#these two things are not mutually exclusive

[havelanca]

Life imitates art

all goofing aside I genuinely don't understand the urge to reimagine Taylor Allison Swift as a secretly queer icon when the pop music scene(TM) is like. literally overflowing with women who actually like women. Gaga and Kesha and Miley and Halsey are right there. Rina Sawayama and Hayley Kiyoko and Rebecca Black and Kehlani and Victoria Monét and Miya Folick if you're willing to get slightly less top 100. Janelle and Demi for them nonbinary takes on liking girls. like what are we doing here. like I'm not even saying you can't enjoy Taylor but why would you hang all your little gay hopes on her.

[dollyfiles]

pulling off fwb!rafe’s condom during sex

cw: smut, fuck buddies dynamic, p in v, first protected then unprotected sex, creampie, praise, explicit language

“rafe—” you gasped, the back of your head thudding against the pillow as he drove into you, hard and fast, the bed creaking beneath you with every sharp thrust. your hands gripped his shoulders like you were holding on for dear life, nails dragging down his back, a broken moan falling from your lips. “fuck—don’t stop—”

he didn’t. couldn’t. not with the way you were clinging to him like you needed him inside you just to breathe. sweat slicked skin, hair sticking to his forehead, jaw clenched as he tried to keep control, but it was slipping. you made it impossible.

being friends with benefits with rafe cameron meant wild and relentless sex. morning, day, and night. and even when you felt like it couldn’t get any better, there always was this little five percent missing to make it absolutely perfect.

it was this damn rubber that was wrapped tightly around his thick shaft, always keeping that little percentage hidden inside, and waking your curiosity like nothing else.

it was a mutual decision when you both started this little arrangement, of course it was, at least you thought so. rafe on the other hand would’ve loved to just toss that little annoying thing out the window at any given chance.

not that he didn’t care. oh he cared. more than anyone else, that’s why he decided to agree in the first place. just for you and your comfort. and of course you didn’t know that once you guys started hooking up, he went and didn’t dare touch another woman.

not because you two were something exclusive, no. he simply didn’t want to. you were already giving him everything he needed, even if things were just casual. so now, with rafe hitting something deep inside you, you couldn’t help but want more.

you were totally soaked, clenching around him, but your expression said it still wasn’t enough. his hands gripped your thighs, spreading you wider. the slap of skin echoed through the room, mingling with your breathy moans and the rough rasp of his name spilling from your lips like a prayer.

that’s when you stilled beneath him, your thighs tightening around his hips to stop his movements. “pull out.” you demanded and rafe froze mid-thrust, blinking down at you, chest rising fast. “what?” his voice cracked with confusion, panic flickering in his eyes.

“just—” your voice was ragged, pupils blown wide, lips swollen. you were panting, shaking, like your body was on fire. “just do it.” rafe couldn’t help but feel his heart stutter as he pulled back, chest heaving in disappointment. “did i—?”

“no,” you breathed, shaking your head, your hair clinging to your damp forehead. your hand slid between you, fingers curling around the base of his cock. he hissed through his teeth, nearly losing it right then and there. “it’s just—” you looked up at him, eyes blazing. “i want more.”

leaning up, you kissed him hard, tongue brushing his lip before whispering into his mouth, “i want you raw, rafe.” for a long moment rafe didn’t move, he was too stunned, until you started rolling the condom off his cock yourself.

it was slow and deliberate, watching his face the whole time. your fingers were slick, trembling just a little, but your touch was confident, and god if that didn’t undo him. the thin rubber slid off inch by inch, and you tossed it somewhere into the room, reaching for him again like you were starving.

“come on,” you whispered, voice wrecked and dripping with want. “please let me feel you.” and then, without hesitation, he grabbed your hips, dragging you down the bed, and slammed back into you with a raw, guttural groan. you both swore at the same time, almost relieved.

the difference was immediate. no barrier. no distance. your bare cunt hit him like a punch to the gut. it was even wetter and tighter and so much more. you cried out beneath him, hands flying to his back, holding onto him like a vice.

you could feel every single vein of his cock, every time his tip nudged your cervix without any protection. you were soaking him, wrapping around him, dragging him in. “jesus—” he growled against your throat, teeth grazing your skin. “you feel—fuck—you feel unreal.”

you wrapped your legs higher around him, clawing at his back, pulling him deeper, rougher, harder. “don’t stop,” you begged, your voice cracking. “don’t you fucking stop.”

his rhythm turned brutal, desperate, the kind of pace where none of you cared if the neighbors heard. you met every thrust with a needy whimper, the whole bed shaking as your fingers tangled in his hair, dragging him in for a kiss that was all tongue and teeth.

he slammed into you again and again, chasing that sweet spot, chasing your moans, like he’d die if he couldn’t get more. you were already falling apart under him, body arching, hands scrambling for anything to hold onto.

