#tagging as aro bc it feels right

[the-great-horse-cocktail]

bitch why you want me so bad I’m literally just some guy with a debit card

[esteemed-excellency]

btw if it wasn't already clear: every single one of my ocs is on the aro spectrum for the simple reason that I have no idea how cishet romantic attraction works

[shinx-stardust]

Rip my heart, still beating, from my chest, and watch me bleed out. You have wronged me, forced me to change, to give a piece of myself I never wanted to sacrifice.

[platonicallylovesick]

btw just letting you know, uh Gods, all of you that this is MEGA mfing unfair. give me my identity back. i wand Me From 3 Months Ago back because she was SO ECSTATIC and SO PROUD to be aro and SHE didnt feel like tearing off her skin when she looked at fictional characters because she's not allowed to love them.

SHE took her minor aesthetic attraction and daydreaming and she was HAPPY with it. She didnt feel like a fucking alien. SHE didnt look at a dating sim and want to punch a wall because GOD DAMNIT if i havnt been trying SO HARD to love these characters, I mean SO. HARD. to feel ANYTHING for them because I WANT TO WANT.

Give me my identity and my pride back. I hate whatever this limbo is where i recognize im supposed to love my identity and I did love it a lot and i think i still do except now my brain has to share space with this frustration and self-hatred and extreme rejection because there is nothing that will make me feel anything and i'm getting damn sick of just going through the motions of selfshipping

[sebast1an-solace]

p.ai.nter is aroace. To Me

[whamss]

Idk maybe it's just my perspective as an aro lesbian but I find the take that, bc the pale quadrant is defined as a type of 'romance' for trolls, all interpretations of pale ships should therefore be seen as strictly romantic and that pale pairings need to correspond directly with both characters stated sexualities to be remarkably limiting and smallminded, personally. I'm all for expanding the definition of what makes a relationship romantic but sometimes I feel like people take 'romance' a little too literally when they try to make 'romance = attraction' as opposed to approaching pale feelings as like. Their own thing. Moiraillagence being a kind of romance for trolls and also being a technically 'platonic' relationship (from a human pov, these are concepts invented by a Human to fuel fan discussion they aren't complex) with very little bearing on whether or not you feel romantic attraction to somebody are two concepts that can coexist.

[sixth-doctor]

Oh my god I love your analysis so much, I had sort of been thinking something similar but I suck at words lmao. Also that touch telepathy kissing idea is so good? Oh my god I love it! Adding this to my extensive list of headcanons (I have so many, I come up with new gallifrey lore on the weekly)

the Ninth Doctor is aro ace! from the latest boxset Star Crossed! (from the first episode, Swipe Left) and River's reaction to it!

for years i had this headcanon and its so cool that they are actually making it offical, also of course its John Dorney like come on hehe

here so its not word of mouth anymore! the ninth doctor isofficaly aro ace! (though here his aroness saves the day hehe)

[raspberryjellybrains]

i know nobody gaf but i reeallllllyyyy wanna talk about my bad kids gender/sexuality headcanons so here goes

fig: obviously bi/pan/omni bc it's canon (yayy!!!), but i think she would identify as bisexual! i also really like her as a trans girl :) something about demonic puberty and human puberty and going against others' expectations to define for yourself who you are.

gorgug: same case with fig for sexuality, and i don't think he even really had many thoughts or feelings about it. bc he's one of my favorites and not because i have a great volume of evidence, im hitting him with the gender beam. i think there's something agender about this half-orc. masculinity feels like something gorgug was handed, went "okay", and never really examined further or felt in any meaningful way. not really a costume so much as a label with some instructions. probably uses he/they pronouns after some lovely chats with the AAAGSA (idk if thats the right acronym but i think it would be funny if it was)

adaine: i think she just kind of assumes she's straight? not enough time or care to investigate otherwise. had a thing for one (1) boy and just goes with that. i truly think that she's arospec and aspec and it takes her until after post-secondary to realize this. "girl" was kind of forced on her pretty hard, and kind of feels it, but also feels like it's inextricably tied to some awful memories. maybe demigirl in the future? trying to figure out what "girl" means for herself and still sticking with she/her, for now. still considers herself cis for a long time after knowing she probably isn't bc she doesn't feel "trans enough" to identify otherwise.

fabian: BIG woman enjoyer. i think he would kiss anyone of any gender as long as they're hot, but takes a minute to discover that one. he would probably just assume everyone works like that, and as long as he's mostly into women, he's straight. which isn't entirely right or wrong! as for gender, i think he's cisgender. there's room for experimentation with presentation after sophmore year, but feels most comfortable on the masculine end of androgyny. not gender, but queer: i think he'd LOVE drag. kristen would introduce him to it, and they'd watch fantasy rupaul's together and go to live shows when kristen's in town post-hs.

