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[allospiderman]

who said anything about terves or witches or lady feelz......... it's a joke............ this post wasn't even made about sex it was made coz i saw this scene in a show and it reminded me of when someone i didnt know came up to me (15 year old) and asked if i had a dick

cis ppl be like

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ive been scrolling thru your blog for like an hour now and it's ridiculous how much people fight over ace discourse. idk why "lgbt aces are lgbt but cishet aces arent" is such a controversial idea

For real....I just don't get how "cis people who aren't attracted to the same gender aren't lesbian gay bisexual or trans" is so impossible to understand

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is this the dictionary y'all have been using?

terf: a lesbian who disagrees with you on any topic

butch: any person performing masculinity

femme: any person performing femininity

lesbian: terf and biphobe

biphobe: a lesbian who doesn’t mention bisexual women when specifically talking about lesbians

cishet: NOT someone who is cis and het

sexual attraction: feeling horny every time you look at someone attractive

asexuality: someone who can still want sex and enjoy sex, which is somehow different from every other person who enjoys and wants sex

reading comprehension: a skill that is unnecessary to use before you tell someone to kill themselves

[allospiderman]

I’ve been seeing a lot of talk about violent exclusionists who are making people feel “unsafe” and about “aphobia”. I like how y’all play the victim when I haven’t seen any violent rhetoric from exclusionists, and I keep up with many of them seeing as I am one. But I have seen some from inclusionists as well as concerning amounts of homophobia and shaming lgbt people for their sexualities (which is what we’re supposed to be celebrating this month) so I thought I’d share a few receipts, let’s start with threats of violence

^^^^^

Here’s some homophobia:

I have more that I wanna that I wanna organize and dive deeper in.

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how do you feel about the corrective rape of asexuals?

I don't think it's ever happened, especially because that's a lesbian exclusive term, but on the slight chance it did happen to someone, it's out of misogyny and not "aphobia" or whatever

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wonder no more, tumblr is proof there are plenty of asexual cavemen alive today

do u think that there were asexual cavemen or do u think they had not evolved enough to have anything other than primal/survival instincts? but like they might’ve all been ace bc they were only having sex for reproductive purposes and it was not anything to do with sexual attraction? idk i like ace cavemen as an idea i hope im right

[allospiderman]

Except that it is. The tag is meant for people to find others like them, for support, for answering questions. If you see no problem with flooding the tags with hateful spam and death threats, then you're beyond my understanding. This doesn't just affect the "evil cithets" either, there are LGBT aces who use the tags for the purposes I mentioned. Included me, including a nb kid who says that the hate in those tags makes them want to kill themselves. You think that kid is pathetic?

LGBT ppl: (some of whom are ace themselves) Cisgender heteroromantic asexuals and cisgender aromantic heterosexuals are straight IN ADDITION TO being asexual or aromantic and thus not queer/LGBT. They shouldn’t use the q slur nor should they take advantage of the resources our community provides.

Asexual/Aromantic people do in fact face stigma/prejudice that is unique to them but the LGBT community was built is a coalition of communities brought together by overlaping oppression that is completely separate from what asexuals/aromantic face and have faced historically. Instead of invading safe spaces that keep LGBT people alive, they should focus their efforts on making their own community and providing resources for themselves.

Ace tumblr (after having a collective conniption fit): LOOK AT THESE ACEPHOBES!!1!1#!1 And then…

Joke about bringing [guns to pride parades]

Say [this homophobic crap] related to the orlando shooting

Claim [it’s a privilege] to even have night clubs

Compare ace discourse [to a homophobic mass shooting]

Say they are glad [a few more aphobic gays are dead]

Claim the shooters actions [weren’t driven by homophobia] on the basis that asexual people MIGHT have been present at the club

[Make a list] of “aphobes” (LGBT people) the same day as the Orlando shooting

Say we should [thank aces for donating blood] in light of news that LGBT people can’t donate to help their sibilings

Say they’re glad that the events of the shooting are [weeding out “aphobes”]

[“At least you all have nightclubs”]

[“We’ll see how their gatekeeping stands up after a couple of more massacres”]

[“Gayer than thou”]

[Mock] the AIDS crisis

Say [this] blatant serophobic bull

Say more [serophobic nonsense]

