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It's been like this for 4 weeks now. The same thing every morning. Lucas cried as soon as we entered the daycare center. He clung to me and wouldn't let go of me even before I tried to say goodbye to him. It was so difficult for me to leave him there crying every morning. I couldn't take it anymore. It felt so terrible to see my child crying like that. Philip tried to help me. He mostly stayed with him a little longer because I had to go to work, but still, it couldn't go on like this!!!!

I just didn't get it?? In August during the adjustment phase, everything went so well. Now Lucas has changed since I started working 4 weeks ago. He had difficulty sleeping through the night and often woke up crying. I think he developed a kind of separation anxiety. A lot has happend, too many changes have happened at once. At the beginning of September N. suddenly left because he had to go abroad again and just a few days later Lucas started going to daycare and I went back to work. I was sure he missed N. He was probably wondering, why his dad wasn't there anymore?

Of course Nico said goodbye to him, but Lucas was just too small (21 months) to understand that. He didn't understand whats really going on? Besides as I've mentioned once, Lucas has always been a very sensitive and clingy child.

I knew I had to be patient with him. He needs time to get used to the new.... circumstances. But what I definitely didn't want was for my child to develop separation anxiety, because he had to go to daycare too early.

I didn't know what to do? I didn't want to lose my job but I couldn't stand seeing my baby so unhappy anymore. His daycare teacher told me that Lucas often covers his ears and mostly wants to be alone in the relaxing/daycare-bedroom. She also noticed that Lucas needs his own place to retreat, which is why she leaves him alone as soon as he covers his ears and goes next door. Sometimes his teacher sends one or two kids over to him who are a little older. He then plays with them or with Annabelle for a short time, but he still prefers to be alone. She advised me to try working part-time because she thought it was too much for Lucas to be here all day. She explained to me, Lucas is too young to develop friendships with other kids. This usually happens from the age of three. So it was clear to me, I had to change something. Whether I want it or not, I somehow had no choice after that conversation.

I was very grateful to his teacher for her honest opinion or assessment. Because her boss (daycare manager), said something completely different to me, just a couple of days before. She said Lucas is spoiled and stubborn. I shouldn't give up, at some point he'll stop crying. But when she saw that my son was still crying and unhappy, she suspected that Lucas was autistic. I then became terribly worried and took him to his pediatrician.

Anyway, I don't want to go into too much detail now, but with a two year old child it's almost impossible to diagnose autism and secondly the pediatrician was sure, that this was not the case with Lucas.

But even the pediatrician couldn't explain why Lucas covered his ears so often because his ears were fine from a medical pov. He asked me to watch Lucas closely. Especially in hectic and stressful situations. I should write everything down and come back in 6 months. He can't do much at the moment because L. is too small, but in 6 months he'll do more detailed tests with him. He asked me not to worry, he suspected that Lucas might just be highly sensitive. He said, that about 15 percent of c- section babies become highly-

or ultra sensitive kids, but that's not a bad or serious thing, he explained. Still yk, I was so worried, bcs....of those drugs I used to take. 😢I haven't told my parents about any of this yet. I was afraid of their reaction and didn't want to hear any blame. I only told Philip.

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These two never stop flirting with each other. I feel like I’m Agnes Crumplebottom!

Poppy and Liam were created by @silwermoon-sims

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French nails with a little floral accent 🤍🩷🌸

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I think I was a little too impatient? I aged Lucas up! He's a Toddler now, but somehow.... he seems so big as a toddler for his age? In RL he was 20 months old at the time, so not yet 2. Anyway, he's still so cute! 🥰

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RL Story

6 weeks later...

It was the end of September. So it was time! 😥 I was in the middle of my exams. I had already completed the hardest part. Now I had to put acquired knowhow into practice. That meant, I had to go back to work and separate from my Baby. 😓💔

This was one of the hardest periods of my life! Although some of you know, what I've experienced and been through in the past (addiction, and... some other crazy shit), but being separated from my child felt the worst for me. My son just wasn't ready yet, to be away from me all day. Which is why I wasn't! I felt extremely bad. He was only 20 Months old. My Mom and Sister were somehow against Lucas going to daycare so early. They made me feel guilty, even though I had no choice! And neither of them came up with any solutions. Their behavior just upset me.😞

I felt left alone with this difficult task. As if I didn't have anyone who understood or supported me. Nico was away again (since 4 weeks) playing soccer abroad. I didn't blame him for that. This was his job and I knew what I was getting myself into with him. Still, it was..... 😞 very, very difficult for me. At least I had Philip as a friend. He and little Annabell became a kind of second family for Lucas and me.