“i can’t—i’m gonna—” your voice broke off in a gasp, head thrown back, mouth open in a silent cry. “cum for me,” he growled against your ear, hips snapping faster. “fuck, baby, cum on me.”

and you did. your whole body locked around him like you were pulling him down with you, your poor cunt clenching around him hard that it triggered his own release, hot and overwhelming. he buried himself in you with a rough groan, the feeling of his hot seed inside you making you moan out as your orgasm rolled over you.

both of you collapsed at the same time, panting, completely wrecked, skin slick and sticky with sweat. your legs stayed locked around him, his face buried in your neck, both of you shaking from the aftershocks.

“that,” you whispered hoarsely, barely able to speak, “was so much better.” rafe laughed, breathless and fucked out, brushing a kiss over your chest. “you think we’re done?”

you just smirked, still catching your breath but fingers already sliding slowly down his stomach, teasing his cock again. “i fucking hope not.”

tags: @inbred-eater @dearapril @isasweetie @rafessecret @littlelamy @bradshawed @cherrygirlfriend @trusweethrt @inspiredangel @et6rnalsun @bluemerakis @nemesyaaa @rafekisser @deansbeer @ditzyrafe @rafesgreasycurtainbangs @lacyydollette @drewsephrry @angvl3tears @rotapathetic @raahosh

[gio-sparx]

I love failing to resist my Master

I am in trance, yet again. My Master has full control of me. He is so nice to me, I like being a desparate hypnoslut for him. However, I sometimes do a bad thing when he hypnotizes me. I resist. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely relish in giving away control over my mind to someone else, that is the reason why I am so into hypnosis. But I also like the thrill of feeling helpless and struggling against the unstoppable force of trance. I am caught between these two mutually exclusive desires, so I do the only reasonable thing to resolve the conflict. I'm a brat.. or at least I try to be.

The thing about Master's hypnosis is, it always works. His trigger is deeply anchored in my mind, and he has trained me so often that my response is automatic. And that makes it really hard to even feign resistance. But nonetheless, I try. I keep telling myself that the next time he says the magic words, I'll manage to hold on long enough to get a few words out, but it never works. The state of trance is just to alluring. I swear, he has installed a literal off switch in my mind. Once he flips it, all the thoughts I had before are gone, replaced with a deep state of focus.

It's hot in it's own right that he can override my will like that, but I wish I could feel the pleasure of my resistance slowly crumpling as well. I guess it's like the old proverb: You can't have your cake and eat it too.

[owlithere]

Some time ago I got obsessed with the idea of Damian and Respawn (who really need a better name) growing up as twins.

Mostly I just adore the headcanon in which Jason is their (and the other league kids') big brother father figure.

And if I had to choose another name for Respawn, it would be Austen Austin or Nathan - I can't decide. Both meanings would fit with the meaning of Damian's name and would also end in the letter n. While Austin would add to Jason's obsession with Austen (even if I think we should give him more books - especially in different AUs), Nathan would have a more fitting diminutive aka Nati….

[rodeodeparis]

i’m mixed mizrahi & ashkenazi in the us myself, and i also read a lot, i have a lot of thoughts on this sentiment, putting it under a read more because it’s quite a bit

disclaimer: all of this is my personal opinion and may not be 1000% objective, and i know for a fact that not all sephardic/mizrahi/mixed jewish/jews of color-americans agree with me 👍

i’ve seen this sentiment from leftie american jews of all kinds over the past two years, and i get where it comes from, particularly due to israeli propaganda targeted at americans appropriating the language of racial justice to that end (and as a result a bunch of white jews going "jews are not white", and a circular argument about whether or not jews are white ensuing) and i am so so tired of it

for one, it's not accurate. people in europe historically didn’t see themselves entirely, collectively as “white people”. zionism was formed in the context of 19th century european nationalism, “jew” was a nation in europe at the time in the same way “french” or “german” would’ve been (and in some parts of europe still is, my sister's husband was born in russia and "jew" is listed as his race on his birth certificate). they were seeing themselves as a separate nation (with european jews in mind, but that's another can of worms) because europeans were seeing them as a separate nation. this view extended to groups like yiddishists, who were antizionist but used this to different ends. you can argue semantics about this particular point but "white people" wasn't the thing in the lexicon when they were comparing themselves to other europeans. as a result, like riki said, in the israeli context "white" isn't mutually exclusive with "jew". non-european jews were an afterthought, but they're still jews.

