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hewo stickbug! you get hug :3

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Hello friend!! I accept your hug with buggy glee :D 🪲🧡

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Hey so I saw that terfs are reblogging one of my posts, just wanted to clarify that ✨I believe in the human right to express oneself as one sees fit✨

Aka I'm not a terf, and I never will be. All trans people experience misogyny, whether they are afab, amab, or anything else. Trans women are viewed as a fetish because people objectify women in general as something sexual. The act of being a woman is not sexual, and that goes for trans women too ffs.

Trans men are reduced to a porn category by society, porn in which humiliation and force are disgustingly common themes. They are viewed by so many men as something to use, break, or convince into conforming to their misogynistic ideals. This affects basically anyone who is queer and afab.

So once again:

I am not a terf, and this is not a terf-safe blog. Take your internalised misogyny somewhere else

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I am officially at the age where thrifting light fixtures, curtains and kitchenware is the most exciting thing ever

Boutta get me a slowcooker for under 100 swedish kronor baybeeeee

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This

It’s funny that whenever I see a post showing how “evil” women are it simply involves a woman rejecting a man or stating her preference.

I hate men so much.

I do see that mindset from a lot of men on the internet, accompanied by the "crazy cat lady who's going to die alone" mindset, which is usually aimed at the same women.

And for some reason, women are always expected to set aside their own standards or lack of attraction because "he's so nice" or "he really likes you". It's great that he's nice, and it's fine that he likes me, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm just not interested in dating him. Being nice is the barest of minimums, and no one is obligated to be with someone just because the other person really likes them.

Make it make sense

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It’s funny that whenever I see a post showing how “evil” women are it simply involves a woman rejecting a man or stating her preference.

I hate men so much.

I do see that mindset from a lot of men on the internet, accompanied by the "crazy cat lady who's going to die alone" mindset, which is usually aimed at the same women.

And for some reason, women are always expected to set aside their own standards or lack of attraction because "he's so nice" or "he really likes you". It's great that he's nice, and it's fine that he likes me, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm just not interested in dating him. Being nice is the barest of minimums, and no one is obligated to be with someone just because the other person really likes them.

Make it make sense

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Life is so unfair,

because what do you mean the only way to get rid of my cluster headaches is a nasal spray that feels like it drills into my skull, genuinely has the foulest and most persistent taste I've ever experienced, makes me extremely nauseous and anxious upon use, and leaves me incapacitated with muscle and joint pains for the next ~72 hours???

I'd rather deal with that than the headaches, but jesus christ if it isn't the definition of "pick your poison"

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Bro the effect that the seasons have on my mood is bonkers

I'll be a spineless puddle of sad with barely brushed teeth during the winter, and then all of a sudden spring comes along, and suddenly it's 16°C outside and life is pleasant again

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No I will not "look at the bright side" or "think positively" because I was born in a country where women don't have it as horrible as in other places. I didn't fucking choose to be born here, and they didn't choose to be born anywhere else.

If I were born in one of the 30 african and middle eastern countries where fgm is most concentrated according to the UN, my best scenario would be having my clitoris cut off without any kind of pain killer, with a razor blade that was never sterilized. They could also just decide to cut the whole thing off and then sew me shut, leaving a minuscule hole for my future "husband" to break through when he deems me worthy of his wrinkly, twice as old dick.

If I were born in Pakistan I could be one of the over 150 estimated women who get acid thrown at them annually, because their husbands (who I can assure you these women didn't marry by any real choice) threw a fucking tantrum over what they were wearing.

If I were born in America, where every 98 seconds someone is sexually assaulted, 91% of the victims being female, I could be one of the 1/3 of women who have experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime according to the New York City National Organization for Women.

So with that said, I DON'T CARE THAT I HAVE IT LESS BAD, IT DOESN'T FUCKING MATTER

I didn't choose to be born in a country where I'm kind of viewed as an equal human being by most people despite the anatomy I didn't choose to have. Those 150 estimated pakistani women didn't fucking choose to have acid thrown at their faces. The women of america didn't choose the reality they live in right now.

