday’s Wisdom.

[bloominginsilk]

Unveiling the Mystique of Courtesanship

There’s an allure, a mystique, that surrounds the life of a courtesan, one that has captivated imaginations throughout history. But behind the veils and whispers lies a foundation built on more than just beauty and charm. The most successful courtesans—and women thriving in the world of hypergamy—share certain qualities that are far from superficial. They possess traits that are as complex and nuanced as the lives they lead, traits that I am beginning to understand as essential.

To live as a courtesan is to walk a path that many shy away from. It requires a willingness to take risks and to carve out the life one desires, no matter how unconventional that life may be. Many of the women I admire took bold, unapologetic steps toward their dreams, refusing to settle for anything less than what they envisioned for themselves.

But perhaps more than anything, a courtesan must understand men—their psychology, desires, and vulnerabilities. This goes beyond the surface. It is about truly seeing men, recognizing what makes them feel powerful, cherished, and unique. And then, of course, there is the art of charm and seduction—a delicate dance that is as much about giving as it is about holding back, leaving a touch of mystery to linger.

At the heart of it all, though, is a powerful sense of self. Confidence is her foundation, allowing her to navigate relationships, opportunities, and challenges with grace. It is the inner knowing of her own worth that makes a courtesan magnetic, drawing others not just because she is beautiful but because she embodies her own allure, unapologetically.

Yet, being captivating is only part of the equation. Success in this world requires a talent for self-marketing and promotion. A courtesan must be her own muse and her own brand. She must learn to cultivate her image with care, presenting herself to the world in a way that draws in admiration and curiosity, a mix of allure and authenticity that resonates.

And, of course, personal ambition and drive are indispensable. To thrive in this life means to constantly improve, to seek out knowledge, and to set goals that go beyond immediate pleasures. A courtesan's journey is one of transformation, always moving toward something greater.

Finally, there is the matter of financial literacy. A woman in this world cannot rely solely on wealth from others. She must understand the value of what she receives and have the intelligence to protect and grow it. Money is not the end goal but a means to build security and freedom. The most successful courtesans are those who not only live richly but also know how to sustain and grow that richness.

These qualities are the invisible threads woven into the mystique of courtesanship. And as I walk this path, I’m learning that each one has its place in my own journey.

[femininedating]

[rihnely]

[bleachblondeambition]

“I’m not impressed”, “be respectful of my time and my efforts”, “no”, “apologize”, and “do better” are all parts of my vocabulary, and I’ve dated a lot of men who have needed to hear those words. I’m strict in my relationships; I don’t put up with much, nor am I interested in hearing excuses, and if a man can’t follow through on what he’s promised me, he can find another woman who’ll listen to him and fall for what he can’t follow through with. I don’t pity the overindulged or feel the need to roll out the red carpet for men who’ve never been put in their place by a woman.

I’m also not easily swayed. It takes a lot to impress me, and 9 times out of 10, men don’t have what it takes to blow my mind. I believe that if men are comfortable holding women to unbelievably high standards, I should be comfortable with setting my own high standards and sticking to them. I’m the sort of girl who’ll sit around and read books and articles (written by women and I verify that) about gentle femdom and then turn around and use the tactics I’ve learned to kindly but firmly shut potential tomfoolery down.

It’s important to understand that if you want the best, you have to set boundaries with yourself and with others, and you HAVE to get comfortable with rejecting people who have not treated you well. I find that my love life is at its best when I’m making connections with people who understand and suit me, not allowing men to come in and out of my life whenever they please. Once a door has shut and a man has lost my good opinion, I allow it to remain closed instead of forcing it open again. High standards, no tolerance for nonsense, and not being scared to come off as strict will get you where you want to be.

[herdemimonde]

You Can't Be Selfish And Successful At Seduction

Most of us understand that certain actions [things we do or say] can have a pleasing effect on the person we would like to seduce.

The problem is that we are generally too self-absorbed:

We think more about what we want from others than what they could want from us.

We may occasionally do something that is seductive, but often we follow this up with a selfish or aggressive action (we are in a hurry to get what we want); or, unaware of what we are doing, we show a side of ourselves that is petty and banal, deflating any illusions or fantasies a person might have about us.

