#apl culture is

[shiutsu]

I got the idea from some of the reblogs from my previous aplatonic dedicated post.

Like as I mentioned several times on this blog, alloplatonics obsess over friendships & think everyone has the same experience.

Like as if everyone had a specific friend they just like the most out of the other friends & who would pick them over anyone else.

Like man idk where you got that,but I recommend you to open your eyes or stopped smoking something since this is the most delusional shit I've seen.

Not everyone is the fucking same!! Like if you spread nonsense how every single person is different but think that everyone acts the same or has the same opinions as you, then you're pretty hypocritical.

[apl-culture-is]

Apl culture is not missing the people you called friends. They are nice people, and you wish them well, but you haven't talked to them in so long, and you don't feel a desire to.

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[alien-ally]

Life as a greyapl is hard, cause have I always been this way or did friendships start to take whole new meanings since we were children/after we matured?

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is having weaker friendships than allos because not having attraction in common makes it harder to connect with the allo majority

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[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Plato repulsed aro culture is thinking about how rapidly society would advance if the arospec community would start saying "nonromantic" instead of "platonic"

yeah, and if other people also started doing this. (bc I see ppl outside the aro community do this a lot too)

see also : if people would start saying 'nonsexual' instead of 'platonic' if thats what they actually mean

Its okay to say platonic to mean friendship, but it can be really annoying when ppl keep saying 'platonic' as if its merely an absence of romance and/or sex, and as if romance and/or sex can't occur alongside friendship for some people.

Also when aros and other ppl don't want me to assume theyre expressing romantic attraction or something, they can just say they mean it nonromantically instead of platonically bc it would cause me to feel repulsion if they expressed platonic feelings/attraction for me.

[entropy-sea-system]

I think it would be cool for aplatonics to refer to ourselves as 'apples' for fun

[atertiary-culture-is]

Intro

This is a blog for people on the atertiary spectrum to talk about our experiences with being atertiary/ otherwise on the atertiary spectrum.

Atertiary refers to a disconnect from tertiary attraction and/or tertiary relationships, or little to no tertiary attraction. Tertiary attraction is any attraction thats not romantic or sexual, it is also called nonrose or eriattraction. Atertiary spec (aterspec) ppl may nor not be on the aro and/or ace spectrums, and may or may not be favorable to tertiary/nonrose relationships.

Some atertiary spectrum identities include aplatonic, asensual, analterous, etc.

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We support all system types, if you don't, this blog is not for you and we will block you. Same goes if you're against atertiary orientations and/or an exclusionist.

[non-sam-culture-is]

This blog works pretty much like other culture-is blogs. You can submit a post with “Non-SAM ____ culture is…” This blog is inclusive of non-SAM aces, aros, and atertiaries. Tagging other culture-is blogs for reach. @aspec-culture, @ace-culture-is, @aro-culture-is, @aplatonic-culture-is

[a-romantic--aromantic]

<- is making insane decisions about aro/aspec “picnic” at pride next year.

The plan was originally to have it be completely unofficial and just me in the dc pride festival on an aro flag picnic blanket with some crafts but idk my mental health is crashing and making these things/organizing this may help. idk i want my future to be in community organizing so. it makes me feel good. anyways onto what i was talking about:

So. im deciding if i want to be someone with a table or not, if i want it to be aro or aspec, or if i want to have pride stuff available for donation only or not (aka no money accepted). (idk what to donate towards. maybe just explaining that i made all of this with my own free time/ money and any extra money will get donating to ace and aro advocacy project- which i think is located in the same city as the pride event- or AUREA? or just outright donating but… this all sounds really expensive which im anxious about but. i am okay with outright donating if thats a better idea idk)

