#stop ace and aro hate

[orion-somethings]

Fun fact!

Yeah Min’s Aroace! And if you don’t like that..

THEN GET OFF MY BLOG!

Everyone on the ace-spec IS and ALWAYS WILL BE VALID‼️

[len-is-home]

God I wish there was more recent Radiodust content.

Living through the birth TM and livestream era of the Hazbin Hotel fandom and getting sucked into the 📻🕷️💗 brainrot thanks to Michael and Ed's banter, only for the new community to start crucifying the very thing that was once the tent pole of the fandom is.... Sure an experience. A sad one at that.

Anyways, I'll be cultivating my little safe space now cause this specific blorbo pairing makes me happy and there's nothing wrong with that (and by "cultivating" I mean: saving every possible piece of art of them I can find, binging old fics and videos while mostly unsuccessfully looking for new ones, then writing my almost 100k fic which has yet to be wrapped up because my dumbass didn't listen to me when I said it was only gonna be 40k words max).

Salute to you, Radiodust army 💗❤️

[cosmicredcadet]

Stop reposting hate posts Stop Reposting Hate Posts. STOP REPOSTING HATE POSTS. STOP SPREADING THE HATE JUST TO RAGE AT THE POST. YOU ARE FORCING THESE POSTS ONTO PEOPLES DASHES WHEN MANY MAY HAVE BLOCKED THEM. STOP REPOSTING THEM FOR FUCKS SAKE.

[harlowes-home]

A canon couldn't possibly be more head but man the idea of Clint realizing he might be on the aro/ace spectrum and him sort of putting women on an unreachable romantic pedestal is the result of him masking SO hard and being wrapped in a heterosexual ideal he unknowingly feels he has to follow so he's just assumed any endearment he felt towards a woman HAD to be romantic.

The idea of him coming to terms with the fact he doesn't need a romantic relationship to be happy or worthy and platonic friendships are just as meaningful, and it's the first step towards him definitely not being rid of all his anxieties but being more open to people and building a healthier social life.

Also like. I 100% believe if he got over the hump of assuming any relationship he has to have with the opposite sex just HAS to be romantic thus taking the pressure away he and Emily would make good friends. They got that shared love of gems, she's outgoing and spiritual but still responsible while he's more reserved and grounded so they kind of balance each other out. They would have SUCH a good dynamic if they were friends man.

[unloneliest]

the A in LGBTQIA2S+ stands for asexual and aromantic, yes. this absolutely is not a post arguing against that. but it is absolutely, critically vital that the A does also stand for ally. the plausible deniability that ally being a part of the acronym offers closeted people is a necessity. it's a matter of safety.

[paintsplash1712]

What I love about Hobbie as an English Person (TW: Flashing Lights)

God does it feel great to have a British character in a none British film that actually feels, well, British.

So to the rest of the world, you guys have this stereotype of us being poor ass Conservative assholes that only care about ourselves and its sad that stereotype is so common because (appropriately) its a tiny percentage of people.

Now I'm not from London (another thing guys we're not all from London! It's like saying every American is from California) so I don't know every reference Hobbie made and I was born far after the punk movement so take my observations with a pinch of salt but...

He feels so real!

I work in retail so I see a lot of unique colourful characters and I've met people similar to Hobbie, you'd think they'd be intimidating or stone-faced but they're so chill and more likely to treat people in our work place with more respect then others. And I totally believe Hobbie would too (he's punk he has to).

I love all the little references in the way he speaks, I find it hilarious that the film had to translate what a jumper is or other things I thought were universal.

I love how kind and open he is to Gwen and Miles. If his story is anything like the comics I would've expected him to act more douchy or angry but he doesn't give a toss he just wants to play his music and make Miguel angry (which I respect).

His art style is collage! My favourite medium!

(Also very appropriate from what I learned in college, where we analysed album covers and artwork by punk bands and artists and how it stood out in a time of same-y looking artwork) So very appropriate for Spiderverse.

