a-gender

[a-gender]

wow what a great day to be trans :)

[a-gender]

We’re on one of those holidays where your family gets together and I just wanna go ahead and say to people with unaccepting families (homophobic or transphobic or whatever issue possible): Their bigotry does not define you. This day will end. You will get to go back to spaces where you are safe. Or, if you live with these people, you will one day be in spaces where you’re safe. The future is bright and the bigotry of your relatives will not stop that. Keep moving forward, don’t let it get to you. 

It’s also not your job to educate them. It’s not your job to argue with them. Arguing with bigots can be dangerous, so only do what you think you can handle. 

And, while you’re at it, accidentally spill some gravy on their white shirt. 😏

Stay safe y’all. Much love.

[a-gender]

what i look for in a gender is thorough documentation and a community of helpful users

[a-gender]

My gender is more bass-boosted than a Lil Texas song

[a-gender]

Pride Backgrounds 

[Aro | AroAce]

All Flags are Free to Use ~!

[a-gender]

diversity win! the person reblogging this post is transgender

[a-gender]

I forgot to write down my password when i first created my gender and now i cant log in anymore

This happens to me constantly!

[a-gender]

What about an agender snake trying their best?

day 588

carrying a flag is hard with no hands but they're trying!!

[a-gender]

I’ve seen several occurrences of trans people trading their deadnames with friends & acquaintances who are also trans, and that is the support we all deserve in a community

[a-gender]

Starting off my month of drawing queer D&D characters, and also Draw Everything June.

This is Quarter. They’re my agender skeleton (halfling) drunken master monk, whom I played in a Halloween “one-shot” run by @permian-tropos, like a year and a half ago.

Reference from AdorkaStock (formerly SenshiStock), here. You can see the process (and my complaining) of this drawing here.

[a-gender]

my gender is nope there's none in the back sorry

[a-gender]

Clearing out the askbox!

Anonymous said to a-gender: Idk if you'll even answer this but how do you know if ur agender cause I'm so fuckin confused about gender and this is the one option I haven't explored much yet. Like how do u know??????

Anonymous said to a-gender: How do u know ur agender. I assume is different for everyone, but I'm currently questioning and have no idea what I'm doing.🙃

Anonymous said to a-gender: Hello, TrevorSpace brought me here. I’m really confused about my gender right now and I’m going through a crisis. I feel agender but I still feel like a girl. If anyone can help me, I’d appreciate it greatly :)

Anonymous said to a-gender: Hey. Is nonbinary for specific for trans people? And those who don't feel like they have a gender is agender? Sometimes I feel they/them but okay with she/her. Does that mean I'm agender?

Anonymous said to a-gender: Hi, recently I've started identifying as agender because it feels exactly right for me. I have a very fem presentation just bc I like that style, and I've spent 6+ years calling myself a lesbian too. Can I possibly be agender and a lesbian? I don't know how to understand my sexuality outside of 'lesbian' bc that's what it's been shaped by so thoroughly, I like women and use they/she pronouns. Confused what I should do.

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Hi there! My apologies for the long wait--I've been very busy. I decided to group these together since they all deal with a very similar theme.

As far as how I personally realized I was agender--like I've said previously on here, a lot of it was realizing that any idea of gender as far as how it related to me, myself, and I was very little more than a wiggly hand-gesture static noise. 'Gender' has meaning when I think of other people, but not when I think about myself.

You can also explore terms like gendervague, gendervoid, and genderless, which are related terms but not necessarily quite the same as agender (your mileage may vary).

As far as feeling agender but also like a girl, assuming that 'girl' is gender-based and not presentation based--there are terms like girlflux, genderflux, etc. that might help! Those are more along the lines of a spectrum between 0 and "girl" that your gender might fluctuate up and down along.

Nonbinary is an umbrella term, as well as a specific gender! Agender falls under the nonbinary umbrella, and an agender person is both agender and nonbinary, but a nonbinary person may not be agender (and very well might be "just" nonbinary!).

It's important to remember that pronouns don't equal gender. If you like they/them and she/her, it doesn't mean that you're necessarily agender. You could be a whole host of things. For example, I use she/her, they/them, and ey/em and I'm agender, but my best friend uses she/her and they/them and is not agender. I wish I could be more help here, but unfortunately all your pronoun set "means" is... that you have a pronoun set.

The fact that you say you feel like you don't have a gender could certainly point to being agender, however!

Gender also does not equal presentation! Having a feminine presentation doesn't necessarily mean anything as far what your gender is (and don't forget about butch/masc lesbians!). However! The whole 'lesbian and now agender lesbian' thing is very familiar to me, because I went through the same thing! You can absolutely be agender and a lesbian, if that's what jives with how you see yourself.

If any of you have any followup questions, don't hestitate to let me know!

---mod Ama

[a-gender]

I'm a teacher assistant for spanish grammar and the professor was explaining epícenos (single gendered words that encompass masculine and feminine beings) and he was using iguana as an example and he said: "there is only one gender... iguana" and i had to mute my microphone

[a-gender]

My gender is N/A

[a-gender]

My gender is *dial-up tone*

hang on it's loading...

...it's almo-- *windows error sound*

[a-gender]

Random internet people: “being trans isn’t fun!!”

Me: “well, I mean, if you’re doing all the AAA genders maybe. you should try some indie genders. trans is a pretty fun console if you have the right genders.”

[a-gender]

my gender is under this magical blanket that i am about to lift. prepare to be amazed in 3...2...1... *lifts the aforementioned blanket to reveal nothing*