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“Sometimes suffering is just suffering. It doesn’t make you stronger. It doesn’t build character. It only hurts.”

— Kate Jacobs; Comfort Food

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somehow…💗

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hmmm yeah 🛌❕

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It’s okay to come crashing down after you thought you healed. It’s okay if it creeps back up on you. You are not a failure. Healing is complicated. It is a process. Sometimes you think you’ve healed and more resurfaces. That is okay. This is still healing. It doesn’t happen all at once. It happens in bits because it is too much to handle at once. Your brain has decided that you are ready to deal with the next part. You are making progress. And you are doing just fine. 

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Im not sure who needs to hear this validation today, but,

You do not need to experience blackouts to prove/affirm you're truly a system--greyouts also do count! It's only a different intensity of amnesia, which is still real and valid.

- j

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Plural Culture is really wishing it was more normal in the community for certain alters to just not have identities

We have a lot of alters who don't have set identities, or only exist for very specific purposes and have no interest in trying to exist outside of that

But mentioning that is almost always met with "encourage them!! They deserve to have a set identity!!"

And that's true, but also not always something that's going to happen. Some alters just are never going to have a set identity because of the role they have and they're fine with that and we just wish it was more accepted. Or at least acceptable enough to talk about it

If those alters want identities later, they have every chance and right to make them. But they should also just be allowed to exist the way they do

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Shout out to systems who cant get diagnosed. Shout out to systems who split easily. Shout out to systems with high introject counts. Shout out to complex systems. Shout out to systems with mostly littles. Shout out to systems with small alter counts. Shout out to systems who dont want to get diagnosed cause they dont want it on their record. Shout out to systems with nonhuman alters. Shout out to systems

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Fake claiming is wrong even if:

(Tw: post mentions RAMCOA, CSA, abuse, medical neglect and abelism)

- you’ve been diagnosed your whole life

- you’ve been researching your whole life

- they don’t fit the DSM criteria exactly

- they are undiagnosed

- they are a minor

- they have a large system at a young age

- they don’t feel safe getting diagnosed

- they don’t talk about being a system

- they talk a lot about being a system

- they’re fictive heavy

- they’re factive heavy

- their host is a fictive

- they remember most of their days but not their trauma

- they don’t remember anything

- they remember day to day life but don’t remember trauma

- are happy as a system

- are unhappy as a system

- they do not have daily flashbacks

- they have “weird” triggers

- they are open about being triggered

- they don’t say when triggered

- they are still learning about their system

- they have subsystems

- they are a RAMCOA survivor

- they are a victim of CSA

- they are frequently re-traumatised by their own thoughts

- they are neurodivergent

- they are not on medication

- they ARE on medication

- they were not abused daily

- they were abused daily

- they went through and are vocal about their biggest trauma being medical neglect

- they call out fake claiming as what it is, abelism

Fake claiming is and always has been wrong no matter what the “justification”

Nadia from The Circus Tent System

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I wish people who believe in narcissistic abuse and act like people with NPD are so evil were not even human understood that having NPD can absolutely motivate people to do good things.

I have NPD and I work in education. At the school I work at, we have a couple Ukrainian kids who don’t speak English. I have begun learning Ukrainian (or well, trying to, this is my first time trying to learn a language that uses a different alphabet than English so progress is slow), specifically because I want to be the one to make these kiddos feel welcome. I want to be the one teacher who has put in effort to learn their language, rather than just trying to teach them ours. That’s a good thing to do, but if I didn’t have NPD I probably wouldn’t bother to do that and would just use google translate (like all the rest of the teachers).

I, like other narcissists, find that most of my motivation comes from looking for another narc high, and for me, I am much more likely to get a narc high from doing something good and feeling good about myself because I did something good, than I ever would from making someone else feel bad about themself. Why would I spend my time going around hurting other people for no reason when I could put my effort into doing something actually cool and then everyone will think I’m awesome because I actually did something awesome?

I know I’m not the only narcissist like this, but sure, let’s keep spreading the rhetoric that narcissists only exist to hurt people.

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how autism can interact with having a CDD (complex dissociative disorder):

higher rates of introjection - this is something commonly spoken about in the online CDD community, meaning it is a shared experience even if there is little proper medical research on the topic. however, it has been observed that some autistic pwCDDs have more introject alters (specifically fictional introjects - sometimes called 'fictives') than their allistic counterparts. this may be due to hyperfixation on fictional media, or splitting alters sourced from special interests.

splitting due to overwhelm - meltdowns, shutdowns and other reactions to overstimulation in autistic people can lead to splitting new parts, as these situations can be highly stressful.

autistic traits differing per alter - since autism is a neurodevelopmental disability that affects the entire brain, every alter will have some variation of ASD. however, different alters may struggle with/experience different autistic traits! where one alter may struggle more with, say, language and communication skills, another alter may be more proficient in that area. however, the second alter may then struggle instead with a compulsive need for strict, unbroken routines. this is how the spectrum can present differently in different alters.