Once again say something [disgustingly serophobic]

Even [more serophobia]

Insinuate “allosexuals” [get cancer from sex]

Compare [gay people to Ronald Reagan] for not wanting cishets in the LGBT community

Demand LGBT people [”help” them make their own community] (because we need to extend our emotional labor to cishets)

Say [this] ahistoric nonsense

Say [this] ableist crap

Outright say they [hate lesbians]

Say all the shit [in these screenshots]

Make this [victim blaming post]

Express desire to [“kill al lallosexuals”]

Claim “allosexuals” have been [raping them for centuries]

Claim rape is [less unpleasant for allos]

Demonise allosexuals and hypersexual people [once again]

Claim asexuals were [victims of the holocaust]

Compare “acephobia” [to the holocaust]

[Deny the inherit antisemitism] with one of the community’s symbols

Even more [denial and antisemitism]

Deny that being [disgusted by lesbians is lesbophobic] all while reducing them to sexual beings

Same person as above, says they want “aphobes” [to shoot themselves], [doesn’t care] that they said they want LGBT people to commit mass suicide and then goes on to insinuate that all LGBT people [deserve the treatment] for hate aro/ace people

Claim [“ace gays don’t exist while being lesbophobic”]

Write fanfiction [demeaning LGBT people]

Say this [homophobic] [revolting] crap

Want to coin terms [to further alienate LGBT] people and claim we’re oppressing them

[Make fun of] the societal oppression LGBT people faced

Say that all [ace people are bi] 

Claim cishet people [aren’t cishet]

Claim lesbians are [predatory towards asexuals]

Insinuate cishet aces are [more oppressed than lesbians]

Say SGA (same/similar gender attraction) is [“compulsory homosexuality”]

Lowkey say they’re [more deserving] of being in the community than closeted LGBT people

Claim they’re even [more queer than LGBT people] and use slurs to refer to us

Fucking [call themselves fags] and then claim that [straight people can reclaim the slur]

Same person above (who is a ace non-sga “bi” person in a straight relationship) [justifies ace tumblr sending rape and death threats] to a rape survivor for saying that cishet aces are not queer

Say this [homophobic shit]

Claim that calling people straight [is homophobic]

Blatantly say they want to [kill “aphobes”]

Blatantly say they want to [kill all allosexuals]

Blatantly say they want LGBT people to [kill ourselves]

Blatantly say that [gay people suck]

Compare using the ace pride flag [to cultural appropriation]

Compare “aphobes” (many of whom are trans) [to fucking TWERFs]

Compare [lesbians to TWERFS]

Call LGBT people to [”queer truscum”]

Call LGBT people [“sex-crazed psychos”]

Call LGBT people [”trashcan queers”]

Call LGBT people [“deviants”]

Call LGBT people [“deviants”] again

Call LGBT people [“weak”] because we experience sexual attraction

Call LGBT people “fascists”

Say thay have no problem with LGBT people [committing suicide]

Claim we, a bunch of “shitty cocksuckers” are upset that 1% of the population [doesn’t want to fuck us]

Call the LGBT community [a stupid gay pride club]

Call the LGBT community a [fandom]

Call the LGBT community [“full of drugs, STDs and alcoholics”]

Claim they can reclaim [homophobic and transphobic slurs]

Claim sex ed is a means to get people to [stop IDing as asexual]

Claim the ace community is cleaner because they don’t have a [“drug and alcohol problem”]

Deny [queer is a slur]

Spew [this vitriol]

[Misgender] the person who popularised the term allosexual in the first place 

Celebrate [someone’s death] and when called out [deflected] the issue [while calling her “toxic”]

The above person calls the deceased and her girlfriend [manipulative and violent]

And then called a lesbian woman a violent slur [only to demonise her] for being rightfully upset

Call all alloromantic allosexual people straight 

Coin homophobic shit like [”alloculture”]

Claim that “allosexuals” purposely [stay in abusive relationships]

Claim that “allosexuals” are [unfaithful in relationships]

Say that LGBT who are survivors of corrective rape don’t care about rape survivors when they criticise ace people for constantly bringing it up

Say [it’s a privilege] to be hypervisible in countries where being LGBT is illegal and punishable by death

And then claiming that if it’s so bad [we should just move]

