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What we can learn from the Loneliest Whale in the World

A male blue whale’s bellowing call can travel as far as 3,000 miles across the ocean. Each species of whale has its own particular vocal patterns, and their songs help them communicate. Well, every whale except for an exceptional individual known familiarly as “52 Hertz” or “52 Blue.”

In 1992, a U.S. naval air station picked up a strange sound in the Pacific that had the sound patterns of a blue whale, but at an unheard of frequency: 52 Hertz.

Acoustic technicians dubbed the whale 52 Blue:

“They kept tracking him for years, every migration season, as he made his way south from Alaska to Mexico. His path wasn’t unusual, only his song—and the fact that they never detected any other whales around him. He always seemed to be alone. So this whale was calling out high, and he was calling out to no one—or at least, no one seemed to be answering.”

52 Blue’s story has resounded with anyone who’s ever felt too weird to love, as it did with me. As an asexual person, I’ve always felt as if I were on a different wavelength than everyone else around me. They spoke a sexual language that I couldn’t mimic, no matter how hard I tried. So I was never able to connect with anyone romantically, because no one could understand my own language.

Asexuality is rare and oft misunderstood, but mostly it is not broadly recognized. There are not many of us calling out across the oceans of people, as some may not even be aware of the term, and others still are hesitant to breach the surface and openly declare their asexuality. And for an asexual person desiring a real-life relationship (romantic, platonic or otherwise) with another asexual person, the search can seem interminable.

There may be times when you feel like you’re the only asexual person in the world. All you can do, really, is belt out your melody and hope for an answer.

That’s what I did for three years, swimming through various social networks and dating websites, perusing AVEN’s meetup section looking for others in my area. I wasn’t getting any hits, and I almost lost hope.

And then the unimaginable happened. A few weeks ago, a message popped up in my OKCupid inbox. The sender was a jaw-dropping 98% match, practically an anomaly considering how many questions he had answered. It wasn’t difficult to find out why: This person was also asexual. I was stunned. I knew had to meet him.

After our first successful encounter, I am pleased to say this will be my first Valentine’s Day that I will be spending with someone. I’ll be bringing the box of chocolates I had bought last month when I assumed I was going to be eating them alone.  If I hadn’t called out, even with the barest possibility of an answer, I probably would be.

So if you’re feeling lonely this time of year, just remember that you are not really alone in the world. Don’t lose hope. Keep on singing your song … You never know if someone might hear you across the ocean.

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'You can't know until you try it' idk, 200% sure I'm not sexually attracted to chickens, but no ones objecting to that.

Idk, I mean, not liking chickens is one thing, but don’t you like ANY kind of bird? You better kiss at least one bird, just to be sure.

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Me: So yeah I don’t want to have kids and I’m not interested in sex at all.

Parent: Okay I can accept that.

Me: Really? I’m glad.

Parent:

Me:

Parent:

Parent: But in the future maybe you’ll change your min-

Me:

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Where did you get that?! I lurve it!

i got my ring XoX

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In case you guys are having trouble coming out.

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My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard 

and they're like,

"This is not the frosty, delicious dairy treat I was promised"

I probably should have realized I was asexual when it took me 20 years to realize the song Milkshake by Kelis isn’t really about milkshake. I was both confused and slightly disappointed.

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Asexual Valentine cards

Source:Pinterest

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REBLOG IF YOU THINK BILLY BONES SHOULD BE CANON ARO-ACE

I’ve managed to get in touch with the creators of Starz show Black Sails, a prelude to R. L Stevenson’s book Treasure Island. In the show Billy has so far not shown any interest in sex or relationships whatsoever, and one character even pointed out that in the three days they’ve been in Nassau (basically pirate HQ, with a huge brothel) he still hasn’t gotten himself laid. Billy Bones is played by Tom Hopper, so it’s not like he doesn’t have the looks.

hEllo

So I was thinking, if I could show the creators that more people are interested in seeing Billy on the list of aro-ace characters, maybe it’ll be easier to convince them.

I have less than 100 followers on twitter, but I’ve been thinking of starting a tag (something in the line of #MakeBillyAroAce) so if anyone wants to help you can do that. You can also tweet the creators here

So even if you don’t watch the show, and even if you’re not aro-ace like and reblog this to help us get some representation in the pirate world!

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Overlooked, again!

The wonderful @alreadylost has compiled a large list of bloggers who fall under the Ace/Aro umbrella. Rather than reblog it and have a big long post on your dash I thought I’d link you all to it so you can like it or reblog it from there. 

Super handy! 

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When you’re over 60 and still being told you just haven’t met the right person, it’s more annoying, of course. ‘I let it slip one time at work that I’m an asexual aromantic [an asexual who is also not interested in making romantic attachments], and they think it’s absolutely hysterical,’ says Jean Wilson, a sales assistant and 63-year-old grandmother from Banbury. ‘One of the women I work with said, “I don’t think you’ve met the right man yet.” I said: “Trish, I’m 63. If I haven’t met him by now I don’t think I’m going to.”’

'The moment I realised I was asexual' - Telegraph

A surprisingly good article featuring a range of different aces, including this delightful older woman.

(via asexualquotes)

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ideal relationship goals:

me: hey you wanna come over and nap

them: yeah

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They use a lot of fiery language.

Reblog if you, ace spectrum or not, would rather have a dragon than than sex.

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I love the Ace Hardware commercial because it always starts with “Ask your neighborhood ace” yes. That is me. You have question?? I am neighborhood ace. I have answer. I know all.

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Well, what else are we supposed to do at night while our friends are hooking up?

Judging by my dash, aromantics are morning people and asexuals are evening people.

Very scientific.

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Yeah, I’m having fun with twitter