Anyway I didn't have a structure to this. I just love having English representation that actually feels like the writers talked to actual British people (not posh assholes but actual people) and did their homework.

So Daniel Kaluuya got to use his actual accent for once! Yay!

[zymstarz]

yeah sure that's how i'll [re]come out

[wizards4for20]

Fandom will fight to the death to make sure gay and lesbian characters aren’t in hetero ships, which is wonderful and absolutely what should happen, don’t get me wrong, but then an aro character pops up and suddenly it’s “they could be gray/demi/queerplatonic to fit the amatonormative narrative” and suddenly all that defensive, validating energy is gone. Where did it go?

[artemx746]

Can somebody write a soulmate or hanahaki au where the concept isn't extremly amatonormative?

Thanks

[ohdeer0-0]

Okay so what the fuck

[blackarmychoir]

you think after recent events queers on tumblr, especially non cis ones would come together in unity but of course its more divided than ever now

[cosmicredcadet]

I keep seeing posts where people are saying "Valentines doesn't effect asexuals!" "romantic relationships have nothing to do with asexuality!" And while i understand the point they are making is to stop conflating Aromanticism with Asexuality, it is still extremely annoying to find people don't understand the nuance that comes with asexualities connection to romance - because it DOES have a connection to it. It DOES have problems in relation to romance. To say it doesn't is ignoring a huge set is experiences that ace people face.

One of the most common experiences for asexuals is the struggle to be in romantic relationships because they are asexual. a lot of romantic relationships expect you to have sex. if you're someone who doesn't have sex then unfortunately that causes a lot of people to lose interest in you romantically as well.

There's also non-sam aces, and let me tell you it's so very strange to hear someone bring up non-sam aros but then ignore the existence of non-sam aces in order to prove some point of it somehow being ace peoples fault that aro and ace are viewed as the same. Some non-sam aces do not date either. they are still ace and they can still face similar problems to aromantic people because of that. they are still effected my amatonormativity.

Aces DO have connection to romance. Asexual DID have a reason to trend on valentines day along with Aro and Aroace. Asexuality is effected my romance and amatonormativity. Sop acting like it isn't. stop acting like aros and aces have absolutely nothing in common. We can work together and have similar experiences and still be seen as separate identities. there is overlap. stop treating this as black and white where one identity can only be effected by one kind of problem. It's naive at best and down right hateful at worse.

[the-acid-pear]

Glad I'm aro so I can fucking say some other aros out there are so fucking annoying.

[mayarab]

Also, the statement "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" is true even for ace people who do have sex, because no one should be in a relationship where sex is an expectation without that being communicated from the beginning and that's what ace people are fighting for. That's what society as a whole needs to understand.

The aro conterpart is that "aro people don't owe you a relationship" and that expectation should also be communicated.

here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit

[bengallemon]

"we need more complex queer characters" you guys can't even handle yourselves

[confused-canid]

"B-b-but what if ur not actually aro!! What if u just haven't met the right person yet?? Ur still young 🥺"

Than I'll stop using the aro label. I'll realize that I was incorrect and go on with my life. No one's changed my mind yet though. I haven't met that "special someone 🥺🥺🥺🥺" "yet" so I don't care about this entirely hypothetical person.

Aphobes are stupid ngl. Realizing that this label doesn't fit me (which it will almost definitely still fit me as I get older) isn't going to be some world shattering event. I'll move on, I'll accept my mistake. Lol

I'm not ace, but this post wasn't about being aroallo so go wild, I se you aroaces and aces, y'all r cool so you can tag it as ace and aroace

Everyone in the reblogs and comments, talking about how finding the right person doesn't invalidate being aspec are right, I should've said that in the post, but this point has been made on this post by others a thousand times. It's getting a bit annoying. No hate but if it happens again I might turn of replies and if it happens again in a reblog I'm turning those off too.