Claim they’re [more oppressed than bi people]

Compare “aphobes” (i.e. people who think that cishets aren’t LGBT) to [the fucking KKK]

Compare “aphobes” to [the crackers who committed genocide] against America’s Indigenous population with smallpox blankets

Say this [antiblack nonsense] calling for the ace community (a cesspool of saltines and mayo) to be the “aroace MLK”

Say that LGBT ppl are [more likely to be rapists]

Think that [this] is the appropriate way to respond to a poz gay man talking about his experiences

Put trans women and trans minors [on the same list as TWERFS and radfems]

And then justify the above by [calling trans minors abusive]

Show how [antisemtic] they are

Literally use [someone dying] to further their disgusting rhetoric

BLATANTLY say they hate LGBT people

Express desire [to assault] against LGBT ppl

[Express disdain] with the fact that same-gender marriage is legal throughout the entire U.S. 

Deny that they are [invading LGBT safe spaces irl]

Outright say they find LGBP expressing affection publicly (e.g holding hands) disgusting and repulsive

And so much more…

LGBT ppl: Wow fuck these people -spam tags with easily blockable posts-

You: This makes me suicidal!!!

If being told to stay in your fucking lane makes you suicidal, then you have a grandiose sense of entitlement that you need to work on. Instead of sending guilt-tripping, manipulative asks about killing yourself to someone, why not LISTEN to what LGBT people are saying. LGBT aces are still LGBT and thus have a place in the community. It’s cishet aces and aros that don’t. 

But you and others like you are so hellbent on defending straight people that you completely ignore this. Lmk how kissing the asses of my oppressors works out for you.  Actually, don’t. The next time you want to send an ask like this to a suicidal person, fuck off instead you gross creepy s.o.b.

[allospiderman]

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Thank u sm♥️♥️

[allospiderman]

emoji pronouns just prove that mogais never go outside

No need to worry about saying your pronouns out loud if you never speak to any person ever

[allospiderman]

Have you seen emoji prounouns,,,, what’s your opinion on them??

E....emoji...... pronouns....???????

Person: hey my name is Alex and my pronouns are 😍/💞

Me crying: how did you say that with your mouth

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You should post more about spider-man

Are...are you J Jonah Jameson

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Things the lgbt community is doing that make me wish I wasn’t lgbt:

It/its pronouns

He/him lesbians

“Spacesexual genderflux non dysphoric gnc trans boy! (He/she/they/fae)”

“”“"Preferred”“”“ pronouns (they aren’t preferred. I am a guy. You call me he.)

Neopronouns/genders in general……

"I don’t try to pass as a boy but if you misgender me or refuse to date me like a cute yaoi boy you’re transphobic”

Every trans guy is a “smol flower soft boi”

Every trans woman is a “big strong muscle lady wife”

Forcing the queer label on everyone in an act of “reclaiming” it

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Can you believe I just read the sentence “Queer is an important word and if you don't like it you're probably a TERF and you can fuck right off”????? It was in the notes post that said queer isn’t a slur??

Hewwo????? Hewwo??????? Pwease it's so cold pwease I can't see mr owobama help..

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damn actually nvm you’re kinda trashy keep the URL fam

Which part of me was trashy? Genuinely wondering coz seeing as the URL makes it pretty obvious I'm an exclusionist and I don't really post about anything else, I'm baffled

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me: hey I think the ace community has a problem with the amount of times they spew horrible homophobic nonsense

an ace with no brain cells about to paste my url on their aphobe blocklist:

[allospiderman]

I’ve definitely believed this for a while, but haven’t dared say it, but here it is:

cishet is a slur

cishet is a termed created and designed to exclude and harm acespec and arospec people. It is thrown at us constantly. It is a dangerous, evil, violent word, justified by claiming that “cishets” are oppressors. 

I know a lot of people that do not know the history of the word use it because it is useful to separate out “non-queer” and “queer”, but I want to be very clear that it is still harmful when used in ignorance.

There is no reason to use the term “cishet” with its current contextual connotations of hate. Especially if you are either cis or het.

And, even if you are trans or gay or bi or pan, etc., I challenge everyone who has considered using the term to include “allo” when they describe folks that are not queer.

If that makes you uncomfortable, I think that proves how aphobic the term “cishet” is.