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There's this article I saw in a YouTube video about the Pretty Things (which is why it's cropped that way)... I can't remember if the full pic is on Defecting Grey or not, I'll try to find it

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Phil looks mesmerising... especially in the last 25-20 seconds...

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So-called "free thinkers" when their friend has to pee

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MAJOR TBOY NEWS ALERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

click here for a link to the article

For those who don't know Glenn Copeland, he is an amazing trans elder who has made some absolutely stunning music over his long career. I love him and his art so fucking much and you should ABSOLUTELY listen to his music—its gorgeous and meaningful and so full of love. He is such a good choice for this type of show. As both a fan of his and a lover of puppet-based edutainment I'm fucking over the moon. GO SUPPORT HIM NEOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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so much of the french revolution is just various people going "surely committing THIS act of violence/murder will end all the suffering and bloodshed and usher in peace!" followed by a summary of how everything immediately escalated and got even worse afterward. and somehow this website's takeaway is "clearly acts of violence and murder are the only way to end suffering and usher in peace!"

I don't know guys I think we might actually have to actually put in effort and not conflate working toward a better society with seeking personal catharsis.

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where is all the art that perfectly appeals specifically to my exact tastes and desires and nobody elses

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we need more pathetic female characters written by authors who don't hate women

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It's Juneteenth yall. And I'm not letting this day go unmarked.

Black people fight for everybody. We stand in solidarity with women, lgbt people, poor people all over the world of every skin color and background. Every religion and nationality.

Today, stand with us. Be with us. Tell a black person you love them. Hug a black person (with consent). Ask that hot black girl out today. Make a black person smile. Black lives matter to everybody and you matter to us.

Stand with us on Juneteenth like we stand with you all year round, and I hope a happy Pride month continues for all of us

💝

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hey i was wondering something and i wanted to know your opinion on it

Why is it problematic to say i hate men but not white people or straight people

(i'm a trans south east asian man btw)

I'd say on, like, a casual exasperated level, its not problematic to say "I hate [x]." It gets problematic when your venting about a group becomes your sole lens of viewing + interacting with that group.

Like, its entirely alright to be frustrated with behaviors common to cishet white men and express that in a vent by saying you hate them. But... its like how people make the correct point that they shouldn't be expected or obligated to give all their energy to coddling people with power over them, but translate that into "i never have to care about a member of this group at all" which directly conflicts with just. being in a community? Like women should not be expected to be caretakers for men, but people in a community need to take care of each other. When the only way you engage with a group of people is by expressing hatred and asserting how much you aren't obligated to care about them, its easier than people think to find yourself dehumanizing them.

Which does not mean "you are just as bad as a racist/misogynist" or "you are oppressing them"; you are An Individual whose biases are not necessarily backed up by powerful systemic powers. But, for one, its very easy for those biases to be used by systemic forces: with men, misandry is very easily used to justify all kinds of violence towards marginalized men & people perceived as men. You also have situations where people will say the Holocaust "wasn't as bad" as, say, US slavery, because it was "white on white violence," or saying the Armenian genocide also wasn't that big of a deal because "it was done to Christians and Christians are always killing people" (two real things I have seen been said). And, again: if you are going to care about community and restorative/transformative justice and all that, you need to be able to give a shit about all kinds of people who you live with. You need to be able to see them as whole beings you are capable of connecting with on some level. You don't personally need to date or befriend men, but you do need to be able to give a shit about men in your community.

Its fine to feel annoyance and anger and use "hatred" to express that. But the problem occurs when people take "its okay to be angry with your oppressors and not spend all your energy coddling them" and make that the end-all be-all of their relationship with people of whatever group; revolutions can't accomplish compassionate goals when they are run on hatred. Very hooksian concept but "love" (as in "a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust", not in a strictly emotional sense but as an action) is a skill that is as vital as understanding class dynamics and protest tactics. Maybe you don't need to love everyone, but try to have the capacity to love anyone; the ability to physically care for someone you don't emotionally like is, I think, a vital step towards truly challenging and bringing down the kyriarchy.

Basically its about recognizing when your venting stops being an outlet and starts being a way for unproductive feelings to shape how you view other people.

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George C Scott in Dr Strangelove 

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i'm in kyiv for the week for the first time in 4 years.

russia launched 300+ drones at ukraine last night over the course of 5 hours; one of the biggest attacks of the war so far. the explosions were constant, some of them so close that our building was shaking from the impact. i could hear the buzzing of the shaheds overhead; normally, russia sends around 5-7 of these drones to kyiv every night, but last night, it was around 40. by the time the sun came up, the cloud of smoke that hung over kyiv was so dark that you couldn't see the sky.

but being pulled out of bed at 2 am under threat of ballistics and drone attacks has been an average experience for ukrainians for over 3 years now. they're used to it, they say "I'm from sumy/zaporozhzhia/kramatorsk, this is nothing". it doesn't matter if they're tired or they've been bombed out of their homes, they still have to get up and go to work or school or run errands and do all the things that make their country function while russia tries to grind it down by turning their peaceful skies into fire.

don't forget about them. don't forget about what's happening here in ukraine.

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everybody has something to say about greg heffley but nobody wants to discuss the spectre of physical abuse haunting the diary of a wimpy kid books….kidlit holden caulfield i saw you

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leftist man with stalin icon here to talk about why you shouldn’t read any work written by feminists before 2009 because their views are problematic and outdated 

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I feel like I can’t say this anywhere without being labeled a pedo, but re: kink at pride discourse: I just don’t think any kids or teens are going to be traumatized irreversibly from seeing a butt or nipples or leather. If they do react super negatively, it’s cuz their parents taught them to be afraid of sex and the human body. How did we get to this point, that the natural state of the human body is shameful….

you're not a pedo for saying that, it's just true. I teach a lot of 4th-6th graders coming from pretty aggressively sex positive homes, and they'be happily doodle everything from anatomically correct genitalia to a man with his dick and balls out peeing right onto a llama's face. even for the kids who haven't already seen it, checking out the illustrations in our book isn't traumatizing it's just... mildly awkward and silly? they just look away if they don't want to see it's not that complicated.

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what ppl defending kids on ipads don’t seem to understand is that there are other ways to keep kids occupied. my mom had a whole bag full of little toys and games for me to play with while waiting in lines at disney world. once your kid is like 7 or 8 they can read a book. they can color. or they can literally just sit there and imagine things. i did that a lot as a kid.