I was lucky to be born in Sweden. I shouldn't have to consider being treated as a living, breathing human being as something lucky just because I have a fucking vagina.

Fuck the bright side and fuck your "optimism"

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"You can barely even talk to women these days without worrying about SA allegations!!"

Notice how these men never are worried about SA allegations from their male acquaintances.

Maybe stop treating every woman you come across solely as a potential increase to your body count. Then we wouldn't have this problem.

And don't even get me started on the fucking "friend zone" so many men seem to fear so horribly. Imagine instead thinking you've made a genuine friend only for it to turn out that he was only sticking around in hopes of getting access to your body, because that's the only thing about you he finds even a crumb of value in. Imagine that.

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Have you ever thought about just how amazing people are?

Like, the one thing that separates us from other animals is the fact that we cook our food, and we're so connected to art on a fundamental level that we made that an art form as well. That is so amazing to me.

And yeah, some of us are misguided and believe that the process of making art isn't important, or less important than the end product, but I think that mindset is inevitable in a society where profit is centered above everything else.

We're pack animals, of course people will flock to different ideologies and ideas, even if they're unethical, or not ideal. Humans can so easily fall into traps like bigotry, self-hatred, and selfishness, but what I find so beautiful is that we can be educated, and we can change our minds.

Isn't that awesome?? Humans can change themselves on a fundamental level, their ideas, beliefs, and opinions, for a reason so little as "I just felt it was right". You can train yourself to be an empathic person, you can learn how to create the way you want to, you can even learn how to manipulate your dreams at night if you want to!! That's so cool, humans are so cool.

I struggle a lot with my image of people, and that makes a lot of sense considering I'm born female, neurodivergent, and queer in ways I can't even figure out myself, but what I've been trying to teach myself is that I don't want to hate the people who made the mistakes, I want to hate the establishments which enabled and encouraged those mistakes.

Yes, there will always be people who do bad things for their own selfish gain, but the problem isn't the fact that they exist, it's the fact that society has been largely built around and for their existence.

It's hard to be kind in a world where selfishness and cruelty are the keys to individual success in a lot of areas, but the beautiful thing is that so many of us choose to be kind either way.

The human world- the concept of it all that we have right now- may suck in many ways, but I do believe that people will always be human, and that kindness lies at all of our cores if it's allowed to be there.

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I have the sudden unexplicable urge to draw a mohawk

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Could anyone who sees this wish me good luck?

I'm on my way to my national tests in swedish, and I have to perform a speech for the oral part :']

I got the preparation material really late, so I wrote the entire thing this tuesday and barely had time to practice, and then I scribbled out some vague cards to hold while I speak yesterday lmao

(How dare the gods not give me photographic memory?? Smh I got aphantasia instead)

Please pray for me TT^TT

And have a good day!! Remember to eat a lil and drink some water, friend 🧡

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Bro I have to write and record an argumentative speech, write a literary analysis, get started on a short story with a pre-determined theme, write a reflection of the previously mentioned tasks and what knowledge and experience I got from them, as well as start planning for my oral examination which I apparently have to choose a subject for??? and make a powerpoint for???? Why did they not give me more details about the *final, most important examination in my course*?????

All in FOUR DAYS

The only redeeming qualities of these tasks is that I get to choose the movie I write my argumentative speech about (I'm supposed to argue for why it should be movie of the year, aka just infodump about why it's awesome), and that the only requirement I've been given for the short story is that it has to be about "the unknown" in one way or another

But none of that matters because they didn't tell me anything about needing to write a text for the final oral examination???? Or that I need to have a powerpoint???????? What do you mean "What subject have you chosen for your oral examination?"?????? I WASN'T TOLD THERE WOULD BE WRITING INVOLVED

MY ORAL EXAM FOR THE ENGLISH COURSE REQUIRED NO WRITING OR POWERPOINT PRESENTATION, MAYBE YOU SHOULD BRIEF YOUR STUDENTS ON WHAT THE FINAL ASSIGNMENT WILL EVEN BE BEFORE YOU THROW THEM INTO THE COURSE???