kristen: lesbian ofc!! i think she starts out with the "butch or really christian" bermuda shorts and t-shirts freshman year, but leans further and further into butch as she moves away from the church. she IS the girl in basketball shorts and a t-shirt/tanktop every day of the year and most of the school's sapphic population wants her for it BADLY. as for gender, i think a similar boat to adaine where femininity is tied up in a lot of bad experiences, but more nonchalant about it? should probably talk to someone about it but who caaaaaaaarrreeees. leans really hard into masculine woman bc i think she is a girl, and this is an expression of that which is entirely her own to feel and define.

and last but not least, riz: pretty well canon aro/ace and that genuinely means a lot to me. not to get personal. i think he's romance and sex repulsed, but interested in a qpr or some kind of lifelong companionship bc he gets lonely!! dude wants a friend for all of his many detective adventures. i think he's also a cisgender boy, but i would not shoot down readings otherwise.

and thats all!! if anyone does care, I'll probably elaborate on minuteae in the tags and if anyone really really wants, i can make a part two with other characters :D

[web-novel-polls]

Aroace-spec Character Losers' Tournament

[Please vote for who you believe has the most canon evidence to be aroace-spec, not the most popular. It will never be acceptable to post "anti-propaganda" in this tournament or invalidate a suggested identity because "they're not aroace enough." You will be blocked unless it's clearly a genuine mistake / misphrasing.]

Propaganda underneath the cut

Shen Qingqiu from The Scum Villain’s Self-Saving System

Submission 1: Gay Asexual

I mean have you met the man? "Assuming you're straight because you feel nothing towards either sex but you have to be the default, right? before realizing you're romantically attracted to someone but not realizing you're romantically attracted to someone because it doesn't feel like sexual attraction which is how allos explain what love is until the romantic attraction hits you like a sledge hammer" is both a common ace experience and absolutely his story arc. Also I would have submitted him sooner but I thought he was a shoe in

Submission 2:

Asexual, somewhere on the aro spectrum - I would have submitted him earlier but based on the tags I assumed I wouldn't need to and didn't want op to be spammed with too many submissions ;_; anyhow he's here now!

Mod Propaganda

Was completely okay with not marrying anyone (because all the women in the world “belong to the protagonist”)

So fucking weird about sex. He has to mentally contort his brain seven ways to Sunday to even IMAGINE fucking someone (earning him the title of “most homophobic gay person”)

“He’s not gay, Binghe is”

Reads bad erotica and then complains about the plot inconsistencies

Accidentally wife beams/romances pretty much every single character he meets

Kim Dokja from Omniscient Reader’s Viewpoint

Submission 1: demiromantic graysexual, romance/sex indifferent

bc yoohankim is the most qpr qpr to ever qpr

Submission 2: demiromantic graysexual

yoohankim is soo queerplatonic it makes my chest hurt. and ysa and kdj are THE qpr ever. also i read the submissions list and my jaw deadass dropped when i saw that someone else had the exact same kdj hcs as me like asjdnghfdhdbn!ksnk#**#*@*

[wonderlandgoblin]

Okay, so I don’t watch Hazbin Hotel (if I wrote it wrong, sorry) but for like weeks, the only thing I see in the asexual tag is people complaining about allos shipping ace characters in a very allo way, and it’s been annoying me to no end, because while we do have to be upset about that, the ace tag should also function in a way for us to share jokes, have fun and enjoy our identity without having to fight for our right to exist.

So I propose we do something different. Let’s annoy the aphobes. I propose that from now on, every character becomes ace/aro/aroace. No more shipping fanfics, just platonic relationships and friendships. Every fanart is now SFW and has the ace/aro/aroace flags colors.

I DEMAND A REVOLUTION!!!!

Tell me the characters you’re claiming!

My ace claimings are:

1-Luffy (any pairing with him just gives me nausea)

2-Zoro (fuck zosan, he prefers swords over anything except maybe luffy, who he has a squish on)

3-Bakugou Katsuki (I love that kid, I’m making him one of my own)

4-Sasuke (I hate that guy, but he rejected both Sakura and Naruto, that kid’s definitely aroace)

5-Yor (my queen mama prefers killing over kissing, that should be an obvious sign)

6-Yona (no one’s touching my queen, she never liked Soo-won nor Hak, it was all social pressure to not end up alone, fight me)

7-Xie Lian (I don’t like the idea of anyone touching the god I worship, so that means he’s ace now)

8-Kageyama (idk why, he just has a vibe)