also, the european jewish connection to the middle east is like. not something zionists invented? it was a big part in why jewish people were discriminated against in europe, and to an extent the denial of jews having a connection to there is par for the course of european antisemitism. european antisemitism is essentially belittling jews for being both middle eastern and european, whichever is more convenient at the moment. (more on that later.)

a great book on this (and on how this impacted zionism and zionist racism) is orientalism and the jews, which you can actually read for free on archive.org. long story short is zionists (as well as some other european jewish political groups) ended up choosing "european" as the one of the two things they were assigned by following in the footsteps of other european ethnic nationalist movements, and looking at their own connection to the middle east through a euroentric/orientalist lens. edward said put it best when he said (to paraphrase) "white inside the country, and not white outside of it".

zionism is far from the only group of european jews who did something like this back then. there was the the alliance israélite universelle, which was an arm of french colonialism and set up "civilizing missions" more or less for middle eastern and balkan jews in the form of schools, which came to a head with the cremieux decree. (you can read about it in gross, racist detail here.) there's also ashkenazi american jews, who...well just read this article. i have personal experiences about this in jewish-american spaces and other mizrahi/sephardic-americans do too but i’d rather not make this all about me. and before that there were sephardic jews (predominantly western european but also in the ottoman empire) treating them the same way. even rich baghdadi jews like the sassoons, who were decidedly not european, got in on this, which reverberated back into israel in certain ways (which is talked about in orientalism and the jews).

so i would say that there is a much, much longer recent history of mostly european jewish tail-chasing about who’s more “like other white people” as the tagger put it than the other way around. in the american context, malcom x even has a little part in his autobiography about it. the hasbara thing is comparatively recent and plays on the insecurities of jewish americans and canadians as "in betweeners" so to speak in the context of the white supremacy of their home countries. people can make a big stink about how "no jews are white" for the sake of argument but everyone in my immediate family checks off"white" on the census ("middle eastern" is still under "white", after all).

so jews identifying solely as white has a bad precedent too. i personally can't really see statements like that taggers' and its exact opposite and not compare them to the more storied history of european-american jews aligning themselves to the white side of things at the expense of their syrian co-religionists, let alone the inter-jewish racism in israel. i've seen people pull out dna tests to either end. all of this is pretty ironic, considering that historically, european antisemitism has looked a lot more like this:

(pretend it just says jew, because it was like this with other jewish groups over there as well.)

it feels like both groups are trying to overcorrect a case of being hated for being "in between" by going either all the way one way, or all the way the other. ie defining themselves by the terms that they were discriminated against for not being easily definable by. and it ends up turning into a slew of either orientalism (in the not white camp) or genteel racism (in the white camp).

if you’re monoracial/ethnic it’s pretty easy to just belong to one category and not have to think about it much. in the us, an overwhelming majority of jews have ancestors who came here from eastern europe from the mid 19th century to the early 20th century, and most are also white, so i understand where the "jews" posturing comes from. when it gets annoying is when it's projected outwards, such as, of all things, an internet discourse topic from a few months ago.

(admittedly, there's more "important" things to complain about than this, but it's kind of the straw that breaks the camel's back, and i feel like once people understand this specifically, we can all make bigger strides towards the more important things.)

essentially, a bunch of people on the anglophone side of the internet were (rightfully!) criticizing the movie no other land online, and were referring to half-yemenite, half-ashkenazi director yuval avraham as a "white guy" as if that would make their points more poignant.

yeah, he "looks white" to most americans, and we can talk circles about comparative privilege in that regard all day long, but "white guy" is, from an american perspective, erasing his heritage to make a point. (and a specific heritage that there's been a long history of americans generally, and american jews specifically, erasing, not to mention one that's had an especially tough history in israel.) i'm sure i'm not the only one who's noticed this, but "white" has a few different implicit meanings in american english beyond how someone looks. one of the meanings is to do with the culture you were raised in. one means "has never been discriminated against on the basis of race and/or ethnicity (americans tend to mix these two up)".