ANYWAYS

I’m not sure if a table costs money or anything, but I dont think aro culture and aro pride should be locked behind a paywall. If I have aro pride stuff available, it would likely be:

bulk purchased silicone rings. the packs of rings dont just come in white, and almost always contain black, but id just have all the colors in a bowl with a sign about the meanings of black and white rings

diy low quality stickers. and im talking printouts and packing tape level quality. id probably also reach out to some aro/aspec artists if theyd be okay with me printing some of their designs for free pride stickers with their @ on the back. again, no profiting off their art, just having subtle aro/aspec options for closeted folks. also obviously the pride flags themselves/ like the heart emojis and stuff. if i get permission for the <2 i also think thatd be funny to have. id try to print off as many of the specific arsospec identities as i could, too.

some mini pride flags. like on the little stick and stuff? i already reached out to somebody about aplatonic and the new aspec flags. these will be on display at minimum, but im tempted to see how much bulk purchasing to give away for free would cost

….real pride flags, including aplatonic and the new aspec flag. im most hesitant about this because $$$ but…. i know how much it would mean to people, yknow?

i also want like. *stuff to do* to engage in community building and growth, so id likely have kandi bracelet stuff too, and be making aro/aplatonic/aspec bracelets to entertain myself while i sit there for folks without the time to make their own. (also! apparently grey bracelets are an old greyspec symbol. thats so cool!)

ive had it in my mind since early 2020 i want aro ribbon available for turning into shoelaces and im not gonna let up on this decision.

i just…. i really want to be able to connect with members of my community and raise awareness and recognition or aros/apls/aspecs in queer spaces, and i thought this may help.

these things are a little more hesitant but im thinking shrinky-dink keychains of these things/culture and symbols…? same thing @ artists, but uhhh if no one approves ill draw my Very Best. most of these will ALSO be stickers (if i do it)

(these are all old or current aspec culture. aro specific ones im more likely to do. also apl im more likely to do and may get ** but idk yet)

arospec

dragons

yellow roses

<2 (i got permission!!!!)

a little crown?? people are referencing jughead and you know what Sure.

frog,,

green! we sure do love green huh. just like scribbles gkfhjf

…garlic bread? i think i saw that get phased out for dragons but you know what sure

plants..? i hadn’t realized that counted ngl

gryphons! i knew about them

(cacti/succulents but i already said plants)

“no romo”

does space count as aspec culture? idk guys

peridot and labradite? hm. cool!

somebody said aardvarks but ive never seen that before. apparently theyre a really old symbol. thats so cool!

💚 and 💔

pizza and ice cream but garlic bread got more popular (tho these are easier to draw)

manticores

i saw rats..? ehhh im hesitant on that one

Nandays and Caiques :) okay this one is cute

acespec

pegasus

cake

dragons are also very definitely acespec too

pirates

axolotls (though i think we can share)

wolves??? huh.

apparently ghosts are greyspec and!!!! holy shit that me! thats my name! fucking Wild Thats So Cool

someone reffed dinosaurs? cool cool

aaaahhhhg so space is Definitely acespec i forgot the whole spAce thing lol

purple

badgers and unicorns? hm

♠️♣️♥️♦️ cards/symbols. i also recognize peole can turn these into earrings which. real. queer culture irl.

aplatonic

<2 (this is more loveless/heartless but i see it used a lot in aplatonic circles as well)

apples

bees, worms, and birds have been proposed but havent seen much use yet. there has been some use though!

tbh since i cant find much ill likely have a sign that says something like “aplatonic culture is only recently getting enough visibility to be seen as separate from aro culture, so as the growing community develops new symbols we should keep an eye out! im excited to watch this community and identity finally get recognition like it deserves

do i propose platonic solids? idk you guys

*aspen/fang reminded me that non-platonic solids exist as well and are getting used as a symbol. Nice!

general aspec

cryptids

im not making an aroace category but someone said handshake tattoos… imma pass on this one because its not apl friendly

i associate cross stitch and diy patches as aro core/ aspec but thats just me

lambda is queer culture and we belong to that too

i saw a lot of black triangle (as well as gradient) refs but idk if that is Ace Specific or not, but it Is a symbol i think is important to not overlook

ive seen bees used every so often in aro communities as well as aplatonic,

you know what the d&d “roll for x” is funny ill take that

flags

anyways sorry i kinda went off with the research But. ive wanted to do this for Years (since 2019/early 2020 when this blog started Yknow. happenin) and i. i want to make it actually happen in 2023. its going to. i am gonna will it into existence. i just want to build a community i can interact with, yknow? thats all.