9-Handa from Barakamon (I don’t think this needs explanation)

10-Fushiguro Megumi (I like him, he’s one of my own now)

11-Maomao (she prefers venoms over sex)

12-Mash from Mashle (like, look at him, that guy just wants to exercise, eat and be with his family)

13-Violet Evergarden (I don’t think I need to explain this, this girl dedicated her entire life to understanding romance as it made no sense to her, aroace queen)

14-Sokka (he’s too smart to like sex)

15-Zuko (he’s an angel, angels don’t have sex)

16-Magnus Chase AND Alex Fierro (they’re my babies, I identify too much with them, the idea of them having sex gives me the ickies)

17-Jude from the Cruel Prince (I liked her better before she fell for that stupid fairy)

18-Edmund from Narnia (he was my childhood crush, I’m making him ace)

19-Annabeth Chase (she’s too perfect to have sex)

20-Alec Lightwood (I just like imagining Magnus loosing his shit every once in a while because of it)

21-Leo Valdez (bc why not?)

22-Blue Sargent and half the women she lives with (no explanation needed)

23-Dick Gansey the Third (he prefers dead kings over sex)

24-Katniss Everdeen (if you disagree, what is wrong with you?)

25-Castiel (fuck destiel shippers, angels don’t have sex)

26-Felicity from Arrow (haven’t finished the series but as far as I know, she’s too cool for sex)

27-Barbie (she’s a doll, she has no reproductive organs, she can’t feel desire)

I could probably pick more characters but I think this is enough for now, have fun annoying the aphobes!

[the-real-rain-world-confessions]

every time i see a post talking abt how much op loves [insert ship here] or just rw ships in general i have to fight the urge to crumple into a tiny ball of romantic repulsion

“then why not block the tag” how The Fuck am i supposed to find any posts then. 70% of the RW fandom are shippers. I don’t hate it enough to block it but sometimes it just catches me off guard and I feel utterly revolted

i tend to project my aromanticism onto every character (especially ones I like such as… the entire cast) and it honestly sucks bc it feels like being erased but its not . like they’re not canonically aromantic. i have no right to feel this way but i do.

tl;dr being a romance repulsed aro in the rw fandom sucks ass

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[feral-ass-raccoon]

making a new intro post bc i went to go update mine and it was fucking gone anyways i am so sorry this is gonna be a long one

hi welcome to the void (:

you can call me Feral or Raccoon or something else idk. secret third option ig

• i am aro/aceflux (:

• multi-fandom chaos. [i got tired of listing them all hjgjfjdg]

• if you follow me i will go look at your blog. Vibe Check

• swear warning. intense swear warning. it is a problem here and you have been warned. i swear a lot i'm sorry

• i also give mutuals nicknames. sorry. it will continue happening. i <3 abusing my moot privileges <333

• asks are always open, feel free to scream at me

• seriously send me shit. questions, headcanons, au stuff, more questions, even just silly little memes. i fuckin love asks

• this applies to OCs too!!! i have them!!! a few, at least, please feel free to send a fandom i'm in and i will tell you the OCs i have for it :D [aske me about the Guys. please. i beg of you.]

• sometimes i draw things, the tag i use for it is #raccoon's art

• i also cook. i love cooking. that tag is #raccoon's kitchen btw

• actually all my tags are listed in. the tags. so.

• I CAN BE BOTHERED!!! DO NOT BE AFRAID OF "ANNOYING" ME I DO NOT CARE. EVEN IF I DON'T RESPOND RIGHT AWAY, I WILL TRY TO.

• i do like tag games and such!!! feel free to tag me if ya want ESPECIALLY FOR UQUIZZES!! I LOVE UQUIZZES

• i schedule a shit ton of posts but i'm not always online btw so if i'm posting regularly but it's at even times, they're probably scheduled lmao

• DNI LIST: hah. nahhh tbh i don't really care as long as you aren't a dick. if i don't like you i'll jus block you.

• general boundaries are pretty much just idgaf, you live your life, and i won't bother you. unless you try dragging me into something i don't wanna be involved in. i will stab you /hj.

• before we get started: trans men are men, trans women are women, transphobia is stupid, homophobia is stupid, fandom is free, fanfiction is not a service, the block button is free, you are responsible for curating your own internet experience, don't be an asshole, etc etc

[8-evil-annoying-catboys]

i know i just said it in tags but i need to say this louder. if your response to intracommunity transphobia is something like, “we shouldn’t fight we should kiss with tongue,” or whatever? you sound like an idiot.