My relationship with N. was a bit.... strained. But he wasn't jealous of Philip, in case you think so. He was glad that Lucas and I had him and Annabelle around. I think he felt left out, and besides, N. and I had other probs with each other, that had absolutely nothing to do with P.! Nevertheless, I, but also our son missed him so, so much. 😢

Briefly about my job. I worked as a social worker in an emergency shelter for people/families who lost their homes. My job was to support these people in their search for accommodation. Most of them couldn't speak German well, didn't have jobs or had a hard time dealing with authorities. However, in the first few weeks I mainly just worked in the office or at the counter. I was also allowed to accompany other social workers to help them out. After all, I was at home for 20 months and missed a lot of my training, so this enabled me to gain experience.

Tbh, I had imagined my new work place to be... a little different because of my previous jobs. I worked mainly in offices. This here was.... like being in a big house, like working at home, which I really liked!! Still, I couldn't wait to go home, to hug my little bean! 🩵

He was so unhappy in this daycare. And unfortunately, things won't get any better. 😢💔💔

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Hi! Would you ever share this build or possibly this bathroom? I love it so much lol

https://www.tumblr.com/aleksa-sims/786610325170618369

I'm so sorry. I would have liked to share it with you. But for some reason, I got stuck on loading screen or my game kept crashing (since the last update), when I tried to load this build.

I still couldn't fix it, so I deleted my entire save and started a new one. I will definitely build something similar in the future again and once I'm done, I'll share it.

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If you're not wciff then ignore this but I was wondering wcif that wall calendar?

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It's from this set: Desk Mess CC Kit

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Still not finished but almost done.🏠🪴🩵

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i love her until i remember she slept with her brothers husband but anyways <3 i changed scarletts hair back . getting myself together for gen 3 <3

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The end of Reshade & Gshade in Sims 4?

Without Reshade- or in my case Gshade, I'm done with Sims 4!!! Something is constantly breaking in this game!! 😩

If your Reshade/Gshade stops working, read the comments for more information. This could solve the issue for now or a while, but it's not a permanent solution.

Hello! Hope you are doing well. A few days ago my reshade was fine but since yesterday it stopped working. The overly won’t shop up when pressing home, and I cannot even open the presets that with the shift f2 button. I’ve tried numerous times to fix it by downloading the newest version of reshade on their website. It said it was successfully installed after going through the steps. But when I open my game, the ui doesn’t show up at all. Even by pressing home or changing the hotkey within the reshade settings. I’ve even tried Marty’s tutorial on how to manually install it with renaming the DLL file. Nothing still shows up in my game. Not sure what else to do.

I don’t know for certain, but it’s looking increasingly likely that EA has added some form of anti-cheat that prevents any program from injecting itself into the game process at runtime.

ReShade and gshade do exactly that. The d3d9/dxgi dll files you usually see in your Bin folder are the main files that make ReShade and gshade work. They are what gets injected into the game process. Now, when you load your game, the dll gets deleted.

Uninstalling and then reinstalling the EA App, and then reinstalling ReShade, has worked for some people, but I believe it will only be a temporary fix, and as soon as EA App gets refreshed or updated in the background it’ll start happening again.

There is a manual injection workaround which is really the only thing that might have worked, but it seems like it doesn’t in this case.

Unless we’re completely wrong about what’s causing this, it looks like it’s the end of the road for ReShade and gshade in TS4. Unless EA/Maxis can be convinced to reverse whatever they’ve done.

I’m impossibly sad. It’s still working for me at the moment, likely because I haven’t updated my game for the fairies pack and have been keeping EA App offline, but the app sometimes forces an update so it likely won’t hold it off forever.

I was just about to start a youtube series of ReShade and screenshot tutorials for Sims players. I’m heartbroken.

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