Smh I hate private-owned education-based companies

Like bro maybe put some money into an actually comprehensible website, teachers that don't hate their students, and classrooms that actually have heating instead of buying that new car that just entered the market, just a thought

I am very angry about this entire system, this company is ass and it's no wonder they're closing later this year (something I found out ***after*** applying for and accepting two courses and showing up for the voluntary in-person introduction.)

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Long post ahead, but a very important one.

Something that has bothered me a lot until now, and I haven't been able to explain why, is when I'm talking about the injustices that women and female people face, and I'm told that I'm overreacting, or that I have no reason to be upset because "women have it okay here/women have rights here".

I haven't been able to put this into words for the longest time, until I came across a post on my pinterest feed that explained it perfectly.

This statement upsets me, because you would never have to say it about men. You can only argue that a woman, or person of the female sex should be satisfied because they happen to "have basic human rights" in their own country. The only reason you can make this argument is because of the fact that this isn't true everywhere. Yeah sure I could get an abortion in my country, I can wear what I want, I can get a job, I can go to school, but the fact that these things are used to argue that I should be satisfied with the way things are is the problem. These things should be a birthright to every woman and female person. But they're not. In some countries women (I will be saying women from now on to simplify things, but I am also talking about people of the female sex who don't identify as women) can't get an abortion without risking prison or even the death penalty, in some countries women can't get jobs or go to school, in some countries women are legally forced to cover their bodies from head to toe, and in other countries they are forced not to. In some countries, women get acid thrown at them when they disobey their husbands by doing as little as wearing clothes he doesn't like.

According to the UN, "An estimated An estimated 736 million women—almost one in three— have been subjected to physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence, non-partner sexual violence, or both at least once in their life (30 per cent of women aged 15 and older)." ***"This figure does not include sexual harassment."*** (which I and other women in my own country, and other countries that are "better for women" face on a regular basis, but this is never acknowledged).

Based on the femicide statistics from 2023, 140 women or girls are killed every day by someone in their own family. 60% of all female homicides are committed by intimate partners or other family members. For men, this is only 12%.

By the time girls reach 19, almost 1 in 4, or 24% who have been in a relationship "have already been physically, sexually, or psychologically abused by a partner."

During crises or catastrophes, the rate of violence against women increases significantly.

Hurricane Katrina (2005): the rape rate increased 6 times the baseline rate in Mississippi for that year.

Canterbury earthquake, New Zealand: 53% rise in domestic violence.

"In Ethiopia there was an increase in girls sold into early marriage in exchange for livestock to help families cope with the impacts of prolonged droughts."

Nepal, after 2015 earthquake: an increase in the trafficking of women and girls "from an estimated 3,000-5,000 annually in 1990 to 12,000-20,000 per year". The first statistic is already abhorrent, the increase even more so.

My source for the quoted and paraphrased information: UN WOMEN

I did not bring up everything on the page, since that would make an entirely too long post for anyone to want to read. I encourage you to look at these statistics when you have the time to spare, it's so incredibly important that this is brought to light.

I refuse to be told that I'm overreacting about the treatment of women when they are actively sold as livestock after catastrophes.

All of this doesn't even mention how anti-female body capitalism is at it's core. From early childhood, girls are taught to look cute in dresses, skirts, and shorts that are several inches shorter than their boy-marketed counterparts. We're taught to cover up because we're distracting, as if our bodies are on display for the men and boys around us, and in the same breath, we're taught that a woman who covers up is boring, and a prude. We're taught to wear makeup by famous influencers, makeup adverts on TV, our phones, on billboards, you name it, because a product with imperfections won't sell. We're taught to shave all of our body hair off, and told that it's because it's unhygienic, which is a poor excuse for controlling women's bodies down to the very hairs. If we don't wear make-up, we're assumed to be doing bad mentally, or asked if we're feeling sick, because a woman can't possibly have acne, or dark circles, or eyebags, or wrinkles, or pores, or facial hair (men and male people aren't alone in that regard ffs, they just get increased facial hair as a secondary sex characteristic, just like their larger adam's apple and darker voice, and women's and female peoples' breasts)