i'm not entirely sure which one was being applied to yuval, but the implication in these seems to be that his "whiteness" is an intrinsic part of the film's problems and not like, idk, the very real material things that you can actually attribute it to, none of them in this case inherent to "whiteness". (the propaganda the israeli staff grew up with and probably internalized to different degrees, writing, funds management, representation and lack thereof, etc.) as if middle easterners can't be complicit in colonialism or be settlers or something, as if we're all innocent and dumb and in need of an american twitter user's defense, or else we're all "actually" white. genteel racism.

from experience, i can tell you that this is both a typical mixed person in america experience and a typical non-ashkenazi jew in america experience. (israeli society doesn't entirely "understand" mixed people either but that's another story.) ironically very similar to antisemitism in general. there's a lot of other things i can compare it too. if you know a little bit about queer theory, imo, what's going on here isn't too dissimilar from biphobia or the specific, weird transphobia towards trans men that self-proclaimed "trans-inclusive" feminists are fond of; essentially, "oppression and privilege are a binary and you, person who doesn't neatly fit into either one, get to be whichever one is most convenient to me at the moment". real people get pushed out of the way so a theory in someone's head can make more sense.

admittedly, a big part of this is the "jew/arab" binary that zionism created and the rest of the world adopted, so i'm not pointing fingers at the tagger here or anything. i'm not telling anyone to start checking off "other" on the census either.

i just like, wish that people like that tagger thought a little bit about what this affirmation that jews = white does for them personally? does it make them more comfortable to literally push yourself away from the middle east and associate yourself more with europe? isn't colonialism bad no matter who does it? are middle eastern jews "worse" than you for having a more recent connection to the middle east? should we just drop that connection so your anticolonialism can make more sense to you? if we're a different people, what's stopping you from excluding non-european jews from jewish things?

"white" isn't a barrier between you and other people, because "white" is ultimately made up bs. you and i aren't too different, even if we're not exactly the same. and i think the american jews who take "sides" in this argument re-reckoning with antisemitism as it is rather than making their experience in the us as a jew fully analogous to either people of color or white people full stop is one of the most effective ways to combat antisemitism *and* zionism, personally.

what made u anti zionist / helped u unlearn zionism

Unlearning is a work in progress, but basically finding out the information I was given wasn't true. I was taught the "a land without a people for a people without a land" - found out Palestinians, you know, lived here, actually. Was taught all the violence we committed was in self defense - found out we destroyed whole villages to take over the land. Was taught our military is very ethical and never violent without necessity - saw what we do to Palestinians even today (and by "today" I mean before the current escalation in Gaza, I have no idea how anyone can ignore this one now). Was taught we "made the desert bloom" - learned some about native and non-native plants, and about the colonialist nature of trying to transform a whole ecosystem to suit us instead of living with the land as it is. From "Israel vs the Palestinian territories" to learning that even the lands taken over in 48... were taken from them. From "this is our land because this is where we come from" to learning that we aren't the only people that originated in this land and we can't just override the claim of the people who lived here for generations.

None of this, like, inherently means you'll let go of zionism. I know zionists who would agree with me about many of these points. But, I suppose, for me it's a broader anti-colonialism and anti-isolationism thing, and... anti-exceptinalism?

Like, I had to unlearn the idea that antisemitism is a unique and singular kind of oppression that no oppressed group can ever relate to or have solidarity with. The idea that we're alone, we'll always be alone, we're destined to be hated and murdered in ongoing and repeated extermination attempts unless we segregate ourselves in our own state with our own military where we can double down on "kill or be killed" over and over. And because we're the only ones who are this completely rejected by the rest of humanity, anything we do to achieve that goal of safety is justified regardless of who we hurt. Or even that our unique state as victims means we can't actually cause harm in the ways that we were hurt.

Antisemitism is unique in the same way that anti-Blackness is unique and ableism is unique, they all have their own elements. That doesn't mean we can't fight together and form coalitions with other marginalized groups. Romani people are another example of how our experiences are both unique and not. They don't face antisemitism, but they were still part of The Final Solution. We're not The Ultimate Victims, we're one group among many.

All of this together, for me, meant going from "we're the only nation not allowed to have our own country, self determination," to understanding that the issue isn't the question of the right to self determination, it's the fact that we decided to exercise it at the expense of other people. Pretty sure Romani people would face the same reactions if they decided to displace another nation for the sake of their own self determination. This isn't a game of musical chairs, we can't just go "your turn in exile, get out" and expect that to be okay.

