As we have done to our ancestors, so will our descendants do to us. We who are descended from giants, who fell from their shoulders to rise to new heights on impossible steel and glass towers, who'll fall from those? I wonder.
Strip my skin and free my soul. Help me turn my back on my former self, help me shine from the inside out. Grant me the strength to smile through the process of gentle, silent, pain.
Seeing unhealthy patterns in your family and deciding that those pattens end with you and will not be passed down to future generations is an extremely brave and powerful decision.
Forgive yourself for repeating what was taught to you as a child, then put the conscious effort into deprogram these patterns.