At all costs, resist the temptation to hurry to the climax of your seduction. You are not being seductive but selfish. Everything in daily life is hurried and improvised, and you need to offer something different. By taking your time and respecting the seductive process you will not only break down their resistance, you will make them fall in love.

Robert Greene

[luxuryandlilacs]

[withloveheart]

One of the best things I learned was that it was never too late to start over.

I've heard this being said before but it never really clicked until I met someone who embodied it fully and unapologetically. My Palestinian neighbors had a relative who I had always looked up to when I was in high school. She was smart, funny, loving, and most importantly knew her worth. Her worth wasn't spoken about. Never had I heard her utter things like "I'm confident" or "I know my worth" or anything else along those lines. However, she did embody it.

When I was in high school she was being courted by a man who seemed to adore her and shower her with love. From the outside looking in, he seemed enamored with her. At some point, she accepts to being his wife. They have a lovely engagement party. The wedding was going to be even better. So, imagine my surprise, and many others, when on the day of the wedding, as people are getting ready and making their way to the venue, the entire thing is called off. Money was already put in. Money they couldn't get back. The reason for calling off the wedding? This man began to insult her and make some interesting remarks and as a result she decided she wasn't going through the wedding. I don't know what was said but I do know her family made it clear that she should've worked it out rather than just leave especially on the actual wedding day. After all, what would people think? For those who don't know, plenty of Middle Eastern and North African cultures would view this as an issue. And I personally know many women who have had deep regrets over their marriage but were too worried about the stigma of canceling the wedding when it was so close and the potential of being seen as difficult or spoiled. Of course, this wasn't everyone but a good majority.

Seeing this very statement of "never too late to start over" be embodied by someone wholeheartedly really altered my perspective when I was younger. I also got to see first hand the strength it requires to start over while everyone around you is judging your very decision. Thanks to her I grew up with a solid example to follow and have tried my best to have this attitude with everything in my life. Personally, it has paid off well.

[beauteaful]

🎀The Dream Girl Sorority🎀

Being on a femininity/ level up/ hypergamy journey can get lonely. Most of the time, we don't start out with like-minded friends.

A few of us got inspired by 2pretty/ Kelsey and her old dreamgirl sorority to make our own server (as that one is no longer active).

The server is full of amazing women, helpful advice and stories of all the ups and down that accompany us on this journey.

If you'd like to join, here's the link!

🎀Stay safe🎀

[richarlotte]

one of the most important videos I’ve seen this year.

[femininedating]

[bleachblondeambition]

I’m reading “Ask Not", a book about the Kennedy women, and there’s a lot to learn. Realistically, I don’t have much use for most of what I’m reading at this point in time, but I like it that way. I’m able to absorb more, enjoy each anecdote, do my own research on things, and not think about how I can make the book relate to my own life. Not everything in the book is fully accurate, and some “ideas” are underdeveloped (the author writes for the Daily Mail), but it’s so fun to read.

What do you give to a man who’s had everything his whole life, never been told no, has always had the red carpet rolled out for him, and who takes your time and attention for granted? You give him the gift of rejection; you push back and learn to say no to his demands, and you stay devoted to your own wants and needs. A man hasn’t had everything in the world if he’s never been with a girl who’s told him no, and if you start off sweet and willing to do anything and then realize that you’ve been taken advantage of, you can still learn how to put him on his knees and make him take you seriously.

[cryptke]

The only real true gold diggers are the men who expect you to give them your body, take care of them and their needs, clean the house, wash their clothes, give birth to and take care of their children for 18+ years, AND on top of that still go to work & contribute 50/50 to the household expenses

[herdemimonde]

something i think is important for those new to hypergamous relationships to remember,

and something that i'm also trying to remember is that i am the prize. and so are you.

when you're new to this lifestyle and you're experiencing being provided for and taken care of for the first time, getting your first tastes of luxury and other perks its very easy to put the man that's providing all of this on a pedestal. and while you should be thankful, there's a big difference between being grateful vs. putting him on a pedestal.

there's a saying amongst millionaires: "the first million is the hardest".

and i think that saying can apply to this lifestyle as well.

the first hypergamous relationship/arrangement is the hardest [to obtain].

especially depending on one's circumstances.

but i believe that as long as you don't tell yourself that it's hard to find providers/high value men, you'll eventually see that there are men all around you that can provide you with the lifestyle that you desire.

he is far from the only one.