Some stateless nations live in a specific location under another country, and they can declare independence in that place without causing harm. It's unfortunate that we didn't have that. But Palestinians shouldn't pay the price.

And Jewish people should be safe everywhere, not just in the small patch of land where we're the oppressor.

Final thing is, had to read a bit about what Palestinians think of all of this. Which is complicated, no group is a monolith, and I don't think I'm qualified to break that down. But after unpacking all the "about us" things, I had to look at their goals from liberation, and now I try to do my best to stay informed and support those goals.

[verussy]

verstappies 🤝 f1 team principals: thirsting over max verstappen

[lamardeuse]

on rare fandoms

I voted in that poll going around about rare pairings, and when I looked on the AO3 I've written 4 pairings with less than 100 fics and 1 with under 50, but my partner, whose stories I've put up under the pseud luvhandlz, takes the cake. He wrote:

the first story published on the AO3 in the fandom

20% of the stories currently published in the fandom in total

and 4 of the 5 stories for this pairing.

The pairing? Joe Friday and Bill Gannon from Dragnet 1967. Because he is a sick fuck.

[lovelesslittleloser]

Today’s vibe leaves two possibilities:

It’s going to rain hard enough that trees’ll fall

Some kid’s parents are going to be shot in an alleyway

[gyrrakavian]

"You can be aware of and empathetic for the pain of others and still have feelings about things in your own life."

So I was reintroduced to the webcomic Something Positive by Randy Milholland with one of his autobiographical comics from back in 2020, and I started reading through it from there.

This page from 5 years ago has some pretty prescient life advice in the 3rd panel.

[wisteriagoesvroom]

one thing about nico rosberg is that his commentary's always incredibly insightful. the other thing about nico rosberg is that he will always be MESSY on the mic

[amandamadeathing]

Social media post for Thrawn.

[royalarchivist]

Mike with his dogs and the knitted Richarlyson Barb made: 😄

Mike, two seconds after logging back into QSMP: [WAR AND VIOLENCE]

[zuzu-romeave]

i know people are mostly joking when they insinuate that troy is too possessive or jealous to have a polyamorous relationship with abed but like that idea annoys me so much. when troy and abed both agree to take mariah the librarian on a date, troy is entirely okay with it UNTIL mariah chooses him over abed and then later calls abed weird. after that he tells abed “there’s someone out there for us.” he just wants someone who also wants abed, and that doesnt mean he wont get jealous over it. you can be polyam and still struggle with jealousy, which is the situation that troy’s in

[marsreds]

demons in sousou no frieren:

we do not understand human emotions, we do not feel them, to us it's all a game and even when we try it will inevitably lead to death, destruction and human suffering

also demons in sousou no frieren:

[blueteller]

Pls you're the only one I can ask for help on this, but what do you think is Cale's IQ?

I mean, with all his feats like turning a 20 yr war into 1 yr and winning even w limited info, all his crazy plans that somehow works, his being able to predict the monsters as KRS, his brain being able to sort through the overload of information from 10,000 books and come to a definitive conclusion that ended up right, and other scary intellect stuff, is it possible that his IQ could be in 200+?

If we compare his IQ to other geniuses like Lelouch, Ayanokoji, Ranpo, Dazai, Light etc, and use their feats as base for comparison to Cale's feats, how smart is Cale actually? (Pls I rlly need help)

Regarding how intelligent Cale is exactly, I already replied once in this post, where I go over the many ways a person can be intelligent, because IQ is pretty old-school and only measures the most mathematic/scientific intelligence, when there are many ways a person can be intelligent. (Some of which Cale definitely is, while others... not so much lol)

Regarding Cale's exact IQ though... I assume it has to be very high. Because of his perfect memory if nothing else. And I do consider Cale really quite brilliant in the scientific, IQ-measured-old-school-way. It can be anything above 130, I think. You wanna make it 200 or more, go for it. I wouldn't try to make the number too absurdly high, because Cale is still human, but if he actually took the test with the intention of getting the highest score possible, I do believe his results would have been extraordinary. ...As long as he was motivated with slacker life, that is. 😂

I hope that helps! 💖

[preciouslittle-bhaalbabe]

You're the first Astarion fan I've seen give a shit about Wyll lol

Maybe you should branch out a little then instead of generalising people?