‘kissing with tongue’ won’t be the sole reason a bigot will stop being a bigot. think of how many cishet men are misogynists while they have a girlfriend or even a wife. you’re advocating for a bigot to kiss/fuck/date someone they’re bigoted against. that does nothing but put the other person in an incredibly dangerous position for a vulnerable person to be in. trans people can hurt each other, and people in relationships have many more opportunities to hurt their partners much more profoundly than they could hurt a friend, acquaintance, or stranger, because of how much time they spend alone together. there’s a reason why, when someone in a relationship is murdered, their partner is usually going to be suspect #1. domestic violence is fucking real.

when you don’t know someone’s sexuality, you could be telling gay men, lesbians, and aces, aros, and aroaces that they have a problem that would be fixed by getting into a heterosexual relationship. you understand that that’s fucked up, right? you understand that it’s not really less fucked up just because you’re not saying their sexuality is the problem, right?

trans people are incredibly sexualised, and trans women in particular are treated as if their only value is as a sex object. trans people of all genders get this treatment as well, although gender does play into it and make it more or less pervasive sometimes. honestly, this one feels too obvious to need explaining, but this IS the piss on the poor website, so: you are reducing intracommunity relations to sexual acts, and implying that sex will fix all our problems. it won’t, and this will naturally offend most of the people to whom you say it bc you’re implying that sex will change their opinions, that they have no basis in their beliefs and therefore the simple act of having sex or a relationship with someone will sway them. it’s counterproductive, obviously untrue, and in some cases, it even constitutes sexual harassment.

side note: st4t joy is amazing and i adore the ways in which st4t relationships affect both partners’ worldviews. this post isn’t about expressing that, or even comparing that to discourse-related frustration on your own post. this is about directing comments at trans people involved in intracommunity discourse, because even those who are arguing in bad faith are still human fucking beings, and they don’t deserve to be sexually harassed. it’s awful behavior, not to mention the fact that it makes you and everyone associated with you (even very loosely, just by agreements in certain arguments) look bad. stop doing it.

[vqnta]

Heya, the name's Vanta!

I figured it was time to make a pinned post, so feel free to take a look below for some more about me :D

Call me Vanta or V

My pronouns are she/her and I am aroace

Social media manager' for @bvcofficial (when I remember to update it lol)

Not active here much bc I'm a little bit shy about posting

Fandom list:

Hermitcraft, LifeSMP, FNAF, UTDR, TF2, Detroit: Become Human, Vylet Pony

DNI transphobes/terfs (here's looking at you, Harry Potter fans), Zionists, anyone who thinks what's going on in America right now is good or okay, bigots (same as the last one, in effect), people who think aro/ace people don't fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella (touch grass)

I'll tag any reblog that I say something on with #brambles (heh. get it? brooke rambles... brambles...). Fandom posts will be tagged appropriately

Image above is of my OC [now a bit outdated] and was commissioned from the wonderful, amazing @cedar-treetea

Edited: April 29, 2025

[yardsards]

What made you realize you’re aro? An idea has been planted in my head of me being aro

i feel like for me, my thing was less about *realizing* i was aro and more about *accepting* that i was aro. (also talk abt my asexuality in here bc those two parts of my identity feel very intertwined. and some gender stuff as well)

as a little kid, i didn't have any crushes. i assumed all my classmates that said they had crushes were just lying or doing some kind of social performance that i (as an undiagnosed autistic who frequently felt left out by my peers' social rules) figured i just didn't get. i figured real crushes wouldn't happen til we were teenagers or something.

when i was like 13, i was clicking around on wikipedia, and found an article about asexuality. immediately i identified myself in it (and realized that oh, it wasn't the default). my confusion about why the girls my age always talked about finding guys hot finally made sense to me. it just clicked into place.

i read up more about asexuality. i looked at the asexual tag on tumblr. i learned about aromanticism and the split attraction model.

but i wasn't ready to accept being aromantic yet. i labelled myself a heteroromantic asexual for several months, maybe even a year. the idea of never having sex wasn't scary to me. but the idea of never falling in love was *terrifying*. so i told myself i just hadn't met the right boy yet and would grow into it. (you'd think a 13 year old would figure out their romantic orientation before their sexual orientation, cuz it's normal for sexual attraction to not be fully developed yet. but i was not coming from the most logical place here)

over time, seeing aromantics online, and unlearning heteronormativity and amatonormativity, the idea of being aromantic started to feel less scary. so i *began* to accept the fact that i could be aro and that would be okay, and started calling myself aromantic.

but a part of me still didn't *want* to be aromantic.