Anyways let me know what you think! i recognize this is a Lot and honestly ridiculous but who knows, yknow?

[shiutsu]

It always feels like that,especially when they're denying all the facts you've stated.

[apl-culture-is]

aplatonic alterous culture is having friends but friends doesn't really feel like the right word because it's alterous and what can you call them that won't make them feel weird because you're a friend to them?

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[alien-ally]

So. Yesterday, a classmate asked me a very interesting question. (I’m out to her btw) Lolol honestly me clarifying in between that i’m actually 100% on the far end of being aro kind of collapsed the quo but i told her to ask away anyway. It was something like ‘Hypothetically, if u happened to meet an arospec person in school and you guys managed to really hit it off together, so much that you felt like you wanted them in your life even after school ended, would it…’ basically you get it. So she wasn’t really asking if i would date them but if it could possibly lead to any kind of partnership/if i could see myself in that sort of a companionship. and actually. what a brain-gear turning quo. The answer is no btw, that’s not the brain gear turning part. cause the quo ties to me Also happening to be aplatonic. which means nothing of that sort has happened to me till now and i frankly see the possibility to be very low. There has never been an instance where i’ve ‘hit it off’ with someone so profoundly that i end up ‘wanting them in my life more intensely’. (which doesn’t mean i don’t ever hit off with people or ever find happiness from having them in my life. No, that would be a gross misconstrue.) Uh anyways, i’m not going to explain the phenomenon of being💥apl💥top to bottom once again, just know that the answer is a direct no for me without any further ruminations. However the brain-gear turning part to me is that i nevertheless see meeting a fellow aroace(apl) person as the next biggest thing to happen in my life. And i have fantasized about it on many occasions. cause that would entail an exquisite kind of understanding i’ve never experienced in my life and mark an important milestone. which i’m sure won’t be happening until later. school is about to end in less than 6 months. So then what would it be like? Given that i am what i am. What form would that grandeur take? What form can it take?

On a lesser note, it also made me aware of the sort of ‘lack of determinism’ on my part. cause i have always been so led to want things i don’t truly want, which part of the yearning is real and which an inherent conditioning? Yeah you don’t see anyone asking straight people if they would ever turn gay but it’s allowed to aspecs? And it’s a thing we repeatedly ask ourselves too due to the same conditioning. Given that growing up and finding partnership doesn’t invalidate your aspec-ness in any way? As harmless a quo (my classmate’s) it was, led to a cascade of thoughts all over again. Good old Aromanticism.

[aro-culture-is]

Aplospec aro with first ever queerplatonic 'crush' culture is the song "Where did u come from?" By Jennings Couch It's very specific I know

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[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Plato repulsed culture is feeling excluded from aspec communities because your kind of relationship anarchy involves rejecting friendship/putting friendship last instead of the other way around

Yeah. This is also why I feel disconnected from the label of relationship anarchy bc so much of it emphasizes that you have to care about family and friends and its like. no thanks I dont even WANT those relationships. People forget that relan is just not having a hierarchy based solely on societal ideals, and emphasizing consent and boundaries in relationships of any kind. It doesn't have to be "care a lot about friendships" bc ppl who dont have and/or want friends do exist!!

[atertiary-culture-is]

Atertiary culture is being tired of people acting like tertiary/nonrose relationships such as friendship and family are mandatory, even if they acknowledge that romance and sex are not mandatory.