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Aplatonic culture is having friends that you definitely consider friends, but when they say "I love you/p" or just "I love you" in general my apl just spikes so incredibly high.

"I love you (platonically)!!!" Yup. That's a thing. That you feel about me. Cool. I think.

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APL CULTURE IS REALISING ALL UR "FRIENDSHIPS" WERE QPRS OR AT LEAST ONE SIDED SQUISHES FUCK

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Apl culture is finally coming to terms with being Apl and feeling guilty for "leading on" people platonicly?? if u can even do that- and that talking to them felt more like a chore then something you were excited to do and the only reason that you miss people is because you crave attention- pay attention to me without the friendship part, pls n thanks <3

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Platonic-favourable Apl culture is constantly questioning if you are actually apl or if you are just a lonley allo

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Update: I have come back to wish everyone a happy Aplatonic Visibility Day!! And to say I will be posting ask submissions that have been waiting in my box fairly soon.

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aplatonic alterous culture is having friends but friends doesn't really feel like the right word because it's alterous and what can you call them that won't make them feel weird because you're a friend to them?

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disabled aplatonic culture is wishing I could actually be alone but knowing it's not feasible

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Apl culture is liking "found family" dynamics for the comfort and familiarity the characters have with one another, and then being shocked that people actually care about the family part

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Quoiplatonic culture is giving up on trying to label platonic attraction, I'm too ND for this bullsh-

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How do you tell alloplatonics, especially ones who have already appointed you as their friend, that you're aplatonic? I want to tell them because I'm tired of lying. However, I fear that the consequences of telling them aren't worth it. I worry they'll either take it personally or they'll think I'm a bad person.

Are these people of any value to you? How long have you known them? What are they like? Do they feel safe enough?

If so, if you're considering this for your own comfort and mental health or would just feel better, be honest and explain that. If they are of value to you, explain that to them as well.

(Also consider having a talk about boundaries and expectations for these relationships before then.)

If not then run some tests to feel out how safe and trusworthy they would be.

Like what has been their history if someone has ever come out to them? What are their opinions about people who are off by themselves or asocial? Or the aspec in general?

(Asocial and aplatonic are not the same but they get grouped together)

Are they normal about mental health? Such as depression, anxiety, SzPD, cluster B(ex. NPD and ASPD), et cetera? (Note: Pay attention to what they say about these.)

If not I would recommend cutting contact with them as they are people not likely meant to stay in your life.

If they take it personally and make it about them, that's on them and not you. Sure they can share feelings or express hurt but if they can't move on that's not your problem. If they care about you and want to stay in a relationship with you - they will figure it out.

You may have to face that you will lose some people and you can't control what others will do.

Anyway, good luck to you.

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Questioning Apl culture is doing a test-drive of friendship before admitting to being Apl bc I do not think I'm ready to grieve the fact that I won't ever have a best friend and be perceived as "normal"

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friendship-repulsed apl culture is hating mlp

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aplatonic culture is having no idea if you're friends with someone until they call you their friend

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probably apl culture is just totally forgetting that you have friends so you just forget to talk to them for days to months on end

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aplatonic culture is thinking some people are cool but never wanting to befriend them, like watching them interact with others and just watching them is fun ig but id rather not interact with them and befriend them myself thanks

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Apl demiromantic hopeless romantic culture is it being a sad day whenever you realise that the romantic relation you want and yearn for requires actually talking to people for a long enough time that it would even become an option for you to get a crush on them 😔

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Apl culture is realizing admiration =/= wanting to be friends with someone. Jus bc you find the way they act, or their clothing really cool and look up to them does not mean u wanna be their fren!! And getting real uncomfy whenever they talk to you bc admiration causes ✨️extra✨️ anxiety bc u care about what they think since u look up to them- unless this is what wanting a friend is idfk??

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