i tried looking for alternative explanations. i questioned if i was a lesbian: i now knew i didn't want to be any boy's girlfriend, but being a girl's girlfriend was never shoved down my throat (and didn't have heteronormative gender roles baked into it) the way dating boys was and so didn't make me so viscerally uncomfortable. and something about butch lesbians really resonated with me (hello repressed gender crisis). i found girls pretty to look at, and fun to draw.

and i had this female friend that i tended to cling to (i have always had a habit of clinging stronglyvto one best friend at a time in my younger years, as a weird autism-anxiety thing). i liked being by her side, and i wanted to hold her hand. i wanted us to be in each other's lives forever. i found myself jealous when she paid more attention to her various boyfriends and girlfriends than me. (later on i realized that she actually wasn't a very good friend and treated all of her friends like free therapy or pit stops between romantic partners. very high school.)

then i realized i was trans, and came out to some close friends.

and then two separate male-aligned friends both admitted romantic feelings towards me in a very close timespan. it made me feel warm when they told me they wanted to be with me. but i told them i didn't think i reciprocated the feelings. both of them told me they'd be okay with something queerplatonic instead of romantic. but i told them i wasn't sure about that either bc commitment like that was scary to me. and i wasn't sure that if i did want a qpr if i would want it with either of them specifically.

i started to think, maybe i was biromantic. the idea of being a boy's boyfriend didn't make my skin crawl the same way the idea of being a boy's girlfriend did. i wondered if maybe the reason i didn't say yes to being in a romantic relationship was just the same reasons i also didn't say yes to being in a queerplatonic relationship (commitment issues/not being sure if either of those particular people were right for me)

but i slowly realized that all of my feelings that i was hoping to fit into a romantic box just. weren't romantic and couldn't be forced to be romantic. it was all either just strong platonic love (i remember noting that it was roughly the same type of love i'd felt towards favorite cousins, who the idea of being romantic with obviously disgusted me). or in other cases were just me being lonely and wanting to be loved and paid attention to, and wanting any love i could get even if it were romantic. and being so afraid of being abandoned in favour of everyone getting romantic partners (because our amatonormative society says that friends should always come second to romantic partners, plus that first girl friend regularly ditching me for her partners increasing that fear) so i was hoping to be in a romantic relationship with the people i loved platonically so that i wouldn't have to worry about them leaving me behind.

idk if i explained it well, and idk if any of this is helpful to you. but yeah.

[ruegarding]

(hi this is aroaceleovaldez it's a sideblog so i cant send asks from it hrg) a.) always love seeing your tags on my posts lol you have very good opinions [handshake emoji] b.) i'll be honest i wasn't even thinking about the awful pjo wwii stuff when i made that post i was thinking about the new, *different* antisemitism from TOA. of which there is. even more somehow. 😬 also fun fact Rick saying Reyna is allo-ace-coded on twitter might have actually semi been directly because of me, because he said that within like 2 hours and 2 tweets of replying to an open letter i wrote where i literally said that the way he wrote Reyna in Tyrant's Tomb falls into aphobic tropes and Isn't Great. despite replying to it i dont think he actually read it, lol. he then almost immediately left twitter for like 4 years and he also has since deleted his reply. fascinating stuff, truly.

anyways please excuse me digging through your hazel tag cause i am constantly dying trying to find hazel-focused fanart and you have one of the few good hazel tags i've been able to find. picture me scurrying away like some sort of small creature here.

hi thank u!! i appreciate your posts abt disabilities/ableism especially bc it's such an integral part of the story and a lens that gets lost despite that

i'll be honest, i haven't read toa (only short snippets when i want to see a specific scene), so i just read this article abt it, and it's frustrating that almost every example of diversity rick includes is riddled w harmful stereotypes. like, google is right there to help you avoid at least some! (psa to anyone else reading this, google "harmful [x] stereotypes" before making a character you're unfamiliar with!) the wwii stuff...rereading the series again like two years ago shocked me bc i had completely erased the entire plotline from my memory as a kid. some of these choices have me questioning the editors at the time, bc there were definitely things an editor should've pointed out if they were reading the full text.

your power! lmao but that behavior is exactly what makes it so difficult to give rick real feedback. i know some fans claim the older fandom is too cynical, but if we've been trying to give the same advice for years it's going to get old fast. every good change is accompanied by something else (especially noticeable in how percy is treated), so it always feels double-edged. but i'm glad you said this actually bc i didn't know he specified allo-ace! i had assumed he said aro-ace, but that actually makes the way ppl behave abt lesbians identifying w reyna more alarming...regardless i'm glad he's including ace rep bc it's rare, but the way reyna and the hunters were handled is...confusing at best.

please enjoy! i love hazel sm and i recently just went thru someone else's blog and queued a bunch of posts in a very similar fashion lol