aplatonic-questioning-sapphire
aplatonic-questioning-sapphire
Wondering if I might be on the aplatonic spectrum
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female (she/her), in my early fourties, no kids, no partner, no real friends.But finally happy and content with my life thanks to therapy. I will ramble a bit about myself and why I think I might be on the aplatonic spectrum. I still have a lot to learn.
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Finally happy, but still no friends
In the past I struggled a lot with low self esteem and my avoidant personality disorder. Then also depression hit me on top. So I looked for professional help and found a great therapist for me who helped me a lot. It took some time but I am finally happy and contented with my life.
And I realised that my desires changed. I never had real friends, but I thought I wanted to have friends in the past. I thought something is wrong with me. I envied other people who had fun with their friends. But I also liked being alone and found social contacts quite exhausting sometimes. And when there was someone, I wanted to be friends with, then there was allways another kind of attraction, romantic or sexual. Nowadays this urge to have friends is gone. I no longer feel that I am missing out or that I need to have friends. I am okay the way I am. And I am at peace with this. I don't need friendship or a relationship to be happy.
Until two years ago I never thought I could be this happy on my own.
While reading about aspec and different forms of love, I realised that I don't really feel platonic attraction and never have been. But I do feel romantic and sexual attraction from time to time. So I think that means I am an allosec alloro aplatonic?
I am not repulsed by platonic relationships though. It's a nice concept but not for me.
(I hope I got the terms right. Still learning.)
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