unpredictable social situations and the stress of social interaction can cause more switching - as social situations can be more stressful for autistics than our allistic counterparts, it should be noted that these can be triggers for rapid switching! we may rapid switch in order to find a part that is best suited to handle the situation, which can end in switching multiple times as a lot of autistic people struggle to cope in uncomfortable social situations, such as at school/work, during conflicts, or at events. (written with input from @kityenok; thank you!)

semi-verbality, verbal shutdown and abilities to communicate varying per alter - in autistics with variable ability to communicate, the proficiency at communication can vary between alters! in semi-verbal/semi-speaking pwCDDs, some alters may have a few more words than others, while others struggle more than the rest of the system. in autistics with frequent verbal shutdowns, there may be alters who rarely if ever experience speech loss, while there are others who are permanently in a state of verbal shutdown. the ability to communicate non-verbally (using body language, signing, or even using assistive technology and speech-to-text) can fluctuate, with certain alters being less effective at using these methods than others. (note: from what i have heard from non-verbal/non-speaking pwCDDs, all alters tend to lack mouth words. if this is inaccurate to your experience, feel free to share!)

of course, there are more ways that autism can influence and interact with alters in CDDs! if you would like to add to this list, feel free to do so. ^^

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“Substitute beliefs” is an umbrella concept that can be applied to understanding introjects (fictional and real-life), pseudomemories, non-human alters, and more.

It’s important to note that not all substitute beliefs are harmful–they may be comforting, or even feel empowering. You don’t necessarily have to stop being a ghost! That said, it may be worth mentioning in therapy to make sure it’s a healthy belief to engage with.

[Check out my DID/OSDD casually explained masterpost for sources and more infographics!]

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hey, yeah you! the angry ones, the aggressive ones, the violent ones. cm'here i got something to say to you.

hey there...

the ones who get irritated really quickly and snap at the wrong person.

the ones who get angry quickly but it goes away quickly, especially when the ones around you don't get over it so fast.

the ones who first thought is to hurt the one who caused you this anger, or just the first person in sight.

the ones who direct their anger at themselves.

the ones who direct their anger at their environment instead of themselves or the people around them.

the ones who get so angry their body burns with heat, causing the anger to worsen.

the ones who get so angry they flip the numb switch and can't feel anything for a while.

the ones who act on those violent thoughts.

the ones who hide their anger and bottle it up over and over again until it explodes.

the ones who can't tell their anger apart from other emotions.

the ones who get stuck in their head due to their rage.

the ones who spiral when they get angry.

the ones who get even angrier when you let yourself spiral cause of your anger.

the ones who get angry over the littlest thing.

i see you, and despite all of this you are still worthy of being loved. worthy of being seen as an equal. worthy of being cared for. worthy of being treated as another 'normal' person.

i love you (/p). your anger doesn't define you, even though it might seem like it does.

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i hate the way mental illness is conceptualized in general but specifically on here where there’s this weird focus on disorders defining what symptoms you have rather than disorders being the constructed result of the symptoms that you have, which exist outside of the framework of the disorder

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alternatives to “i want to die”:

i want things to change

i want a different life

today was a shitty day/week

i don’t want to live like this

i want to be somewhere else in life

i’m not where i want to be yet

+ much more

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hello, whoever is fronting from the habitat! im pretty new to the online DID community and am really enjoying your blog because it makes a fun little game out of.. frankly a disorder thats quite difficult to live with! im having lots of fun here.

my question is, are there any other blogs you enjoy about DID that can help me ease into the online space? if not, thats cool too! take care x

Hello, Anon! Yes, there absolutely are. I will tag some below that I recommend, with a little description of what the blog offers.

@pluralcultureis : A culture-is blogs for those with DID and related disorders to share their experiences. It is especially helpful to remind us that we are not alone!

@system-vent : Here, you can send rants and vents to the askbox for them to post anonymously, if ever you get frustrated.

@bunnidid-reviews : This person talks about and reviews books, apps, and other media that is DID-centred!

@traumagenicpositivity : This blog posts/reblogs positive and supportive content related to recovery and life as a traumagenic system.

@positivitycombopack : A very nice positivity blog (mostly original posts, too).

@sysboxes : A blog that makes nice userboxes for systems and alters, and they've just opened up their requests!

@subsystems : The blog of someone with DID who has pursued final fusion! He spreads some fascinating information and delightful positivity.

@a-systems-positivity : A general mental health/positivity blog ran by a DID system.

If anyone else has suggestions, feel free to share! And, if anyone mentioned above would like to be untagged or removed from this list, please let me know. I hope you enjoy these blogs, and do ask if you have any questions about the online DID space. - Mr Goodsir.