I am so tired of feeling this fundamental, unescapable shame every time I wear sleeveless dresses or tops without shaving first. I am tired of feeling ashamed of myself for wearing short skirts and crop tops, and I'm tired of feeling too boring when I'm not. I'm tired of getting catcalled and approached by men and boys of every age no matter which way I dress, and I'm tired of it being blamed on my clothing the times I do dress in skirts and crop tops. My own father told me that I can't complain because I dress revealingly. What about the times I wore cargo pants, a binder and a baggy T-shirt? What about the women in burqas and niqaabs who get the same treatment, if not worse? What about the little girls in pigtails and my little pony shirts, or the toddlers in diapers? What about the women who carry hairspray in their bags because pepper spray is illegal? What about the women who were drunk, sober, drugged, unconscious, awake, kidnapped, in their own homes? What about the countless women who deny ever being raped by their husbands, but who admit to him being "forceful" sometimes when he doesn't get what he wants?

The fact that I'm not being sex-trafficked or stoned out in the street means jack shit when there are countless women who are. I don't give a fuck that it's not affecting me directly, because I have basic human empathy and I care about the women who it is affecting, because all of these numbers should be zero for fucks sake.

Yeah it's been worse in some places, yeah I can vote, but this should be true for every single woman out there. Women should not be dictated by their men, whether they be husbands, fathers, or leaders. Girls should not be told that they're "becoming women" when they get their first periods at ages as young as 9 or 10. Girls should be children, not worrying about how much sex will hurt, and how they will have to get pregnant and have children as if they're incubators.

Don't even get me started on the man (doctor or professor, I'm unsure) who suggested that brain dead women's bodies should be kept alive so that their uteruses can be used to create children. Yes there was some backlash, but the fact that some people agree is unbelievable to me. The fact that this idea was even concieved in the first place, let alone expressed, let alone suggested as an actual plan.

"You have it fine in your country". "Women are treated as equals here"

Fuck that. Fuck no. Women are treated as equals nowhere. Show me a man who feels the need to cover his face with makeup, eliminate his pores with silicone-filled creams to go under his foundation, use countless retinol creams and laser treatments to prevent wrinkles, stop smiling because it causes smile lines, use special straws because regular ones give you wrinkles, go on harmful diets to "get the perfect beach body", which in reality is just a corpse with D-cups and an ass. Show me a little boy raised the same way girls are raised who's parents won't be labelled as groomers or pedophiles. Show me a lesbian or bi woman who isn't accused of lying for attention, as if one can't possibly be attracted to women.

This entire post doesn't even portray a fraction of the rage I feel regarding this topic, or even a fraction of the many abhorrent ways women and female people are treated. Call me a "blue-haired feminazi" all you want, but I believe that women are people, not products, and should be treated as such.

And if I see someone responding with "but what about this thing that happens to men!", or "men are abused too!" I just want to say:

I KNOW! I am well aware that your life isn't perfect just because you're a man or born male, but that's not what this post is about. I will gladly support you and discuss the issues that men face if you bring it up outside of when you're trying to debunk, or bring attention away from women's issues. If you only care about men's issues when women's issues are brought up, I don't believe that you really want to solve any of those issues. You just don't want us to talk about the systemic oppression of women. Why don't you reach out to the people around you to talk about these things? Why don't you advocate for men's mental health without using it as an argument against women's suffering? These things can co-exist.

Rant over, Bug out

To the people who read all of this, I hope you have a good day, and I care about you. You are wonderful just as you are, and I would hug you if I could.

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Doing a national test today at 09:45, wish me luck lads :']

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We're assembling IKEA furniture together, I think this means we're married now?

That's how this works, right?

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Ever wondered what it's like to have adhd?

This is my brain, constantly: